Why are some attractive men so insecure?

Question

Does it have to do with some girls cheating on them or what? And how can you cheat on someone so attractive?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If someone has their heart shit on by someone else , that usually leads to them having insecurities and lack of trust in others’ Being cheated on by someone you gave your heart to, can easily mess you up and make you see things differently , when it comes to the opposite sex , When I was cheated on by a girlThat I gave my heart to , it messed me up and my whole outlook on relationships change right before my eyes For awhile , I had a hard time trusting in girls’ from all the shit I experienced with girls’ Even though it was devastating to experience, I can admit i was insecure during that time Until I realized it actually made me stronger and wiser when it comes to meeting girls’ burying those insecurities was a lesson learned in myself. Everyone has insecurities , I don’t care what anyone says , insecurities is a feeling we all have lying inside of ourselves , learning to control those insecurities is the hard part for most people. Bottom line you will never be happy in a relationship with anyone , if you are constantly insecure with them , You are only hurting yourself by letting insecurities take over yourself. All we can do is treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return , we can’t force anyone to love us , all we

Can do is love them the same way we want to be loved in return , If they choose to walk away , let them go , because someone that truly loves you , will not walk away from you period , if they cheat on you , let them cheat on you , we can’t stop someone from cheating on us , if they want to lie to your face , let them lie to your face , they are only hurting themselves and lying to themselves that they actually love you. If they really loved you they wouldn’t of cheated on you , No matter what there is consequences to our actions , only you have a choice on what you choose to do , if you want to experience true love , learn to remove selfishness for your partner the same way your want your partner to do for you. If they can’t do that for you , dump them and find someone that can , Never have sucker written on your head for a long period of time. If someone wants to be by your side , they will do what they have to do to be by your side , they will treat you like a priority, not an option

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

there's a myriad of things about why one would feel insecure

I've never been insecure about looks, my looks and appearance were never the base of my confidence, but I was once very insecure about my mindset and my own emotions... which turned into some sort of anxiety that fueled even more insecurity so once I got this sorted out and under control, things got a lot better for me, mentally... but "looks" was never a worry

and then, you have perspective... just going by looks and appearance you can feel attracted to someone or see someone as attractive, but their own perspective from the inside does not have the be the same of everyone else

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

The man I'm dating is very attractive according to me and most Indians. He thinks I'm somehow "above" him. I think it's because his ex girlfriend dumped him for a more affluent guy. Some girls give them a bad experience due to which they lose confidence.

LaurenM1997 · Accepted Answer

Maybe because of their last relationship maybe because they didn’t really have love in the last relationship

MrOracle · Answer

Just because someone is physically attractive doesn't mean that they came from a good place. Maybe they grew up poor, or from a bad family, or being picked on by a sibling, or told they weren't smart enough or didn't work hard enough or weren't talented enough or whatever. Sure, they can attract women because of how they look, but they're often terrible people to be around because of their OTHER insecurities.

It's also true that people who are really good-looking can often get by on their looks alone, getting privileges and opportunities (and having problems and lack of effort excused because of their looks), which means they never develop as a person, and are not only often insecure, but also tend to be shallow, selfish, and self-centered.

Blacke · Answer

And vice versa. You can't profile attractive men by your own judgment of things. My opinion, because they have a lot of reason to be insecure with. Trust is required if things need to be serious with a man. If the girl is playful, men would have 3 options on her. (Generally in the minds of men.)

1. Be playful too. (Can be good, can be bad.)

2. Take advantage. (Mostly bad)

3. Stay away from her and focus elsewhere.(good or bad depending on either sides.)

There is a 4th option and that goes for inexperienced guys. For the gal, it depends on her take of the inexperienced one.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I think the opposite is true.

Before I worked hard on getting fit I had little confidence and got cheated on. Since though? I have never looked back. I have no trouble with confidence any more, and If I get dumped I'd have zero problem finding someone else

My house is paid off, I have a couple of nice cars. What is there to feel insecure about?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's a similar thing to what happens with attractive women. Where they have a bunch of people who constantly think it's their job to knock the attractive person down a peg. So there's lots of bullying, lots of manipulation, people just generally trying to be shitty.

justarandomperson_55 · Answer

There are many attractive guys who are insecure about them. Maybe that is related to what they went through in their childhood, or yeah, maybe that is related to what happened to them in their past relationship. And it's not like attractive people don't get cheated on; people who want to cheat will cheat, no matter what.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i was born late in 1979. grew up with both of my parents cheating on each other. my father was gay. my mother realized that but they stayed together for financial reasons.

i didn't really understand this growing up. and i think the idea was supressed after many years that we were a normal family. through the abusive behavior of my father and acceptance of it from my mother.

a gay man should never raise a child

Lionman95 · Answer

They probably never heard someone say they are attractive, guys don't tell each other whether they look attractive or not. So it could be a sign that they rarely get compliments or don't have many friends or social activities to build them up.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

I think it has to do with their placing too much value on their own attractiveness. Basing your self worth on other people‘s opinion of you -especially if you need other people to think you are the BEST- is a fragile position to be in.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

For me I get told i'm handsome and attarctive so much to the point where I don't believe it and start to overthink (I used to when I was younger anyway), and the pressure to thne stay that way haha.

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Attractive people can often be more insecure. Just look at supermodels. They are the most insecure people on earth because the pressure of perfection is so great and every atom of their looks is constantly scrutanized.

Siri137 · Answer

Because they don't see themselves as being attractive. It's as simple as that.

RebelinSteel · Answer

For some the grass is always greener or you always want to try a new model out for a drive.

BCRanger10 · Answer

It could be from having been cheated on. It could also be because of a lack of good role models, cultural messaging, and a host of other issues.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think some guys honestly don't think they are attractive when they are. You see a lot of attractive women that are similar that lack self confidence.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

A person physical appearance is just one aspect of their whole being and doesn't cover or make up for whatever else they might be lacking or think they lack which causes them to be insecure.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Maybe they were bullied, I was afraid of getting bullied when I was younger. But, you have to stick up for yourself in school. Kids are brutal.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Try being viewed as a brainless Ken or Blaine doll (or in my case, a Brady doll, though I have genius-level intelligence), or a male dumb blonde.(I've also heard "himbo" levelled at handsome dullards.)

slatyb · Answer

I was an attractive insecure man in my 20's. Mostly it is a result of parental neglect or abuse.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I don't know don’t have much experience with insecure hot guys

CubaPirate · Answer

I've really no idea, everyone is different in their mental health state

TallAnon · Answer

Hard to say how attractive you really are, without ego

jahaims · Answer

Insecurity doesn't just come from not liking how you look lol

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Why are so many attractive girls? Same same.

The_Sexpert · Answer

And what made you think so?

OddBeMe · Answer

What’s attractive? Their look or confidence?

AngryCarl · Answer

Are they?

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