Why do the considerably attractive people get insecure?

Question

Celebrities like Megan Fox, Margot Robbie, Chris Hemsworth, and even supermodels render themselves as insecure. Despite the adoring fans that envy them. Appearance wise, I don’t understand, as I cannot find the answer to my own problems.
It brings me to wonder why I get so upset and depressed even though I get complimented on my outfit and face. I thought I would grow out of it since middle school, but it “fades in and out.” Anyone else experience this?

Why do the considerably attractive people get insecure?

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Insecurities are never really about external issues. It's all a mental game. I was super insecure until I took on the fake it till you make it. Now I have more confidence and show that in the way I dress and act. So people would never know I'm insecure, or that I spent an hour adjusting my outfit, second guessing my decisions, every other thing I say. A lot has to do with anxiety too.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

Because outer beauty has nothing to do with inner beauty.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, plenty of beautiful people have issues with their confidence, just like how not-so-beautiful and plain people do. With that being said, your brain tends to distort your image, kind of like how cameras do. You'll always look different in the eyes of others, so no individual will ever truly know what they look like.

As I get older, the more I realize the main key to attraction is confidence and charisma. Megan Fox, for example, doesn't have conventionally attractive facial features, but she oozes sex appeal. It's in the way she presents herself. It's magnetism. She was once an ugly duckling as seen in her school pictures, but as she aged, she grew into herself. On the other hand, you can find someone who's very beautiful facially but not exciting at all. Beyoncé is very pretty and nice to look at, but I can't say she's all that sexy.

My point being is:

Attractive - confidence, charm, and sex appeal

Beautiful - facially attractive, pleasing to look at but not necessarily confident or charismatic

KingOfMe1 · Answer

@boomchakalaca Because it's subconscious conditioning. The subconscious mind isn't like the conscious mind. It works off zero logic and communicates through emotion.  You cannot grow out of it.  You have to alter your conditioning. You do that not assuming you are what you wish to be. That state of mind both consciously and subconsciously will rewire the patterns in the mind like a habit does.  But you have to assume the mindset of the person you wish to be frequently otherwise you will not make it habitual. You center yourself in the assumption and view the world from that assumption; from that perspective. You reaction and act like the person who is beautiful until you subconscious makes it habitual. And then the law of attraction kicks in.  Just don't let it go to your ego. Being beautiful doesn't make you better than the loneliest hobo. He too can rewire himself and be a giant in this world.

ShellyB · Answer

Well I am not somebody who would be compared with a Margot Robbie so I can't say what goes through the mind of somebody like that, however I will say (and I can only say this bc I am anonymous here meaning nobody here knows me in real life) I was considered one of the more attractive girls in my senior class, I was on the sweetheart court, I came in third for prom but I was not THE most attractive and what this stuff made me feel like is inferior to the two girls who always won this stuff. I knew then it was petty and even moreso I know now it was petty but it's how I felt. I cried about coming in third and to me it basically meant I was ugly, even though intellectually I knew that is not what it meant that is how it felt.

Meropatrick · Answer

Not all people are nice to good looking people. Some people are very nasty towards them and instill insecurity in them. Princess diana the most stunning woman in my opinion never felt good enough. She hated herself. She hurt herself. Self harming her beautiful body. She didn't feel good because her Husband made her feel inadequate in every possible way. She said so herself. He kept putting her down. Good looking people are humans in the end. They hear bad words and it gets to their soul. And they leave deeper marks than praise.

RingOfFire · Answer

I have met many very attractive women and I find that a significant number of them are insecure. It doesn't really surprise me that much because these are women who are constantly being hit on. That does something to your psyche. It makes you feel like an object, a piece of meat. After years of that, you develop a lot of issues including insecurity... "Doesn't anyone like me for anything but my looks?" "Isn't anyone interested in anything below the surface?" "Am I ever going to be with someone who wants to know ME instead of just my body?" After a while I find that these women tend to start playing the role that they think men want them to play and lose touch with themselves. This causes more issues and sometimes more insecurity. Add to that that women have a built in natural insecurity and it can really add up.

So speaking from my own experience this does not surprise me much. I have met quite a few lonely and insecure gorgeous women.

smashleyy · Answer

being insecure has nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you *feel*. Most peoples insecurities have deep roots stemming from childhood. Which childhood wound (s) is responsible will differ from person to person.

glennos89 · Answer

Everyone has insecurity's about themselves in 1 way or another.

Some people know how to hide that very well and some will be insecure their whole life. Everyone handles his/her own insecurity's in a different way but we all have them. Even people who are very attractive can be very insecure.

Never judge a book by the cover alone 🤷‍♂️

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Well having good looks doesn't magically make you a happy person lol. You get upset and depressed because you're human and you have emotions. This is a silly question

Red-Blaze · Answer

Simple that when everyone gives you good comments that one bad one hits worst
In the end when you look at the mirror you will see every flaw you got and take it that everone are just lying I mean they said I am preferct, but that spot... they had to see it right? its sticking out so much

We need the negative as well as it balnce things out and makes us search for the flaws less, becouse nothing is perfect, and if everyone say your perfect they have to be lying and if they lie about that, what else do they?

The Batman: The animated serice had a fantastic episiod about it called "Mean Seasons"

inhua · Answer

Chris Hemsworth insecure?

the dude is a literal god with the swag to go with it. maybe if he looked like this it would make sense but he's got very little competition, not that he even needs to compete because very few men would ever reach his level of attractiveness

Megan Fox and Margot Robbie on the other hand are always having to compete against younger attractive women like Jenna Ortega and this will never end for them so it makes sense for them to be insecure

lipstickalley3792 · Answer

People tend to put attractive people down a lot. They don't want to boost their confidence because they assume they already know they are attractive or might get arrogant. So conversely, they sometimes end up with low self-esteem because people treat them badly

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

I think it's the industry that messes them up - or their parents or childhood environment made them this way from the start. Unfortunately.

Also, some people require a lot of external validation and regardless of their looks, they may never get it - and that makes them even worse.

pooperscooper223 · Answer

Yes, you already commented on one of my posts so you know that I’m insecure. I’m not sure, but I think it’s just a natural thing to want to improve yourself and that includes appearance. Maybe it’s just a sign that people want more no matter how much they have?

LiamJHayden · Answer

No matter how "gorgeous" someone is, even if 99% agree, that person does have some imperfections and it is common in human nature to focus on the negatives. Think not? A couple can be sweet and praise each other 1000 times each, but that one "loser" or "b*tch" is what they will remember.

Apple1996 · Answer

Most of them have ugly duckling syndrome. They were ugly as kids/teens and got bullied for it but then became adults and got hot. It's hard to break negative comments that were probably ingrained into their brain as a child

MementoMori777 · Answer

i wish i knew, maybe cause they are so obssessed with being good looking that even when they are its never enough?

HelpMe06 · Answer

Humans are never happy with themselves! They’re constantly comparing and picking at their flaws. It’s human nature and unfortunately no matter how well off, how attractive or how smart people are we always want more.

bowenw · Answer

They may feel all they have to offer is their looks. If they lose them they will be no longer be able to work.

HippoDino · Answer

Everyone has a part of their body they don't like no matter how good looking. Its easy to look at someone and say wow how could they be insecure about anything. Trust me everyone has something, now not everyone lets it get to them to the same level. Some people are a little insecure some are really insecure, mainly kust depends on personality not so much looks.

Kaneki05 · Answer

People with logic issues. As only irrational thoughts would make you see yourself as ugly and etc when clearly hot to the point of having millions of fans who all call you so.

If they were more logical and rational they would see it's just in their head. Compared to others who actually are ugly.

Caramalkisses23 · Answer

To ask why are “attractive” people insecure….. it’s human nature. An ugly person is attractive to someone just like an “attractive” person is not so cute to someone. Celebrities are surrounded by other celebrities… they are cheated on and get treated the same way as other people in this world. I think insecurity comes from a lot of different things. Not just being attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they usually have nothing else going for them besides their physical attractiveness and sexual desirability. If that’s all you have, all you are, and all that sever been important to you, you’re gonna be pretty boring. So you better be smoking hot. So go check yourself out in the mirror. Are you hot enough? Oooh. That other girl is prettier—atleast that’s what they think because all they care about is physical beauty. So they then start feeling bad about themselves, thinking they are fat, or that their face is wrinkled, when they may be super attractive to A LIT of people. But to themselves they just aren’t good enough. Insecurity.

WonderBell99 · Answer

I’m pretty sure everyone has some amount of insecurities. It’s normal, it’s what makes you human. I have a few insecurities myself and when I told my friends about it, they said they didn’t even notice the “flaws” until I pointed it out. You’re your own harsh critic. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Nobody cares enough to notice your insecurities or point them out, except you.

Anonymous · Answer

My Dad made me insecure. Growing up I was overweight. He thought that by demeaning men and degrading me. I’d change my bad habits. Once I left HighSchool. I kept that insecurity. Even after I became a little more decent looking. I stayed with the perception that bullies in school and my Dad Bully. Instilled in me. To this day it’s hard for me to even consider finding a partner because I fear the same bullying and belittling I experienced as a child.

Iron_Man · Answer

Because they’re on the clock they don’t want to lose it that’s why they have surgery but it doesn’t look good

Fireguy17 · Answer

Because they all know that someone younger and prettier is just around the corner and that beauty fades as you get older.

Lynx122 · Answer

I've always liked my looks and been comfortable with my body and when someone tells me I look good I believe them. I had a little bit of insecurity when I was a teenager because everything was changing etc. But that was it.

slatyb · Answer

Yes. I was quite attractive in my 20's and so was my wife. Neither of us believed we were.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Hollywood stars have interesting quotes and stories but it’s almost always fake. I know people who’ve met Oscar winners that wrote autobiographies and everything they say in their book is a lie.

Raaj4you · Answer

Celebrities do it for the publicity or the had this problem in real before they became a celebrity. Celebrities are humans too. There is a dark side to the stardom.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because when you're in-ordinary, people's attention tends to flock towards you. And unless you're a psychopath, it's unlikely you'll be able to clearly tell what the looks mean.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Your opinion of yourself is often more important than others opinions of you. So people can tell them a million times that they are pretty but they have to believe it themselves

Wise4myage · Answer

Everybody has insecurities, its just a part of being human.

Reorx · Answer

That insecurity is the driving force; attractiveness many time is a overcompensation for insecurity

FreyaRed · Answer

It's their self self-marketing. Being humble and insecure is better than being confident and arrogant in term of gaining sympathy of the public.

annabananna · Answer

Valuing someone for their outer appearance is not liking them for who they really are. our looks are apart of us but we are not our looks so if we worry to much about our looks we will always be insecure.

boggboss · Answer

Because Insecurities are based in the mind not in reality did u only think ugly people get insecure

RyanK9b · Answer

Bc they are just humans. They have the same insecurities as every other. Also these people shouldn't be seen as idols. They are just for entertainment purposes

jahaims · Answer

Not everyone gets confidence based on being born attractive. Some people get confidence from things they earn.

ericclayton · Answer

Because when you get down to it, they're just people with the same insecurities of everyone else. Also, our attraction to them does not negate this fact.

sheikalana · Answer

Because there's always someone prettier and better than us out there.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Because everyone is constantly trying to get one over on them and generally use them.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Unresolved childhood trauma. How you feel isn't related to how other people see you, but how you see yourself.

monghjay2 · Answer

doesn't matter

plenty of hot guys have written about this

GIRLS WILL LUST AFTER THEM

but when it comes to actually dating

they realize the girls do not give a damn about them

and it makes them sad

WOMEN ARE THE ISSUE WHEN IT COMES TO DATING

the female gender does not love men

they just deal with men

women are so worthless

good luck inside the snake idiots

EaterPeter · Answer

We hardly believe in ourselves. It takes lots of reassurance to most of us before we start believing in ourselves.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

because of negative impact around them...  sometimes they wish to hear more from others to believe or better

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because their whole identity is based on beauty without substance.

Blacksnake285 · Answer

I’ve had women who I thought were 8 or 9 call me beautiful but I’m insecure because deep down I know I have no game with women

Christoff92 · Answer

Because of paparazzi trying to take pictures of them especially if they are celebs 😐

justabuddy · Answer

Because physical attractiveness creates just as many problems as it solves.

Batsy01010101 · Answer

must i look at that filthy fucking whore megan fox this early in the morning? god there goes my morning

Littlejugs99 · Answer

None of that's real. It's all PR.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Because they don’t think they’re attractive.

gothbxtch · Answer

attractiveness is subjective

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