Do you find it weird when attractive people are insecure?
It's pretty strange I think. I mean if a girl is hot as fuck, I would think her confidence is sky high. But then again some super hot girls are so hot that no guys hit on them because men fear beautiful women, or at least fear rejection. So it's always weird to hear about a beautiful girl asking if she's ugly cuz no guys ever talk to her lol.
As far as guys go, it's not surprising. You can be a hot guy, but if your life never afforded you the opportunity to learn how to act around women, he might think he's a hideous monstronsity. In reality he just has a lack of social skills and women care more about social skills and confidence than looks.
It's not "more about X than Y" — it's about whether "X" and "Y" actually fit together.
If a boy looks ilke an action hero, then, what would YOU (... not just women) expect this boy to act like, most of the time?
... Right.
And if this boy were terminally shy or awkward, that'd just be SUPER WEIRD. The pieces wouldn't fit together. The whole boy would seem ilke a giant fraud. **Creepy**. (As women, we wouldn't feel safe around someone like that — because we'd suspect that we don't know the REAL "him" AT ALL... hence the "creep-out" reaction. After all, no woman ever got raped, maimed, or murdered by being TOO easily creeped out, right? Just keep that in mind.)
It's all about how the WHOLE PICTURE fits together.
If you had a cute, boyish dude with awkward-nerd charm, then, it would be A Very Bad Thing™ for him to have TOO MUCH confidence or poise, or to be TOO forward or aggressive or just about anything else we'd expect from the action-hero boy. For the same reasons as above.
@redeyemindtricks Welp, I know you are really good at giving great responses so I have to ask you some more questions because I have no idea wtf you're talking about lol. I get the feeling it's one of those female/male disconnect things. I just don't understand your perspective still after reading your comment like 50 times lol.
Can you talk more about things fitting together? What would be some normal combinations? Like an attractive one vs an unattractive one?
@redeyemindtricks Let me try and relate though! lol. So growing up I had a fucked up life. Without going into detail, just imagine I was locked in a room for the first 20 years and that's how it all resulted lol. Anyways, 15 or so years later I'm finding out as a teenager I was super cute. Tons of girls had crushes on me. Hell, every girlfriend I ever had in my life approached me. But I was so fucked in the head from being ostracized that it never increased my confidence which is just stupid lol. Looking back at all my interactions with women I see that I was attractive, but I was extremely shy, awkward as fuck. I had really bad social anxiety and I thought I was a hideous monstrosity. Girls would talk to me for like 5 seconds and run away. So I'm guessing this is kind of what you're talking about. A good looking guy who is weird or shy as fuck instantly becomes a person who doesn't have those balanced things that fit together and it just creeps women out?
There is a certain category of people that are attractive and insecure... for them - the more attractive they are the more insecure they get...
why? - well when you have something that is valued you are constantly afraid for it to become unvalued by someone... leads to an obsession... almost like how a rich guy making money can't stop thinking of how he never wants to lose it and be poor again lol...
Everyone has a different opinion of what is 'attractive' to what isn't; whilst some find George Clooney a piece of hot stuff, someone else may prefer Tom Hanks... Then there's another side to this; is arrogance attractive? More often than you'd think, people you consider attractive, won't find themselves attractive and that is what makes them insecure... No amount of appreciation for their appearance on your part, can completely 'fix' their insecurities... We all have our moments of feeling 'attractive' whether it's on a good hair day or when you put on a new outfit. It's subjective if you're otherwise insecure about your appearance.
Ofcourse not. Being considered attractive by 9/10 people and being insecure about yourself are two different things. Attractive isn't a universal good. It's different for everyone. Being insecure has no direct link to that. Being insecure has something to do with how you view yourself. The whole world can find that you're attractive, but if you don't feel that way that isn't weird. We judge ourselves harder 'cause we want to improve ourselves and we see ourselves everyday, 24/7. It's far from weird to me, I'd say it's even more normal than not being insecure about anything about yourself.
Yes, especially when its women look like this:
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Like seriously, you're the type of woman most men want or daydream about. But because they're to scared and think you're untouchable, they will settle for women they think are safer/easier to get. So chill you're at the top of dating chain
No im just talking about insecure beautiful women in general who feel insecure.
the you're is at them, not you lol
well i think that it's pretty much peeople like you, right?
@mullahstan uh no i look nothing like those women
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No, not anymore. I used to. But I've come to understand that a person's self-image has very little to do with their actual image. What I mean by that is that a person doesn't necessarily see themselves the way the rest of us see them. A beautiful person may believe themselves to be ugly while an ugly person may find themselves beautiful. Look at Donald Trump. He's an old, fat, dumpy looking creature with the worst orange hairpiece but he obviously thinks he's the greatest thing that ever walked the earth. Self-image is generated inside, not outside.
attractive people have the advantage of being a little insecure and have it actually make them more attractive. people will describe seeing an attractive person showing quirks as humanizing. think about that word, "humanizing", as if attractive people weren't human before? and when someone is ugly and insecure, i guess they are TOO human? It goes to show how much we idolize physical attractiveness in our world, as if they were above human before they let their guard down. when we see someone attractive show flaws, it puts them lower on the pedestal and almost make us feel like we got a shot.
No I don't. I find this happens because they are a threat in others eyes. And may cause people around them to gang up or create negative emotions, (within internally or external, people are not deaf to the group talking), from being soloed out of conversations.
Why? Beauty has nothing to do with it. i'm beautiful by people's word but never had positive feedback by men due to being very shy and socially awkward. after that my cofidence was only a downward spiral. got secluded in my self and now have zero friends and meet up with noone. i've seen other women and even know men who could be models and are virgin in their late twenties and thirties or had like a couple of boyfriends/girlfriends.
plus people get insecure over the most surprising reasons i've heard men gorgeous like the pic above say things like: "my hair is too thin", "i have a small penis no woman will be pleased", "i have a bone deformity on my chest", "my feet are too big", "i sweat uncontrollably", "i'm too hariry", and countless stuff like that.
yeah and i tell you that despite looks people can be lonely, awkward or insecure for a billion reasons, so it doesn't work for them. yeah i get what you mean. i had a classmate whom girls hated and were very weirded by, cause he was very pretty and insecure and this weirded them out.
as for me, i'm not much into socializing better in my seclusion.
i'm an introvert and a deep thinker i can't lose my time with superficial socializing. plus they hurt me a lot in the past so i'm kinda of a misanthopist yes.
No, because I see it a lot. Insecurities aren't only caused by not being attractive. Sometimes other girls get their heart broken by a guy and it sort of leaves them feeling as if they aren't good enough. It takes some time to get over it. Or if someone is attractive but can't seem to do well in school or land a job. They could be insecure about that. There's a lot that someone can be insecure about and I think everyone has insecurities to some degree.
No, they have their own set of societal expectations to either live up to or break free from. Nobody's life will always be roses and sunshine and beauty doesn't equate to perfection. Society has a way of making you feel like you're inadequate and it can sneak up on the best of us.
Everybody gets insecure, so no, it's not weird. To ignorant people, yes, it will. People thing attractive people are everything. But did anybody ever stop to think that attractive people didn't ask for all that attention, and be told to do and act out with unrealistic expectations? What do people really expect? It's only human. They're not gods. Treat them as human.
Not at all. All kinds of people, attractive or not, can be insecure. You don't know what's going in their head let alone what caused them to be that way.
It's the same shit with people saying how can rich and famous people be depressed or suicidal? Same thing.
Being physically attractive isn't the be all end all.
no not at all. the things that a person goes through breeds these. but i think its better to have a few insecurities then be fine just showing your body off to everyone
only when they're insecure about their looks. But there's a ton of other things to be insecure about..
well, there's always going to be perceived imperfections. Even the 'hottest model' out there is going to think her toe is too big or something. It does seem to sort-of defeat the "purpose" of being attractive when a girl does that, though. Like, any guy would absolutely bang you if you give them the chance. There is no question. What other possible purpose could the be to being attractive? That's what's "weird" about it, I think. It's a failure to see the forest for the trees, as it were, and with particularly lovely trees, at that.
I don't think so. For some, the reason for their insecurity could also be caused by their appearance. If someone were to bully them in order to put them down, and they aren't able to stand up for themselves, I don't find it weird that they're insecure
Hmm, yes.
Just like when ugly people are overconfident, it's weird. The happy medium is knowing where you stand and not caring about it.
Like there's a certain dude on here, who is quite ummm... unattractive (and short lol). He acts confident to the point where it's blatantly obvious he's insecure and delusional.
It's just weird.
Oh the shadeeee 😂
No. People are insecure for a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with how they look. Most of it usually relates to their family lives.
No, it's a mental thing and doesn't actually depend much on one's looks. people who are insecure about their appearance usually have deeper insecurities too, and that's where the physical insecurities stem from.
I did, but it makes sense. Everyone is insecure, but attractive people are sometimes put in the spotlight and that can't make it better.
Looks doesn't equal self confidences, it's just good genes.
Nope. People are insecure about a lot of different things, not just their looks. In fact a lot of really beautiful people are also shallow people, since they can typically get a lot of attention without any kind of effort.
What, they can't be insecure about their personality or social skills or interests?
I'm very suspicious tbh. Like... sometimes I just think they're attention seeking. It's a tough one, though. I sometimes get told I'm quite good looking, but I'd say at maximum I'm a 5/10. Genuinly. Like... more close to a 4.5/10
Naw, cause some attractive people ain't got an easy life, and ish don't play out like it does on T. V, or how people say an attractive persons life should play out.. Just look at all the pretty girls that ask how they look..
I wouldn't. They're humans too as well as can have it hard if anything... things can be scary sometimes if your not sure what to expect..😐 no ones perfect at the end of the day lol but even so, some of those imperfections make them worthwhile.
Nothing comes all that easy; although it seems easy for a moment..
They are insecure because they don't trust people. The same sex see them as a threat. The opposite sex may use them for sex and approach them then break their heart. It's like the more money you have the more you fear robbery
The more money you have, the better the security you buy
@animus1988 that's right. It s just a metaphor. You will be more careful when you have more money in your wallet and be ware it will be stolen
Either way having "alot of money" is a high class problem. You could have money. So be grateful
Have no money **
@animus1988 ok so feel grateful of being attractive. Lol it's better than have no appearance
Thats my point. Dont feel like a victim for being "used". Learn to be grateful that people of the opposite sex want you
No. Being attractive doesn't negate your humanity. We all go through a lot of the same things, bleed red blood and have our issues. Hot or not.
No, because they're people just like Anyone else. Guy A can be considered hot to you but to him he still feels like a nerd who struggled to get a girl back in high school or something.
Not really to be honest in most cases of women I've dated that was the case.
the god-fearing guy dates? ok.
No. I find it weird when unattractive people are confident.
Not at all because that's just shallow to tell attractive people they should have confidence simply because of their looks
Because you're judging them based off their looks and not the person they are inside
Huh? If you said "they feel insecure because of their looks" then that's not always true. I know a friend who's pretty and knows she's pretty but she feels insecure because she doesn't feel like she's a good basketball player. So that's not always the case. And if your question is revolving around that scenario could you please specify that so I don't assume you mean attractive people being insecure about what's inside
I know that's long winded haha so let me know if I confused you
It's more common than you think. An insecure good looking guy maybe getting less girly action that a funny average looking guy... and it causes a nasty cycle of more rejection. He's wondering why they hell is he is lonely.
Good looking women might be used to getting their way all the time... but some people might not take them seriously. Or they might get some unexpected hostility (usually from other jealous women).
they say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so no I don't find it weird. I was finding myself to be ugly until I heard so much people saying I'm cute, pretty, etc...
i probably used to find it somewhat strange before understanding that looks alone don't necessarily dictate a person's sense of security.
Yes, I do. Because I always think that they don't have reasons to be insecure (if we are only talking about their looks).
Yes. In women especially. Serioulsy. You've won the genetic lottery. YOu are hot AND you are woman. This is the best, what you can be. I don't even have words. I guess you can be insecure, and thank god for that, but still.
@Mr-Kabuki ahh 😑
No. Wrong.
Thank god, for their insecurity, since that’s the only thing, what’s stopping them from unleashing their full potential. They are hot, so it’s little bit (irony, a lot) bigger, than mine, for example.
It’s like when someone has high tech weapon. That gives him advantage, but he doesn’t know, how to use it, so that’s good for the rest of us.
Now, this might seem like fucked up opinion, but think about it. Hot people in general, but girls mostly, can just get away with stuff, just because of their looks. I’ve seen it in action. Problem is sexual attraction, in guys mostly, to be honest. So, if there is some hot woman, who knows, how to use her looks, she can get anything. That’s not good. But she isn’t the problem, rest of us are.
Yes, but I guess a lot of people view themselves as less attractive than they really are. We are our own best critics.
Not really. Everyone's insecure. But I will admit that I will not take their insecurities as seriously as I would those of an unattractive person.
Well kind of makes you wonder why they are insecure. They are attractive people but yet they have insecurities about their appearances just makes no sense but yes it happens.
Isn't everyone, it's normal. The only thing I find weird is when people go out of their way get validation especially from strangers
You mean celebrities?
More so people are platform such as social media
You mean taking bikini pictures in the hopes of getting validation on Instagram for example.
With extremely attractive people yes. But they are also human afterall. So I try my best to assure them.
No... I generally believe everyone has some degree of insecurity... you just have to tweak the right spot to find it.
Weird, a bit but I'm used to it. Almost everyone is insecure, I've found
Slightly. Not to the point of depression, just to the point of most others
No I don't. Attractive people usually are the most insecure people I know. And I know this because I am one of them. I ain't insecure again though.
When they are insecure about their looks, i personally think they are trying to get more attention !!
I'm a little insecure but I never get stressed about it nor does anything ever come to a point to depression
I hate to say this but yes I do. Not all of them, but some of them. Especially those girls that take a selfie, think they look ugly or fat, yet post it on every social media platform they're signed up to.
You're currently trying to build your confidence lol.
You know what really builds confidence? Sending me nudes
You have a dick? Lol
Pls don't. I don't like diks
A bit but i still think they human muahhahahaha they are like us xp
personally, I find insecurity in attractive people an attractive trait.
Yes I do. But I suppose, it's more of a mental thing and not a physical thing to be insecure.
I can understand it if conventional beauty is all they've got going for them.
No, they often are the most insecure, because those around them make them out of jealousy.
Yes if they are insecure how the hell should I feel looking like a looking like downsyndrome elen d.
I just think that people haven't shown them what they are worth and what they deserve. I don't find it weird
What they deserve? Unless a person put in work, that person deserve nothing. lol.
Worth is something a person creates for themselves.
I know I'm just talking about the good people
@DizzyAster I don't think you get it. The point is not that that person has worked and accumulated value as a person. The point is that every person has the POTENTIAL to raise themselves up, and work hard. But many people, for whatever reason unique to each individual, they believe they are worthless and could absolutely never be anything better than what they are. It's very common among very obese people. If you take a look around at some of the many massive weight loss transformations out there, one of the biggest reasons an obese person finally takes the steps to lose the fat is because they realize they don't have to be a worthless piece of shit, that they can work hard and be a better person and achieve great things they thought they were blocked off from. It's all about mentality. So obviously that's an example, but it applies to many things and obviously insecurities are one of them.
not really, anyone can be insecure, especially when they compare themselves to others and have the internet available to compare themselves to models and photoshopped pictures.
Are you insecure?
No, sometimes they don't get compliments because people assume that they know they're attractive
Eh it depends, if your not insecure about anything your probably insufferable to be around
Some are insecure because they are short or because they have small boobs/penis and no money. Others feel insecure because parents control everything. Nothing is weird in such cases.
It's a lot more confusing when you get mixed opinions that can go from "average" to "wowzers".
I think it's normal to have insecurities, independent on your looks. It just changes what you're insecure about
I guess there's always something to be insecure about
including allowing his favourites here to post shit.
Nope, everyone has insecurities, it just means they're human.
Yes, I somewhat find it offensive because when people who are more attractive than me are insecure, I feel like I'm ugly.
Attractive People Still are People.
And insecurity / fear goes far beyond physical attributes.
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