Do you find it weird when attractive people are insecure?

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Do you find it weird when attractive people are insecure?

Kaazsz · Accepted Answer

It's pretty strange I think. I mean if a girl is hot as fuck, I would think her confidence is sky high. But then again some super hot girls are so hot that no guys hit on them because men fear beautiful women, or at least fear rejection. So it's always weird to hear about a beautiful girl asking if she's ugly cuz no guys ever talk to her lol.

As far as guys go, it's not surprising. You can be a hot guy, but if your life never afforded you the opportunity to learn how to act around women, he might think he's a hideous monstronsity. In reality he just has a lack of social skills and women care more about social skills and confidence than looks.

TripleAce · Accepted Answer

There is a certain category of people that are attractive and insecure... for them - the more attractive they are the more insecure they get...

why? - well when you have something that is valued you are constantly afraid for it to become unvalued by someone... leads to an obsession... almost like how a rich guy making money can't stop thinking of how he never wants to lose it and be poor again lol...

Lavinnykins · Accepted Answer

Everyone has a different opinion of what is 'attractive' to what isn't; whilst some find George Clooney a piece of hot stuff, someone else may prefer Tom Hanks... Then there's another side to this; is arrogance attractive? More often than you'd think, people you consider attractive, won't find themselves attractive and that is what makes them insecure... No amount of appreciation for their appearance on your part, can completely 'fix' their insecurities... We all have our moments of feeling 'attractive' whether it's on a good hair day or when you put on a new outfit. It's subjective if you're otherwise insecure about your appearance.

Miyumi · Accepted Answer

Ofcourse not. Being considered attractive by 9/10 people and being insecure about yourself are two different things. Attractive isn't a universal good. It's different for everyone. Being insecure has no direct link to that. Being insecure has something to do with how you view yourself. The whole world can find that you're attractive, but if you don't feel that way that isn't weird. We judge ourselves harder 'cause we want to improve ourselves and we see ourselves everyday, 24/7. It's far from weird to me, I'd say it's even more normal than not being insecure about anything about yourself.

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

Yes, especially when its women look like this:
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Like seriously, you're the type of woman most men want or daydream about. But because they're to scared and think you're untouchable, they will settle for women they think are safer/easier to get. So chill you're at the top of dating chain

JesseEllyson · Answer

No, not anymore. I used to. But I've come to understand that a person's self-image has very little to do with their actual image. What I mean by that is that a person doesn't necessarily see themselves the way the rest of us see them. A beautiful person may believe themselves to be ugly while an ugly person may find themselves beautiful. Look at Donald Trump. He's an old, fat, dumpy looking creature with the worst orange hairpiece but he obviously thinks he's the greatest thing that ever walked the earth. Self-image is generated inside, not outside.

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

attractive people have the advantage of being a little insecure and have it actually make them more attractive. people will describe seeing an attractive person showing quirks as humanizing. think about that word, "humanizing", as if attractive people weren't human before? and when someone is ugly and insecure, i guess they are TOO human? It goes to show how much we idolize physical attractiveness in our world, as if they were above human before they let their guard down. when we see someone attractive show flaws, it puts them lower on the pedestal and almost make us feel like we got a shot.

JustACrag · Answer

No I don't. I find this happens because they are a threat in others eyes. And may cause people around them to gang up or create negative emotions, (within internally or external, people are not deaf to the group talking), from being soloed out of conversations.

Anonymous · Answer

Why? Beauty has nothing to do with it. i'm beautiful by people's word but never had positive feedback by men due to being very shy and socially awkward. after that my cofidence was only a downward spiral. got secluded in my self and now have zero friends and meet up with noone. i've seen other women and even know men who could be models and are virgin in their late twenties and thirties or had like a couple of boyfriends/girlfriends.

Snuga2Allie · Answer

No, because I see it a lot. Insecurities aren't only caused by not being attractive. Sometimes other girls get their heart broken by a guy and it sort of leaves them feeling as if they aren't good enough. It takes some time to get over it. Or if someone is attractive but can't seem to do well in school or land a job. They could be insecure about that. There's a lot that someone can be insecure about and I think everyone has insecurities to some degree.

estoydorado1 · Answer

No, they have their own set of societal expectations to either live up to or break free from. Nobody's life will always be roses and sunshine and beauty doesn't equate to perfection. Society has a way of making you feel like you're inadequate and it can sneak up on the best of us.

btbc92 · Answer

Everybody gets insecure, so no, it's not weird. To ignorant people, yes, it will. People thing attractive people are everything. But did anybody ever stop to think that attractive people didn't ask for all that attention, and be told to do and act out with unrealistic expectations? What do people really expect? It's only human. They're not gods. Treat them as human.

bloodmountain1990 · Answer

Not at all. All kinds of people, attractive or not, can be insecure. You don't know what's going in their head let alone what caused them to be that way.

It's the same shit with people saying how can rich and famous people be depressed or suicidal? Same thing.

Being physically attractive isn't the be all end all.

Problem13 · Answer

no not at all. the things that a person goes through breeds these. but i think its better to have a few insecurities then be fine just showing your body off to everyone

normalice · Answer

only when they're insecure about their looks. But there's a ton of other things to be insecure about..

Dolynne · Answer

I don't think so. For some, the reason for their insecurity could also be caused by their appearance. If someone were to bully them in order to put them down, and they aren't able to stand up for themselves, I don't find it weird that they're insecure

Cosytoasty · Answer

Hmm, yes.  Just like when ugly people are overconfident, it's weird. The happy medium is knowing where you stand and not caring about it.

HikerDude · Answer

No. People are insecure for a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with how they look. Most of it usually relates to their family lives.

Cloudy25 · Answer

No, it's a mental thing and doesn't actually depend much on one's looks. people who are insecure about their appearance usually have deeper insecurities too, and that's where the physical insecurities stem from.

DizzyAster · Answer

I did, but it makes sense. Everyone is insecure, but attractive people are sometimes put in the spotlight and that can't make it better. Looks doesn't equal self confidences, it's just good genes.

Frosteh · Answer

Nope. People are insecure about a lot of different things, not just their looks. In fact a lot of really beautiful people are also shallow people, since they can typically get a lot of attention without any kind of effort.

Bell44444 · Answer

What, they can't be insecure about their personality or social skills or interests?

Mitch6192 · Answer

I'm very suspicious tbh. Like... sometimes I just think they're attention seeking. It's a tough one, though. I sometimes get told I'm quite good looking, but I'd say at maximum I'm a 5/10. Genuinly. Like... more close to a 4.5/10

JDavid25 · Answer

Naw, cause some attractive people ain't got an easy life, and ish don't play out like it does on T. V, or how people say an attractive persons life should play out.. Just look at all the pretty girls that ask how they look..

MimiHashima · Answer

I wouldn't. They're humans too as well as can have it hard if anything... things can be scary sometimes if your not sure what to expect..😐 no ones perfect at the end of the day lol but even so, some of those imperfections make them worthwhile.

confusednbored · Answer

They are insecure because they don't trust people. The same sex see them as a threat. The opposite sex may use them for sex and approach them then break their heart. It's like the more money you have the more you fear robbery

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

No. Being attractive doesn't negate your humanity. We all go through a lot of the same things, bleed red blood and have our issues. Hot or not.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

No, because they're people just like Anyone else. Guy A can be considered hot to you but to him he still feels like a nerd who struggled to get a girl back in high school or something.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Not really to be honest in most cases of women I've dated that was the case.

Dme500 · Answer

No. I find it weird when unattractive people are confident.

IKissedAGirl · Answer

Not at all because that's just shallow to tell attractive people they should have confidence simply because of their looks

Anonymous · Answer

It's more common than you think. An insecure good looking guy maybe getting less girly action that a funny average looking guy... and it causes a nasty cycle of more rejection. He's wondering why they hell is he is lonely.

Good looking women might be used to getting their way all the time... but some people might not take them seriously. Or they might get some unexpected hostility (usually from other jealous women).

alice55 · Answer

they say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so no I don't find it weird. I was finding myself to be ugly until I heard so much people saying I'm cute, pretty, etc...

madhatters4 · Answer

i probably used to find it somewhat strange before understanding that looks alone don't necessarily dictate a person's sense of security.

menina · Answer

Yes, I do. Because I always think that they don't have reasons to be insecure (if we are only talking about their looks).

Wolframium · Answer

Yes. In women especially. Serioulsy. You've won the genetic lottery. YOu are hot AND you are woman. This is the best, what you can be. I don't even have words. I guess you can be insecure, and thank god for that, but still.

anewgirl · Answer

Yes, but I guess a lot of people view themselves as less attractive than they really are. We are our own best critics.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Not really. Everyone's insecure. But I will admit that I will not take their insecurities as seriously as I would those of an unattractive person.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well kind of makes you wonder why they are insecure. They are attractive people but yet they have insecurities about their appearances just makes no sense but yes it happens.

GeminiAgent007 · Answer

Isn't everyone, it's normal. The only thing I find weird is when people go out of their way get validation especially from strangers

MuffinHead · Answer

With extremely attractive people yes. But they are also human afterall. So I try my best to assure them.

Izumiblu · Answer

No... I generally believe everyone has some degree of insecurity... you just have to tweak the right spot to find it.

Maxemeister · Answer

Weird, a bit but I'm used to it. Almost everyone is insecure, I've found

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

No I don't. Attractive people usually are the most insecure people I know. And I know this because I am one of them. I ain't insecure again though.

Razal · Answer

When they are insecure about their looks, i personally think they are trying to get more attention !!

Alivia-Brown · Answer

I'm a little insecure but I never get stressed about it nor does anything ever come to a point to depression

SuitAndTie · Answer

I hate to say this but yes I do. Not all of them, but some of them. Especially those girls that take a selfie, think they look ugly or fat, yet post it on every social media platform they're signed up to.

Returnoftheswole · Answer

You're currently trying to build your confidence lol.

bleh012 · Answer

A bit but i still think they human muahhahahaha they are like us xp

AmyShadowhunter · Answer

personally, I find insecurity in attractive people an attractive trait.

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Yes I do. But I suppose, it's more of a mental thing and not a physical thing to be insecure.

DodgersGM · Answer

I can understand it if conventional beauty is all they've got going for them.

azzntittiz · Answer

No, they often are the most insecure, because those around them make them out of jealousy.

Smile2MakeMyDay · Answer

Yes if they are insecure how the hell should I feel looking like a looking like downsyndrome elen d.

Jaceylogan · Answer

I just think that people haven't shown them what they are worth and what they deserve. I don't find it weird

PhoenixItalian · Answer

not really, anyone can be insecure, especially when they compare themselves to others and have the internet available to compare themselves to models and photoshopped pictures.  Are you insecure?

JustRollTheDice · Answer

No, sometimes they don't get compliments because people assume that they know they're attractive

SlightlyCrazy · Answer

Eh it depends, if your not insecure about anything your probably insufferable to be around

Anonymous · Answer

Some are insecure because they are short or because they have small boobs/penis and no money. Others feel insecure because parents control everything. Nothing is weird in such cases.

soul1112 · Answer

It's a lot more confusing when you get mixed opinions that can go from "average" to "wowzers".

Yumix · Answer

I think it's normal to have insecurities, independent on your looks. It just changes what you're insecure about

RedThread · Answer

I guess there's always something to be insecure about

Naklin · Answer

Nope, everyone has insecurities, it just means they're human.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I somewhat find it offensive because when people who are more attractive than me are insecure, I feel like I'm ugly.

didigo182 · Answer

Attractive People Still are People. And insecurity / fear goes far beyond physical attributes.

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