Why does my husband want me to dress sexy and flirt?

[Tinab]

My husband of 23 years just recently told me he wants to go out to a club. He wants me to dress sexy and flirt with other men. He wants us to go home together but he wants us to flirt and be sexy with others. He's always been jealous trying to figure out why the changed? Is this normal?

[NyomiMcClinton]

No man would like the idea of his wife flirting with other men. This is very odd that your husband would ask you to do something like this. This is his way of saying that he wants to flirt with other women and have an excuse to do it when your not around. I would not agree to this if I were you. It would only mean more headaches with bringing other females around. And what if the female gets attached to your husband? And then he may want a divorce or will spend more time with her than you. There are so many ways it can go when you start becoming swingers and doing this. Tell him you wouldn't feel comfortable with that. And leave it at that.

[lovydoey]

Talk to him. U are with him. U will get the answer u want and need from him.

Cuz he could want to spice up again the relationship or wants an open relationship I don't know

So a relationship should have: communication, honesty, support, faithfulness, trust, loyalty.

[Luci92]

He'd probably get off on that or has some fantasy about it.

[DougTheDingo]

Could be a psychological way of dealing with jealousy. Since you will be purposely flirting and dressed sexy it is as if you are in an actual scenario that he would be jealous in however since you are going home with him and he came up with the idea it validates your attraction because although you "flirted" he got to be the one to take you home and he was in control of the situation.

[evenlift]

I think that he has low self-esteem. I don't think that anything has fundamentally changed. His character is just manifesting in a different way.

[Tinab]

I agree he's always been jealous of what I wear and who I talk to. That's why this makes no sense. Why after 20+ years

[Ephemera1]

Yikes, could be two things:
-The idea of you being with someone else is pleasing to him.
-He wants to do so himself and is justifying it by asking you to do it.

[YaBaba]

Your husband is weird.
I think it's a weird fantasy of him

Tbh I don't see that as normal

[Ayshea]

He thinks sharing is caring.

[Jrossetti]

He might be a swinger!

[Tinab]

Definitely not he's not in to sharing me. He made that clear. He wants to fuck me when we get home.

[Anonymous]

he thinks being an asshole, is cool

[Intraluminal]

One word. Porn.