Why does my ex-fiancé used to encourage me to dress "sexy" and scandalous but now looks down on it?

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Before anyone asks why I am still in contact with my ex-fiancé, we are still in contact and in each other's lives because we co-parent 2 kids together. He ended our relationship and engagement last summer because he claims he lost feelings for me and fell out of love. Prior to our breakup, I did modeling and photoshoots as a hobby and some of the photoshoots I have done were pretty scandalous, involving sexy lingerie and skimpy outfits. He was always very supportive and encouraged me to wear whatever I wanted that made me feel sexiest. He did not mind me stripping down into a bikini or lingerie and did not mind me wearing a revealing outfit out in public. He actually loved it and found it very sexy. Fast forward to now... we have been broken up for almost a year and a half now and I recently got scheduled for a photoshoot. I picked out several outfits and wanted someone's opinion so I asked my ex-fiancé expecting him to like them but instead, he told me all of the outfits I picked were "skanky" and too revealing and that I would be seen as a "low value woman". He told me I should wear outfits that are more sophisticated and elegant. Why would he change his views so drastically? He used to love when I wore sexy outfits and now he says I will look like a cheap skank.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

A guy's tastes can change. I like elegance and sensuality now but liked lots of bare skin in the past. Tits out would have had me drooling but now it tells me it is a woman not worth attention. He might be wanting you - as the mother of his kids - to be less attention seeking.

Which drifts into something akin to jealousy. Whilst you were together, having a hot girl was of value to his status. Now you are not - in conjunction with being the mother of his kids - he doesn't want you to be looking like you are asking for it.

It is possible your body has changed since his time with you too, if i may tread on thin ice. Skimpy clothing looks great on early 20's girls. But we've all seen older women wearing clothing they shouldn't with the body they have. Probably those older women still think they are hot and sexy in a short skirt when they are look away material.

Obviously I am not in a position to have an opinion. I am just trying to cover the gamut of reasons for you.

soe11 · Accepted Answer

So sad to hear that my dear.  My girlfriend is similarly as you, and I always supportive to her all the way. I really really proud of my girlfriend. I encourage and endorse her her choice and desires.  She is the my crown. Her mother as well proud of her daughter.  I never ever look down to her. Personally I like my girlfriend bring sexy , revealing, exposure of her skin publicly Especially on vacation I encourage her to wear sheer outfits without bran, micro warped skirts with no pantie, flashback halter neck flowy micro dress as we as tight fitting figure hugging hipster micro Denim/clear white shorts including micro tube, micro tank top without bra on. We doubt care anybody. Please do follow your own desires and exposure freedom within the limit.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some men are insecure about their partner looking too good. It is really a mental illness some men have.

spartan55 · Answer

You really can't figure this one out? It's because he doesn't want some other dude getting in his (former) 🥧 pie...

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