Before anyone asks why I am still in contact with my ex-fiancé, we are still in contact and in each other's lives because we co-parent 2 kids together. He ended our relationship and engagement last summer because he claims he lost feelings for me and fell out of love. Prior to our breakup, I did modeling and photoshoots as a hobby and some of the photoshoots I have done were pretty scandalous, involving sexy lingerie and skimpy outfits. He was always very supportive and encouraged me to wear whatever I wanted that made me feel sexiest. He did not mind me stripping down into a bikini or lingerie and did not mind me wearing a revealing outfit out in public. He actually loved it and found it very sexy. Fast forward to now... we have been broken up for almost a year and a half now and I recently got scheduled for a photoshoot. I picked out several outfits and wanted someone's opinion so I asked my ex-fiancé expecting him to like them but instead, he told me all of the outfits I picked were "skanky" and too revealing and that I would be seen as a "low value woman". He told me I should wear outfits that are more sophisticated and elegant. Why would he change his views so drastically? He used to love when I wore sexy outfits and now he says I will look like a cheap skank.
Why does my ex-fiancé used to encourage me to dress "sexy" and scandalous but now looks down on it?
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A guy's tastes can change. I like elegance and sensuality now but liked lots of bare skin in the past. Tits out would have had me drooling but now it tells me it is a woman not worth attention. He might be wanting you - as the mother of his kids - to be less attention seeking.
Which drifts into something akin to jealousy. Whilst you were together, having a hot girl was of value to his status. Now you are not - in conjunction with being the mother of his kids - he doesn't want you to be looking like you are asking for it.
It is possible your body has changed since his time with you too, if i may tread on thin ice. Skimpy clothing looks great on early 20's girls. But we've all seen older women wearing clothing they shouldn't with the body they have. Probably those older women still think they are hot and sexy in a short skirt when they are look away material.
Obviously I am not in a position to have an opinion. I am just trying to cover the gamut of reasons for you.
It doesn't mean he still has feelings for me right?
It could do but probably not.
You really can't figure this one out? It's because he doesn't want some other dude getting in his (former) 🥧 pie...
Really? He has told me he supports me finding a new boyfriend and moving on and that he hopes I find someone.
He lies.
Interesting... he recently told me that I should go date because he noticed I was too invested in work and our kids and when I jokingly told him "I bet you still have feelings for me", he said "I promise I don't. I'm 100% moved on. I just want you to be happy."
He's probably being honest. His change in attitude about what you wear doesn't mean he has any feelings for you.
Some men are insecure about their partner looking too good. It is really a mental illness some men have.
But that's why I am so confused... When I was his partner and we were in a relationship, he loved whenever I looked sexy and wore revealing outfits... we are no longer together and I'm not his partner anymore, yet, he now thinks I shouldn't wear revealing outfits and thinks it looks bad.
They’re not partners anymore