Consider this. He’s comfortable with you. He likes to hang out with you, go look at the stars and have deep, meaningful conversations with you, but he only does this when you make the offer. I’ve witnessed such behavior in other males and in general, and I’m not saying this is always the case, but in general it could be a sign that he’s a submissive male, and once you make the initial contact, letting him know you’d like to get together, he jumps right on it immediately to adhere to your desire.
He wants you to be happy, he likes joking with you, making you smile I would hazard a guess, and he’s constantly asking you about your interests, because he wants to know as much about you as possible in order to better cater to your desires, and the best way for him to know this is to know your likes and dislikes as intimately and personal as possible.
It might not even be the case he wants to be romantically involved with you, though I can take a guess from experience to suggest if you did make such an offer, boldly and directly to him, he probably would not turn you down, but you’ll be the dominant one in the relationship---the aggressor.
Watch his body language for clues to his intentions. Does he stand close to you when you’re together or sit close to you; getting into your personal space? When you suggest something that you like does it reciprocate and let you know he also enjoys such or would like to do such with you together. When you offer to spend time together, he never makes an excuse as to why he can’t get together or hang out with you, but instead he’s ready to drop everything to get to your side.
If you are witnessing these aspects to his nature in his relationship with you, then these are HUGE signs to his intentions. And if you do start paying closer attention to these items and see him doing them, it might not be a good idea to confront him about them directly as he would embarrass him, he’d feel very self-conscious of himself and more than likely would not be able to look you directly in the eyes, but would want to look away and shift from one foot to the other.
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He calls you pal because maybe its his style i personally find it kind of dorky and prefer mate or something similar. He is defiantly interested but he is worried (as he should be) of ruining his friendship with you. So he is throwing out hints hoping you will make the first move. He was probably had little trouble talking before he was interested right?
So in order to not make himself appear too forward and not say something stupid he dosn't initiate until you do. So to cut the bs you need to make clear you are into him. Maybe even say it outright then even he can't missunderstand. If you don't want to be the one who makes the first move wait until a moment where everything is going really well and move closer to him, hold is eyes. Hopefully he takes the hint and he kisses you, Your already ready technically 'dating' since you hang out alone so you just need to escalate. The longer you leave it the harder its going to be to make a move and eventually the tension is going to ruin your friendship because you both won't be able to be around eachother.
My crush calls me buddy, man, dude. But he acts like he likes me. Sometimes I don't know. Though I have heard from guys that these words don't mean that they don't like you.
This other guy that likes me calls me pal, kid, kiddo and stuff like that. I don't like him back so I don't mind, but it's still like... doood. No.
He could've been using it sarcastically to go with whatever y'all were talking ab bc you were being a good friend atm. It seems like he likes you but whenever y'all are chilling together casually see what he thinks ab being in a relationship in general or get on the topic of relationships and see where he goes with it
Maybe he just Called you pall as a cover up since he likes you I mean personally if I really like a guy and if he finds out I like him but I'm not too sure if he likes me back I'll call him buddy, pal... etc as a cover up because I wouldn't wanna ruin the friendship if he doesn't feel the same
Reminds me of my best friend. He does stuff like that too but I know he doesn't like me like that. Cuz we talked about that too lol
Maybe you should drop hints next time he starts pointing out couples and ask him about it
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You don't look at the stars with a friend.
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He seems awkward honestly, and the fact he doesn't text you or initiates contact is a clear sign of lack of interest in you, maybe he is just playing video games at home, or maybe he is with his buddies.
Maybe he is the guy who wants a relationship but he doesn't know how to start one, or act in a relationship, so he only acts clingy while he is with you. Basically his behavior is really inconstant.
Maybe he is just going hot and cold. Please watch this video, and see if it applies to your case.
You gotta give it a shot "hey pal (joking, don't call him pal), i like to spend time with you, however i have noticed that you are acting hot and cold with me, when you are with me, you are super sweet with me, but when you are not with me, it's like a just don't exist, is there something that i have done to make you act like that? Or is something else in your life? I don't like that you treat me this way, hot and cold, let's talk it out please. "Honestly, it sounds like he thinks of you as a friend. However, when he is with you he is thinking with his dick and not his brain (sorry for the language). Effectively, when he is with you he wants to flirt and touch our occasionally, if you snuggled up against him, he would probably snuggle back. But in general he doesn't want a relationship. Think of it this way, he thinks you are attractive and wants to spend time with you. If you went out of your way to ask him on a date he would probably say yes. However, he doesn't want a relationship enough to actually start anything. It's either what I just said or he is just nervous but my gut tells me it's the precious one.
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It sounds as if you are a bit shy but he is much more shy and awkward. You want to push him into being more than a friend but you don't want to look like you are being pushy.
Tell him that you need to have a serious conversation. "I'm ready to have a boyfriend. I really want to have a boyfriend. And I know exactly what I'm looking for. He's about 5" 9" tall [or however tall Mr. X is,] he had brown hair [or whatever hair color Mr. X has,] he's smart and funny and serious and he's somebody who would be a lot like you. If you wanted to be my boyfriend, I would be extremely flattered and happy, but I have the idea that you aren't interested in that, so do you know anybody who you think might be a good match for me?"
If he doesn't respond to that, he is brain dead, likes boys, or otherwise simply a lost cause. I think you should give up on having a relationship with him. Based on what you described, he doesn't seem to respect you as much as he should, even for a friend.
1) If he's that inconsistent with texting when you're both single, that behavior won't easily change when you're together. By that point, you'll be way more invested in his lack of response, and that'll take a toll on your emotional health.
2) You say that he's friend-zoned you and yet he flirts with you. Guys who consistently flirt with you when the opportunity presents itself but don't invest any extra energy in trying to keep you around when it's well within their ability have a limited interest in you...
I WANT to be able to say that maybe he's just shy about reaching out to you. But if he's confident enough to be able to make jokes in person about you two hooking up, then he's not too shy to text you first once in a while.Based on what you said he's most likely interested in you. But maybe* he's a little bit dubious and ambivalent. He might have his own reasons for his ambivalence (1- because he doesn't think like adults. Adults are usually serious about relationships and they wouldn't hide their feelings that much. 2- Maybe because your parents are good friends and as one of the gentlemen here said " he doesn't want to mess up 3- other reasons ). He enjoys your invitations but still, unlike you, doesn't want to be the one who unveils their real feelings for you (this might be because he's weird and has his own idiosyncrasies).
hey you asked for me to answer.
This guy obviously likes you and is interested in you romantically. If I wanted to only have sex with a girl, I wouldn't drive her up to watch the stars nor would I care too much about having deep conversations to open up to her because it makes me vulnerable.
He might be wondering whether or not he wants to date you, but if he touches you I almost guarantee he wants to have sex. Just because he called you pal doesn't mean you are friendzoned, it depends on the context really. But based on what you said, he is definitely interested in you.There is no way he isn't interested in you. I feel like he just doesn't want to commit to anything serious. There might be other girls he is interested in, and doesn't want to be committed or ruin a friendship with you, especially if you two get a little bit intimate. Plus he can fall back to you if other things don't work out. I guess that is "the friendzone".
Really it's up to you to decide if you want to stick with him or go for someone else. Bring it up with him if it really means something to you.
Have you talked to him about other guys?The best advice, which is incredibly difficult to follow (especially for me), is to just be in the moment and look for opportunities. Find subtle ways to make it known you're attracted to him and open to a deeper relationship, but don't force the issue.
Now, having offered that advice, again, feelings are hard to control and I know better than anyone that great advice is VERY hard to follow. I wish you the best of luck, though!!I think he is waiting for validation from you. He has shown you he is interested and he is waiting to see if you'll make a move. He doesn't want to lose you as a friend so he is not pushing too hard.
Just ask him. You'll get your answer. We're always so scared to just go to the source, when the source is the only one who knows the answer. Yep, you're taking a risk, but isn't it worth it to know for certain where you stand? To not have to wonder every day what's going on? I know I'd want to know.
he's just not very ready to date and doesn't understand girls. He may not be interested in anyone yet or know how to go about it. I was like that to some degree. he may be passive... or passive aggressive (not a good thing).
I'd be direct with him asking or telling him you would welcome him contacting you if he wants to do things, is that something he'd like to do?
you can show interest by touching lighty on arm, snuggling, etc.. watch for his body language response.lol.. you just tell him that you got a proposal from someone but you are confused answer because you like someone else.. than just observe his reaction on that...
I personally think that he really loves you but something is stopping him.. may be he's afraid to lose you..It sounds like he's giving you hints he's interested, but is looking for more of an indication that you're interested in him before he'll make the next move. I think the fact he immediately agrees every time you suggest hanging out would tell me he's interested in you.
Have you seen him actually date anyone else? Could he be gay? If the answers are no and no, then don't give up. He may be one of those guys who have so little confidence that it never occurs to them that a woman would be interested in a romantic relationship. I think he's crazy about you but doesn't know what to do. You are going to have to either ask him directly if he's romantically interested in you, or you are just going to have to make a move.
Look. Never assume he knows how you feel I don't care if he walks in and sees you with your legs spread and your finger pointing to your pussy. We only understand words. He's just as afraid of rejection as you. You need to take the chance and tell him how you feel about him. If you do nothing you'll wonder what if for the rest of your life and it'll kill you. I speak from experience
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Guys don't invite their friends to stargaze in the mountains. Granted, I can't tell you whether he wants a relationship or just sex, but his feelings are certainly not platonic. I guarantee you that.i think he is shy or nervous about taking things to the next level. perhaps if you feel confident about doing it you could just find a way to broach a conversation about your relationship and how you guys feel about each other
I think he is a little shy and he doesn't know you like im that way. Id say touch him more and get closer together. Also let him know its ok for him to initiate hanging out with you too.
Hmm... I'd say he's interested but too shy/scared to make the moves and progress any further in fear that you'll stop talking to him. If I were you, I'd try and sneak the topic of you two dating into one of the deep convo's. And if he's dodging the hints, be blunt. In my humble opinion.
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