Why are guys so vulgar?

Question

Majority of the guys I have met, despite their age, are very nasty. All they do is talk about sex and if not sex, then something childish and immature. And it isn't just a few guys that I know, it's just about every last one of them. Even if at first they don't seem to be that way, when you get to know them, they are.

Why is this?

It's very hard to find someone attractive when all they do is talk about and do repulsive things.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I agree with you that most guys are like that. Some are vulgar all of the time and almost all are a little bit that way. I'll admit I have my moments. I agree that guys are also on their best behavior as they first get to know you. A close female friend says we are all 12. If something was funny when we were 12, it will always be funny and we don't grow out of it.

I'm not sure why it's like that. I could just as easily turn it around and ask with exasperation why the vast majority of women can't bring themselves to laugh at a good fart joke, for example. While the guys are cracking up, the women are shaking their heads, saying, "It's just a bodily function." To which I could respond, "Yeah, it is. So why can't you laugh along?"

Personally, I go out of my way to try to curb this sort of thing in mixed company. Making the people around me laugh, especially women, takes a bit more clever observation and wit, and that's precisely why I'd say I even prefer the company of female friends and also may be why I bore when I have too much contact with my guy friends. But do you think this quality which you've labeled immaturity may be exactly what you *do* like about men when it's channeled into more positive outlets such as lightheartedness and playful humor? Could it actually serve to keep you youthful, from being too staid and humorless?

WhiteCrow · Accepted Answer

Let me educate you about something. One thing about guys is -we think about sex a lot, really A LOT. If you are at least somewhat attractive, around you they will think more and more about sex. The other thing about guys is most are rather crude and lacking in the grace and fineness department. They don't know a better way of expressing their emotions so they start talking about sex - the ultimate goal. A guy with grace and style would express his emotions with more subtle and fine words, never directly speaking about sex, someone like me who is a skilled elocutionist would make you want to bring up sex, and make you think it was your idea. But the base principle doesn't change, the ultimate goal the recurring theme is still sex, just clad in silk and gold. As Giovanni Boccaccio said - everything is acceptable if you present it the right way.

kitty71 · Accepted Answer

Men are like that mosts men and yes it is tiring My cousin and his best friend are like taht childish and immature when it comes to see pretty women and they are full grown up guys in his mid 40´s!! My cousin sister one of these days acknowledge that and she said she hates when her brother and his friend they only think about sex, nice bodies and women when they see a pretty girl or talk about girls and she said they look like high schoolers and not men in their mid 40´s!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I agree with your observation and experience. Same is mine.
Probably guys can't control themselves and wish to express their desire sooner than later. Some guys also have misconception that we girls like such talk. Most of the guys have sex in mind which compels them to show it in any case.

Hidden_P · Accepted Answer

Firstly not all men are like this. It can be a sign of lack of maturity (given your age I will bet for most it's lack of maturity).

Secondly, I think you might be suffering from a touch of "lack of men". Can I ask - do you have any brothers or live with a lot of men at home?

Aizou · Answer

You're better off waiting for the right person anyway. The reason for most heart-break and gender hate is due to differing expectations from relationships. A rushed relationship is less likely to work, than a relationship in which both parts accumulate affection over time. Remember, even if humans now have access to many a modern technology, they are, at base, a type of animal/primate; instincts still serve it's purpose for better or for worse. Males of pretty much any species you could across, has his instincts tell him to breed, some guys will just show it more than others.

kilowatt04 · Answer

Ugh, yeah I get it. Vulgar is one thing, I don't mind that so much, but the anti-intellectualism kills me. Like so many guys think dumb is cool/smart, and smart is uncool and stupid.

There are guys out there not like this, though. I know several. Great people. It totally depends on the environment. The dumb/immature/anti-intellectual guys are drawn to each other and tend to concentrate in certain places. Ironically, college campuses is one. Bars is another. So just know where to look (personally I don't. I have met every rational and mature guy I know through others of the same, stemming back to like preschool random chance friendships) It is unfair to judge all men just because there are a lot of dumbasses around. Realize though, that it is due to the way they were encourage to be growing up.

As for me, I'm leaving the gender. It's not for me.

Chico_brah · Answer

You could of been raised in a very sheltered environment but you're going to have to learn how to not be so delicate. If you don't then you're going to have a hard time with men in general.

People like to correlate being polite and formal all the time with maturity. Those people are boring and have dull personalities. I'm 23 years old. I've been in the military. Soon to graduate university. I have a girlfriend. Financially Independent. I work hard. That's qualifies me as an adult.. no?

I also act like 12 year old and mess around with my friends when it's time I'm not working hard. Learn to laugh at yourself and have a sense of humor boyo. You're 17.. lighten up.

DinosaurLover · Answer

I rarely talk about the stuff the guys do.
I hate it so much I hate it. All the guys I know except one. One guy. Talks about
sex
racial jokes
Sexual innuendos
Sexual jokes
Racial slurs everywhere
Political crap
Insult people
Be immature and stupid
Make weird noises
Talk bad about the girls I know behind there backs saying how ugly they are and how flat they are and how non of them are perverted but innocent
They talk about outdated and just plain stupid and immature memes and YouTube videos

It's pisses me off so much

DaveDavidson · Answer

Majority of the girls I have met, despite their age, are very boring. All they do is talk about shoes and if not shoes, then something boring and shallow. And it isn't just a few girls that I know, it's just about every last one of them. Even if at first they don't seem to be that way, when you get to know them, they are.

Why is this?

It's very hard to find someone attractive when all they do is talk about and do Channing Tatum.

notallthere98 · Answer

I don't know, but it annoys the hell out of me too. It's probably why I don't have many male friends. I would love to hang out with a guy friend for the day and not have them talk about sex and stuff like that, or at the very least talk about it maturely. I only know like two guys I can be around on a daily basis because they around aren't like that. Or at least they aren't like that around me.

HyperDude21 · Answer

It's called hanging with the wrong crowd. There's plenty of guys out there who don't just talk about sex and act immature all day. They're kinda just hidden around, place to place. You have to get out the bubble you've yet to realize exists around you and you'll more likely find more guys that you're looking for

MSHRM · Answer

hey girl I am not at all vulgar OK? so let's talk about how many anime you have watched till now, I bet I have watched more than you and yeah do you want spoilers to game of thrones season 7? I bet this was repulsive!!! 😊

Pepperjack · Answer

Why are all women act get grossed out by the slightest thing as a bug or act so weak and fragile. See if you just spin this the correct way you can make this whatever way you'd like. Its based on styerotypes, you just need to get out more and meet people instead of talking to the same collective few. If most guys (or all) are like that, deal with it, there's nothing more to say

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Maybe if you stopped only hanging out with the loudest, most attractive and popular guys, you would encounter more diversity.

SkelligWolf · Answer

well, men are programed very differently to women, as for the childish and immature behavior, that can't really be explained

YHL6965 · Answer

You're 17 in a fucked up generation. Do you really expect that gentlemen still exist within this generation. They must be as rare as antimatter nowadays.

Anonymous · Answer

If you think most people are perverted, you're the outlier not them.  That's fine. You're allowed to be less sexual. It doesn't make you superior to them though (or inferior). Just different.

Spellfire22 · Answer

Guys at my school are not generally like that, thank God.

blah20 · Answer

they're 12. that's all that matters to them at this time.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually dislike how sexual my female co workers talked where I used to work. It was at a freaking elementary school where people could over hear sometimes. I don't think that is gender exclusive.

skeptic002 · Answer

Depends on the guy I have been more aggressive lately it's like a release, being nice does not get the message across

NajemEddine · Answer

and girls talk while drinking tea at 4.15  get a thick skin or be quiet

Ladyslipper · Answer

I have no idea but it definitely gets old. I don't even bother being in relationships anymore.

INsomaniac88 · Answer

Sorry to hear that but most people do :) and its common here

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