Do all men care only about looks?

Question

This is all they seem to care about!
Looks, being skinny, big boobs, big booty and near perfect physical appearance.
No interests in long term relationships, cool plans, romantic relaxations in the park or getting to know our personalities and each other.
No inner interests but only the outside appearance! They don't know how to treat women but they just want to fuck around!
I am done ranting!

philipph · Accepted Answer

lets be straight
i am a sophisticated men - because its like on a market place, the more you have the better you can get.
but although i have good looks, money, education etc. there are way more important things than appearance - so here are the things i love about girls:
when she has a passion and a vision in her life
is veery caring and soft with others
can handle a sapiosexual (so she is smart) and go into the deepest intimate emotional connection with me
and of course is attractive in my eyes (or should i need to close my eyes during sex? 🙈)
i could have written a bit more precise but hope the message is clear: there are other things that are important.
what do you think on this one?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most guys do but most girls also do.
But aslong as there are enough of guys and girls exist who dont do it its all ok, isn't it? We should just hope that one day we can find someone like us and then we can ignore the others who aren't like us.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Literally this is biased crap. Yes there are men with high standards out there and then there are NORMAL PEOPLE. Also, it's normal to be attracted to "perfect people", but I promise you all guys don't expect that. WOMEN convince themselves that men do because they spend so much time obsessing over their appearance that they attribute their lack of dating success to not having thigh gaps or a big bubble bloated ass.

No, just no. If you are finding men rejecting you for your looks it likely isn't because you're not perfect, you likely just aren't what they're attracted to. It's not evil for people to find you unattractive. Find yourself a man who does.

lovelyhoneybones · Accepted Answer

To be fair, females are worse. Males will at least give girls that aren't that good looking a shot, females, we just deem guys undateable by looking at them. Heck, I'm the same way and I don't like the fact that I am. Though I will say this, there is this guy I'm interested in who isn't the best looking, but my male friend told me not to go after him. But that's because he said he looks like a creep. So I don't know where to draw the freaking line. People are too damn judgmental. If you like the person, who the frick cares!

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

I think people in general, both men and women, care about looks. It's not a gender-specific issue. I don't know many women that would date someone they don't find physically attractive. I also know plenty of women who find a lot of interest in men's appearance and little to no interest in real relationships. It's just an individual thing. There are men and women like you described and then there are people who may value looks but do still also care about long-term relationships and personality too.

GeorgeDubyaKUSH · Answer

Not only, but it is important. I want a sweet, loving, considerate woman with a "cute" personality who I can cuddle with and who will always consider my feelings and my best interests in all things and who will be by my side no matter what - but I would be lying if I said looks didn't matter. I want a woman I am physically attracted to. Ideally, I would want a drop-dead gorgeous woman that looks like Kristen Kreuk, except with larger breasts and a nicely-shaped butt I can bounce a quarter off of - but if I had to settle with a woman that is merely slightly-above-average in looks and who possess the type of sweet and considerate personality I mentioned above (and who loves to cuddle), then I would happily take her.

Shan021 · Answer

it works both the ways sweetheart... both the ways... and no matter how the girl is... from wherever she is... there will always be a guy looking after her... and loving her from all his heart secretly... i can also go all day "how much girls care about men" !

Anonymous · Answer

Well, there is a research study about how men value looks over intelligence in women to the extent that looks cannot substitute high intelligence. If the female is perceived to be intelligent, then she must also be attractive. Intelligence cannot substitute beauty.

www.researchgate.net/.../...-in-partner-choice.pdf

Vyxzuw · Answer

No, the ones that are looking for something long term aren't as aggressive in seeking girls as ones that are just looking to hook up.

They try to get to know the girl first, but many times this leads to the assumption that the guy isn't interested because he's not asking for sex immediately.
That or they are busy trying to build a life so they can be prepared for a serious relationship.

If you want a serious guy, then you have to seek them out.

Margillard · Answer

A woman with a.7 waist to hip ratio is desirable for a mate because it is heallthy, just as a woman would desire a mate with broad shoulders an a narrow waist. It is programed by nature to reproduce healthier dna.
Only the alpha males get to reproduce in the animal kingdom, it is no different for the human race. Except for fiscal stature, the more money a male has the more desirable he is. This is where woman don't put as much emphasis on looks when looking for a long term mate.
If a girl is just after sex she is after the hung and hansome alpha male.
Mother nature is cruel sometimes.

Anon85 · Answer

Well, we're physically attracted to things we find physically attractive. If I don't think you're cute, than there's no reason to be anything more than good friends for the most part. As for ONLY caring about looks, that's simply untrue for most guys. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are on the outside, if you're an ugly gremlin on the inside we don't want anything to do with you. You jut seem to attract a bad crowd, OP

ohshee · Answer

lol well when you find with us guys you're supposed to just walk away you know it down deep before you even start dating but we all know that beauty comes from the inside and I would have to say with your little ranting episode do you are beautiful inside that you're carrying good-hearted person so that also makes you beautiful doesn't make your boobs bigger or any smaller LOL and that really doesn't matter anyway

tyber1 · Answer

I can generalize too. All women care only about how much money you're willing to spend on them, how tall you are, big muscles and a manly face.

apple24 · Answer

Welcome to reality. Yes if your fat you will not score a perfect man or the ideal looking guy. Yet same applies to women. As women we don't want someone who isn't manly who we aren't attractive to. Trust me I tried to do the opposite and it's just waste of time. If you don't like sex and you just want someone to know your feeling then make a friend because they don't expect sex from you.

TheMoroccangirl · Answer

Appearance catches the eye, personality catches the heart.

Dudette2357 · Answer

Totally agree. However, that doesn't seem to be the case for ALL guys, so make sure you don't generalize too much. Yes, there are LOTS of them, but I personally know at least 5 who don't only judge by my looks. :)

He-man · Answer

Well to be fair I see everyone male or female. ( Yes I only said two genders. If that offends you. Fuk your feelings) back on topic, I see everyone as nothing but resources. Things to be used including myself. Your looks or personality is irrelevant to me. As far as I'm concerned you're worth as much as your usefulness. As far as love is concerned, it's nothing more than a feeling created over time based on familiarity. An over glorified sense of lust that causes people to want to mate and reproduce. And thus than want to stick around in order to protect and raise the offspring in order to keep the speeches going. Plus sex feels good. Plus love gives people a sense of belonging, as if their existence is of importance to someone, and thus giving them the sense of purpose. So

TheUsername27 · Answer

All i ever hear girls talk about in female groups is how handsome X person they saw was. And how their current boyfriend is great but they don't see him as a future partner due to the looks not being their 'ideal'. Honestly I could argue women care more... or at least seem to hold much higher standards.

macix670 · Answer

No, it's not the only thing but yes generally men put a lot of weight on a woman's looks. When I was young and dumb, I did a lot of stupid things and guys still wanted to be with me because I look good. Speaking from experience, if you look good, the guy will stick around for a while.

TruthVersed · Answer

in this aspect men and women are exactly the same.. everyone has standard and preferences..

as far as relationships (long term) and getting to know personalities and each other, most men (just as women) do have a lot of interest in this, with a partner that suits their "flavor"..

Anonymous · Answer

and women love to take advantage of the societal double standards without any shame that their vagina grants them.

and not to mention, money is always a big variable when women choose a man.

I am done ranting!

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

I don't know why everyone's crapping all over you just because you want to rant... people rant sometimes, and rants aren't always rational. So I don't blame you for feeling that way, personally, because yeah boys want hot girls and we want to fuck them. Yep. You got it. Not hard to figure out.

Now we also do care about all those other things too, but yes looks are really important. They're important to girls too. As in most things, middle ground is the truth.

troychapman · Answer

um no if you go for bad boys you can't brush off the nice guys for the bad then wonder why this is happening if you chose bad your gonna get bad now im now im not saying you did but quite clearly youv been with the bad dudes

animus1988 · Answer

i got a better question for you.. would you want to date a guy you aren't physically attracted to? exactly. i didn't think so

Gustafsone12584 · Answer

I think woman are more superficial these days. I've got messages, and messages of people I've messaged through the years, and nothing!  But maybe it's the people your talking to?

karahiri · Answer

first and foremost, yes. it's like a sieve. you have to meet the initial attractiveness criteria before they want to put the effort into actually getting to know you.

Danby · Answer

It's the first thing you see in a person, of course there are gonna be some first impressions. Most guys I know, myself included, are getting pretty sick and tired of this stereotype, especially since this "shallow behaviour" goes both ways

pooper89 · Answer

No but having good looks will get them to pursue you initially. Also, maybe you're projecting that you care about your appearance a little too much? You might want to examine what you're projecting.

Aiden98 · Answer

first u can't say ALL men we r not all the same there are also a lot of women care only about appearances and money and stuff I'd say both genders got a bunch who cares about only these silly things

Anonymous · Answer

"All men" that's so not true... Don't generalize based on your past experiences. I've met quite a few guys who wanted meaningful relationships, and I personally don't care about a girl's looks as long as she doesn't look like a troll. Looks fade over time; personality doesn't.

wankiam · Answer

great rant but completely wrong in content. not all men are that shallow but i think you are still young so confusing men with boys

thenightrider · Answer

they do think of inner beauty but now day you can see everywhere people prefer relationship like 'the note book and 50 shades of grey'.
i think if it comes to long relationship they go for inner beauty.

redsox490 · Answer

I don't, I care as much if not more about the girls personality than looks. I can't date a girl, or it wouldn't last long, if she just had a pretty face.

name_is_christian · Answer

humans, in general, think of physical first because at one time men chose women based on looks and fornicate to populate. Women looked at men the same way. its in our DNA and can't be taken out.

zagor · Answer

Not at all. But that is pretty much always the FIRST thing they notice. There are unattractive girls with bad personalities too, and in order to get to know someone you have to want to spend time with them.

Darknut123 · Answer

I'm sorry but you don't know me from adam, and if that's the way you view men, then I'm afraid I'm passing go and collecting my $200. Looking it all wrong. I don't do that behavior, I find it repulsive

sedrftvgyhujik · Answer

Depends on the guy. Personally I value personality (the right personality for me) , interests and have a lot of respect for intelligence. I do value looks everyone dose but not just looks

normalice · Answer

This actually works to the advantage of most women. The only way to know anything about a girl's personality before meeting them is based on rumor. And girls rarely spread good rumors about each other.

Mihikko · Answer

Yes, the fuck boys though but still there are lot of nice guys who care personalities than good looks.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes in my opinion a guy can't truly fall for a ugly girl. As a physically ugly girl I happen to know this..

Anonymous · Answer

Please don't assume it applies to all guys. The guys you describe are those who are looking for sex only.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Not this one. For me, looks get me to "knock on the door / enter the room", and it's everything else that get's me to "stay a spell."

scooogy · Answer

No. Just no. I'm not primitive. I want her to be happy, that makes me happy. Therefore I care about her character as well. I want to be sure I can make her happy and thus be happy myself.

MrZameer · Answer

no. all guys aren't same. but yeah most guys just care about looks. but there are many guys who care about girls feelings. who care girls heart. who love deeply with girls.

MeGo99 · Answer

Any guy who says they dont care about looks is lying. But it doesn't mean that a guy can't fall for an ugly girl because that also happens. But looks are the first thing guys see in girls.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

All women care only about money? ^ Two can play at your game

Anonymous · Answer

Passionate paragraph there. You'll meet someone who isn't in the mould of the 'undesirables' you're describing. Patience, but be observant, don't want to overlook potentially decent guys accidentally

Anonymous · Answer

It's the most important thing. A very hot woman has more value than an average woman with amazing traits.

Wurdom · Answer

I'm not like that at all. I would never go for a girl solely based on looks

ImYoureBestNightMare · Answer

Some men yes commonly referred to as "fuck boys" and some the opposite that they like who a girl is

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

Men and women both care about looks, but not only looks. Unless it's a hook-up I guess.

Silver158 · Answer

Yes, You can be a total bitch but if you're hot then I will date you. /sarcasm

CLD1198 · Answer

You've never rejected a man based off of physical appearance?

king34 · Answer

that's a dumb statement even guys that only care about looks don't only care about looks

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Yep thats the way some men are now a days..

Lillyhope · Answer

No, it's just the first thing they notice

ikarp66 · Answer

You promised that all guys don't expect that. Can you tell more about 'those guys'?

robocop666 · Answer

All I care about is looks pretty much. I don't care for anything else.

Anonymous · Answer

only ugly, insecure or socially autistic girls make that question.

JunkIntr0vert · Answer

Definitely not all men!

TurquoiseHeart · Answer

depends on the guy really.

JSmuve · Answer

Well as long as you're done ranting.

RedThread · Answer

That's not true in my case anyway

clampfan101 · Answer

I'm the exact opposite! Not all guys are the same.

bekkesmash · Answer

What exactly do you expect of a man?

Do all men care only about looks?

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