Why would a guy want to kiss a girl on the cheek?

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This guy and I, we've slept together a couple of times, we wanted to date, but then we realised we're not a good match and we keep on fighting. Now we've decided to just be friends, no benefits. So I told him if we're just friends without benefits, then he shouldn't touch me (spank my ass, caress my arm, my shoulder, kiss me on the cheek, those things). But today lately he's been insisting on giving me a kiss goodbye on my cheek. Which is something we've never done even when we were wanting to date each other. Only now that we're platonic he decided to start kissing me on the cheek? It got to the point where he sneaked a kiss (because I kept refusing). Wtf? Why?

Phil_ · Accepted Answer

Seeing your relation I think it's a sign of affection... Though, in my culture, a kiss on the cheek is a mere greeting, which happen just after saying hello or goodbye (between M/F colleagues for example)... it's so casual that one may have to actively decline in order to avoid it...
I don't think that's the same here, maybe that's his way to stay close to you, it may even enact that things have been settled for him, because you didn't do that when you were closer...
Or, as other opinions stated, there's a "feeling of possession" issue... which is worse, of course...
Anyway, he must respect your decision to refuse it...

marwan1993 · Accepted Answer

Everyone on here gives u the same bullshit advice. No. Listen up.

He is in need for love, but not neccesarily sex. He might want to feel a strong connection with someone.

You should get along and give him a kiss on the cheek back. Don't make a big deal out of it.

DaisyBSwan · Accepted Answer

Sounds like something my friend is going through. The guy doesn't want a commitment and says he just wants to be friends, but he also doesn't want *her* seeing anyone else so he'll do little things in an attempt to keep her on a hook. You need to set boundaries or this behavior will continue or get worse and cause major problems as it did with my friend. He needs to behave like your other guy friends (hands and mouth to himself). If he can't do that then he doesn't respect you and he's not worth keeping around.

saltwater84 · Accepted Answer

I think he is lost lol
tell him that you both needs to calm down , and that you want a relationship. Either way it will serve you because it will make him stop trying to kiss you , or he will be like 'yes some clarity! and will hop in the relationship with you.

I think he likes you and can't help himself to be around you because he likes you

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A kiss on the cheek can be seen as just chivalry, although it does hint at him wanting something more. If you don't like it because it'll make you develop unwise feelings then just be clear with him about this and stick to your guns, at least then he'll know why and if he's decent he'll respect it.

dkings · Answer

Probably because he's chivalrous. Something you obviously don't understand. Although not seen often in many modern cultures, a kiss on the cheek can bee seen as an action of greeting, goodbye, or even affection. Even IF it is a kiss of affection, you should be able to decipher the type of affection. For example, a good friend may give a platonic kiss of affection. Your father may give you a kiss of affection. If you're now platonic, don't think anything of it.

markscott · Answer

There's no good reason for his doing this. You set reasonable limits, and he's disrespecting you by ignoring them. If he wants to change them, he should have a discussion with you, to see if you are willing to change the rules.

sean1234 · Answer

The question is if he's nice enough to you, then will you like him enough to give him a kiss on the cheek? Probably not, but anything can happen. At any rate if that is at all possible, tell him that. Otherwise, just tell him to stop doing it.

NatashaJ · Answer

Oh that easy because you have crusty ass lips or nasty food in your teeth. Jk jk maybe because he stills wants the booty but you not letting him have shit.

asfend · Answer

Depending on the guy it's a sign of affection that shows he cares about you, that isn't in any way sexual or non-platonic, but he wants to share his feelings in a way that's not taboo

SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ · Answer

He wants you but doesn't want to commit anything to you. Even if it means disrespecting you. He got you in bed before so I guess he's trying his way with you again.

Prezzi3 · Answer

He wants to be friends with benefits again. Tell him, your not interested because you both already know that your not a good match.

Foxywizard · Answer

I can't enter his head, but one thing is sure: don't let anyone behave on you in a way you don't tolerate. Not sure this is the case by the way: you'll see

Bernaud · Answer

Its one of the easiest ways of showing affection, but i guess if he really insists on it after you refused, he might want something other than "friends".

ztrdoo7 · Answer

Dudes still into you. Trying to act cool like he is down with the situation and deep down he's probably not and got high expectations of how it's going to turn out aka back together

rgb008 · Answer

He prob missed her mouth... bad aim and all if his eyes were closed.

yourdarksecretx · Answer

Maybe he loves you by his heart! He wants to be in a committed relationship

pta59910 · Answer

Leverage. Once he has you hooked, thinking he's a nice guys... he's got you.  It's a mind game. I know because I use to do it, in my single days

Pecton · Answer

I think you are being a little petty because you still want come back to you with a dating type of approach.

ok604 · Answer

It's a nice way of saying "sorry honey, your boyfriend is way hotter"

Dinnye001 · Answer

He wants the benefits back. Obvious.

ZooeyWebster · Answer

It's a sign of affection

Cowboy6666 · Answer

He wants to enter in your pants again

liasbg · Answer

You're both pathetic, sry to tell you that... i hope it helps somehow

Sha84 · Answer

simply a sign that he is excited by you

Why would a guy want to kiss a girl on the cheek?

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