My boyfriend likes to brag about girls wanting him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend seems to like telling me that a lot of girls want him. Then he says he is joking after if I get annoyed. He has said a few times a lot of girls want/like him. I don't understand why he feels the need to brag to me. He also likes to tell me what girls he finds attractive and who his dream girls are (not me anyway lol). It kind of makes me jealous and feel inadequate. Why does he keep bragging?

[Calixx]

Because he’s immature. Don’t let it bother you... or better yet, LEAVE! My new guy tells me sometimes that a girl will hit him up here or there, and I’ll just laugh about it and say “oh, go get her ;)”. But, this is because 1) i trust him, and i don’t think he’d tell me about it if it was something insidious on his end, and 2) if he wants to leave me/cheat, then fine. I’m a lovely lady and i can find a new man.

It took me a long time to find this confidence (it actually took getting cheated on by my latest ex to gain more confidence, ironically). My last 2 exes did this to me a lot, and it made me feel badly inside. But, now me and my new guy sometimes talk about when people hit on us. We don’t get jealous because it’s funny to both of us, and we know we are each other’s number 1. Also, if my guy wants to text that girl - that’s okay, i know that the darkness always comes to light :)

Hold your head up girl, you are soooo valuable!

[Asker]

I feel like that. I don't feel confident when he's making these comments. It's like he's saying I'm easily replaceable so watch out :(

[Anonymous]

I've been with a someone like this. Insecure and immature.

His fantasy: The girls want him, he's alpha male
Reality: These girls would only see him as friendzone material (if that even... he's more likely to be the butt of their jokes)

I got rid of it in the end. He's still single 7yrs later.

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure cos he seems really confident when he's bragging though

[Opinion Owner]

Have you spoken to him about his behaviour?

[Opinion Owner]

Lol only people with good bodies cheat?

[Asker]

Yep aparently lol. Those were his words. I have a good body so he thinks I will cheat bla bla. I did talk to him about that night he was drunk and said that, he said he was serious but doesn't want to talk about it when sober cos it's embarrassing. In regards to his behaviour if I get annoyed that he's bragging he will say it's a joke and I need to relax

[Opinion Owner]

I would say you don't care whether or not he's embarrassed, communication is important if he wants to be in an adult relationship

[Opinion Owner]

It's like you telling him this guy was checking out your body and telling him you're only joking, would he be laughing?

[Anonymous]

He probably feels like you don't want him, and he's trying to make you jealous so that you do. Or, he's simply insecure. If you want him to stop, show him you care and simply tell him you don't like it as soon as he does it. Not after the third or fourth time, but right away. That way he isn't under the impression that it's ok if he doesn't do it too often, but instead realizes you're not ok with it at all. In other words, you're enabling the behavior if you allow it in any capacity.

[Asker]

Hmm I don't know. It comes across to me that he's saying I'm easily replaceable so watch out. Like he has other options so doesn't really need me? That's what it kind of hurts. Like I'm not important but he says he loves me and we've been together a year

[Welshman2]

He wants to make you feel inadequate and feel like you are lucky to be his girlfriend. The truth is the opposite - you are very unlucky because his behaviour will worsen.

[Asker]

Why would he want to make me feel inadequate? Isn't your boyfriend supposed to make you feel good about yourself. What's his problem. It's like he is saying he has lots of options and I'm the lucky one. Makes me feel kind of bad

[Welshman2]

You don't see what he's doing, do you?

[Asker]

Nope 😂 I don't understand why he would do that

[Welshman2]

It's a type of control - make you feel lucky to have him and you'll never stray but he can do what he wants because you'll be afraid to leave him

[lurikatia]

Mmm it happens that when u are in love... ur deepest insecurities that u though u had it in control.. it starts to scream at u
And control u
Thats when people get clingy, needy, resentful, cold, mean

Maybe thata whats happening to him

I haven't deal with that kind of situation, but my opinion

Is maybe reasure him

Something like
I dont like u for what u have, ur appearance, ur money, ur titles
I dont like u for ur past, or future

I like u now bc ur here with me, bc ur caring for me, sharing ur time and letting me be beside u... growing together to be better than tomorrow

Mmm that its ok to get hurt by the person u love sometimes ... bc it is worth the wait and fix

Though dont know if guys will find this too emotional and cheesy

[TikiTook]

He’s insecure af with you, and he knows you’re a very valuable person. My ex did the exact same thing. Get rid of him and find someone who wants to make you happy and feel secure because they are themselves.

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure. Cos he seems very confident when he was bragging

[jet666]

there's a few possible reasons... He feels that he isn't in your league and if he makes himself seem like other women desire him then you'll be less likely to leave. Or maybe he likes you but isn't ready to settle down and is hoping one day you'll give him the go ahead go hit it "pass"

[Asker]

Hmm I'm not sure which one it is. I know he was cheated on before. A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat".

[jet666]

Well then how do you feel about it is the frustration worth...
In honesty my marriage failed for two reason basically when she felt I was "running around" I was the object of her desire, when I showed her how much she truly meant to me, I became second hand to the first guy/guys willing to validate her for a few tit pics and clam shots... No matter what it lead to me feeling like I was never enough and me spoiling her with love affection and material things until I became so small in my own eyes I lost myself... Becareful no one can truly tell you where you road leads if your never going to look at the map

[shelbyr1721]

He probably WANTS to make you jealous. That’s how me ex was a lot of the time — he admitted it once. But, honestly, he did it because of his own insecurities and not because he didn’t love me

[Asker]

But he comes across really confident cos he's bragging?

[shelbyr1721]

If he genuinely is that confident and that’s why he’s doing it, then fuck that. Generally though, I think it’d be out of insecurity. My ex always seemed so confident and sure of himself but he was so insecure about the little things when it comes down to it

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure. Now he likes to brag so it's confusing

[shelbyr1721]

Ahh.. Yeah, my boyfriend would legit get pissed if I worked out ‘cause he didn’t want a “better” guy “stealing” me away.

[what_the_hell]

Dump the motherfucker already

[raton21]

Few reasons:
He wants you to be jealous
(Because then you will do more to be still attractive fir him)
He wants to play this silly game with you
He wants to apear as alphamale for you.

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat".

[raton21]

Thats a bit stupid, isn't it?

Make him trust you

[issabelle]

I've had someone like this before it sucks i know. he's trying to make u jealous thats his goal. if i were u id tell him to stop or go out the door to them hoes he keeps talking about because he's just going to keep bringing u down

[cleopetra123]

He sounds like he has a confidence issue and wants to feel he is important

[Asker]

I think it's me with the confidence issue. He seems confident. He's basically saying I'm easily replaceable

[cleopetra123]

Man.. That's sad.. Well he ain't the only guy on this earth ☺ so look out for the guy who eyes are only for you

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure anymore

[cleopetra123]

Wow he is insecure about himself.. U need to reassure him hun

[Asker]

He only said that drunk a few months ago. He will never act insecure sober. He comes across confident and like he can get any girl so I'm lucky to be with him. That's the vibe I get lol

[acesofsky]

Highly possible he might be a narcissist. Watch for more sign and then decide

[hound22222233]

Because he believes you are some out of his league that he need to keep your confidence down some he can keep you

[Asker]

I don't know about that. It likes he is saying I'm lucky to be with him cos he has other options that he could get and I'm not that important. That's what I feel when he says that shit

[chatwanderer]

Just joke with him about all the guys that hit you up on social media and add the fact that they're so much bigger than himk

[Asker]

I did joke before that guys hit on me and he kind of got mad but then said he doesn't care after lol

[chatwanderer]

Typical man shit but for real them are seedlings of an potentially unhealthy relationship tread with caution my friend

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure what his problem is

[chatwanderer]

Well if he's not in love yet then what are you doing with your life

[Asker]

He always tells me he loves me lol that was a few months ago. Maybe he doesn't then I dunno but he always says it to me

[chatwanderer]

I hope it works for you

[Rubified94]

He's insecure & is probably trying to make you jealous.

[aajmera10]

It's cause he is a dick or too insecure about himself or really having a hard time figuring out how did he get you

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". I dunno though he comes across confident when he's bragging

[ddgambo]

He shouldn't be saying that to you he should only have eyes for you

[Asker]

That's what I thought. But he seems to have eyes for everyone except me :(

[ddgambo]

Leave him

[Nicky_Sinz]

becuse he is a fucking child that loves playing off your emotions. don't give in

[DualityGreen]

Because he is an immature child.

[genny0123]

He is a bad boyfriend dump him.

[Nuespeed]

He could be trying to make you jealous

[Kandy-Kane]

He wants you to be jealous for some dumb reason

[Asker]

But he seems very confident like he is great and lots of girls want him so why would he want me to be jealous?

[Kandy-Kane]

He's into head games

[Asker]

A few months ago when he was drunk he let slip that he's terrified to fall in love with me cause he "always thinks I'm out of his league cos I have a good body that I will cheat". So I'm not sure what his problem is

[Kandy-Kane]

Thanks for the MHO 😘

[ajeewastaken]

he is making u jealous

[QueenofCups]

He is insecure.

[Swolebusser]

What does that make her?

[QueenofCups]

@Swolebusser what?

[Swolebusser]

If he’s insecure what does that make her for staying with him?

[QueenofCups]

@Swolebusser a lot of times a girl will overlook a guy's bragging cause she loves him.

[Swolebusser]

That didn’t answer my question.

[QueenofCups]

@Swolebusser it doesn't make her anything.

[Swolebusser]

Okay then.

[Swolebusser]

Just so you know. That makes just as insecure for putting up with it.

[Asker]

@Swolebusser I'll admit I am insecure. Mainly because of his comments. He is making me feel more insecure and jealous. It's like he's saying I'm lucky to have him cos he has other options and I'm replaceable

[TheUglyMan]

To control your hypergamy smart man.

[nick7696]

He wants ur attention nothing else

[JustJane01]

In my opinion he just wants to make you jealous...

[Revolver_]

Bad boyfriend, he will eventually cheat on you

[ZaraHadid]

GIRL, he's insecure.

[thomasans2]

He is getting or wanting to get some from not you.

[pizzaboy2]

Immaturity and he's putting you down. Dump him.

[jbond33]

Do unto others

[Anonymous]

Not a good sign