My boyfriend openly told me to get breast augmentation, what should I do? (Page 2)
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It is really important to some guys like if my girlfriend asked me to get a bigger dick surgery I would do it for her because she likes it big but in your situation it's up to you how you feel if you're willing to go through the surgery in the pain of getting the operation. And if you love him enough to do it for me size is kind of important but not really at the same time because I thought I would want a big titty girl but I ended up liking girls who have small boobs you don't get to choose who you fall in love with let's put it that way I like girls with big boobs that's my preference I'm a boob man but I did end up dating and liking girls who have small boobs so
This sounds like a joke because it`s so ridiculous. I had a million questions just reading the part about the marriage. He does not love you if he wants you to change, okay? I mean come on. Breasts don`t do anything for your personality, and rarely anything for your appearance. If he strictly wants bigger tits he should have considered that long before he met you.
It should not be important and such a thing you should only do if yourself have phycological issues about your breasts. If you are happy the way you are don't change a thing. He can speak his preference the same as you can about men, but he should never influence you make any such alterations to your body. You are right to feel insulted by the proposition.
I’d be insulted and angry too! This is very controlling and superficial. All surgery comes with risks - risks to you, not him! In fact if a guy told me to do that I would definitely NOT do it. If you do he will find more and more things to complain about and eventually have you going crazy trying to please him until eventually you will just wear out trying. Is this someone you want a life with? Your partner should have your back and support you, not tell you that you aren’t good enough. And by the way, they grow.. I was a B at about 20, a C at about 25, a D at about 30, and a DD at 34 just before I fell pregnant with my first.
When I was a B, I mentioned to my boyfriend at the time that I was small and he replied that he likes them how they were and “any more than a handful is a waste”.
Is size important to you? (In his case)
Consider it.
If he actually loves you, size doesn't matter. If it's all about the physical and he thinks that "you" would be better "if" you did this or that, he doesn't appreciate YOU.
IF YOU feel augmentation would be a benefit to YOU, then go with it regardless of his opinion. If you are fine with yourself as you are, then don't do it.
Straight up. I love ample breasts but it's NOT the basis of a relationship.
Curb, here comes what's his face because he's being kicked your way.
Find someone who wants to spend the rest of his life with you and not just your potential fake breasts.
If he wants them so much, suggest he get the surgery.
I would say don't do it for one fucker that can dump you in matter of seconds but its your choice and decision to make but as Medicine student I can confirm that its painful and if you got kid, it will wreck havoc on you+ fake boobs are kind of ornamental thing and if he played with them. It can cause intense pain and boobs rupture too... so take your time and talk to doc about disadvantages.
TWO IMPORTANT THINGS:
1 - It's your decision.
2 - Get ready for the breakup. May not happen now, or maybe even years; but I promise you if he wants you to change and is pushy about it (obviously is since he offers to pay for it), it's not meant to be.
Well said !!! He sounds really controlling and superficial.
My boyfriend has told me I should get implants. But I just tell him to suck it up because he should like me as I am. Now when he says it it is just to annoy me lol. It bothers me, but that's why he does it now. If he can't just accept you then he isn't worth it
And he even said I should not be bothered or not judge him if he gets distracted by women with bigger boobs. I’m just torn in between my emotions and his. I can really see that he loves me so much, though.
If he loves you then tell him to stop that it bothers you and he will. You have a right to be upset by him looking at other women
Oh helllll nah, that's f**ked up. If you approached him about it and he offered to pay that's great, but for him to tell you to change you body because he wants it different or doesn't like how it is then that's messed up. He can love you for how you are or leave. I'm frankly shocked that he would say that, that's rude asf.
It’s your body and your tits. Personally, if you’ve been happy I would stick with your current size.
I have really big boobs and although people drool... good god it hurts your back. Plus, it’s expensive and they can go wrong (PIP scandal, they can reject, etc)
Turn around to him randomly and ask him for surgery. See how he reacts. Bet he says no.
a lot of guys want big boobs.
if you want to hurt him back, tell him you Wish he could get a dick enlargement, but they dont work and so you will just have to make do with his dick "the way it is".
TBH, i was a Large A cup... til i got prego.. i am a large C now... I love how i look and guys pay more attn to me now. My self esteem did go up a lot not being small any more.
There actually is a penis surgery out there
That's a HUGE ask, and I would advise against it. They will get larger naturally as you age. "HE wants to spend the rest of his life with me and even talks about marriage and future together" What do YOU want? Don't marry a guy because it seems easier to go along than to break up and start over looking for someone new.
Never ever do something to your body just to make another person happy. Especially a major surgery. Unless you want your breasts to be bigger, then I say stay as you are. And frankly he should just consider himself lucky you didn't tell him to pack his stuff. That's one of the most selfish, inconsiderate things your could ever say/do to someone you claim to love.
I would be hurt. My man a while back told me he wishes I had a bigger ass.. And that hurt my feelings because I can't do anything about that. He doesn't like fake asses, he likes natural big asses and my whole family has big asses so he wishes I did too instead of my huge boobs 😒 its not like I dont have an ass either, its just not like everyone else in my family.
If he ever offered to pay for me to have a bigger ass.. I think I would flip out. That's not nice at all.
I've dated the extremes, girl's with breasts so big they look painful to walk with, and a girl with tits so small she was just shy of being flat chested. It's never been a huge issue with me, I do have preference, but it's never been a big enough issue to influence who I date.
I see nothing wrong with him asking if you'll get an enhancement, I think it's unhealthy if in your relationship you can't be totally honest about what you want, even extreme things.
However, asking and demanding are two different things entirely. If he ask's, then think about what you want, and give him your honest answer, and even if your hurt be glad he's comfortable enough in the relationship to ask you anything.
If he demands, then tell him to go fuck himself and break up with him.(Optional- kick him in the nuts on your way out.)
I would say fuck you I’m not some thing you can change just cause you don’t like it if you can’t take my boobs how they are well then buddy you don’t need the rest of me neither and then don’t even show him your boobs anymore for awhile if he complained about them
I get it if the guy like you to have long hair or want you dress more girly sometime. The makeup is also okay but then that's where I draw the line. One thing I want you to ask your 'not asking for too much' boyfriend, he wants to marry you what if (I would never want thing like this happen to any women but) you get breast cancer or you burn you're elf in accident. he doesn't feel like the type who will be their in sickness and health. I would suggest you to not risk your life on him
Ummmm no! I'm altering my body for someone who isn't my husband. Even that, I wouldn't change them because of what you like. Big boobs cause back pain. I can barely handle my C cups. He's nit permanent but your body is. Move past this subject with him
How long have you two been together? Please only do it if YOU honestly want to. I had a breast augmentation about 5 years ago but my husband did not suggest it and I would be extremely hurt if he had. I had a very obvious difference between my breasts from my scoliosis, and I wanted to fix it to feel better about myself. I don't think I would be able to get over the feeling of not feeling good enough if I was in your situation. I know it's got to hurt, I'm so sorry.
I'm sorry this is happening. B sized breasts are wonderful. Don't feel self conscience one bit. I can't imagine telling someone to get an operation. Anyway, fake breasts usually look weird unnatural and they don't feel as soft any more. I wish you weren't in this spot. I'd actually be disappointed if my girl was wanting to have her breasts operated on. I hope you don't consider getting cut on just for a guy.
He said he feels like a jerk after asking me to do it, though. But I feel awful everytime he opens up how big boobs really are a turn on for him. He even told me I should not judge him or not be bothered if he gets distracted by women with bigger boobs.
Maybe you two aren't compatible. It's been good up till now but now you are learning that your tastes and interests are too far apart. If big boobs are his thing and it is kind of a "requirement" and you are smaller than maybe this is the first signs that you two are too different and this isn't a long-term thing. Think about that.
I find all breasts attractive (well mainly if they are nicely shaped and proportioned) and I'd be happy with and A cup or a DD cup, size doesn't make them attractive or not.
If breast size is that important to him to where he is telling a girl to get an operation than I think this whole thing is messed up and he just needs to go date a big boobed girl. There is NOTHING wrong or unattractive about B size cups, you are perfect. Don't give it another thought.
Maybe you two just aren't the best fit.