Ladies, what would you feel if you were on my shoes?
Men, is size really important?
I dont think there is anything wrong with discussing it. Some men like big boobs. Some men like big butts. Some men like blondes and others brunettes.
BUT there are other things to consider.
A) this is a life time of surgeries. Good augmentation typically lasts about 10 years. Then you have to do them again or get them removed. Its like hair extensions. Its a life long investment.
B) if you like your small breasts now they will never go back to this... i considered a procedure. Went to consult. The doctor told me my small cs were perfect and refused to touch them. He said he'd just be ruining them.
C) how do YOU feel about your boobs? Because something may happen. You may break up. Heck he could die... the next man you date may not like fake breasts. I find it 50/50. Hige turn on for half and huge turn off for half. So in the end you may be stuck alone with those boobs. Will they give you confidence? Will they look good on your frame? Will you feel better about you? Because the only constant in this scenatio are your boobs that are stuck on you and you. He is a variable that could change.
So i don't think its horrible he mentioned it IF he doesn't harp on it and continues to tell you he loves you regardless of your decision. But in the end it really is YOURS. Not his. But maybe he's noticed you dont wear certain clothing or appear confident? Maybe he's not a villain is what im saying. Now, if you decide no, express this and he STILL pushes for this, then teah, he's a dick. But i think it is not super weird to push for something that turns one on. How many times has a girl encouraged a guy to get a tatoo? Its when suggestion turns into pressure where the line is crossed.
Tell him to get a dick augmentation and then break up with him.
Sorry, but this is a really big deal breaker for me. Telling your partner that they should go under the knife to fit your own physical preferences is disgusting and the height of selfishness. He was fully aware of your breast size when you became a couple. If he truly does think it's *so* important for his girlfriend to have bigger boobs, he could have turned you down and never gotten into a relationship with you. To demand that you spend thousands of dollars on a procedure that could permanently damage or affect your body is disgusting.
I would never, ever want to be with someone who isn't perfectly happy with me just the way I am. I have small boobs too, and if my boyfriend ever even suggested that I should look into getting a breast augmentation, I'd fling him the fuck out and make sure that he goes head first.
Google the dangers of breast augmentation. Show him all the things that can go wrong during and after surgery , the long-term side effects, as well as true life horror stories of people who've had breast augmentation, and regretted it. Then ask him if he still wants you to go through with the surgery. If the answer is yes, I'd seriously question his love for you.
A guy who loves you would never want you to put your life or health at risk for the sake of unnecessary cosmetic surgery
If you go ahead with the surgery , you have to live with the consequences if the surgery goes wrong. Then where will he be?
Dump his ass. I think it's already dishonest that he got with you knowing he doesn't like your breast size and not really attracted to you. He has the right to his own preferences but not bring another person or expect them to artficially meet them. I bet he can never be satisfied with anything and he'll always try to change something in you, the older you'll get the more pressure you will feel as you know he doesn't love you because of you. Don't go there, you're beautiful as you are and it's priceless.
If he wants bigger boobs, he should find someone else. Honestly, this sounds direct and overextending my remit, but I've dealt with people who try and change me like that. Without exception, they always turned out to be not the right person for me or just non-committal (particularly emotionally) in the first place. Self value always trumps any other concerns. If you respect yourself, you immediately say, fuck off, go and find someone else. That should nip it in the bud fairly quickly. One shouldn't expect much in life. But one should certainly expect a partner that gives a shit about you and doesn't hurt you, as much as you do for them.
Just personally and incidentally. Don't like breast implants. They look awful and they probably feel it. And what kind of partner would expect their woman to go under the knife for something so cosmetic? I don't care about boob size. Small is sometimes even preferable. But I love boobs in all their range and variation. That's what makes them so wonderful.
The way I see it, size should only come as a bonus. It's bordering on shallow once it becomes a prerequisite.
As for your guy - ask yourself- will he really stop at just breasts? And is it good for you to remain with someone who values superficial looks to this extent? Think about it - not only do augmented boobs look fake, they will also become really ugly as you age.
In the distant future, your looks will fade and you're still going to be with a man who wasn't satisfied with what you naturally had, so how much do you think he's going to tolerate age fading your looks away?
I'd reckon not a lot. This will only cause problems much later down the road.
Oh wow. That hit me hard. Thank you.
Best of luck in your future endeavours.
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GET A NEW BOYFRIEND!
Let me explain why...
In marriage, these are the critical basic vows:
"For sickness and in health
For richer, for poorer,
'Til death do us part."
So, suppose you got breast cancer and had to get a double mastectomy...
If he wants you to get breast implants now, do you think he's the kind of guy that's going to stick around after a double mastectomy. Nope. He'll leave you ASAP.
He needs to go.
Furthermore, send him this exact post and tell him this is the reason why you are dumping him.
Oh wow. That made me think twice. Thank you.
There's something you need to have augmented or replaced - and it isn't your boobs...
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the shade is reeeeeal! I love it!
I'd never want you to do it. I'd be hurt as well if I were you. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and how it made you feel. That's pretty insensitive, but he may not realize it. He should accept and love you as you are if he truly loves you. It makes me question that honestly. Breast size does not matter ultimately. If I like you, it doesn't matter what size you are.
There's a lot to consider.
Is he bad, or even not average, for being honest about it? No. He's being honest, so be grateful. Most guys want them bigger, even if they say they don't.
My wife plans to get implants and I encourage it bc it's hot as hell.
BUT: you should never do something to your body like that if YOU aren't interested, motivated, and find it truly beautiful YOURSELF. What if he leaves you? Will the next man, or YOU, be happy with the changes?
I commend your SO for honesty, as I am that way myself. in my opinion being honest with women (and vise versa) in every domain regarding what you expect, want and need, will only improve the rlp. It's the surprises that come later than you never set an honest foundation for that can end you.
Tl:dr - don't think too much on it. It's not personal. The next man likely won't be different. Only get them if YOU think it's beautiful and a good idea for the long term. If you can't find consensus, prob move on.
I like how you elaborate it. Thank you. He’s a really honest and good man. I wasn’t just expecting it coming from him because he’s so appreciative. He compliments a lot about myself so it kinda uplifts me. So when he said he’s trying to influence me to have implants, I was just shocked. I guess it’s a normal reaction from someone not expecting it.
Yes it's totally normal to feel that way in my opinion. If someone I was dating wanted me to take male enhancements, it would prob make me feel bad in some way. But, STILL, I would appreciate the honesty if that's what it was. In that case though, I wouldn't rule the person out just for that. It was prob hard for them tbh about it, bc they risk losing a partner they like by even saying it. I would just be sure it's what I wanted too, and that this relationship was a very serious one, and that in the future, if this rlp fails, that I can still recover and probably find another loving partner. I think you'll do just fine. :)
PS The older you get, the less people care about body image. Character will always mean more, and in my opinion, the best partners out there can find the best of both worlds.
DON'T DO IT: It's irreversible, ugly, and overall unnatural/perverted. You'll hate it in the long-term, and I guarantee you that you will regret it. Also, you shouldn't have to change your physical appearance for the sexual pleasure of your partner. It has no benefit on anything except for his eyes. The fact that he even brings it up suggests something about his personality, the fact that he has to give his girlfriend bigger breasts is honestly kind of sad and should not even be considered. If he is someone really important to you then I'd advise changing his onlook on women.
As a man: no, size is not important. It’s also a taste thing, so many people, so many preferences. He _can_ have his preferences, and if you would have suggested this yourself because you would like it he could have told you that he likes the idea very much and supports you wholeheartedly. What he does is however not correct, he should not force it upon you. If you are esteem- and body-wise fine with your 34B he should be happy for you and stop thinking about his own optical pleasure. It’s you who’s waking around with them all day. I would consider it a bit a red flag honestly...
I am 34AA babe. If someone loves you then he should love you for who you are, not what do you look like... Your boyfriend should make you feel better, make you feel prettier and so on. When I was in a relationship, I finally felt more comfortable and confident with my body and small boobs. Before I was so shy with what I look like, I thought no one will wants me but my boyfriend (current ex) convinced me that this doesn't matter, that I have small boobs. He still loved me and always told me how sexy I look.
If he wants you with bigger boobs then he doesn't really want You... And I think this is not how love should look like...
I believe this is a matter of interpretation. Let's point out the facts:
He demonstrated genuine interest in spending the rest of his life with you.
He isn't just dumping you and going for someone with bigger boobs/using that money on some hooker with big boobs.
There's no malice. If you felt insulted you can let him know though.
If my girlfriend told me to work out & drink protein shakes (instead of dumping me) because she likes guys that look buffer than I currently look, or if she wanted me to take some magical pill to permanently increase my dick size, I'd be cool with it. Fuck, if she even offers to pay for all the material required to do the previously mentioned I'd be even happier--that's real commitment right there. Best girlfriend.
He's way over the line of decency, that's just plain rude and disrespectful. If he cannot accept you the way you are then he just plain doesn't deserve you and he needs to be told that in no uncertain terms! I'm a, small 34 B myself, my husband thinks they're the best thing he's ever been allowed to play with! Really, he loves my size, he's commented on it many times. The other day he told me that he kind of hoped that I didn't get bigger in the breast department from being pregnant. If you listen to some girls that are heavily endowed, they often come right out and vocalize that they're a bit envious of girls our size, especially when it comes to being active and experiencing pain from their weight. If your guy can't understand you don't want to be changed into his Barbie doll ideal then tell him to go find his "Ideal Woman" elsewhere!
For 50% of men, size is not important. For 25% of men, smaller is better. If he has the same idea that you are supposed to change yourself to please him, your future as his wife seems rather bleak. He is supposed to love you as you are.
Have you considered asking him to get a penile implant?
What you should do, is tell him to make sure the door hits him in the ass on the way out, that 's what you should do. No one should ever tell someone how they think they should look because they simply don't have the right to do so. Plus if one really stops to think about it, there's a chance that even if you oblige his request that he's just going to keep finding things wrong until you look like he thinks you should.
So, the best thing to do is tell him "no" you will not do that and if he can't take you as you are then maybe you both should reconsider being in a relationship together.
Break up with him. If you wanted one, and he just supported that, it would be different. (but you totally don't need one anyway all sizes are ok and 34B is very normal) He should love you for who you are. Maybe he likes bigger, but if you are the one he won't care. And if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he needs to accept all of you the way it is now. Especially because he's going to have to watch you age and if he cares this much about something as shallow as boobs, he won't love the aging you (which would still be beautiful anyway if he was really in love) and he could push for more procedures.
And if you are opposed to it and he keeps on pushing for it and it insults you, that is selfish, because he wants you to satisfy his own desires at the expense of your feelings and self esteem. I say break up with him.
You need to get out of that relationship. I am quite well versed in the signs of domestic abuse, and I 'm not saying that this is what is happening here, but there are some key aspects of this that you need to understand.
First, and most importantly, your justification for staying with him is frightening. You are justifying his actions, which were completely wrong and intrusive, with the fact that he wants to get married and have a future with you. That he loves you. This isn't healthy, and this certainly isn't love. In many cases of abuse in relationships, the victims justify similar actions in the exact same way. That's why I see such an alarming parallel, your justification.
Second, this is borderline emotional abuse. He should never say something so hurtful to you.
But I'm really appauled at his control over your body. I think that is one of the most unhealthy aspects of it. He is trying to control what you do with your body just for his enjoyment.
B cup is something perfect. Im having natural DD breasts (thank god perky and passing the pencil test :D) and even that it looks amazing its soooo not worth it. I like the B size because it looks more firm and perky in the long run and won't stretch your shirt like a DD would leaving every person being able to look at your boobs through the holes between the buttons... Not to mention the back pain you will get if you have bigger boobs. Just be yourself. I would never marry a person who can't accept me for who i am and wants to change me.
what da heck is a pencil test
@memeqweenn Eh old trick to check if your boobs are saggy. Google it. You put a pencil under your boob and if it falls your boobs are perky, if it stays on place your boobs are saggy. :D
Don't F'ing do it. There is nothing worse than a woman with fake tits. I would rather have a woman with very small tits than a woman with fake tits. I have been with several small breasted woman and every last one of them were sexy af. If your boyfriend has some kind of fetish with large tits, then perhaps he needs to go find a woman with large tits, instead of trying to put you under the knife to get something that most men dislike. And trust me, this retard boyfriend of yours... he won't be around forever. Chances are your next boyfriend isn't going to be a big fan of your fake tits. Tell your boyfriend to F-off.
Fuck him! If you are happy the way you are, then leave his ass and find a man who respects your body for what it is!
But if you had genuinely contemplated breast augmentation before you even met your boyfriend then I would take him up on his offer.
My natural size was similar to yours. I was a 32B and I had a breast augmentation to take me up to a 32DD and it was the best decision I ever made in my life. I feel more confident, I feel sexier, and all my girlfriends say that my mood had improved since I had my boobs done.
Ask yourself if you are happy with your body or not?
Ask yourself if you'll be happy without that particular man as your boyfriend?
Think about it very carefully before you make a decision.
You were born with perfect breasts!! 34 B, and 'B' is for Beautiful!! Tell him to go to hell!!
If he can't love YOU, for WHO, you are, then he is the WRONG GUY!!!
I would NEVER, EVER pressure a woman to change her body, surgically!!
If you really love, and care for someone, you love WHO they are, not their breasts, or penis, or whatever!!!
Tell him you want him to get surgery to have a bigger dick and see what he says lol. All boobs are beautiful in my opinion. And fake boobs just suck. They don't bounce, they're not soft, they're not real. I love my boobs and I would never get them augmented. As long as YOU'RE happy with your body that's what matters
Size isn’t important to me though I do have a preference for smaller breasts.
If he’s under the impression all men would think you would look better he’s wrong. As many men prefer small as prefer large. The average porn star has 34b breasts.
I wouldn’t consider it unless you’re actually going to get married. At that point you could consider it. There’s nothing objectively better or universally preferred about larger breasts. But if you do decide to spend your life with someone who you aren’t super compatible with who happens to have a big kink to large... well then you could decide if it’s worth it to you
Your boyfriend needs to shut the heck up and accept you for who you are. Isn't unconditional love the whole point of a relationship? Even though, I don't think this kind of stuff is real but trust me when I tell you this. Do not get a breasts augmentation!!! Having big boobs isn't all that special anyway! I can speak from experience because I am a busty woman my mine tits give me problems all the time.
And when I said I'm busty, I meant naturally busty! Not artificially busty!!! Just so you know
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