Someone groped me and my boyfriend did nothing about it, what should I do?

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I was at the Gameland. And a stupid gypsie guy groped me and touched my ass while my boyfriend was paying for us to plas PS4 games. And after that I slapped that guy and swore him and he was soo f#cking rude and even showed his d to me. At a public place! 

Im really upset. My boyfriend didn't do anything while he says he loves me etc. But Im afraid I can get raped and he wouldn't do anything because he would be scare. His excuses was that "they are 3. I am one." And "I don't want to get into problems"... I was wearing normal clothes. And he blamed me for showing my curves. And "if you had a long shirt that cover your ass this wouldn't happen ed"...

Someone can explain me?

RockNLife · Accepted Answer

Men are instinctively hunters and naturally protective of their women. While yes, a woman CAN learn self defense, biologically speaking, a woman can fight and struggle against a man for only so long, let alone 3 men, until she can't fight anymore and then it's too late! Especially if a woman is attacked from behind! Biologically, no matter how hard we train ourselves, women lack half of the upper body strength that man have. But under no circumstances should a guy stand aside and watch his partner get sexually assaulted. He doesn't have the damn right to state that it's your fault! Sweetheart, if you're clothes were THAT big of an issue, a real gentleman would politely tell you that is as an issue, before you guys had left to go to Gameland.

Please, take this day as a life saver that you are safe and sound. Take this day as a warning about who you are dating. Your safety and security is also important. Your boyfriend does not deserve to date a beautiful soul like yours. If you are hesitant about dumping him or if he says that he cares about you. Then try this method: For 3 whole days, don't call, text, or contact him physically. Go silent for 3 days. If he cares about you as much as he says that he does, then he will contact you. If he doesn't contact you at all during those 3 days, then you need to ask yourself "Why do I want someone like that?".
P. S. You being sexually assaulted was not your fault!

404notfound · Accepted Answer

if I were you I would simply tell him...

bye
or at least confront him about it. he reacted cowardly. Thats a fact. But I kind of get it since he would have gotten into trouble. What I find unforgivable is what he told you afterwards. Your boyfriend should never slutshame you. He should have said sorry and explained himself, but that other part was over the line. Like, the first part I kind of get, altho it would have turned me off. But the last part i would just leave his sorry ass. Its part of your boyfriends job to fkn respect you

Allie_Oops · Accepted Answer

Your boyfriend is a wuss. My most recent ex was a jackass that cheated on me and even he would have decked that guy. He almost fought one guy who kept grabbing my arm trying to get my attention and called me a bitch after I repeatedly told him to go away. Literally grabbed the dude my his collar and threatened his life.

DarkPhoenix86 · Accepted Answer

I'm gonna be super blunt rn. Your boyfriend is a piece of trash and a coward. I have very strong feelings for how my women get treated and that extends to my my mom, sister, girlfriend, etc. "they are three" my a$$. Regardless of whether or not he's gonna get his a$$ beat, if he's not willing to step in and take it so you don't have to then he's not worthy of your love or his own existence. Part of being in a relationship is putting your partner first and being a guardian of sorts, not being a pansy a$$ and looking the other way while your girl gets abused so you can save your own a$$. Dump him, please, for your own good. You mentioned a fear of being raped and that he wouldn't be there for you. Honestly wtf. You should be able to think of that without a single millisecond of hesitation knowing that his a$$ is gonna step in and kill the guy. If you have to think about whether or not he would, dump him, because chances are he wouldn't. The situation above just proves it. In my opinion, EVERY guy's duty is to be a man for those he is responsible for. If he won't protect his own then he can get f**ked. Sorry for how long that was but it's 100% the truth.

IlyaTheImpaler · Accepted Answer

He should've tried to protect you yes, but if the gypsies you met were anything like the gypsies where I live, I can see why a man would hesitate getting into a fight with them over this. They are proficient at street fighting and they will knife you if you somehow win the fist fight. They love to bleed pretty city boys :))

I don't think he meant to blame you for not covering your ass, it might just be a response to what you told him during the heated argument.

Borat_Sagidiev · Answer

It is VERY much problem when asshole gypsies a bad touch the ladies. In a my country we have a this problems with Uzbeki gypsies bad a touch our a ladies. Must inform a you boyfriend that sometimes asshole gypsies can use a their inbred magics to make a you become a their sex slave and lose a control of a you mind which they take over. If a you boyfriend no willingness to help a you and beat the gypsy down then is always best to wear the tooth of the woman with the red hair on necklace to make you total protecting from a them.

MIKIBURGOS · Answer

Gypsies are dangerous, they're outsiders here in my city and yeah, they're disgusting, so i understand why your boyfriend did nothing; there are many cases of people trying to stop a conflict and then their lives being taken because of that. The solution would be education, but that's a long-term issue and solution.

Demised · Answer

This happened wid me n my best friend n her girlfriend. We were out, chillin n havin sum laughs n a guy who was at least 6'2 n muscular tried to grab her hand. My friend did nothing. I on the other hand pushed him away n showed him my fists. He came onto me charging like a bull n we had a pretty bad fight, in public. Traffic was jammed, people were tryin to separate us. I punched him a couple of times in d mid section coz i ws only 5'11 at that time n his sweat pants were down. How did that happenen? Dont know. My friend did nothin. She was happy bt broke up wid him. He was such a fuckin animal that he bit me on the shoulder. Hurted really bad the next day. But I stood up for them. Thats what u call a friend. I stood up for both of em. Real men r like that. 😁

10dsw · Answer

"Im really upset. My boyfriend didn't do anything while he says he loves me etc."

It's not his job to do anything. And there is a good chance that he could actually get in trouble for doing something (yes, our legal system is indeed stacked up against men). If a man exposed himself to you, then you should have called the police instead of expecting a teenaged boy to do something.

Anonymous · Answer

The last part about him blaming you is wrong of him but I personally wouldn’t want my boyfriend getting in a fight over that. He could get in trouble for fighting and that would just make the whole situation more stressful and really not help anything

rain_maker112 · Answer

Are those truly his words? Do you confirm?

Because if those are truly his words. Indeed there are issues.

But if I were him, I would be very happy that you made your slap worth of it. Else if I decided to jump in, only legal matters and jails can solve the matter. Good fcking slap!

Andre__ · Answer

It doesn't matter what you wear. People should not grope you and your right to act on it. I can sympathize a bit with your boyfriend since it's very tricky to be up against more than one other guys specially if they are used to working together. He should stand up for you, but also be smart about it. It's easy to loose a fight or get in one were you can avoid it when facing such guys. Ways a tricky situation but he should be able to make you feel secure even without a fight.

PunKin93 · Answer

This is not right. He could have at least consoled you and helped you report it to the authorities. If I was out with one of my friends I'd never let someone get away with this, especially in public. He's a little twat. And it's disgusting that he blamed you for it. Leave him, he's got weak qualities that no body should want.

shan_shan · Answer

I would definitely dump that guy he is a coward not worth it... next time he may do worse because he is not dependable nor does he care because how can a man watch his girl being harassed and do nothing
If I were the guy I would have strangulate that guy's dick untill he screams hell how dare he touch my girl (that's the guy I want)

Jjpayne · Answer

That sounds pretty bad! I'd try to find the manager of gameland and complain. If managers refuse to help or are unhelpful, don't go to the cops, make a formal paper complaint against them, maybe can sweet talk a cop but they can't sweet talk paper work filed against them. I would also try to be careful when you are in gameland and consider avoiding it or be very careful to make sure you are in safe areas. It can be a grey area, when it comes to clothes.

cth96190 · Answer

You need a new boyfriend. The one you have now is a coward.
If someone, especially the likes of a Gypsy, did that to a woman who was my girlfriend he would be on the wrong end of a lifetime of karate training.
Find a man who can take care of himself and you.
Bare minimum, I would have broken both of his arms and legs.

Repa33 · Answer

He would rather see his girlfriend get sexually assulted than possibly get in a fight? So much for love. He is blaming you because he won't admit he is a coward

Sc0rpy · Answer

I was arrested for beating the hell out of a man, I broke three of his ribs and almost changed his face, it needed three persons to take me away from him, he tried to harass my ex, that was my reaction and let me tell you, I'm short, I don't work out and I don't play any sport at all, if he loves you, he will do anything to protect you, otherwise, he is either a liar or a coward and that is not someone you should have as a boyfriend

myNameIsJohnDecker · Answer

I wouldn't blame him for not getting into a fight, but he should definitely had been more supportive, and the two of you need to report it to the manager and the police! The next girl they harass might not get off the hook that easy.

There is NO excuse for him to blame you though, and I think you ought to seriously reconsider if you want to be with him because of him slutshaming you! 😬

StripClubBonerBoy · Answer

He sounds like a tool and the guy that grabbed you and exposed himself should have got whooped up on. I would have called the cops ok the dude and told management. Some dude grabs my lady and she doesn't want him to I will knock his ass smooth out. Just cause my lady and I are swingers it’s not an invitation to a free run at my lady.

RoastedCharms · Answer

Your boyfriend is a boy and not a man.  I hate confrontation, but when someone messes with someone I love, they better run before I bring hell to them.

JohnFrost · Answer

His a wuss. I would expect him to get in a fight but I would say something about it. Definitely in a public setting. I can understand he would not want to fight but that he starts blaming you is kinda asshole. In a situation where he would be beat up and nothing would change it doesn't helpt to escalate the situation. But seems he was just scared.

sam3324 · Answer

Basically your boyfriend is lacking in the masculine department, he doesn't want to make a scene and will let whatever happens happens. I don't like making a scene myself but if something like that was to happen I don't care if there was 1000 guys I would do something

kash01 · Answer

First of all, that's demoralising that your boyfriend blamed you for "showing you your curves". Even if there were 3 of them vs your boyfriend, he could have comforted you, made sure that you're okay, relaxed your nerves and called for security to assist. Regardless, if he loved you, he would anything to protect you - if it may be him verbally or physically approaching them.

I can't really tell you what to do, but that's just my thoughts.

boggboss · Answer

What he said was some bullshit but at the same time u can't expect him to take a 3 on 1 fight what he said was bullshit but fighting agianst 2 guys is crazy hard 3 is nearly impossible

pervertedjester · Answer

Think about how you would want him to handle it and then think of the consequences of that outcome for your boyfriend. But tell him next time to kick the biggest one in the nuts then punch the other two fast.

littlecuckboi69 · Answer

I personally think your boyfriend is the definition of a beta cuck. He should be standing up for you and trying to report this to employees maybe catching it on camera.

kashmenon · Answer

I would have left everything and gone after them. I would have ended up in the hospital in the process. I'm sure once I would have started people would have joined me.

Anonymous · Answer

I am a 5 foot 10 a fucking dwarf. But if someone wpuld try to even look inaproprietly in my girlfriend it doesn't matter how many them there are or how big they are there will be blood all around litteraly. Find another boyfriend someone that isn't such a pussy.

Caaarl · Answer

It's not your boyfriends job to fight for you. You should have called the cops. You already slapped the guy what you do want do you want your boyfriend to do, beat him up? How are you going to get raped in public? Just yell out for help next time.

MzAsh · Answer

1. You have a piece of shit boyfriend.  2. Knock the groper on his ass next time. If you don’t know how to, learn.

vald9inches · Answer

your boyfriend is a boy and immature if someone did that to my girl i dont care how many of them there are blood will be spilled!

jacquesvol · Answer

Be happy , not to live in old Biblic times:

chc0009 · Answer

Well, one guy punched someone for groping his girlfriend at a Foo Fighters show, so Dave Grohl had him kicked out.

Blonde401 · Answer

Dump him. Hands down. He should have at least said something. Fuck if I’d have seen that I would have said something and I don’t even know you.

Aynsof · Answer

What would you like to have had him do?
Beat up the guy? That would be assault
That aside though his excuses as you present them are not acceptable and shows little care for you so maybe you should consider if your relationship is worthwhile

jay001 · Answer

aren't women equal and capable of doing everything a man can do these days?

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

It's not his job to protect you. But he shouldn't have blamed you.

SpenserB · Answer

Your boyfriend needs to at least say something, and you both need to tell the store manager and then the police, otherwise the a-hole will of it again to someone else.

nutboi17 · Answer

He probably didn't wanna get beat up and is trying to find a way to blame you because he's embarrassed that he was too scared

Eleventy · Answer

He isn't your bodyguard. Which would you rather have: him get the absolute shit beat out of him by three people, or him not fighting and just having to accept what happened? What he said about your clothing though was ridiculous.

azzntittiz · Answer

Find a new boyfriend, stay with him and worse things will happen to you.

Shoenron · Answer

No reason for him to get in trouble for you. Learn to stand up for yourself. That's what real women do.

NiceDave · Answer

Exactly what you think, or he likes it. Anyway you shouldn't stay with him, he won't keep you safe

BlackParade · Answer

If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't do anything. Just because I like girls who are independent, can stand up for themselves and not be little bitches! Maybe he has the same mentality as me.

BeenShook · Answer

Alright, even if your boyfriend isn't the physical type he still should have done something. He could've got help from other people. There's no excuse for letting that happen and then to blame you.

Anonymous · Answer

That's up to you to decide how you want to react. If you feel hurt, you could always tell him and talk it out.

OHPOORBABY · Answer

I think your boyfriend got mad because the Gypsy had a bigger dick

Anonymous · Answer

Well, did he absolutely not even respond/protest? I think it's fair if he did and called the cops on them. So do you think your boyfriend should have had himself beat up and gone to jail? Would you risk your life for him?

Revolver_ · Answer

Break up with your boyfriend and then ask the person who groped you to be your boyfriend

JustinTheBFP · Answer

1. Realize he's not a boyfriend 2. Find a new one.  3. Start defending yourself

Anonymous · Answer

Your boyfriend was afraid he was going to get beat up.

That2kKid21 · Answer

Some guys will say differently, but don't listen to them... Your boyfriend is a pussy.

iamshan · Answer

He's a coward and an ass hole so just leave that shithead before he starts to stink

MAKdaddy · Answer

You need date a man, leave boys alone. I would shot him

jimmy2 · Answer

humm sounds like this is a problem. work it out before somthing bad happens

saucyrider · Answer

It's because he does the same thing behind your back , so he's ok with a dued doing it to his girl... pu$$y.

Anonymous · Answer

Numbers. Generally people won't attack people in numbers

Anonymous · Answer

Do you have a phone? Why didn't you call the police?

Anonymous · Answer

i would say if he is not willing to stand up and defend you then move on

MlleCake · Answer

What an asshole to blame it on you.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Break up with him. This is a red flag.

dawnm902 · Answer

Dump the ass you’re dating.

TallAnon · Answer

Dump his ass and report those guys to the police.

krishh0805 · Answer

He's a coward!!! That's it!!

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