How do I find a good, quality man? (Page 2)

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So I'm so sick and tried of young men treating me like total shit because I'm not "slutty enough" (actual reason why I got rejected) and today it hit me when my crush was telling me he'd rather have his right hand and being sick on my new shoes whilst telling me how I should be living my life. I deserve SO, SO much better, honestly I'm not one to big myself up but I'm aware I'm freaking hot af and I've always stayed humble about it in the past. I'm a extremely hard working, driven young woman who's intellectual and well mannered but unfortunately I can't ever seem to find a young man around my age with the same standards as me.  I think I'm better off dating older men between 26-28 as they usually have their shit together and are more knowledgeable of how to treat a good women. But because of my past fails attempts in relationships with men I'm very inexperienced and I've not even kiss a guy before nor dated one and I don't know how to be around older guys and are usually shocked when I tell them but I've never had a boyfriend.

UnstableCraft · Answer

Know your worth and stop looking. You will find the right guy. Don't give in and become something you are not.

Anonymous · Answer

''I'm aware I'm freaking hot af'''

That1tallguy · Answer

Boy they sure are a bunch of desperate guys on here begging for a chance. Your a girl so eventually the right guy will come too you.

phoenix1352 · Answer

If u a hot like u say and you want a good guy then you probably want to talk to them first... there's a lot of good guys who are too shy to talk to attractive women... let them know you like them instead of "moving on" like you say you do.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

My question is why would he say that? In my experience the people who talk about how mistreated they are are usually leaving out the parts where they earned that mistreatment. Not saying this is the case here but its definitely a red flag

CptToni · Answer

All i can say is its really hard to find a good woman that isn't sluty or the playing games type. So i feel d same way you do. But don't buy into older is better. just guard your heart and hope you find someone that deserves you and treats you right.

britpop · Answer

They treat you like shit either way you have to kiss some frogs to find a prince so I'm told

Guanfei · Answer

Well, I would apply for the job but as you said, you deserve better.

JohnPhoton · Answer

You are a self evaluating person, that is a sign of intelligence.(You are hot and you know it (I am glad you don't let anyone tell you different)) I wish you luck in all your endeavors.(keep those standards high!)

AxlStahlmann · Answer

I'm with you all the way on there. It's hard to find someone who wants to have a fun time but not be over the top about it or someone that doesn't dump you as soon as they've had their fill.

Dark93 · Answer

Learn to recognize unsavory behavior before you begin to date a guy. They'll say anything to get into your pants while a "good guy" will ask questions about you because he genuinely wants to know you.

QueenofCups · Answer

Find a nice older guy to show you the ropes of dating and kissing and stuff. You are hot af, and most guys would be thrilled to go out with you.

aceOFJokers · Answer

If you let one step on you they all will. Do not ever compermise your moral code nor ever prevent yourself from making mistakes

Goddess_Gag18 · Answer

This is online so try and not take offense. As far as finding a good man? Keep searching, be yourself and when you are not looking, he will one day appear out of thin or thick air.

CarismaMike · Answer

Just enjoy life. Noone needs a relationship, some people really want one. Spending some time alone will help you to know what you want for yourself, just screen for a quality guy once you know the qualities you value on a guy.

RoastedCharms · Answer

Patience, in time a good guy will come. Wisdom cannot be seeked, for it is learned through life. Just like wisdom, a good guy cannot be seeked, but will come when you are ready for him.

ChickenFingers · Answer

Generally, men don't care about how driven you are, they don't care how hard working you are, and they don't care how intellectual you are. You know what most men really seem to want from my observations? A woman who he finds sexually attractive, who's humble and down to Earth, and shares his morals/principles with him. That's it. We're very simple.

Now how do you find a good quality man? You'd have to clearly define that first before I could say.

samuel8309 · Answer

a true gentleman is hard to find these days as is a lady who appreciates chivalry. you should feel proud of yourself that you have self respect and dont settle for second best. somebody with your great and rare qualities will know when a decent man enters your life and i do agree that a lot of the time its how mentally mature a man is that can make all the difference:)

TitusAlexis · Answer

Hey, look, if it were easy then it wouldn't be valuable. Thats how i look at it. I feel the exact same way as you do. Only reverse gender.  By the way, i am max, nice to meet you.

valualty · Answer

Older men more mature you pick your age limit but boys aren't men. Some stay boys (dickheads) rest of their life. And take things slow, let a mention appreciates and get to know you.

iFarted · Answer

By dating different guys until you find one that's suitable and good for you. It's probably the certain type of guys you're going for that aren't in it for a relationship -_-

Cool_Guy_17 · Answer

Wait you've never dated a guy before, but you are tired of being treated like shit by guys? You need to start hanging out with the better quality guys and get some experience dating under your belt!

MMM369 · Answer

People treat you how you treat your self. Love the person you date.. don’t try to change them other wise you don’t really love them if you say “you have so much potential “ for who they are

johnmichaei · Answer

I'm sure as beautiful as you are you can find a man that will treat you right girl you're going to have to get out there and get in it

Jimothy_Jimson · Answer

Find a man with the traits you desire, and make yourself available to him. Unless he's viscerally disgusted by your appearance he'll most likely take you up on your offer of companionship.

chimera1 · Answer

Raise your standards and just wait for the right one to come around

drafted · Answer

I can't believe someone told you you are not slutty enough. That is just weird. I think the other posters said it best. There are good guys out there, just focus on yourself/your own interests and your paths will cross.

EnocV · Answer

I'm looking for a good woman too so.. It's pretty difficult and for girls I guess more cuz most of the guys are just stupid

elite665 · Answer

I would love you forever you sound amazing I have kissed a girl but I have y t to find a girl not as slutty lol as younger girls

cthomas1243 · Answer

Join the crowd I can't get a date without them trying to fuck me / my last date was 11 years ago

Dude_1820 · Answer

Believe it or not we're s rare breed and it's annoying how so many men are now... Or wanna be men

RenuP · Answer

I love your confidence and yes you do deserve better. I would suggest starting a hobby that brings you outdoors if you don't have one. Visit some festivals etc. Online dating also might help but you gotta be careful who to meet.

CypriotSicilian92 · Answer

It’s gonna be better got find it sometime going through the bad to get to the good. It took me while find love that treat me right and I found her.

michol1 · Answer

I wouldn't say your hot af your your average. Are you angry at someone expecting intimacy in a adult relationship a lot of men associate sex with love in a relationship

LegendOfGAG · Answer

Right here you just haven’t met... Me yet.  Do you want to :D... (Jk)...

olderguy333 · Answer

By being a good quality woman and exhibiting qualities YOURSELF that you want in another.

ChrisIGuess · Answer

it takes time. i believe most are gone but there are a few left. be patient you will find him.

midoooo · Answer

You are a beautiful girl and you deserve better in your life and I respect you so much because you are honest and there is no problem if you are Virgin you should be proud of yourself and your are a girl so many man would like to date

greypeter72 · Answer

Meet guys and become friendly. Don't go out to seek relationships. If guys ask for one immediately say no and see if they stick around.

Fuentes · Answer

I wouldn't date a girl younger then 24 lol cause y'all be immature af and try ti act grown trust mee, you haven't lived life until your 24, i say everything else below are still kids

Gunko · Answer

Obviously your social sphere is constricted. If you're hunting for a shark, you don't go fishing in a stream. You need to go where you think "good" men will be, whatever that word may mean to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Be a quality woman. And what makes you think you deserve a quality man? Just because you're hot and don't sleep around?

UglyVirginLoser · Answer

Go out of your comfort zone and talk to men you normally would not date (the nerds, basicaly). You may find something or someone you never thought you would have liked or would date and then fall into a great relationship.

TheUglyMan · Answer

I dont how to feel about this you sound like those strong independent feminist type of women. Try online Christian dating if you want more a conservative style of dating.

dominic_ · Answer

well love is a natural thing, just let life takes its path, eventually someone will find you for your right qualities, you dont need to seek love, let it happen

frostmanx · Answer

Young men that do that are boys not men i was 14 and i never thought like that

LilHamsterVert · Answer

One that actually loves you will come along, don't force it he'll come someday on his own

jeremythedrummer · Answer

By avoiding finding men at places where crooks and bastards always hang?

TheGrandWizzzard · Answer

In your profile pic you look like an attractive lady, many try dating someone less attractive, they will probably preciate you more

Anonymous · Answer

Committed relationships just don't have the same value for men that they once did. So they'd rather either be alone or in a casual one.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

Not that. But you should find guys in good places. I mean. At a office etc.

lacaras · Answer

They exist, try different places since it seems your current hang outs aren't working

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

I don't know the answer... I am seaching for the same with the opposite gender

hornymike6969 · Answer

your dating boys not MEN. find different places to meet men nothing wrong with older MEN.

MysteryFinder · Answer

Before you take into consideration gettung in relationship with the guy. Grt to know him more and more before you take your decision

whityford42 · Answer

Well we do have our shit together. In almost 30 and let me tell you the age difference just in maturity is huge

hanzohassaszi · Answer

Maybe you sould find someone who loves your personality not your body the next time you meet someone stop sending then pics

crazy_one96 · Answer

Look for the guy that enjoys doing the little stuff with you just as much as something fun n exciting

wywynot · Answer

I hate slutty women!! I can’t seem to find a good one who doesn’t want to do crazy crap!

jimmy2 · Answer

Wow you make me want to be your age. I see you as, an amazing lovely woman

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