Why don't more girls take the initiative?

[Anonymous]

Why don't girls take the initiative? Why do girls always expect guys to do all the work? Isn't it 2011 now? I always hear them say they are equal to guys and what not. They want to be equal in everything that is convenient for them like when it comes to making money and the way the are treated, etc. but when it comes to dating and relationships most girls never do anything. They expect the guy to do everything. I just don't know why they 'expect' it. It's not like we're required or something. If you want to be equal to us, then be equal. I have no problem with asking out a girl or whatever but, if they like a guy they just expect him to ask her out. It's not like there is any reason why they can't. It's not clingy if a girl pursues a guy because it's the same as a guy pursuing a girl. A lot of guys, myself included would love for a girl to take the initiative. It shows that you like him. It seems like girls just love the attention or something. I don't know how many girls I've heard say that the guy is expected to do this and that. What are we living in old times here? It's not like the girl is expected to stay home all day and cook and clean anymore. Most women have jobs now too. It's like something so simple that they refuse to change. Especially since a lot of girls say they can never find the right guy. Well, go look for him, he's not necessarily going to find you. I love the girls I just wish they would act more confident and take the initiative now and again. The few girls that I met that did this to me I was impressed and felt flattered. The girl I'm dating now asked me out and she's the greatest!

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All I'm saying is that guys and girls should be completely equal. I truly believe this.

[allaboutme21]

There is a double standard and there's not a lot you can do about . In nature the male pursuits the female so it's more than a cultural thing . It's true some girls feel comfortable to do that but most expect you to show interest before they do something . They don't want to hear a guy tell them in their face he's not interest . I won't say I never asked a guy out but when I did I knew he would too but he was too shy .

There are many double standards not just this one so only when all of them are over men and women can be truly equals .

[Asker]

I don't practice double standards, neither should anyone. There is something you can do about it. You can have more courage. You act like you have no control over it. That's a cop out saying there are many double standards. You're not answering the question, you're just beating around bush. It's not nature either because we don't live in nature anymore. We don't go kill animals with are bare hands anymore while you sit in the cave by the fire. Come on you're more evolved than that, aren't you?

[allaboutme21]

Ahaha do you still eat? do you still breathe? Do you still have sex? There is in your nature not anywhere else . You don't need to teach a baby to eat or to breathe . Being a nature thing doesn't mean it had to be wild has to do with instincts . If you're not comfortable with that wait for girls to ask you out and see what happens . My boyfriend likes to be the man in the relationship I don't see nothing wrong with that . Girls protect themselves that way .

[Asker]

It has nothing to do with nature. A lot of things are from nature but, we can supress or overcome them like sex, we don't go around having sex with every girl that we want to and raping them, even though we have sexual urges and desire. That's what makes us more advanced this day and age. We also control are urges to eat all the time. Look at people with anorexia. You don't have to succomb to nature like an animal. We're not animals. Look at all we have accomplished these days with science and

[allaboutme21]

I think you're misinterpreting me honestly .

[Asker]

medicine. For god sakes we can clone but you're saying you can't ask a guy out because you're afraid. Come on. Also, I never said I had a problem asking a girl out because I have on several occasions. I can ask a girl out but, why can't they. It has nothing to do with being a man. So are you saying men and women are not equal? You're implying that men are more courageous than women. Why do girls get to protect themselves and guys don't. It just so happens that my girlfriend is the one who asked me out(:

[allaboutme21]

I can only talk for myself and no I wouldn't feel comfortable just approaching any guy . I am pretty confident about myself but there's no way I would do that . Girls are taught like that . When you have a daughter teach her different but it's too late for us . It's the prince that goes to save the princess not the other way around . Every girl wants to feel desired and that's OK too . I can understand your pov but you could try and understand mine . If your girlfriend is OK with that good for u

[Asker]

You're no different than us though. You're not confident enough if you don't feel comfortable approaching a guy. Girls are taught by whom? It's not too late for you, teach your daughter different. Prince's and princess's? Are you serious? This isn't fairlyland. There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel desired but, don't you think guys like it too? Also I do understand your what you're are saying. I just think it's a little outdated. And yeah good for me, I love that girl!

[allaboutme21]

I'm old school then. All good.

[Asker]

Yep.

[purepassion67]

I think that your are generalizing way to much there are girls out there that are willing to take the initiative. Some girls are willing to say something instead of just waiting and wondering it all just depends on the girl. When it comes down too it girls are just as nervous of being rejected and turned as guys and so we try to avoid that as much as possible.

[Asker]

I know there are girls out there are willing. My girlfriend did. I wasn't saying all girls. The reason I wrote this question was because my girlfriend and I were having a discussion earlier about it. Thanks for your comment.

[solveigjrk]

I did ask a guy out once, guess what? He rejected me.

[Asker]

Guess what? Guys get rejected too! Welcome to the day in the life a guy. lol. I think more girls hould take the chance just like we do. It doesn't always work out but, sometimes it does!

[solveigjrk]

I know, but guys that ask out girls tends to have a huge ego and is pretty much ego, of course not everyone, but most. While I'm just a shy and insecure girl who's pretty much afraid of people.

[Gregs]

It's the way of the world, women are rejected on a daily basis by guys they are too afraid to approach! that's the truth, it would be great if women could approach guys, and in a blue moon it has happened but don't expect it, whatever emotions a guy would feel from approaching a girl and being rejected, a woman will feel 10 times worse, so to keep their self esteem even slightly intact they won't take that risk, and simply try to assume that every guy wants them, but never approach to find out the truth...

[Asker]

That's not even true. It's not the way of the world, my current girlfriend approached me. She believes what I believe. Are you saying that we are equal or not?A women feels it tens times worse. What are we robots or something incapable of emotion as well? Not a valid argument guy. Men have self-esteem too. We have to take all the risk and they just say yes or no. They don't get rejected, we do. You don't fool me you're just trying to win the females sympathy.

[Gregs]

not really, I would think females would hate me for calling them on their ego. It's great that your girlfriend approached you but If I were a guy I would not hold my breath, especially if you want to date women often and not once every year or so...

[defytraditiongirl]

we live in an unfair, sexist world

[socalgamehater2006]

tradition

[Asker]

An old fashioned tradition.