Sure plenty of girls that do. Men should too don’t get me wrong.
I have had girls tell me that they wasted all their time on a guy who turned out to have a girlfriend, or a guy who seemed to be into her lost interest and now he’s with another girl, etc.
Look rejection sucks please don’t get me wrong but you never know unless you ask. Many women miss their chance the same as men do.
I don't know, but whenever some guy complains about this being some cultural thing of men having to make the first move, I always get annoyed, because it really isn't a cultural thing.
Male deer fight over female deer, using their antlers. You would not call this a cultural phenomenon, but a natural phenomenon, based on how sexual reproduction works and how fertility differs in the sexes where women produce one egg once a month and men produce millions of sperm all the time, hence sex is "cheap" for men and "expensive" for women.
Anyway, that was a tangent, you are right that in the modern world, it may sometimes make sense for women to approach.
On the flipside, the risk for women is that the guy they approach will lack the resilience and confidence and courage it takes to approach women you like, despite fear of rejection. He may lack the social skills required to do it.
I sometimes think the reason women are so hard for guys to work out is that it filters out inadequate guys.
Because they like the double standard of saying if a guy asks a woman out he should pay for the date. They don't wanna pay for anything.
Because as a woman if he doesn't approach me after I've made clear signs that I like him I believe he is not interessted. The woman show signs he does the finale move. That's how it always worked.
In a fair world women should make the move too, i agree and very few women do. But I'm not one of them. I'm being honest, I could easily have lied but eh.
i'm not one to wait around anymore because every time i did it turned out horribly. i approached my partner yearssss ago and glad that i did or i wouldn't be where i am now. it sucks that it's still uncommon for girls to approach guys, but some girls do do this. it's best to be upfront or at least read the room before approaching
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I think the most simple explanation is that they don't have to most times. Men fight over women 99% of the time. It takes more effort to get women to fight over you, then for the ego boost they're way more intense because women don't fight over men, so the stakes are higher.
Women will approach you if they see you clean, attractive, and with other women often. Though I've only really seen that work on women in their teens to 20's. After they get burned a few times they get more salty and want stuff like condoms.
Anyway, most of the time why would women approach? A guy with a well crafted profile might have 15 bots message him on a dating site with 1-3 women a day, an average woman showing a little cleavage in a selfie will have a full inbox every day.
The sea to fish in is far broader for women as well, I can burn out my options in bars and online dating within a couple weeks, then need months for it to "restock" through break-ups and moves. For women the ocean of dicks will never even go on low tide in rural areas.
Because women are not wired to approach.
Women do not deal well with rejection.
More women will approach as they grow older, especially past the age of 35.
Younger people would be surprised by how many ‘age appropriate’ women approach me while I am working.
"You never know until you ask" I dont understand this. Who, either man or woman, has just ever gone up to someone and said "I like you. Will you date me?"
Not once in the many women have I dated, have I ever just gone up and asked. And not once was i ever approached that way. To do so would be so singular focused and creepy. Its like saying "I've made a decision based on visual determination that you shall be my mate".
Yeah. No wonder women cringe.
While actually a lot of girls do approach... but think about it for a minute... If you're a guy you're expected to approach.. You're the tough assertive one... so If you do and unfortunately get rejected... It's bad... but not too harsh... Now think about it as a girl... You're not expected to approach... You're risking more if it doesn't work out... You're going out of your way to do it... Now on top of that... She could be shy, introverted, insecure... so it's actually harder for the girl... Unless she's sure the guy is super compatible and can't disappoint her, or if she doesn't really have standards lol... But like I said, in general... I think a lot of girls do approach... It's not underwhelming or very rare... Or at least that's what it seems like to me...
My most accurate guess (and I don't think I'm wrong here) is that society has planted in women's minds the idea, that making the first move is exclusively a male thing and that deters women from trying/pursuing their mate. Which is a bad thing for both men and women alike. It will require tons of effort to erase this nonsense from society and women, so that love can do it's job regardless of gender.
Getting left behind and feeling unwanted by the opposite sex is far from fun. It's damaging.
This is why I hate and oppose traditions.
I agree with you, and I've seen lots of successful stories with it! 🤩😂
Because they know they don't have to. The best ones do. Because they know it increases thier odds of getting the guy the truly want.
Shy and afraid of rejection. It's as simple as that.
Or worried about ruining a friendship.
No need. Many or most get approached a lot. If I had a bunch of girls hitting on me each day I would almost never approach, either.
It's because they live in some illusion, that men should approach them, but that's a lie. A lot of relationship coaches told that: If a woman likes a man, she should approach him.
I can understand why Shy Girls don't, But you never see Confident Girls Approach either so I don't Understand.
Women do approach but in a subtle ways. Some men don’t have the ability to notice it or notice it too late, lack of preparation at the given moment can also be an issue. Same as women, when men approach, vise versa. Timing is crucial.
Yeah I just know when I like a guy I will be rejected so I hide like a turtle in a shell.
Seeing some powerful evidence saying has something to do with stepping into tension which is for survival
That would make life so much easier for a lot of men.
I will never pursue a man
I will just show interest. A very appealing smilies usually opens many doors
It's genetic. Men are programmed by millions of years of evolution to be the hunters.
I agree.
Sadly it is the milfs or gilfs that hate waiting time on a man getting in touch with them
nature and reality is meant to be cruel and unfair at times
Lots of women do but most men don’t like it
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