Kissed a teacher?

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I made out with my English teacher.

Two months ago, on a school trip, we ended up making out together. I won’t go into the details, but there was about a year of build up and tension leading up to this point.

I’m a junior in high school, age 17. I’m a straight A student, if that matters.

He’s 28. He looks like a college student, not that it matters — I’ve always thought he was attractive. I suppose he thinks I am too.

You hear about this kind of thing on the news, and you think, “woah! What a monster! Taking advantage of a kid like that.”

Is it true though? Would only a monster kiss me? Likewise, am I only a kid?

I was in his class last year, and I did really well. But it wasn’t until later that I started to have “inappropriate” thoughts about him. if no one finds out, and I’m morally okay with it— is it okay? I can’t change the past, right?

I know it’s “wrong” to kiss a teacher. It didn’t go further than that, but wrong nonetheless.

Should I stop talking to him? Quit the club he chaperones? Forget it ever happened?

I don’t want to get him fired. I don’t want anyone to know.

But I don’t know what to do. Any advice?

viajen · Accepted Answer

Short answer: It's really not okay.

He's 11 years older than you, and you're 17.

To you, that may not seem like a problem,
But anyone over the age of 23-24 don't really look at 17 year olds as the same age, we can tell you're too young.

And without being offensive because I'm just trying to be honest, young people aren't great to have a conversation with.

So when I read this, I think to myself,
"He knows he's breaking school rules, he knows he's breaking the law, he knows he's 11 years older than you, he knows you're legally too young."

It's understandable that you're confused in this situation, but the truth is a 28 year old teacher would be so acutely aware that he's breaking the rules/law, that I would be worried. He shouldn't have let anything happen.

"You kissed him" doesn't exist. It's a kiss. He could've moved his face slightly and completely avoided the whole thing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Take it from a full-grown adult: He's 100% in the wrong. It wouldn't matter if you were throwing yourself at him, if you're experienced, if you feel grown, etc. He crossed a very clear line. As an adult, he's responsible for having very clear boundaries and shutting it down immediately before things ever become flirtatious at all and before you're ever alone together in a situation where that could even happen. It doesn't matter whether you wanted it to happen--you are not to blame here, and you should feel no guilt over his getting fired. I know it's very hard to understand until you're actually at an older age and looking back, but think about if a 7 year old wanted to kiss you--you'd jump away and never ever allow that to happen, right?

yucychan · Accepted Answer

He should have pushed you away when you tried to kiss him. Unfortunately, he took the easy way out and kissed you back instead.
He should be fired. What you can do is don't do it again. Nothing good can come out of it.

AriannaViani · Accepted Answer

You Say Youz "Just Kissed" & That It "Didnt Go Any Further Than That" Yet You Said You won't Go In2 Detail B4. I Smell Bullshit~~~Lmao

mrkdvsn · Answer

Reminds me of an old ABBA song :)

Anonymous · Answer

sounds desperate

Kissed a teacher?

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