Does anybody still like traditional girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm a traditional, more conservative "old fashioned" kind of girl. I'm not even so extreme, I'm not one of those uptight girls walking around with a chastity belt. I just don't fool around with random guys, am still a virgin even though I'm in college, I could have had sex but I don't want to unless it's really special. I am considering saving it for marriage at this point, I just don't want to make any definite promises. All I know is I wouldn't unless it was with somebody I had been with long-term who was really special to me, and none of my dates or boyfriends have been like that.

I don't dress like a nun but I don't go around with my entire body hanging out. I don't ask guys out, I don't like to wear the pants in the relationship. And I like chivalry, and dating. Small things a guy does such as open doors for me, compliment me, and make me feel like a lady, make me happy, if I was considering a guy I dated to see if I wanted to continue, he would get points just for the simple things like that, in my book.

I just feel like so many girls are unlike me, and that guys hate girls like me. Many guys say they want girls who make moves, chase them, put out fast, etc. Or they just get into relationships to have sex quickly and then leave. I'm not some prude little wallflower either, but I get the impression that some people here would hate and blatantly disagree with me.

Is this true? Is chivalry dead? Are "traditional" girls doomed to singlehood? I'm not some girl who wants to sit at home and be a housewife in my little suburban home either, I want to have a career of my own, and a two-income household. By "traditional", I just mean my dating and relationship values.

[akronite]

Lol! I'm old school. Seeing as how I'm probably twice your age, but I believe you are on the right track. But on a little different note, you should know what your going without as well. Not just the actual motion but the feelings that come with it. In todays society it is a little more difficult to find someone who is willing to be able to not let pear pressure get the best of him. You maybe holding your standards a little high. Be careful because you may build a wall in your mind that may never be broke. On the same note be careful with who you date and always be honest to yourself. No it is not a bad thing to be an independent woman in a relationship either.

[Gregs]

I think you have the worst personality traits of both worlds, I would not call you traditional, self centered maybe...

[Asker]

wow, thanks. I'm self-centered for respecting myself.

[Gregs]

I don't care how you feel about yourself! Your self centered because of how you expect to be treated by other people

[Asker]

okay, so I guess I'm selfish because I don't want to be treated like a man. I don't expect guys to change their standards for me, and no guy I ever dated thought I was selfish or overly demanding. bt whatever, I'm not trying to argue with you. the end.

[Gregs]

well if you are a traditional girl then I need to thank feminism again for completely destroying chivalry, I hope you do find a guy tho

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Thats fine its you're personal choice, guys will still like you as long as you have a fun personality. The issue is that the media shows negative things are harmful towards women and that is why guys act like this. But no ,there still are nice guys they are just harder to find.

[blahblahazu]

You're not the only one. I'm 19 and I haven't even had my first kiss.

[Mesonfielde]

I personally don't. But there are people who do, for whatever reason.

[TC123]

Yes, guys like traditional girls. We like traditional girls a lot. The only problem I can think of is that girls who say they are traditional usually sit on their butts rather than making moves towards guys so they either end up with idiots or alone, whining about how they have to be "slutty" to get a guy type of thing.

So go out there and be traditional & if you see a guy you are attracted to him go say hi. It's really that simple.

[Asker]

i would say hi. I don't have a problem starting a conversation in person. I just wouldn't start calling him and texting him after and asking him to hang out and stuff just because we spoke once. thanks :)

[TC123]

Then don't worry about it. Be traditional and get your traditional guy. Trust me when I say there are lots and lots out there.

[martyfellow]

Guys won't admit, won't ADMIT they like you, and it's not 'cool' to like you, and most US guys are conformists, so they stay away.

Butthere are a lot more guys who appreciate you than the media would lead us to believe.

And there a lot more girls like you, as well, than the media lead us to believe.

The media mostly liked Hosni Mubarak, didn't they?

[rdr005]

The girl I am talking to sounds like you and is pretty traditional. There are plenty of guys that would like a girl like you, there just rare because of how men feel they should be due to how society portrays how we ought to be. And truth is many guys do dislike you and your kind because they are indeed looking for an easy lay. Which is nothing to be upset about. You know what you want so it doesn't matter what they think anyway. Chivaly isn't dead, just rare.

[WildVyse]

I understand what you mean. "Traditional" girls as you say don't seem to be around anymore. I'm looking for a girl like that myself. You could say I'm a traditional guy. I'd polite and considerate to girls I like but nowadays that just gets you rejected because I need to "play more games" and everything that's wrong with the dating world today really.

[TweetiByrd]

You know, if you were living near me and just a bit older, I'd jump at a chance to treat you like a lady. What you've written is what I've been searching for pretty much my whole life. My lady or woman in my life needs to be the perfect lady outside of the bedroom and a whore for me inside it.

A "traditional" girl is not doomed in any way. I think the world needs more young ladies such as yourself. And a helluva lot more boys that are gentlemen.

[drummerdude25]

You totally sound like my kind of girl... I'm like the male version of you! lol

As long as I knew you, found you attractive, I'd ask you out in a heartbeat! I absolutely love a girl with class and that strives to be successful.

[JoTree]

Don't save it for marriage, but keep everything else and you'll be a keeper for any guy. As for chivalry, that's been dead for more than 40 years, thanks to women's liberation from the late 60's. You can thank your mom or grandma for that one.

[TonyMetal25]

You just F***ED UP! by not accepting to be a housewife! traditional and not a housewife, is that a combination of yours!

[NonchalantBro]

chivalry died when women started to give up sex like candy on halloween.

[funkadelic5]

My girlfriend wants to wait until marriage to have sex, and is old school traditional with stuff. We do fool around a little bit though ;)

[Jager66]

i don't know to me traditional = princess who wants a free ride.

[Prof_Don]

Traditional guys are still out there, they just seem to be more quiet than those extroverted new age guys like myself. :-P

[guywithellaanswers]

i wish there were more girls like you where I lived just put it that way :)

[faraday]

I'm not into conservative girls but there are guys into that

[Maverickj]

This goes beyond "respecting yourself", you're just blatantly sexist.

[bamesjond0069]

I wish I could find girls like you to date. Sadly I feel like they don't exist.

[Anonymous]

No good traditional guys are still out there you just have to communicate or be upfront and ask I'm in college as a guy looking for a traditional girl we are still out there

[mattygfromtheMD]

where have you been all my life?

[sweetnothings]

sounds like me :)