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1) If you ask for opinions a guys will probably give you his straight forward opinion.
2) If he doesn’t find her attractive, he’s out of her league so it doesn’t matter if she’s also out of his league. Not every one is meant to bread together.
3) Why do you care, you’re nothing special they aren’t judging you.
I don't know it just bothers me when it happens bc that's what they all seem to care about and it creates this unrealistic standard. Like we'll never be good enough
No one is good enough to attact every single person. Everyone has their own preferences and find different people attractive for different reasons. Just because someone is famous doesn’t mean they are the paradigm to follow. They’re just another person. They’re not special because they are famous or rich. Someone in Hollywood liked them and promoted them, it wasn’t a democratic process to put them in that position so some people might think they are attractive and others will not.
Look I know and understand that they may not meet everyones attraction standards. But it's just the way they go about it. Their mannerisms. How they point out every flaw. The bad things they say and call her. That's what pisses me off. Mostly when theyve got enough flaws themselves that they shouldn't be judging and criticizing others that way
Then don't put those girls on display to be critiqued. Like I said guys will usually give you a no nonsense answer. It will likely be insensitive, but it will be straight forward and how they feel.
You can give a straightforward answer, you can give your opinion but I always believe you can do it respectfully.
Guys don’t tend to tip toe for the sake of sensitivity especially for someone they don’t know or care about. Girls tend to glamorize random nobodys and those people don’t register as important to guys. We’ll be considerate to people close to us that have earned our respect, but that consideration doesn’t extend blindly to random celebrities. They don’t deserve respect just because they are famous. That’s horse shit.
Like I said it's happened in real life as well so it's not only to celebs but about girls they know in real. Friends, mutuals etc... but doesn't everyone deserve respect. I mean also everyone sees those comments online. The celebs aren't the only ones affected by those comments
"but doesn't everyone deserve respect"
So you're telling me you respect Adolf Hitler?
Oh my God I mean normal people not fuckin mass murdering psychopaths. Everyone deserves respect until they prove that they dont deserve it.
So everyone doesn’t deserve respect… So now you’re negotiating on the gradients of people that do deserves it… Thus respect is something that is individual that people have to earn. Some people give it more easily than others. You obviously don’t respect average looking guys and they obviously don’t respect selfie taking attention seekers. So maybe you’ll just have to learn to agree to disagree.
I'm sorry but what in the world makes you assume I dont respect average looking guys? Nothing I've mentioned pointed to that. I've never claimed to be anything more that average so what makes me superior to others to not give them basic respect. I'm sorry but you dont know me to claim that. I feel like respect shouldn't be earned but should always be given when dealing with people, with strangers, with colleagues. Basically anyone until they prove that they are unworthy of that respect. "Selfie taking attention seeker" seriously? We were having a discussion you turned it around before it could even get to the "agree to disagree" part.
I guess it's all the generalizations you made about them because obviously their not all the same person. You saw a few blue accounts on the internet say some things you thought were negative and all the sudden all average guys where responsible for their actions. You certainly don't respect average guys enough to give each one a fair shake on their own mirits. Nothing more than hypocrisy...
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I did not generalize, you only assumed I did making you the hypocrite. I mentioned in my question that I dont think all guys do this, not even most guys. I just think that many do. You're the one who's too dense to accept that. Also it's not only online but I have witnessed it irl as well. I do respect average guys, who am I not to. I'd respect them until they gave their opinions in a disrespectful manner or start calling girls ugly and pointing out their flaws. Why are you so easily triggered tho. Not unless you're one of them?
Hypocrisy: the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform; pretense.
“Why are average looking guys so opinionated about attractive looking girls” -AdelinaAmbrosia
That is a generalization about average looking guys. You are making a judgement about a guys behavior based on how attractive you think he looks. You also seem to have a problem with men judging women based on how attractive they find them. Thus you are claming it is morally wrong for them to do it, while you do it at the same time. I didn’t do anything like that. You did. Learn the meaning of works before you go nah ah you!
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You know what I updated the question. If you wanna bother understanding better instead of spewing bullshit you can go ahead read that. If not, I can't be bothered having a decent convo with you bc you're always in attack mode
Fuck off you twit. You've been spewing bullshit since you started this post. I just exposed you for what you’ve been doing and now your mad about it.
That's like asking why have an opinion in general. Most people state their opinion on things they might be interested in or might not be.
like food, you see a sandwich and you state if it looks good or not and give reasons why lol.
Check my update
Ahh, I see, I see!!! I mean I get what you're getting at but you have to see it from these people perspective, they aren't going to see themselves as less than or unattractive, so to them there judging these other people/ attractive people as if they're on the same level.
I mean yeah noone should be attacking someones flaws and appearance as if there some god or goddess with none themselves, but its just society norms nowadays you know. People roast others based on appearance, just like people judge others on appearance.
I mean there's other factors such as movies, tv, makeup... so many things that focus on appearance that persuade this level of behavior, but that could be a whole discussion haha.
Yea you're so right. I've gotten many replies. There are apparently many reasons although it doesn't justify their actions it explains it. Thanks for your reply:)
haha, no problem! thanks for the engaging and interesting question :)
And thank you for your involvement :)
Jealousy? I don't know... i'm average i think but i can accept the fact that there're much better looking people out there.
I think guys/girls do this to make themself feel 'prettier' somehow.
They want to make themself feel good. That's what i think.
I think it’s a lot of bravado and like the mythical sour grapes. Girls who feel envious or jealous of girls they deem prettier than them get insecure too. Then they look at the pretty girls hatefully searching for flaws. Beauty is a curse in these ways.
If I say a girl isn't good looking to me or isn't my type it has nothing to do with how I look, its how she looks TO ME. It doesn't matter thay I'm ugly, I'm still allowed to have preferences. What so only attractive girls should be allowed to not like someone's appearance now? I don't know about you but to me like that's a double standard.
I never said only attractive girls should be allowed to not like someone's appearance. You're twisting my words. The whole judging a persons looks thing doesn't seem so acceptable to me. Anyone my not think someone is physically not they're type. But to point out things and pick them out one by one, that's what I dont like. For Both genders
Pointing out specifics or just saying you don't like the appearance as a whole shouldn't matter if you think about it. Besides if the girl is so out of our leagues why should she even care what a lowly, ugly guy is saying in the first place? Your questions was explicitly aimed at guys, and I know exactly what you meant.
Yea it was explicitly aimed at guys bc I have noticed it from guys a lot "personally". I did mention girls do it as well. It just seems for me that girls have the bar lower than guys when it comes to looks department.
Hahaha I like your username by the way
I've had my appearance picked apart by girls for my entire life, but I realize I can't stop people from thinking I'm unattractive. I'm also not going to silence their opinions just because they are lower on the attractiveness scale (which doesn't really exist because attraction is subjective) than me. I understand that my attraction to them and their attraction to me are two separate issues and shouldn't interfere with each other.
Yes but like you said having your appearance picked apart has affected you in some way. In my opinion, if you wanna give your opinion, do it respectfully, if you have nothing good to say dont say anything at all. That affects peoples self esteem and confidence. And that's why I'm against it bc most of the time they're rude and disrespectful.
Girls wear makeup and take 1000 selfies to get the one they share. On the other hand, men dont wear makeup and won't take more than 2 selfies. So just because the IG photo is more attractive looking, most of these girls are not that attractive. I worked in modeling industry for a few years, supposed hot girls are not really that hot.
Plus also what you deem not to be attractive other girls might. I dont think I've ever had a girl say im average looking. I get hot and sexy a lot... and i also get ugly a lot. Im very hair and rough looking so i can see thats not every girls type but just because you may not be into a certain kind of dude doesn't mean they dont have 20 girls trying to get with them.
They try to create a bad image of her in their minds to justify the incapability to sleep with them. Because they would happily bed them, but since they can't, they as well make it sound like they have options.
So just because someone is run of the mill in terms of looks they have no right or say on how attractive they find a model's aesthetic beauty? That is so retarded.
And this is typical double standards. "Normal average" or ugly looking girls judge and downplay very good-looking guys on how they find them unattractive all the time as well.
Dumb thread.
It's just something that was on my mind. y'all so aggressive man shit. Calm down. Plus I have mentioned that girls do it as well but personally I've noticed it a lot in males. I'm sorry If that pisses you off. My whole question was why can't they be respectful about the whole thing and just not call her names or put them down with their words.
I am not "pissed off". I was kind of trying to trigger you. But I see where you are coming from.
People just like to put others down to make up for their insecurities that they themselves have. Maybe they are in general just bitter, resentful and envious individuals.
That's just what I think.
Okay I think I agree with the reasons you mentioned. Thanks for your input ✌🏻
And you say you see guys do it more than girls. But I have seen girls that like to gossip and judge guys more than guys. So it's just an opinion of perspective.
Oh but back in highschool the guys were the biggest gossip queens. So yea perspective like you said. Like one thing I really hate is gossip and judging so...
Wait I mean the girls did as well dont get me wrong. Both genders did. But perhaps that's highschool bs
Well, first they are probably insecure. Second they are probably trying to get the girl by making them feel bad about themselves and then "lucky" that they "dignified" themselves to even look at them.
I think you might just be getting caught up with your own hypothesing. Is this theory re true, close to true, a little bit true? I think it's worth asking yourself because I am noticing quite a lot of flaws in the context here.
Okay so it's just a theory due to what I've noticed personally and I have mentioned that. And like I said it's just something I wanted to discuss to see what others opinions about it are. Also it just seemed that everytime I've asked people about it irl they have agreed with me. So you just my own hypothesis, no studies or backed up evidence, never mentioned that there was any.
Sure, my point though is that you shouldn't get carried away with it. People can very easily be mislead by their own ideas and come to believe in them even past the moment they are disproven. It happens become ideas are seductive and people are easily fascinated with things that strike their imagination. When it happens people become crazy, and I am just cautioning you to avoid that instance, because to me this doesn't seem all that well thought out. It seems like you could work on understanding it a bit better.
Also, never rely on popular opinion for either truth or facts. You only need to observe an individual to know they are almost always mistaken about anything, a collection of people only increases this tendancy.
I mean I don't think I'm getting carried away with it. It was only something that sometimes crossed my mind. It doesn't make up a large portion of my life or whatever. So yea like I said just a topic of discussion.
By all means have thoughts, ideas, talk about it, etc. I don't expect people to have elaborately refined explainations for whatever crosses their mind. There's always a process and time that goes into it. But that time also requires some critical thought too otherwise things get a little strange.
Anyways, I might jump back here to ask some more questions or start a discussion, but at the moment I have to go. So, take care until then I suppose.
Alright man, you tooo and I appreciate the input on it :)
Are the guys doing this in real life, or on the Internet?
Both
Like let me give an example. I had this teacher and we were all friends like students and teachers. She was fit, fashionable, she had a pretty face, she was kind. And this guy. He was out of shape, wore the same outfit for a week, didn't look like anything special. And hed always give opinions about the teacher's looks. And he wasn't even respectful about it. She wasn't there when he did ofc but it always bothered me. Like she looks much better than him anyone could attest to that. And it wants only about her he did it quite a lot about girls apearances.
Well, the Internet doesn't count at all. As for real life, it's pretty easy to critique or turn down something you'll never have a chance to have. There was a question on here about a week ago. It involved receiving 10 million dollars in exchange for something bad. Most guys turned it down, in order to act noble. But what are they really turning down? Nothing. If you want, I'll give you a billion virtual dollars today. Let me know.
That guy you described is extremely insecure. A lot of people are like that. The only way they can elevate their status, is by attempting to lower yours. That's really all they got in their bag of tricks. I just try my best to just ignore them.
You're right. Thank you for replying and for being respectful about sharing your opinion. Appreciate your input :)
That's why we're here.
It's just guys trying to act cool in front of their bros. Kinda like how girls wanna look badarse in front of her friends by turning down guys who approach.
Because some believe there is more than just looks and show off.
And some have confidence to have a gain in the situation.
Others are just passing their time commenting.
And some are jealous or in bad mood that they dont get such girls.
Try sticking to get opinions to your question.😂
Arguing or telling others about your thinking does not affect anyone here, it's waste of time.
Looks aren't everything. Personality is what counts the most. It's nice to have features that a guy likes about someone. Us guys have our own opinions about a girl we don't all like the same things about someone. It's bound to be different.
This goes both ways, I've seen plenty of below average women on Tinder feeling entitled to an athletic, tall, sugar daddy.
to make themselves feel better in some weird way.
like if they can find flaws in people more attractive then that means "everyone has flaws" and they're not so bad
These Instagram models are way to glamorous for the average guy. Its really excessive. Girls like the glam in these models but guys really dont. What you think is attractive we really dont consider attractive. An average man would rather have Grace Kelly than Kylie Jenner if its about beautiful women.
What if these guys genuinely don't find the girl attractive? And i guess only good looking guys are allowed to say they don;t find a certain girl attractive. a lot of girls have a big ego & depend on their looks to get them attention, but when a guy of lower value has a different opinion, all hell breaks loose & that women get's offended over it. And tell me, what else do attractive women have to offer besides looks?
What else do attractive woman have to offer besides looks? Seriously? I don't know maybe her fucking brain. Talents. Personality. Anything else other than that shallow answer.
I said that because it seems like for you girls all you to have are looks. But honestly they're not a big priority depending on the guy. And your comment about average guys is not a little shallow isn't it? We're all shallow in some form way by the way
This is a people problem, not a guy problem. You just only see the one side of it because you're a female with all your female biases.
Females bias maybe but a lot did agree with me. But I can also admit, like someone mentioned in the comments, that many girls do this about other girls as welll.
By the way, this may give you a little perspective...
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Girls actually do it more than guys.
Wheres that from a dating site?
Yes, from OK Cupid.
Personally, I don't have much attraction without getting to know the person. So I'm more likely to point out flaws of someone I haven't talked to.
That being said, I still think I can do better than celebs in the looks department...