Because I dated one. It is scary. It was the most horrible thing ever. He accused me of shit that didn't even happen. <_< I had to ask which zone of the universe was I or him in.
It was like walking on eggshells. Every time I got my hair done every time I brought a new outfit. My skirts are too short (which is true but he knew that when he met me. I like showing off my long legs)
I was stuck up. I can go on for days! Like hiding behind my apartment building and spying. Doing late night drive-bys like he was the damn FBI or something.
omg, the list could go on and on and on. Never again. I have never accused a guy of anything.
Maybe it the fact I do have a carefree way about love or whatever. You can't control people. Not possible and too much work. I don't carry the trait I can't relate nor be with people who are. I understand that a little bit is supposed to be healthy? so they say.
But someone who accuses you even when sitting together and the waiter and I supposedly smiled too hard at each other and he ready to whip my ass and the waiters' ass?
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All of the above. Guys are twice as like to kill another man with a fist, while women will use a weapon. Somebody is going to lose their friendship and it never ends well, besides your feelings getting hurt. Like some have said, many are control freaks, and very possessive for the wrong reasons. It is understandable if you married, but still not a healthy reason. But if you're not married to them legally, you have no control over somebodies life. It's about RESPECT. Slight jealousy because of insecurity is a natural response to what you want to protect and love. It is NOT healthy when you think your entitled and legally besides morally, you do not have that right. I find that he thinks less of himself and not secure in himself enough to talk to me about it instead of seething behind my back. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect anybody's relationship, let alone any relationship I have with people. And most importantly, I REFUSE to be provoked to anger and jealousy on purpose. If somebody has to do that to me deliberately, its over.
Jealousy is good... it means they actually like you and scared to lose you..
Lack of jealousy does not mean trust.. when there’s no jealousy at all, that’s when you should worry... they might not even care about you...
Of course there’s always excessive jealousy, which can be dangerous... that type of relationship should end as soon as you notice any signs of wanting to own you and such... it’s not a sign of care, or love but rather obsession and mentally ill that can end up in death. Scary,
But anyway, jealousy in itself is not unattractive.. unless they over do it like I said lack off or too much.
Jealousy indicates you're insecure. Not being jealous doesn't mean being oblivious or an idiot, though. But is not necessary to be controlling when there are other ways to establish trust and communication.
To me, you just look like a pathetic insecure guy who willingly ruins a relationship because of his insecurities.
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Because it's an indication of insecurity in most cases, it can also be a sign of possessiveness.
It's normal to feel a touch jealous, but if it's a clear trait in a guy I avoid it.It's fucking hot. It's a high testosterone trait to be very competitive with other males, and so jealousy is a sign of that. Not the opposite. I love his raw primal protective aggression. It makes me feel safe, and loved, and it's so bloody cute when he gets all huffy and puffy about other males. Protecting ones territory is masc.
I think it’s cute until the point of him controlling who I hang out with. I understand if he doesn’t want me to spend alone time with a guy friend unless it’s work related but it crosses the line if he tries to get me to stop talking to guy friends and shames me for my clothing choice
I don't know, I always found jealous guys much more attractive than the others it mean he care and want to keep me to himself. Make me feel loved. If the guys aren't jealous I feel like he don't care for me at all.
In this situation I would find it cute and surely say something like "Aw honey don't be mad, you're still my favorite guy" or something like that. Then smile cutely. Smile usually lead the anger away.If it's little jealousy like being jealous at me talking to a guy, or wanting me to cover up if I'm wearing shorts, it can be cute but if he goes full on blocking me from talking to friends because they're guys, stoping me from going out with friends or not allowing me to wear certain clothes then it gets unattractive. Especially if he gets clingy. Otherwise, it's cute and shows that he cares when he gets all sulky or huffy.
What's not unattractive about insecure, possessive control freaks?
Jealousy is equally unattractive for both sexes because it indicates a lack of trust.
It's not as long as it doesn't involve over-possessiveness and violence.
A little isn't bad and I think it shows he cares about u. However if this happens too often and around everyone.. like cousins , friends etc then its not cute.
It’s annoying. If I spend enough time with him and don’t give him reason to suspect I’d cheat, jealousy is just petty and unnecessary.
Jealousy can be attractive depending on why and how it's expressed. I would be concerned if my partner didn't get jealous sometimes.
There's a limit where it borders into the red flags of abusive relationships.
I think it's a little strange when a guy is possessive over a girl that he's not in relationship with.
Jealousy (at a certain degree) is important for a healthy relationship as long as both sides can talk it out and find solutions on how to keep the dealings with one another respectful.It stems from insecurity or distrust in our partners. It is unattractive when anyone does it.
It's possessive and violent and scary
I find jealousy attractive in a guy
Jealousy is ALWAYS unattractive
Because it's a female trait. Don't ne a pussy.
Because lacking emotional intelligence is inherently unattractive.
My girlfriend sometimes tries to get me jealous, she likes it
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