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Some Males find the very thought of something like a baby coming out of the vagina disturbing and there is not a lot you can, See if you can record the birth so if he feel comfortable in the future he can watch it.
Time for him to man-up. If he can get a woman pregnant, he can be in the delivery room. Just tell him it's not an option, and then go to preparation classes with him.
He can turn his head whenever he wants to, or be facing toward you, with his back partially toward you vaginal area. He doesn't need to see anything he doesn't want to see.
You can't make him be there. About all you can do, it let him know, in a serious conversation, how much it would mean to you, if he were there.
Many guys pass out in the delivery room. It can be hard for them. Don't be harsh with him. Maybe try to discuss it more openly and find a middle ground.
To be honest I wouldn't want to be there either, does it mean i dont love the girl and baby? Not at all... ill be outside waiting for the finished product lmao
but i need him there
Are there not any other female friends or family that can be there? Why exactly do u need him there?
cuz he is my boyfrined and father to our baby
He doesn't want to. You want to. What can I say? I'm going to sound like a prick but your just going to have to women up and get on with it...
I dont really see the big deal tbh i know couples that have done the same. They still love the baby togethor
Some people just can't deal with it and simply don't want to be there
but i need him there with me to help me and our baby girl
If all he would do is pass our he will be more off a issue then help
he could sit in a chair why should he get out of being there when i cannot
You do understand men being in the room is still a new concept right?
yeah but it has been round for 50 years and it is widly seen as normal nowadays anyway
What's seen as normal don't mean he can deal with again I know it seems unfair but if he won't go in there is not much you can do
i know but then he would have to wait outside until i am ready for him to come in so he could be waiting up to an hour to see her as i would have to get clean and what not plus there is the bonding hour after birth which only the birth partnar is allowed in for so
Then explain this too him but I don't see that mattering
so could you wait for up to an hour to see your child after they where born even when you had the chance to be in the room right from the start
Again it's not that abnormal not wanting to be
it may not be abnormal but still could you wait up to an hour just to see your baby even when you had the chance to be there from the start
Or he goes in after you pushed it out?
but that would not work as no one is allow in the room right after the birth unless you are a birth partnar or medical staff so cuz he is not one of them he would have to wait for me to get cleaned up and baby will be checked plus the bonding hour too then he would be allowed in which would be about an hours or 2 after the birth so
Then if he don't want to go in he waits
but i dont get why wait when you can be there from the start
plus i want him to hear her first crys and her first breath with me as a family
What u want don't matter if he don't want it
yeah i know but i dont get it is all why would you miss the birth of your daughter
Because he don't want to be in the room for some reason or anotherblol it's that simple
i get that but can i ask would you miss the birth of your daughter if the mother was welcomeing you in the room for the birth
Blood and gore don't bother me lol I told my girl I'll be in the room might even bring a camera 🤣
hell no i will not allow it to be recored lol
And that's good for you but again that's a simply indifference between us lol
Ayyyyyy good on him and congratulations
thanks i think he was doing it to annoy me lol as when we got to the hospital he was like lets do this honey lol hell he even looked down there as she came out lol and i think he held a leg at one point lol
You wouldn't expect him to make you do something you don't want to do... why make him do something he doesn't want to do
as it is his child i am having
Still... a lot of fathers can't stand it. My cousins husband didn't go in the delivery room and she was fine with it. Their second child came and he was there with her. So it just depends. But still you wouldn't expect him to make you do something you don't want to do right?
but i need him for surpport this is our first baby and i am not ok with him not being in there
Well then tell him you need him but he can stay up by your head.
i have said all that but nope he won't listen to me
I'm sorry your up against this and all Women wants
their Men in the delivery room when she is going to
give childbirth sorry he is wrong and you need to tell
him so.
I'm glad he was there for you :) :)
yeah i think he was doing it to annoy me lol as when we got to the hospital he was like lets do this lol
Yeah that is good. Congratulations on your newborn and to you and your boyfriend !!!
thanks lol she is a perfect little baby i would kiss her all over if i ever get to hold her again daddy always has her in his arms lol
Aww that is so sweet :) :)
lol not for me i need my baby time too lol you know lol
Yes i know lol
Tell him you really need him there, tell him he'd help you be strong, tell him he needs to see his kid the first time...
Tell him he doesn't have to look in there but he should st least be near her bed holding her hand
Seriously, I wish more guys got this * face palm *
Tell him he can be up by your head and he won't have to see that stuff but can still be there for you at the same time. It is a win for both of you that way.
maybe tell him that he can be in the room with you but doesn't have to look (he can just face you/the wall)
it is the me being in pain which he does not want to see aswell as he says he would be the reason for that which i think is dumb
tell him that its not him that causes the pain and that its just part of the process. Again I recommend that you tell him that he can be in the room but doesn't have to look where he is not comfortable. as long as he is present. otherwise he will regret the moment for the rest of his life.
i know but he won't listen to me at all over this
is there a way to find videos or something that might support your argument
there may be but would have too look for them my fear is i go into labor be before i talk him into be there as im 35 weeks already
Why do you care if he watches the birth? That's the question you should be asking yourself.
i need him for surpport plus it is his baby too
You'll have other people for support medical staff or another family member/friend if you want someone you're close to, it is his baby so he should have the right to decide if he wants to watch the birth it's really no big deal. If he doesn't want to be in the delivery room it's stupid to force him to come in he won't get anything from it, he can wait outside and come in once the baby has been born.
but then he would not be allow in the room right after the birth as unless you are a birth partnar or medical staff you are not allowed in so cuz he is not one of them he would have to wait for me to get cleaned up and baby will be checked plus the bonding hour too then he would be allowed in which would be about an hour or 2 after the birth so
Well this is recommended but it's not usually forced with the father, at least it wasn't when I gave birth. Even if it is the cases though as long as he knows that and is okay with that I still don't see why it's a problem, let him do this his way as I'm sure you'll do it yours.
but i wanted to hear her first cry and see her first breath togther as a family you know plus i wanted to have that bonding hour with her and my boyfriend as a family as i just wanted us for the labor and delivery no one else and i do not get why he would wait 1 or 2 hours to see our baby girl when he could have been in the room as a birth partnar so he could be with her 24/7 like me righ from when she was born as i have no problem him seeing anything down there or anything it is all on his side that is the problem and can i ask was your babys dad in the room for delivery
He wasn't no, the thought made him uncomfortable so I respected that as you should. I can understand why you'd want this but he clearly feels being in the delivery room has more cons than pros. He'll miss the first hour or two even if he isn't allowed in which is unlikely as he is the father. You said it yourself, it's all on his side so you need to respect that as this is just as important and life changing for him as it is for you and he should be allowed to do it his way.
but i read the non birth partnars cannot come in or see the baby until im on the ward or something so that would mean waiting until i have delivered the after birth got cleaned up, baby been checked and had the hour bonding which could take up to 2 hours
Get him to wear a blindfold and be in there holding ur hand until the baby’s all cleaned up?
do you really think they will let him wear a blindfold lol
can't hurt to try 😌
lol one can hope
Nothing. It's his choice.
Your puss is going to be torn apart, bloody as hell, and you're going to poop.
It would be like watching his favourite pub burn to the ground.
Men that think like this shouldn't be allowed to procreate.
Fuckin' hell, women have to go through so much to give men blood related children. I hate saying this phrase, but it's very much needed here: man the fuck up. her pussy is not a pub, its not a place where you dick around and then leave. It's a fucking organ that takes your shit and gives you more shit to carry your name and be proud of. Have some respect.
You think it's easy to have kids?
You think females aren't scared shitless thinking of it?
And yet men complain that it's gross, and that they can't see the girl the same way again. DAHM RIGHT. She's a mother now, not your whore
@virginbish You sound like a wonderful sex positive lady. Not.
I don't think you should have kids, but given your attitude to sex and whores, you're probably a spinster for life.
Proud of it 👌
Damn you procreated with a pansy! Call him a pansy and he'll be butt hurt and will end up doing it.
i dont think he is a pansy
Well he doesn't have to watch. Like the others said, he can just be in the room and look the other way.
but all the birth vids we have watched (first baby ) show the women with her legs wide open and everything can be seen no matter what so i think that scared him off from the idea plus it is the me being in pain which he does not want to see aswell as he says he would be the reason for that which i think is dumb
Shoot the baby out IN HIS FACE
Or he wants to run away forever and change his name before the baby even sees him 🤔
we planned this baby lol
lmao
I think I'd be able to hold your hand without looking at the baby coming out
He can stay by your damn head but he will forever regret not seeing his baby being born🤷♀️
I totally understand him watching someone give birth is so gross, personally I feel dizzy just thinking about it ><
Well after personally see a baby coming out of you be prepared for him to never want to have sex with you again and him finding someone else. It's pretty intence to watch... sure stand by your wife's side but watching is not always advisable