I don't know why guys have the need to see a woman smile. I have a friend who, whenever sees me starts to joke and tease and when I smile he is all happy and says that nothing feels better than to make me smile with few words or a simple gesture
But this isn't about staring or glancing at someone. It's about you walking about doing things in public whatever it is. Meaning you are walking around in thought.
Of course we all look better smiling, it's weird and creepy if you're walking about thinking about what you must do for your day and someone comes up to you and tells you to smile.
How many men have come up to you and said this? Only include people you have never seen before in your life, are out of your social circle and wouldn't have any way of asking around about you.
If someone you know does it, it's probably out of a good intention. They mean well and may think at times you're feeling low. That being said let's get real. Do you really think asking someone to do something that takes a second, spreads happiness, promotes good feelings and makes you look good is that bad? Specially if it doesn't cost you anything? And do you seriously want me to believe you confronted these guys or told them it bothers you and they still ask you?
Granted, I should have specifically stated that it bothers me, "I don't want to" doesn't seem to cut it.
Smiling because someone told you to, does not give me happiness since it would be a fake smile. I don't care about looking good, I'm there to do my job, that's it. One instance was when I was just sitting on my forklift and doing some paperwork. This dude drives up next to me, asks me a question, and then says "smile". Or another instance when I was just minding my own business organizing some merchandise when this dude from afar asks me why I'm not smiling.
I don't know these people. We are not friends. We do not socialize. They are just a bunch of random dudes at my job.
The thing that people don't seem to understand is that some people just give off the look of feeling low. It's just the way our face naturally looks when it's relaxed. It doesn't mean I'm mad or sad. It's just the way my face looks.
At times when my face is relaxed people have asked me why I'm mad or what am I so angry about. I tell them exactly what you said, it's just my face. I have never told anyone to smile. I simply try to relieve them off any stress they have, but only my friends. I honestly have no idea why the dudes bother you or what they want out of this. All I can say is if I had to guess it would seem they're doing this to piss you off because you may have reacted negatively in the past and some people are simply sadists. And I apologise on their behalf but I assure you this is most definitely not a guy thing. Or a Normal good guy thing. As far as the polite way is concerned, try this - I've noticed that you really like to see me smile and normally it should seem sweet, but I honestly don't know and I'm here at my job trying to work. I'm not a clown and I cannot keep smiling all the time. If only you could just stop telling me to, that would be great. I'm not sad or need your help, thank you.
Considering we’ve been oppressed for the past 15,000 years, I’d say starting to rise to an equal stance in society isn’t just “complaining”. And don’t say something along the lines of “angry feminist” because when the u. s legally had slavery, people would say stuff like that in regard to abolitionists as well. I wouldn’t tell you to smile— don’t tell me too. And most men wouldn’t tell a man frowning to smile either.
What about the fact that only now, within a little under a century, are women allowed to attend universities for the first time EVER? How about the fact that in parts of the modern world (as in 2019) young girls (ten or so) are still forced to marry men in their fifties, and have children. As an American woman, I have more freedom than almost any other woman since the Neolithic revolution. But nonetheless, women before me (my grandmother, for instance) were forced to be a housewife, and have kids as her sole purpose— her sole purpose was to serve someone else. Childhood marriage. Cult of domesticity. Lack of suffrage. Pay gap. I can’t walk home with out getting catcalled, and I can’t go to work without fearing for my life. Men doing things like this, seemingly mundane and obsolete, is the product of thousands of years of oppression. So, yeah. Don’t tell me to fucking smile more, I’ll look how I want to look.
@FýrdracaDócincel Have you ever studied world history? Everything is connected. In a nut shell, the agricultural revolution led to specialization of labor which led to social hierarchy which led to the patriarchy and a long fucking time later it led to a douche bag on the street telling me to smile more. Think about it like this: the context I listed prior enabled the patriarchy to develop makeup. Make up enhances feminine features, thereby holding every woman to high standards of beauty. This includes a smile. And this constant (fake) smile, in the face of any adversary, is not expected to be worn by men.
@FýrdracaDócincel but it’s not anymore. In the U. S., it’s primarily used by women, and so it’s the cultural norm for women to look better than they actually do, while men still look human
Jesus christ, so many feminist tears in this thread. Imagine being so privileged you are rendered a sweating crying mess of tears and temper tantrums over a guy that told you to smile.
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Guys are telling you to smile because that is their weak pick up line to see if you will start a conversation with them.
Number one it helps 2 make less wrinkles. Another is a happy face makes u look better. Smiling is good for the soul.
I do not really know as I myself do not tell women (or men) to smile, the only thing I can think of is that they think it makes them look "cute".
I don't know why guys have the need to see a woman smile. I have a friend who, whenever sees me starts to joke and tease and when I smile he is all happy and says that nothing feels better than to make me smile with few words or a simple gesture
I smile at people in passing, it's friendly. You just stare or glance at someone and it comes off as rude or hostile.
But this isn't about staring or glancing at someone. It's about you walking about doing things in public whatever it is. Meaning you are walking around in thought.
Lmao they do it to my mom all the time. She cusses them out. I however am forever smiling
It's no secret both genders look better smiling but to say to a complete stranger is pretty weird and creepy
Of course we all look better smiling, it's weird and creepy if you're walking about thinking about what you must do for your day and someone comes up to you and tells you to smile.
I have never once seen this happen. I've certainly heard people complain about it though.
I don't do this but I think the guys who do, just want to see you light up a room
How many men have come up to you and said this? Only include people you have never seen before in your life, are out of your social circle and wouldn't have any way of asking around about you.
For me, at least 6 or 7 at work. Some people ask on more than one occasion.
If someone you know does it, it's probably out of a good intention. They mean well and may think at times you're feeling low.
That being said let's get real.
Do you really think asking someone to do something that takes a second, spreads happiness, promotes good feelings and makes you look good is that bad? Specially if it doesn't cost you anything?
And do you seriously want me to believe you confronted these guys or told them it bothers you and they still ask you?
Whatever happened to politely asking people not to do something?
Granted, I should have specifically stated that it bothers me, "I don't want to" doesn't seem to cut it.
Smiling because someone told you to, does not give me happiness since it would be a fake smile.
I don't care about looking good, I'm there to do my job, that's it. One instance was when I was just sitting on my forklift and doing some paperwork. This dude drives up next to me, asks me a question, and then says "smile". Or another instance when I was just minding my own business organizing some merchandise when this dude from afar asks me why I'm not smiling.
I don't know these people. We are not friends. We do not socialize. They are just a bunch of random dudes at my job.
The thing that people don't seem to understand is that some people just give off the look of feeling low. It's just the way our face naturally looks when it's relaxed. It doesn't mean I'm mad or sad. It's just the way my face looks.
And I guess I haven't figured out a polite way to tell someone to shut up because usually when I say things like that, it comes off as being rude.
At times when my face is relaxed people have asked me why I'm mad or what am I so angry about. I tell them exactly what you said, it's just my face.
I have never told anyone to smile. I simply try to relieve them off any stress they have, but only my friends.
I honestly have no idea why the dudes bother you or what they want out of this. All I can say is if I had to guess it would seem they're doing this to piss you off because you may have reacted negatively in the past and some people are simply sadists.
And I apologise on their behalf but I assure you this is most definitely not a guy thing. Or a
Normal good guy thing.
As far as the polite way is concerned, try this -
I've noticed that you really like to see me smile and normally it should seem sweet, but I honestly don't know and I'm here at my job trying to work. I'm not a clown and I cannot keep smiling all the time. If only you could just stop telling me to, that would be great. I'm not sad or need your help, thank you.
I only had women ask me why I smile so much even if I wasn't smiling at them. WTF
Never seen anyone ask that of a woman IRL.
How odd... the only time I can think of when I would ask a stranger to smile I will follow up the request with "You're on candid camera!"
They want to start a convo but it’s not a good kick starter, sounds like something old men say
Because girls look better with a smile on there face
It feels like all women do these days is complain about innocuous shit
Considering we’ve been oppressed for the past 15,000 years, I’d say starting to rise to an equal stance in society isn’t just “complaining”. And don’t say something along the lines of “angry feminist” because when the u. s legally had slavery, people would say stuff like that in regard to abolitionists as well. I wouldn’t tell you to smile— don’t tell me too. And most men wouldn’t tell a man frowning to smile either.
@cassettelock how dare you compare Women's experience with that f slaves.
@cassettelock
Angry feminist little shit.
It's smiling. That so horrible?
What about the fact that only now, within a little under a century, are women allowed to attend universities for the first time EVER? How about the fact that in parts of the modern world (as in 2019) young girls (ten or so) are still forced to marry men in their fifties, and have children. As an American woman, I have more freedom than almost any other woman since the Neolithic revolution. But nonetheless, women before me (my grandmother, for instance) were forced to be a housewife, and have kids as her sole purpose— her sole purpose was to serve someone else. Childhood marriage. Cult of domesticity. Lack of suffrage. Pay gap. I can’t walk home with out getting catcalled, and I can’t go to work without fearing for my life. Men doing things like this, seemingly mundane and obsolete, is the product of thousands of years of oppression. So, yeah. Don’t tell me to fucking smile more, I’ll look how I want to look.
Perhaps the real question is how dare you minimize the female experience as one who has never lived it?
@cassettelock
There's the things you mention..
.. and then there's the topic of smiling.
You're not royalty.
@FýrdracaDócincel Have you ever studied world history? Everything is connected. In a nut shell, the agricultural revolution led to specialization of labor which led to social hierarchy which led to the patriarchy and a long fucking time later it led to a douche bag on the street telling me to smile more. Think about it like this: the context I listed prior enabled the patriarchy to develop makeup. Make up enhances feminine features, thereby holding every woman to high standards of beauty. This includes a smile. And this constant (fake) smile, in the face of any adversary, is not expected to be worn by men.
@cassettelock
Makeup was originally used by dudes.
Boom.
@FýrdracaDócincel but it’s not anymore. In the U. S., it’s primarily used by women, and so it’s the cultural norm for women to look better than they actually do, while men still look human
@cassettelock then fight the power by not wearing makeup and not smiling. Meanwhile every other girl is doing their best to attract a partner.
complaining about women complaining... pure gold lol
@BrittBratt2416
That response has NEVER been viable. Pointing out that someone is complaining isn't complaining. It's calling you out.
Why do you need this explained to you?
Ye— I don’t do either
Jesus christ, so many feminist tears in this thread. Imagine being so privileged you are rendered a sweating crying mess of tears and temper tantrums over a guy that told you to smile.
I don't talk to strangers. It's my reserved and quite nature and it is not really a thing in my country. We keep our business to ourself.
I don't bother with strangers in real life lol. On gag, I tell them to smile only if they ask!
Because they treasure the smile and happiness of the ones they love
And won't when a person is crying of sorrow then will tell to smile
Awww cute 🤗
There are so many things in the world to make a person smile so we tend to ask females to smile because life has lots of reasons.
I've had a guy do that to me but I didn't take it bad at all.