This is by far one of the most annoying things I've experienced. Male strangers tend to say:
“Why don’t you ever smile?” “Just smile for me.” “You’d look better if you smiled.” “Smile sweetheart.”
I can't for the life of me understand why? Why would you feel the need to say that to a complete stranger? By the way I know this does not imply to all men, but most girls complain about this and even get angry when men do this.
Gurl I get this from both sexes, men and women are always telling me to smile especially when im at work. I think people do this, cause they assume you're having a bad day and try to get you to smile, guys may do it cause they see a beautiful woman they like and want to be the reason why she smiles. But anyway i hate when people tell me to smile, that shit irks me to the core.
Like sorry, some people have a condition known as RBS aka resting bitch syndrome and I happen to be one of those people. Just cause im not smiling every 5 damn seconds doesn't mean I'm having a bad day or pissed off, it just means my face is resting. Everyone has a resting face, it's like these people are clueless about it and don't look at other people walking in the mall or outside for example. Everyone has a resting face, no one is walking around with a smile plastered on their face.
So what's the point of me smiling for no damn reason? I smile all the time, but i usually do it when I'm TALKING to someone or HEAR something funny. If you see a motherf*cka just walking down the street street smiling and laughing their head off and they aren't talking to someone or listening to something, you better fucking run cause that mean's that person done snapped and about to go postal. But yeah... stop asking random people to smile.. the shits annoying lol
I know, this happens to me. One time I was so tired, id traveled by bus, was up days... and this guy at the bus station, said SMILE... pissed me. I think men think women are suppose to be beautiful for them, and show their pretty smile always... like were not human or something... so annoying I agree.
Happened to me many times as well and I completely agree. I was with a friend at a coffee shop and a guy came up to me and told me to smile. Thought it was really weird. Everytime I said something he just responded with "just smile" over and over. He did not want to leave our table until I smiled. Eventually a waiter got him to leave us alone.
Yeah weird, it's like they think we live to give them an erection. I mean, if its their way of being friendly, cheering us,,, sweet... but it just comes off rude usually. It's like why do I have to smile sir? for all he knows I just lost my kid, or mother, or something... people don't think. I believe in trying to smile, and brave the storms of life, sure... but for random men to keep saying smile smile smile, yeah it's out of line.
Several reasons: It is a way to exert control. An unsmiling woman threatens them. A smiling woman looks submissive, sexually receptive, or both. So, tell the scary unsmiling woman to look sexually receptive, and you'll feel better about yourself.
Sooo cringey, I have seen that happen a few times lol. You dont tell people to smile, you make them smile by telling a joke or cheering them up somehow.
Before anything else, fuck the guys that say that! I remember a huge fuss being made about this when many asked Captain Marvel to smile more. Well to be fair her character could show some emotions at all like sadness, anger, happyness, something. But that was a movie where the characters are supposed to captivating to the audience. In real life women aren't here to look captivating to us! Yes, because that is the reason guys ask them to do that. To look nicer, to look happier when they are around, to look more approachable and easy, "me me me"! It works like a green light of aproval for some guys.
To be clear sometimes it can come from good intentions. A guy want to see a girl happy so he asks "Why aren't you smilling?" is like a "Is everything oukey?". But that is a lot different and said with a completely different tone.
I fully agree. Like you said it depends on how they say it and they have good intentions. But overall you're spot on. That's why if some random stranger in public asks this, I won't smile nor respond because those situations often turn into a negative situation
Because approaching is hard enough as it is for most men, doing so when you have to deal with a rbf is even more challenging.
Guys want to approach you girls, if we didn't we'd be single for life. Imagine how you'd feel in that situation? Pretty useless and shit right? So we just want to see a glimmer of interest to help us be more confident when hitting you up.
If you're not interested that's fine, tell us so and we'll be on our merry way, but don't begrudge us for wanting to meet someone that looks happy rather than negative and standoffish.
@MusicMayhem You clearly completely missed the whole point of my question. This about walking around in public doing whatever we are doing, and a random guy tells you to smile. Sometimes not once or twice, but many times. No one walks around with a big smile on their face while walking around or being out and public, just like you guys, us girls have poker faces. So it's not negative and standoffish.
Because for those guys is valid the outdated norm "girls have to be pretty and smile" 🙄. Although in my case it's my girlfriend the one who keeps saying to me I need to smile.
Obviously your girlfriend saying it is normal * it's only weird when someone approaches you out of nowhere and tells you to smile. Friends and family it's not a big deal
Oh God, good question. I always wondered that as well. I've had that happened to me a lot when I used to go to university.
I remember there was this guy that I had no idea who he was that would see me every morning and kept telling me to smile lol like dude, it is 8am, I'm tired as fuck and have to go to class, nothing to smile about lol
There are many reasons people say that, first one is he likes you and wants to make you happy but he sees he is not getting proper response from you so he tries to go directly in that way he get feeling he didn't blow up whole situation. Second and I think most common is that people have specific feelings which is called EMPATHY, COMPASSION he sense you are not in the good mood and wants to cheer you up because in some way they feel they are hurted too.
That's not something men just say to women. I've heard it too many times and it gets annoying. My natural face is serious. I don't smile and I can't force myself to smile, and yet people say i should smile more because i look too serious.
I have a saying I use. I say to my friends and family. It is smile your are beautiful, you are loved and you are cared for. Every one goes through things but the point of the saying is there are people who care for you and the desire is to bring hope to that person. Un your circumstance it can be annoying as it seems like all they are trying to do is to cheer you up or bring some joy to you.
It is so annoying when they say that. Like you can't approach me and then demanding me to smile buddy it's your job to make me smile! I love what the girls in the pic are doing I will do the same thing next time.
This is an interesting question to me because I've never seen it happen in real life. I'm guessing they see you're cute and unhappy and want to cheer you up, and are not very smooth.
I have never heard any man in real life say that to a woman, I hang out with people my age, and some older people too. But I might ask "what's so funny" if someone is smiling and I can't figure out why.
I've never been told this by a stranger but people I know have asked me to smile more. I have a natural resting bitch face but on the inside I'm a pretty happy person. I just think i look weird smiling for no reason. I guess they just think I'm angry or something.
Thats because they either want to see you happy and having a good time. Or they really like your smile a lot. The first encounter always involves a beautiful woman smiling. That is my guess.
Guys wouldn't like it if they were told to smile while having a bad day. Just because it's attractive to you, doesn't mean we have to do it, or they should tell us to.
Everyone wishes they could be always happy with a smile on they're face. You are the only one who allows your day to persist in a disastrous moment And about insinuating... how aren't you !!
It's a forecast of events to come, unsettling esp. when the beginning of a day or date. He is with you for fun & games, otherwise he would do something else.
This is something that happens to anyone who has a serious face. Other people find it odd that you aren’t smiling and will ask if you are upset or sad. I don’t know about anyone else but it’s one of my biggest pet peeves
It’s funny because constantly smiling is more of a American expectation. If you go to Berlin, strangers smiling at you would seem insane. You don’t need to wear your emotions on your sleeve, you look like a lunatic. And also, why smile if something’s wrong? Why mask the pain of this world, when you don’t want to do so yourself. If someone’s happy, they’ll smile.
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