How do I resist rejoining MGTOW?

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From my experience I know, that MGTOW (Men going their own way) is no place for me or for winners.

However after the stinging experience of being ghosted and left alone, the break up made a total wreck of me for quite a long enough time. It left me burned and depressed (again). I'm back on my feet now, however, I completely stopped believing in love and girlfriends. Those do not exist for me.
I don't like MGTOW for painting women as the evil because that's ridiculous. Women aren't evil, they're our allies.

But MGTOW has very powerful methods in life to live decent as a single man unbothered by his single relationship status and completely suppressed of their natural desire to be loved by a woman. I can feel MGTOW calling for me. I feel myself gravitating towards MGTOW.
It's a new battle for me. Still better than the post break up effects.

What do I do?
Do I resist? Do I rejoin MGTOW?
I'm in the middle of that crossfire right now.

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I had a MGTOW phase. It's over now. I'm not going to join MGTOW. I knew it wasn't a rational thing to do.

However some of their items are still valuable, that can be subscribed to.

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*sigh* i need a girlfriend, not MGTOW.

IIGrifterSixII · Accepted Answer

By all social standards many MGTOW are more successful than the average 24 yo male.
but that aside:

MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way - is a statement of self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. It is the manifestation of one word: "No". Ejecting silly preconceptions and cultural definitions of what a man is. Looking to no one else for social cues. Refusing to bow, serve and kneel for the opportunity to be treated like a disposable utility. And, living according to his own best interests in a world which would rather he didn't.

In other words. . . common sense for men.

sov·er·eign·ty
ˈsäv (ə) rən (t) ē/
Noun. Meaning: Supreme power or authority. Autonomy, independence, self-government, self-rule, self-determination, freedom. Self-governing.

Its not about avoiding women or sex, its about taking them off the pedestal and taking care of you and your needs and desires. Young men seldom listen but you should educate yourself a bit more and reconsider MGTOW. else the odds of a crippling divorce are 50%. Women are looking out for #1 . You should too

UI_Vegeta01 · Accepted Answer

Funny thread mate. You asking this question just goes to show that you have acknowledged MGTOW and you are thinking about "joining" it. I would encourage you to go for it. Just don't get involved in the MGTOW groups if it doesn't suit you. Then you are good to go.

KaitieSearching · Accepted Answer

Just stop making females the center of your emotional world. Get validation from men you respect and from yourself. Do the self improvement thing for yourself. If you’re a good down to earth man that has the respect of other men then everything else will fall into place. Women would be lucky to get a man like that. But don’t do it for us. Keep the ball in YOUR court. Have standards for the people you associate with, even if they’re women you’re attracted to. Have a life and an ego that exists outside of women. You’ll do fine. Good luck!

nerms123 · Accepted Answer

you don't have to join any group like that to have a good life. You don't have to get married or date if or when you don't feel like it. And if at some point you DO feel like it, then you can always do it. So I think you really don't need to worry about MGTOW. As far as I understand, it's mostly internet based so you can just join other internet groups or even do meetups in real life based on your actual interests. And you can do those things either based on just finding friends or also for dating if that's what you really want.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

Resist! MGTOW is not the right way!
MGTOW always say they want to live without caring for women, they want to live ignoring women but in true they just want to get revenge on them for some reasons (depend on each person).
They say they want to live ignoring women but they keep talking about them. I watched plenty of video about it and their movement is not very logical.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Remind yourself why you 'left' MGTOW to begin with, and analyze if you really are at a state of mind where you can think about it without bias. When you are affected by some ghosting or something else your mind is biased and your decision isn't rational.

mélancolie · Answer

mgtow is litterally for fucking losers who are too stupid to realise that bc one woman was a bitch, it means all women are a bitch or for incels (who usually aren't ugly & litterally are fucking clueless about how unhygenic & weird they are and how that's why they can't get girls). mgtow is so fucking lame, it's like the lamest thing you could litterally be. it's even cringier than being an incel. don't join them lol. seriously.

anyways ik a breakup can be painful & i know it can make you scared of loving again and it can make you kinda paranoid in that way esp if your ex was a total bitch. many people feel that way. I even felt that way at some point after a bad breakup and I was like maybe I shouldn't bother dating. but the thing is that's not really the way to go bc, lets face, most people aren't assholes and having someone that you like & that likes you back is pretty dope and it would be sad to turn that down forever out of fear. ik you want to date and ig get married & have kids down the line, so tbh don't like reject that and work on getting over your fear of dating. don't listen to any loser that tells you otherwise, cos I mean they're losers (plus they're wrong too)

sejla · Answer

The key is learning how to not to take rejection personally. A lot of us get rejected all the time from co-workers, loved ones, friends and even random strangers. Sometimes we are doing things that cause these rejections and sometimes it's the other person. I guess being bullied in middle and high school for my looks I see everything after that point a step up.

Therapy helps a bit and getting older so you don't give a flip as much. Honestly there really no real reason to write off the entire opposite gender population. Maybe modern people think too much or this kind of thing goes back to our basic brain instincts of fright and flight to run from perceived danger.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I don't get it. Why resist? Maybe you have not learned your lesson yet. Some MGTOW guys are actually okay. If they are the types who simply are up front and honest with women. They do not want anything serious, they just want the sex then they are out.

Others are just whiny, unable to take responsibility, etc.

So if you still see some value there, I think you need to go back. I need whatever you decide you need to be confident in your choice and why you made it.

I don't think MGTOW is a good place for men seeking to make themselves into better people or becoming better men.

Anoniemus · Answer

lol. Look I don’t doubt that some are successful but they still complain about women. I doubt any get over their need for sexual satisfaction unless if they viscerally hate us.

They make dating easier for women and men.

N192K001 · Answer

Don't join M. G. T. O. W., but Men's Rights Movement.

M. G. T. O. W. will be inernally-corrosive to you. We can address problems without anger, hatred, bitterness, and resentment. Those are all-consuming, internally-corrosive cancers. Avoid such things like the plague.

madgoat · Answer

You do your research on all these movements , take the best and most appropriate doctrine from each, mix them together and make them yours. Then you make up your own damn mind.

Heartache0405 · Answer

The whole premise of mgtow is to do your own thing regardless of what women tell you. You can still date and be mgtow. Just know of the dangers affiliated with dating these days. Every man who is a part of mgtow lives the lifestyle differently. Some use it as a time to work on themselves until they feel they're ready to jump back into the tar pit.

DWD1994 · Answer

You shouldn't go MGTOW simply because you got ghosted. MGTOW is for men that have been screwed over with divorce court, alimony, child support, false accusations, have dealt with abusive women in their lives be it sisters, mothers, etc.

Going MGTOW because you got rejected or ghosted is going MGTOW for all the wrong reasons

Meatunnel69 · Answer

Go your own way but leave the door open for a woman to come into your life.

Anonymous · Answer

No one will force you to go down the MGTOW route, the majority of whom have never had any bad interaction with women, they are bachelors who only want to live their own lives in peace.
All of the 'stories' that paint any MGTOW in a bad light will have come from feminists who see MGTOW as a threat.

Anonymous · Answer

MGTOW is the natural result of the entitled spoiled narcissistic feminist indoctrinated fake victim complex that most women seem to have these days.

If all men realized that they are seen as a disposable entity to provide and protect for a group of entitled overly privileged group of fake victims who refuse to take responsibility or accountability for anything they do or say, we would all be MGTOW.

DCooper · Answer

If you "need" someone else to be complete, you're already set up for failure in the first place. Harsh, I know. But the minute that 'need' vibe pops up, she's gonna ghost (and for good reason).

Anonymous · Answer

if MGTOW was a phase for you you were never truly MGTOW then. because once your eyes open you can't go back to being a blue pill man. and women ARE evil. they don't want to be and they're not aware of it but they are. so the best way to associate with them is to get what you want and leave them with their BS. i myself am not burning all the bridges behind me. i'll be interested in a woman who meets my expectations but if i never find her i know i'll be fine avoiding all the bad apples

joeblow123 · Answer

Choose freedom. Do you want to support an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife through child support and/or alimony? If not go MGTOW.

Rangers · Answer

How are they our allies? And think about all the reasons for each side, write them down, then start thinking about what decision you want to make.

Anonymous · Answer

MGTOW is run by homos who promise incels at least some type of blow job. Is that really what you want out of life? No shame if it is. You do you.

A_Shot_of_Whiskey · Answer

That's fine if you don't want to follow the MGTOW philosophy, but it's clear that you have no idea what you're talking about. Either way, enjoy your life, even if you choose to be wrong.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Ummm... Going YOUR OWN WAY isn't a club that you join. It's a lifestyle choice.

Slim57 · Answer

Well, do you ever want to get laid?

yofuknutz · Answer

Get the Psleave but know what your doing go MGTOW.

mermaidia_lol · Answer

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