Girls with trust issues...?

[jkremis23]

I understand where you're coming from and I respect it 100% whether you believe me or not, but TOO many girls have trust issues!

anyways.

sorry if this is the wrong category, I couldn't choose.

but there's this girl a year younger than me that I really like and I think she's always had a little crush on me too but nothing major to where we wanna date yet.

she really has trust issues, which again I respect 100%, and she's starting to tell me things that she hasn't told anyone else. I've also told her a lot of important things to show her that its not so hard to open up. do you guys/girls think that she might be falling for me whether its love, lust, still just a crush, w/e?

thisll sound bad. but is now the time to make my move? I do like her a lot and its not like I'm taking advantage. I just wanna avoid the FRIEND-ZONE which I've fallen into so many times before.

Please, just give me some general ideas. anything is appreciated =) and I won't mark you down for anything. I just need this relationship =/

[darlanoy0510]

You're right many girls have trust issues but you can't blame them because they don't want to get hurt again and by someone they call boyfriends, fiances, guy friends, relatives or husbands. Many of these girls are been hurt over and over again by someone they trust and love. IF you really want to be with her then tell her the truth about your feeling and don't rush her. Give time and try to earn her trust. You probably going to questions why do I have to do of theses when their other fishes in the sea. Remember if you can earn her trust and respect, she will be loyal to you. She will relay on you to keep her secret and keep her safe. Keep showing your feeling and never say I want to be your friend but saying I want to be the one to keep you safe and someone you can trust.

[jkremis23]

Good answer =)

big help

[mzsfamous1]

Alot of girls have trust issues because of previous relationships. Once she starts opening up to you it shows that you are making progress. You can get more trust out of her by showing that you care and may your way around to personal issues.I have trust issues and I only open up to guys who seem to care. You can stay out of the friend zone by showing her signs that you like her and flirt with her. Try nnot to ask to much about general things because most of those topics lead you into the friend zone. I think you should just make a move on her. That is the only way of you finding out if she likes you are not. The worse she can say is no. When you talk to her do you conversations ususally get personal,intimate, or stay in the general zone

[Jessie-111]

its not just girls that have trust issues.everyone does. If you think she likes you, then go for it. Start hinting more and more that you like her, and if she catches the hints then she should react back.There's no way that she loves you though, it's too soon for that, but once you get into a relationship she might start to fall for you. If she is already talking about things she hasn't told anyone else, then she definitely trusts you!

[jkremis23]

Well I know she doesn't love me lol but I do really like her and am trying to hint towards it but I think I'm just gonna have to lay it all out there because I'm preeeeeetty sure she's waiting on me now. haha

thnx a lot for your input =)

[lefthand]

Trust issues are a big problem. They generally mean the person is incapable of a reciprocal relationship (the person without issues will give the lion's share of patience, understanding and work). I generally see someone bringing up trust issues as flat "no". The issues aren't your fault and you can't solve them, you can really only pay for someone else's sins.

Eventually, most people come to understand that having issues is what stands in the way of fulfilling relationships, not whatever the original problem might have been.

Be her friend if you like but this is highly unlikely to wind up being a fulfilling relationship for you.

[mikenice8]

I hear you with the whole friend-zone, that zone sucks. I would definitely emphasis that she can trust you, especially with the things that she only tells you. Bring it back up so she knows that you were actually listening and that you do care about the stuff she's afraid to tell someone else. I would go for it bro.

Everyone always ends up being the person the grew up as. It's just facts. There is probably something in her early childhood which makes her scared to trust people, even if it's just towards guys. Also not having a father figure growing up also leads to not trusting guys later on.

[Atomizer]

First, how are we defining "trust issue"? That term might mean different things to each of us.

If she's telling you things she's never told anyone, that means she's starting to trust you.

Whether she sees you as a friend or a boyfriend is another question.

I suggest you be direct with her, but respect her decisions. She might not see you the same way you see her. She might want to move slower.

From personal experience: if someone has trust issues and they feel pressured by you, they'll probably withdraw.

[tohot4tv]

If you want 2 say out the friend zone you should try to make ur move as soon as possible because when a girl opens up like that, it is only to her boyfriend or her guy best friend. So the next time you talk to her, if she bring more stuff like that up, include telling her how you feel about her and make ur move.

[Shlei3]

People have issues. Not just women. Ok not to be rude or anything but you "need this relationship"? The Friend Zone in my experience is just an excuse. I have never not dated a friend because "I don't want to ruin the friendship". I think that that's a poor excuse personally. If a guy friend of mine was interested and I was single I would give it a shot. Now, how to make your move? Just ask her outright if she would like to go to a movie sometime as a date. Most women appreciate the straight forwardness.

[jkremis23]

The friend zone is very real lol

ive fallen into it more than once. but when I do I accept it. I've laid my feelings out a few times and then ended up being very good friends with the person...

[Shlei3]

The friend zone in my experience is not real...again "IN MY EXPERIENCE". Personally as in that's my point of view.

[jkremis23]

Honestly... its because you're a woman. women very rarely fall into the friend zone because guys try longer and refuse to give up. and if a girl wants something they get it (generally not 100% obviously) and if they don't then they stray away and say whatever to it.

not trying to start any drama... just letting you know my experience the same way you shared yours.

Thanks for even taking the time to answer by the way =)

[Shlei3]

I don't think you are understanding what I'm saying. I am telling you that I have never used the friend zone towards a guy. I don't see a need to use that excuse.

[Avalace]

The "friend zone" isn't the excuse of ruining the friendship. It's that by being the "friend" figure, one party loses attraction and sexual interest for the other party.

[AOgixxer750]

i just gotta say that it seems to me that the girls who get, to seem to always pick the douche bags over and over again. even if they are warned about the guy. she won't beleive it beacuse of an attraction she has to him. if they don't want to get hurt then how come these girls won't open their eyes and ears? like how many times is it going to take till they learn to listen to friends and family?

[jkremis23]

I agree completely... I'm a nice guy and I'm the one that's having trouble getting to the dating stage with her. she moves a lot faster with the assholes...

but good thought =) thnx a lot

[kkk306]

if she loves uu then she would be totally open wit you.i don't think its tht serious.

just show her tht you care like tell her "i have never told this to anyone before ." and watevr you have to say.tht will make her feel special and maybe she willl open up to you alittle more.

if she stays up tlkin to uu late then she's mostlikely up for the relationship.

when she's with uu try to make her tlk alil more.

u can try saying "enough about me. what about you?"

i hope I helped.but remember don't act too desperate.GIRLS DO NOT LIKE THAT.

[jkremis23]

Haha I'm not in love with her. I really do like her but its not to the love stage yet. not even very close.

but good advice =) thnx a lot!

[rory520]

You have to know that all girls have trust issues. We just see older girls getting hurt and we a hell bent on not getting hurt. Now does this happen? Not often. But your worried about the friend zone. The easiest way no to get stuck there is not to stay there. You have to let her that you are interested. I know it's hard but a lot of girls won't make a move and if you don't she'll think all you want is to be friends so you have to let her your interested. But good luck I hope it works out.

[the-carrier]

I agree that too many girls have trust issues. I can see it even in my friends. I think you should make your move, yes. Because otherwise, how long are you going to wait? If you really care about her you'll be able to help her with her trust issues, people automatically trust their partner more than their friends. It doesn't sound to me like she's falling in lust, just tell her how you feel. That, after all, is the greatest show of trust.

[LoveStruck-Starship]

Just ask her out on a date, after the first have a couple more.

Then when the time seems right bring up the topic of being more than friends, don't push her to open up to you, don't tell her too personal things she might get scared off.

And when you first bring up your feelings you should be in person, not like on the phone, so you can see her facial expression, it might be awkward but if she really likes you it will be a sweet surprise.

[l-hedoniste]

You want stay out of the friend zone? Date her. Otherwise, she'll think you're just playing around. And it will answer most of your questions.

[snowlerblades]

Well if you like her grow some balls ask her out and yea. its simple invite her to your house watch a movie or something. Go sit by her at lunch in school or something. its all simple.

[Anonymous]

give it a shot

[Anonymous]

date her