We have been together for one year and a half. I struggle with trust issues and in the beginning he didn’t make it very easy for me to trust him. I had found in his phone gallery, semi naked pictures of a girl he used to talk to, and I also found out he had been liking semi naked pictures of girls on instagram. He was all new to being in a relationship and we’ve talked about it and now it’s stopped but I still can’t help but wonder if it’s sometimes still happening. I end up checking myself. I have talked to him about all of this and said that I think it’s best if I go my own way. Focus on myself. Because I really don’t want to be unhealthy like this. I cried my eyes out, asking him to let me go. He wouldn’t. He told me we can work it out together and that if I need to work on it, it’s best if I do it while in a relationship. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m not in a position to trust fully and I really don’t want to be in this position in a relationship. I want to be loose. But I’m not. Constantly checking what he’s looking at when together and also checking his followings online. I feel like it’s becoming too mentally draining for me. I know it comes from a place of low self esteem but I really sometimes just want out of all of this. I find it hard to trust, I’ve been wronged in the past and whenever I try to communicate to him, he turns all defensive. I don’t see how we can work on this together, while being in a relationship, when every time I try to bring something up about this matter, he turns all defensive and lowkey dismisses/invalidates my thoughts and feelings.
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Struggling with trust issues. Would you stay in the relationship, or break up?
