GenX and boomer white people what do you think about the bipolar expectations young black people face?

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Maybe a easier way for you to understand the black struggle is through a generational lense. Imagine yourself as a black kid yourself. Instead of trying to empathize with some "potential criminal" you don't even know. You grow up innocent not knowing what racism is your just a normal kid. Then mom and dad give you a talk about it and tell you the Police will unfairly interrogate you at some point and to put your hand on your head and don't talk back or whatever or you'll die. You don't get it but you trust them and you may disagree one some specific thing they said but in black households you can't talk back you have to be obedient to your parent. Mom and dad and grandparents influence you into the traditional black culture but mom and dad also have some ties to the contemporary black culture. Way to complicated for a kid to understand but you think some things mom and dad do is cool.. You become a teenager and you are influenced by the black youth subculture which stereotypically has some thug gangster criminal elements and is influenced by a dark criminal subculture and truth be told it does. You get pressure from your black peers to conform to the black youth culture often times bad or risky stuff that will get you in trouble. On top of all this, your white authority figures expect you to conform 5o three white culture or American culture or whatever. You feel like no matter what you do you'll always disappoint someone. Your life quickly becomes out of control and you get upset and act out. White teachers treat you like your crazy or like a pitiful victim or potential criminal or a knucklehead troublemaker when all you want is respect. Like any other young person you try to prove your parents wrong and try to put yourself in a positive youth culture or if your a bad ass ", hard" kid you try to stay in the bad boy bad girl subculture. there's also contemporary issues you are called to fix by family and maybe even God. So young adult life becomes painful sometimes

ohshee · Accepted Answer

The biggest evil on this planet is ignorance and being a follower you have to become part of the solution and not the problem if you hold on to the Past that's where you stay if you are a follower and you listen and you follow people that's who you become life is a choice every single one of us was given a gift and we are bored it's called choice we choose who we want to be in life by the things we say and do if you want to live in the ignorant world then you become ignorant and stagnant and you don't go anywhere all you do is hate but if you fight yourself to that and choose who you want to be a positive role model that's who you become when I look at my eyes I don't see what color I am the people give me shit I don't see what color I am if I do something wrong I don't see what color I am color has nothing to do with any part of my life that's who I choose to be I do not create the past I did not live in the past I had nothing to do with it so I don't care about it I'm sorry if that sounds rude because it's not meant to be I have grown up with black people I have very good black friends I've dated a black girl it means nothing to me color means nothing my friends and I we've talked about it we've all come to the same conclusion if you can keep the two words black and white out of any sentence there's never a problem the moment that you put black against white or white against black there becomes an argument I understand what you're saying I believe what you're saying but I choose not to live in that world I will fight for that world when it comes down to it I will back anybody that is being treated wrong it doesn't matter what color you are what race you are and if you stop and think about it if you believe in our God our genius are loving caring God used common sense when he made us we are all 97% the same DNA the last 3% he gave us is beautiful common sense who designed this out of love knowing that our Earth has hard extreme conditions depending on what part of the planet you live on he made us to have the ability to adapt to any harsh environment conditions that means to protect us from the Sun he gave his pigment to adapt he didn't make us black and white he made his human beings to have the best possible life on this planet we adapt and if people don't understand that that can keep being ignorant and stupid

Massageman · Accepted Answer

I'll focus on two parts of your post.

1. Mom and dad explain the interaction with the police with a predisposition that if they do ANYthing , they will die. I have been detained for questioning by the local police. They say to sit on the bench and wait, so I sit on the bench and wait. It's not that hard. When they are done with person A, and B, they come to me and I explain what was going on from my point of view. They say stay there a minute, I stay there. The police chat amongst themselves, they write up their "contact report", and everyone goes about their business.
2. "You feel like no matter what you do you'll always disappoint someone." This is certainly true, and is certainly NOT racist/expectational/stereotypical or any other adjective other than "normal" for our culture. No president/senator/boss/whomever ever got a 100% approval rating from all other people. That is simply a fact of life, whether you are white, black, yellow, red, or purple with green stripes. Per Legate and Lincoln, “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

What is the use of this exercise you want us to do? Look, I am just getting tired of giving my opinion on each black people's questions. Will they be willing to take time out of their lives to do an exercise to see what white people go through just as well but differently? No, I didn't think they would because they don't give a flip about being alive while white.

Uannoyme · Accepted Answer

It seems that some parents are doing their children a great disservice by raising them to be victims.

spartan55 · Answer

I don't it matters what color you are kids growing up are expected to conform to certains or considered a disappointment. Your example is very understandable. I'll give you mine.
I grew up in a small town in the Midwest that had VERY few minorities. Growing up we were told that we had to go to college to be successful. Or we could just graduate high school and be struggling working class stiffs. No element of crime, etc, so not a perfect parallel, but one that was present nonetheless.

jasco · Answer

Yea I can to some degree agree with this. first is the you will always disappoint someone. I don't completely with this because if you grew in a decent household, your morals and understanding of yourself, self awareness along with a few other things. The chances of you actually being disappointing to anyone with power, is low. Having good morals again will keep your life style from getting to crazy, just gotta know yourself. Well the part about teachers treating you like shit because your acting like a annoying little brat who wants " respect " because he/she can not control his/her actions is basically saying that any child who is misbehaving should be given a free pass. As for everything else, i can completely agree with you on it

wtf636 · Answer

I think it doesn't matter what color you are. You are going to run into family expectations, vs cultural, vs what you want, vs what others expect.

Honestly, I think the race thing is mostly a cop-out. Decide for yourself. Everyone wants to blame everyone else for the decisions they make and the life they choose to live. White kids have to deal with the same shit, same as Asians, indian, middle eastern, etc. It's all essentially the same, just different flavors.

What do you want? What makes you happy? What do you want out of life? Those are the only things you should worry about. It really easy to say that I can't get where I want because of the world, rather than realizing you couldn't get where you want because you failed in some way. A lot harder of a pill to swallow.

noohair · Answer

I am trying to feel what you wrote. I have adopted a view of one race homo sapiens. Race is 19 century pseudo science that tried to classify humans by physical appearance. I try to see folks as I meet them and not stereotype. Having pale shin, I have no idea what you have to deal with. But I am Jewish, but I don't look "Jewish" so I have seen and heard some things and the way the people can be. Mean, crude, ignorant and hateful. I hope some day the the famous words, "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character", come true.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Fact is that the world and situation any one individual person lives in at that young age is easy to change. You can earn money to move away to a better place, go to college, join the military etc... blaming other races or cultures for your situation is self-defeating and the mark of a racist. Yes black people can be racist just like all other peoples.

BeMuse · Answer

It sounds like you had shitty parents. That's typical in the Black community. Stop following in your parents foot steps and get your shit together.

Waldoe · Answer

believe it or not... white kids go through a lot of the same crap... "You get pressure from your white peers to conform to the white youth culture often times bad or risky stuff that will get you in trouble" people are all basically the same...

joeldalton · Answer

If your parents are teaching you that if you talk back to a cop you will die, then they are committing psychological abuse.

ManHater · Answer

Blah blah black people this black people that. Honestly have you ever SEEN AN BLACK PERSON HELP THEM SELVES?

MrTaboo · Answer

Mostly made up to keep you down. Look past the fear fed to teens today. And you can over come. I've know many black people that have.

anylolone · Answer

Your username has you referring to yourself as queen. I doubt you are literally a queen. The answer is there somewhere.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Your question and answer is messed up.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like a you problem.

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