Do guys want women to make the first move or not?

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yoganshB · Accepted Answer

Let me tell you guys something funny that happened with me yesterday. It is Navratri festival in Indian from 29th September to the following 9 days. We celebrate it by doing a form of dance with people of the village, nearby towns... etc. we play it in such a manner that all the men and women make big circles dancing in rythmic manner with same steps and same circular que that is formed. when it reaches its peak we have to make many concentric circles to not get pushed into another. Now the fun starts😂. There are some girls that I know. I haven't met a few since 2-3 months but they came to dance yesterday. Now I never knew that 3 girls liked me but yesterday whenever they happen to pass by me they tried to make eye contact and whenever that happened all 3 smiled 🤣. I got the message but unfortunately I'm not in a situation to make any relation with then now but I smiled anyway. This happened several times and I laughed about it a lot with my friends. It was a little awkward for me as this shit happened to me just once in my life. I could've been in a relationship if they showed this earlier. That's what I wanna say. You girls are awesome but some of you think guys are the one's who should always start the conversation. Com'on! Don't you wanna express your feelings. Do it before it's too late. Hope you get it. 😉

MusicMayhem · Accepted Answer

Yes, it would be nice on occasion, especially for unattractive guys that get rejected a lot so fear approaching due to a lack of confidence. But, if they expect us to lose our shit and like her immediately there's going to be a problem as they aren't entitled for us to like her and want to date her.

The main problem is some girls will approach once or twice, get knocked back because they don't know how to approach and flirt properly and then decry men as not liking girls approaching so never so it again. Approaching is a skill like any other, it takes a lot of time and perseverance to get good at it. Think of all the times you've rejected men and expect to go through the same trial and error process before getting positive results.

ifOdinWasAgirl · Accepted Answer

Lol. Based on experience. All good men dont have guts 😂😂😂 i swear they dont. It works better to approach first because most of the time these guys dont even get that you like them despite all the clues you give 😣 however, itd be really nice if a guy i liked approach me first tbh. chivalry is dead 😭

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The trick is to charm and make him consider you might like him without asking him out or starting anything and letting him pull the movies. Most of the nicer guys I know will give you a chance if they think you are interested and a decent person.

supercutebutt · Accepted Answer

Yeah because of the #MeToo movement we kinda have to make the 1st move these days. True, some girls are lunatics. But it's also true that pussy-grabber Trump has ruined things for nice guys. :(

RaindropSparkle · Accepted Answer

Yeah I think so. Some of them are shy or unsure and would love for a girl to invite them to make a move.

Master24179 · Answer

We know over pursing guarantees rejection when a female shows interest it's a win win situation. Guys are visual creatures we know in the first few seconds if we are interested or not. If we are attracted then we want get to know the girl. Technically guys can look at a beautiful thin woman and almost instantly connect to our emotions and be ready for her to be our girlfriend. If we arnt attracted then we won't bother talking and just move on. As we know attraction isn't a choice. If a beautiful girl makes the first move then in our heads she is a sure thing and puts us at ease.

Derick529 · Answer

I really wouldn't mind for a woman to make the first move, its an actual plus. It makes things easier to figure out her interest level. Sometimes its a little frustrating when the guy makes the first move and you get a different type of reaction than the one that supposed to be expected.

It becomes difficult when you're attracted to a shy person, its a perfect example. She would give signs of disinterest and/or becomes evasive making everything difficult to get a read on and wonder if you're being lead on. hope this helped.

Tslaveee · Answer

Women already do, but men are wanting it to be an approach.

Women give subtle signals like multiple glances, smiling at you, leaving her body language open, feet pointed towards you etc

All signals she’s interested in you and the man sees these signs such as oh she keeps looking at me and then moves in.

Once engaged with the female she decides if this person has further potential or if she had made a mistake.

It’s a mating ritual we do as humans, even using material possessions to try and woo the opposite sex

kbbroiler · Answer

Really soon it is going to be your only option. Let's face it young men today and women were brought up behind a computer screen and guys do not know how to approach women. Then when you add MeToo into the mix your friends the feminists just have created a way men will definitely stay away from you.

Dog_of_Wisdom · Answer

I'm pretty sure I'm asexual, so in terms of sexual stuff, I love when the girl makes the first move cause I find I'm just not in the mood for sex, but I'm always in the mood to make a SO feel pleasure if she is in the mood.

For dating, I'd rather make the first move. I hate having to reject a girl, but I'm used to being rejected.

Turtlewax1994 · Answer

all depends cause some guys are too shy to make the move mine please?

lightbulb27 · Answer

Give us a sign or something, if he doesn't respond, then give it a try. It can hep at times. Sometimes, it will never work as he isn't "there" for whatever reason... would require multiple efforts. I learned not to personalize it so much, small things may be an issue on your side, big things on his. what really works is talking, communication, patience, presence.

fbr23 · Answer

I honestly would love for a girl to make the first move especially if she's into me. If most guys are like I am we can't tell if you're being nice or if you're hinting that you like us so most of the time your hints go by and we just think you're being very kind.

BirdFan360 · Answer

It's how I have my first 2 relationships in my life. Went really well cause I knew they liked me from the start, so I could flow easily with them. 1st moved away and we lost touch, and second became more interested in my friend (Don't blame her either, he was a good guy.).

So to answer your question, yes, its a plus!

confusedrepeatedly · Answer

YESSSSSSS I don't know bec I never know if a girl likes me or not and if a girl is pining for me I would want to know and if she doesn't I would want to know that way I can know
The idea that a guy has to make the first move I think luts so much pressure on a guy bec if they aren't 100 percent sure and even they are I feel like I'm about to embarrass myself and let's just be friends is almost as bad as dumping them just saying

Ripper_E · Answer

Yes
If I know I'm interested in her and know she is interested in me, I'll make a move. Even though she is capable of doing it, that's fine, I can make a move.
However, there are times where women know how they feel about a man, but wait for the man to make the move. That's asinine.

aaronbw · Answer

I'm indifferent. I usually make the first move because I want them to have the "he really does want me!" feel. But it's very nice when the situation is in reverse and the woman makes the first move.

To me it's a pleasant surprise and a reaffirmation that I am still worth enough that a woman actually wants me.

DWornock · Answer

It is always the woman's responsibility to make the first move. A man should never ask a women out unless she first indicates some interest such as saying "Hi," ask a question, or doing something to get the guy's attention. The exception would be online dating sites.

Deathly_Pheonix · Answer

If I have feelings for someone, I won't hesitate to tell them, especially if were already close. But as far as anything physical, it is sometimes easier to let the girl because if a guy misreads a signal, it can be creepy or weird

notcommonsense · Answer

As a big reader and less experience in adventure, i dont have amazing drinking and hiking stories. I can tell you about a 400 page novel if you want, but kill me before you tell me i am uninteresting. So, yes. Please proceed with the conversation because i have spent one too many days indoors

ManOnFire · Answer

It's not a bad idea, but I don't need a woman to do it. However, I will say that a lot of people want to say women don't do it cuz they're afraid to, when a lot of times it's because they think they're too good to do it.

matthewpaino · Answer

I'm not going to speak for all guys but i think girls should definitely make the first move if they like a guy. Social stigmas be damned, if anyone likes anyone, there shouldn't be an expectation on one gender or the other.

sawno · Answer

Yes please! If you like me make your move rather than hope that ill notice you hinting that i should because i won't. Your chances are a lot higher if you approach men.

liestill88 · Answer

I honestly would love for the girl to make the first move it would make it easier to talk to you knowing you show intreste in him instead of us trying and making a fool of areselves when you knew from the start we have no shot just wanna watch us squirm

BrotherFrost · Answer

I had a few girls make a first move. But then they expected to drop it and let me do everything else. You girls need to understand that it does not work like that. You don't just initiate, and then sit back and relax. After that i expect an equal exchange of information no matter who made the first move.

ClosetHoe · Answer

I'm pretty sure most do. More women should start making the first move.

Cathy1026 · Answer

I made the first move, if you like someone take it you’ll never know where it will lead, what’s the worse they could say? No? If so move on

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, of course we do. We enjoy it and find it flattering and ego boosting just like you do. And of course, if we are not attracted to her, we also reject her, just like you do.

The problem I see so often is women approach a guy or two and get rejected and then assume guys do like to be approached, which is just silly. Guys get rejected ALL THE TIME.

BigVicJr · Answer

Personally I don't mind. My last relationship started because she made the first move. First to ask to hangout, eat out, and pretty much everything. We had already known each other for a year so I didn't really pick up on anything. I'm also oblivious as all hell so she did have to straight up ask me if I was interested. Which I was but you may have to be that blunt too because I'm not a exception 😂

WalterBlack · Answer

I prefer if the woman invites me to make the first move. That can be in the form of a smile with lingering eye contact or by simply saying hello. But I have no problem with a woman approaching me.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Some do, some don't.  I told someone to go on a date with me and they said no and asked me out the next day because he said he was supposed to do it, lol.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I honestly don't care. I'm utilitarian. If her making the first move helps our chances of having a relationship then by all means, let her do it. I'm not persnickety about those types of things at all.

FatherJack · Answer

Wishful thinking from a male POV and will never happen in reality for most men . Women do not need to make any first moves , and my understanding is , from complaints from female friends / colleagues , that they are sick of male attention as it is.

robske · Answer

I'd personally love for a woman to make the first move Save's me the trouble of going trough a million and one scenarios that would probably still result in a no most of the time

MlleCake · Answer

Some do. Some don't. Some say they do, yet feel intimidated and emasculated when it happens in real life.

Apope16 · Answer

ABSOLUTELY. If a woman makes the first move the chances of me going on a date with her or having sex with her increases dramatically. Its an attractive thing to do.

holograph · Answer

While I wouldn't have the expectation that they should, I think it's a good thing if they feel confident in doing it.

UglyestGuyEver · Answer

well i never make a move and never made a move on a girl,
and when a girl shows intrest in me like smiling or looking at me... i get scared and intimidated and wish they wasn't into me incase they try to talk to me which is scary

ZebraWarrior · Answer

I feel like it depends on the guy and his level of confidence in talking to random people. Personally I like when guys make the first move however I have been the one to make the first move with some guys.

KennyD421 · Answer

Sometimes I want the lady to be more interested in me and to take the first step toward us but then other times I try to make the first step toward something but I am not going at the situation right cause I seem to strike out...

SkyNights · Answer

a lot of guys see it as being to aggressive and get scared, then run, lol

Truthatanycost · Answer

No, you are so terrible at it, you might as well not bother. Even flirting is a challenge for most of you...

sweet_casanova · Answer

Dont know about first move, but please stop pushing the guy away who is trying for so long that guy stops trying.

HighHithom · Answer

It's the 21st century and all that equality fluff... Surely it doesn't matter who makes the first move, it depends on the couple and individual personalities.

Alphamale7 · Answer

Its not we want, but its okay either way, making first first move either shows you are bold nature or you like him more than he do !

ecfresh · Answer

Same as women.. if we are physically attracted to her she can come say hi. Otherwise it’s just as awkward as when non attractive men approach women

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Just give him the eyes. If he doesn’t respond, then he probably wasn’t interested

Anonymous · Answer

I would love it. Even if I wasn't interested, I would still be flattered. It would also be nice to feel attractive to the opposite sex as well, something that we as guys rarely get from women in general.

JKingOff · Answer

I don't care either way to be honest. But you'll have to be pretty quick to beat me to it. Usually by the time you notice me I'm already on my way to you.

Karen1970 · Answer

It's ok for both to make the first move.. it all depends on how you do it..

jgokgotit · Answer

I want them to feel able to make the first move. Either one can make the first move.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I wouldn't mind signs that she is interested, so I could make the first move.

ohshee · Answer

I kinda like it. , it's refreshing and just seems to start things out better and faster

username_ugh · Answer

I'm not really sure. Why don't you try this on me. :)

justawhiteman · Answer

yes cause im shy but I feel like its a mans job to ask out the girl... I know im gonna piss people off by saying this but I think traditionally

Unit1 · Answer

Oh yes, please! I love it 😍 instant girlfriend right there! It makes things so much easier and it lifts weight off from my shoulder.

TruthIs · Answer

In today's society, men kinda have their hands tied by all the #MeToo bull and every other thing being counted as sexual harassment. Y'all can just go slap each other's tacos for all we care anymore.

Avicenna · Answer

She's welcome to if she realizes her interest first.

xwh068 · Answer

Probably 80%to 90% and 40% will admit it. I like it when the first move is toward my jeans fly. Hilarious but still a true story

Frogazz · Answer

I want a woman that's straight forward and honest as well as has the same intentions and similar interests as i

Juxtapose · Answer

A woman asking you out removes all the uncertainty and proves that she is capable of taking initiative. Yes please.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Speaking for myself, it is not a competition. Whoever makes the first move, whether me or her, it's the outcome we are both after... right? .

Papi-Daddy · Answer

Sometimes it would be nice just to not get the wrong idea and later on being left in the friend zone forgotten or simply left alone cause you thought you had a chance

Dargil · Answer

I think it's on us but the whole *metoo thing makes it too risky. So yes. And I'm Old School.

Devasena · Answer

Most guys in real life still are the ones who ask the girl out.

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