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Do guys want women to make the first move or not?
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Let me tell you guys something funny that happened with me yesterday. It is Navratri festival in Indian from 29th September to the following 9 days. We celebrate it by doing a form of dance with people of the village, nearby towns... etc. we play it in such a manner that all the men and women make big circles dancing in rythmic manner with same steps and same circular que that is formed. when it reaches its peak we have to make many concentric circles to not get pushed into another. Now the fun starts😂. There are some girls that I know. I haven't met a few since 2-3 months but they came to dance yesterday. Now I never knew that 3 girls liked me but yesterday whenever they happen to pass by me they tried to make eye contact and whenever that happened all 3 smiled 🤣. I got the message but unfortunately I'm not in a situation to make any relation with then now but I smiled anyway. This happened several times and I laughed about it a lot with my friends. It was a little awkward for me as this shit happened to me just once in my life. I could've been in a relationship if they showed this earlier. That's what I wanna say. You girls are awesome but some of you think guys are the one's who should always start the conversation. Com'on! Don't you wanna express your feelings. Do it before it's too late. Hope you get it. 😉
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Yes, it would be nice on occasion, especially for unattractive guys that get rejected a lot so fear approaching due to a lack of confidence. But, if they expect us to lose our shit and like her immediately there's going to be a problem as they aren't entitled for us to like her and want to date her.
The main problem is some girls will approach once or twice, get knocked back because they don't know how to approach and flirt properly and then decry men as not liking girls approaching so never so it again. Approaching is a skill like any other, it takes a lot of time and perseverance to get good at it. Think of all the times you've rejected men and expect to go through the same trial and error process before getting positive results.
Lol. Based on experience. All good men dont have guts 😂😂😂 i swear they dont. It works better to approach first because most of the time these guys dont even get that you like them despite all the clues you give 😣 however, itd be really nice if a guy i liked approach me first tbh. chivalry is dead 😭
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The trick is to charm and make him consider you might like him without asking him out or starting anything and letting him pull the movies. Most of the nicer guys I know will give you a chance if they think you are interested and a decent person.
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Yeah because of the #MeToo movement we kinda have to make the 1st move these days. True, some girls are lunatics. But it's also true that pussy-grabber Trump has ruined things for nice guys. :(
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Yeah I think so. Some of them are shy or unsure and would love for a girl to invite them to make a move.
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We know over pursing guarantees rejection when a female shows interest it's a win win situation. Guys are visual creatures we know in the first few seconds if we are interested or not. If we are attracted then we want get to know the girl. Technically guys can look at a beautiful thin woman and almost instantly connect to our emotions and be ready for her to be our girlfriend. If we arnt attracted then we won't bother talking and just move on. As we know attraction isn't a choice. If a beautiful girl makes the first move then in our heads she is a sure thing and puts us at ease.
I really wouldn't mind for a woman to make the first move, its an actual plus. It makes things easier to figure out her interest level. Sometimes its a little frustrating when the guy makes the first move and you get a different type of reaction than the one that supposed to be expected.
It becomes difficult when you're attracted to a shy person, its a perfect example. She would give signs of disinterest and/or becomes evasive making everything difficult to get a read on and wonder if you're being lead on. hope this helped.Women already do, but men are wanting it to be an approach.
Women give subtle signals like multiple glances, smiling at you, leaving her body language open, feet pointed towards you etc
All signals she’s interested in you and the man sees these signs such as oh she keeps looking at me and then moves in.
Once engaged with the female she decides if this person has further potential or if she had made a mistake.
It’s a mating ritual we do as humans, even using material possessions to try and woo the opposite sexReally soon it is going to be your only option. Let's face it young men today and women were brought up behind a computer screen and guys do not know how to approach women. Then when you add MeToo into the mix your friends the feminists just have created a way men will definitely stay away from you.
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I'm pretty sure I'm asexual, so in terms of sexual stuff, I love when the girl makes the first move cause I find I'm just not in the mood for sex, but I'm always in the mood to make a SO feel pleasure if she is in the mood.
For dating, I'd rather make the first move. I hate having to reject a girl, but I'm used to being rejected. -
all depends cause some guys are too shy to make the move
mine please?
Too strong messaging girl on Instagram? ↗ - 1.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Give us a sign or something, if he doesn't respond, then give it a try. It can hep at times. Sometimes, it will never work as he isn't "there" for whatever reason... would require multiple efforts. I learned not to personalize it so much, small things may be an issue on your side, big things on his. what really works is talking, communication, patience, presence.
I honestly would love for a girl to make the first move especially if she's into me. If most guys are like I am we can't tell if you're being nice or if you're hinting that you like us so most of the time your hints go by and we just think you're being very kind.
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It's how I have my first 2 relationships in my life. Went really well cause I knew they liked me from the start, so I could flow easily with them. 1st moved away and we lost touch, and second became more interested in my friend (Don't blame her either, he was a good guy.).
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YESSSSSSS I don't know bec I never know if a girl likes me or not and if a girl is pining for me I would want to know and if she doesn't I would want to know that way I can know
The idea that a guy has to make the first move I think luts so much pressure on a guy bec if they aren't 100 percent sure and even they are I feel like I'm about to embarrass myself and let's just be friends is almost as bad as dumping them just saying Yes
If I know I'm interested in her and know she is interested in me, I'll make a move. Even though she is capable of doing it, that's fine, I can make a move.
However, there are times where women know how they feel about a man, but wait for the man to make the move. That's asinine.I'm indifferent. I usually make the first move because I want them to have the "he really does want me!" feel. But it's very nice when the situation is in reverse and the woman makes the first move.
To me it's a pleasant surprise and a reaffirmation that I am still worth enough that a woman actually wants me.416 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. It is always the woman's responsibility to make the first move. A man should never ask a women out unless she first indicates some interest such as saying "Hi," ask a question, or doing something to get the guy's attention. The exception would be online dating sites.
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If I have feelings for someone, I won't hesitate to tell them, especially if were already close. But as far as anything physical, it is sometimes easier to let the girl because if a guy misreads a signal, it can be creepy or weird
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As a big reader and less experience in adventure, i dont have amazing drinking and hiking stories. I can tell you about a 400 page novel if you want, but kill me before you tell me i am uninteresting. So, yes. Please proceed with the conversation because i have spent one too many days indoors
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I'm not going to speak for all guys but i think girls should definitely make the first move if they like a guy. Social stigmas be damned, if anyone likes anyone, there shouldn't be an expectation on one gender or the other.
723 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Yes please! If you like me make your move rather than hope that ill notice you hinting that i should because i won't. Your chances are a lot higher if you approach men.
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I honestly would love for the girl to make the first move it would make it easier to talk to you knowing you show intreste in him instead of us trying and making a fool of areselves when you knew from the start we have no shot just wanna watch us squirm
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I had a few girls make a first move. But then they expected to drop it and let me do everything else. You girls need to understand that it does not work like that. You don't just initiate, and then sit back and relax. After that i expect an equal exchange of information no matter who made the first move.
589 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. It's not a bad idea, but I don't need a woman to do it. However, I will say that a lot of people want to say women don't do it cuz they're afraid to, when a lot of times it's because they think they're too good to do it.
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