Do guys hate it when girls show they care?

[Stella517]

I was seeing a guy and it ended with me saying I didn't want him anymore since he hurt me. But I know he's having a hard time lately with things going on and I want to tell him that I care.
Would a guy hate or not like seeing that if I text him that I do care and I would be there for them?

[winterfox10]

That would be totally fine for you to do that. He would probably appreciate that, even if he thought it was strange that your words had totally changed.

"Do guys hate it when girls show they care?" This is such a heartbreaking question on so many levels.

[Stella517]

Why is it heartbreaking?
I guess the question had to be asked because guys tend not to show their feelings. So when a girl shows they care there's a fear that he won't react meaning they don't care and don't want that soft feeling

[winterfox10]

My frustration has nothing to do with you! The question is heartbreaking to me because it gives evidence to 3 concerns I have about dating.

1. Men and women are so out of touch with each other that we can't express basic concern for each other without the side wondering if there is some hidden agenda.

2. Men and women treat each other so poorly that a woman, a fully grown woman, legitimately (and fairly) wonders whether or not expressing basic human concern for a man will make her a target.

3. That I (turning my frustration back onto myself now) automatically assumed that caring for someone had to mean romantic caring, because I've never seen a woman just casually care about another person's wellbeing before.

So you can see, the frustration is... expansive.

[Stella517]

Oh ok I understand now.
It is a sad realization though. That showing that you care can be taken in so many ways. People should freely show they care without a second thought because I know that when someone shows it to me I feel good about myself and my relationship with that person.
For this particular situation it's a mix. I do have feelings for him still and my care stems from that. But even with him & I not being the same, I will always care for him and his well being. That will never go away because when you truly care about someone, the situation doesn't matter

[winterfox10]

Yeah, it's tragic. The worst part about it all is that even when our genders try to actually communicate with each other, the other side finds a way to misinterpret things and it all gets screwed up.

[Stella517]

You what's frustrating for a woman?
That she shows she cares sometimes and the man is happy but he doesn't want to show it since he is used to hiding his feelings. Then making the woman feel like he feels otherwise.

[winterfox10]

That DOES sound frustrating... I don't know why American men are so resistant towards expressing their feelings. It's a cultural thing, but I wish it would change.

[blutwolfe]

Um of course we like to know girls care, why wouldn't we? We're human too

[Stella517]

I just wasn't sure. Just in case you'd rather not hear from that girl at all.
Here's a better question, would you react if the girl showed she cared?

[blutwolfe]

Ya would probably make me feel valued, I love a girl that cares

[Stella517]

That's good to know. Its just hard to tell because not all men show how they feel

[blutwolfe]

Most men I'd say are emotionally cut off too

[Anonymous]

Not all of them care. Some of them ignore and don’t answer back. Just keep this in mind.

[hsshannah96]

Yes they do