I've noticed this a lot lately on this app... Could it be rising tensions in isolation? Maybe they're backed up so much that they channel it into aggressive energy... I don't understand why they're so mad... Like go eat a Snickers... You're not yourself when you're hungry lol... I've got some AMAZING guy friends on this app but some of these guys I'm extremely worried for"Messages Like This Is Why Some People Will Forever Be Alone" Credits:Google Gif Not An Actual Text Message Just An Example"Thank You, Next"
Why Are Some Guys So Aggressive When You Make It Clear You're NOT Interested In Anything More Than Friendship?
Yes it's crazy guys need to accept that you want Friendship and nothing more if they can't accept that then my suggestion is ignore them or do whatever you have to stop them and sometimes it hurts to stop communication with them but sometimes it's the best choice
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This is exactly how I feel. Like if you get friendzoned why be rude and insulting? Had a guy on this app who was supposed to be a friend to me here and he starts threatening suicide because he fell in love... Like WTF is wrong with people. Then he turns around an calls me a c*** for blocking him. He was sending over 30 messages at a time... Just crazy... Glad I got him blocked... Should have done it sooner
The trouble kind of starts with the "Ummm maybe"...
Sorry, but when there are "maybes" etc., a guy may be thinking of a more involved relationship. Then folks in this generation complicate things further with friends with benefits, etc. which only add to the ambiguity. If girls didn't do the friends with benefits thing, then people who are "just friends" might stop pushing for more.
Nobody wants to say it, but sometimes a girl's "no" means "not this second, but I might change my mind later on". If it never happened this way then "no" would mean "no".
And yes I hate date rape etc.
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This was such a informative and helpful post... Well done! Thanks so much
@Secret6620 Yeah, the problems start when people who are "just friends" do things that people who are really just friends don't do. If you're a heterosexual person and you wouldn't do the same thing with someone of the same sex, then you're probably crossing the just friends line. (e. g. smacking a butt, hugging for long periods, etc.) On the other hand, guys DO push matters when there's an unambiguous "no" and that's absolutely wrong.
Oh to be young and pathetic again, I used to be that guy. I never texted vulgar requests to girls or anything but Iâd become friends with girls develop a crush and keep trying to break out of the friend zone until she finally would have enough and start ghosting me for a while. a lot of the time Iâd eventually figure out that they werenât that cool or werenât my type anyway but not after Iâd wasted weeks or months of my life. If I wouldâve just moved on and kept looking I mightâve actually found more girls I was compatible and had a chance with.
Well it can be frustrating especially when you have put a lot effort and time before getting pushed to friend-zone. Still we are adults and should handle things better. Personally you have to be really rude to me for me to be rude like that. Sure I can be very disappointment if I really liked someone and put effort on things. But then again, if I really liked that person. Important thing ain't that I get her. More important to me is that she's happy. And if in friend-zone I still can be enjoying her company time to time and be there help things along. Then I don't really see reason why I would be mad and rude. I'm not saying she wouldn't for while see me being bit uncomfortable, distant, maybe disappear for while to readjust my thoughts about her.
So I would say that when guy is rude or aggressive when being friend zoned he's either selfish or was just after sex.
They had expectations that were denied and they feel like their feelings got thrown aside like trash. I for one have felt that many... many... many times... but i don't get upset about it anymore. i understand that romance requires consent and friendship is still a good outcome compared to the alternatives. I understand from the point of those that struggle and dont understand how one gets a relationship let alone how romance works, but there are those out there that should know better and are just assholes who look at women like a trophy or a goal... those guys need to go back to their corner where they belong.
I think a lot of these guys are just desperate for a relationship and get angry as a way of dealing with rejection. I definitely know guys can be like this on this site :/ I don't get that mentally though, male or female. Why go after someone who isn't in to you? Someone being into you just as much as you're into them is an amazing feeling and it would make me feel instantly less attracted to someone if they didn't like me.
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Exactly! Nail on the head! Thanks for dropping a comment
Main thing is that the guys talk to you to make you fall in love with them. If you directly say that you are not interested in love... then they get hurt and get offensive on girls. I hate such kind of behaviour,... A girl's love can be achieved by making her feel your love, not by chatting
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EXACTLY!!! Thanks so much for your help! You ROCK đ
i mean do you want a guy to be an hypocrite and stays a friend with you even when he wants more or grew feelings for you? if he tries his luck and get rejected, at least he's honest with himself and you, so don't be surprised if he moves on. with that said, if he does not understand that a "no" means "no", he comes off as desperate and that's in no way attractive. people should learn to move on and find the people that love them for them. but stayin in a friendzone when you want more is for me a no-no. just wanted to give me opinion seeing how many here vilifyed people that tried their luck.
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Lol thanks for the honesty. It's very much appreciated
It's funny I've seen this with girls too. They get so focused on relationship that they can't be friends anymore... I think it's all about their mindset at the start
Maybe theyâre desperate for a relationship , maybe theyâre misunderstanding your gestures , I think why canât they handle it is very much dependent on their personality 🤷🏻ââď¸
The "maybe" is a problem. People should stop giving those kind of answers if they are definitely uninterested because it may give the guy the wrong idea. With that said, some guys are idiots who are unable to take a "no" for an answer.
Somewhere along their weird life someone told them they have to be persistent and âwear them downâ. Just some old school harassment masquerading as persistence
These either think girls have no brain or they are too smart that they trick her for sexting or shit, its because of them that girls dont feel safe in virtual world nowdays and GAG won't take any strict action against them.
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Exactly!!! Like because so many do this... It makes it hard for a guy to make some genuine nice guy friends... Because we never know if they will turn out like the guy in the gif above. It's a shame
It's strange, maybe friendship is not a good idea either.
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See that's what's crazy... There literally shouldn't be any reason why opposite genders can't be friends. Did it four years in the military without problem
It's little different, the Military is a very strong and at sometimes disfunctional family, they might beat you up, but if someone was fucking with you, they would immediately defend you. Friendships can be very fierce when it's a matter of life and death. And I'll probably write a take soon, particularly about women and why modern relationships are fickle, frivolous, and fail easy, the reason is because it's too easy to not care, particularly in times of conflict, no one really needs love anymore, many have watched too many Disney movies, and reality just is not as exciting as the imaginary world that's inside their heads. Friendship and love, you can have them all, but the question is if it's real or not, like some of your military experiences, how real are they compared to that.
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