Men, why do you stare at women so blatantly?

[Sawyerblu]

What are you hoping to achieve from this?

Recently, I’ve been noticing guys staring at me for way longer than normal and it kinda creeps me out if I’m being honest. I’ve also noticed men of all ages following me around and consistently staring in parking lots and garages, at stores, the grocery store for sure, gas stations, at my own apartment complex, I’ve even had some men try to flag me down while I drive— staying right next to me, staring and waving, telling me to roll my window down, following me to the point where I couldn’t go home because I didn’t want them to know where I lived.

It’s kinda scary for me because I do live in a major city and one of the biggest ports for human trafficking so I feel like I always have to be hyper aware.

[beetie]

Imagine going ona vacation. Its lovely. Your before occupied mind is at peace. Youve got no worries in the world. You have successfully shut down and yoi are loving it.

Or imagine watching a captivating movie. You dont think about work, you dont think about any worry you might have. Your mind is at peace and you love it.

When I see someone truly beautiful, someone truly captivating, someone who i can use to help myself out of difficult thoughts, i just tend to stare and my mind is blank. It is ignorant ill give you that. But my mind is turned off so i dont care. When you see anything beautiful this can be the result can't it? Not only a person but also scenery.

Beautiful people can be a mini vacation for the mind of the onlooker. It is selfish, egotistic and ignorant when that happens but it does.

That being said there are people with evil intentions too but Id like to think im not one of them so i won't try to explain their motives.

Many would call you very beautiful. Which is probably the main reason for that. You may have only just become aware of the attention. Or you overthink it. Think about it. Not all men stare and follow you. If they did thered be thousands around you at any given time. The few creeps that do stare are like i explained. (Hopefully) Mostly just egotistical people who want some jerking material. Stalkers do exist and your caution is great to not show them to where you live. I sadly cannot give you tips for how to not get that, except for: be less beautiful. If you really fear rather wear hoodies and caps. Nothing revealing. I understand though if you dont want to do that and i dont have more.

I just hope itll become better for your sake.

[Sawyerblu]

I had never really thought of it like that but that makes total sense. And yeah it’s not every guy! I’ve been considering the fact that people have been locked up in quarantine for a while so maybe the idea of a woman is just mind boggling lmao. It’s been 90-100 degrees lately so hoodies are a no go, but I definitely don’t want to make myself seem less attractive for the sake of men who can’t help themselves lmao. Hopefully most the guys think like you and aren’t the ones trying to steal me for a profit.

[RyanK9]

This is the right answer.
Also she got some amazing eyes. I tend to stare at woman a lot because it is like a landscape for me. Pure relaxation and beauty of life.

The guys who are following her are just creepy. I can kinda understand them but I wouldn't be so aggressive. Just follow her ask her out and this in mins.

[Anonymous]

Because you look nice and we want to put our pensis inside you.

A lot of what you said is clearly crossing a line but often when i am 'looking' at a woman Im not actually aware that i am even doing it and may well be thinking about something else.

The lights are on but that doesn't mean anyone is at home.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they see a demon on your back or something and they're trying to warn you that they see something malevolent :O

[Sawyerblu]

One can hope lmao

[Opinion Owner]

It's okay to have your fears, but eventually you will have to overcome it. Do you have a boyfriend whom you can talk to about your qualms and or a close friend/family member?

[korey182]

but i never do that, like when i see someone i intentionally try not to look. And people who do it's probably a bad habit if they've been doing it a long tim👀

[korey182]

*time

[Thatsamazing]

... Because we want to. Literally why else would we.

[Sawyerblu]

It’s unnerving and uncomfortable to feel constantly stalked. Why not just come up and say something instead?

[Thatsamazing]

Because that would make you feel even more unnerved, probably, in our minds. Also you don't like getting rejected, do you? So why would we like it any more? And we can't help how you feel? You choose to feel how you feel?

[Sawyerblu]

I’m not saying come and ask me out, I’m saying if there’s something in particular you like then say hello and tell me. Just don’t be a creep.

[Thatsamazing]

Uh... "I’m not saying come and ask me out" ... okay...
"I’m saying if there’s something in particular you like then say hello and tell me" ... so... ask you out. Okay...
"Just don’t be a creep." ... uh...

[Sawyerblu]

I’m not sure why that is so difficult for you to comprehend, like I don't know if you’re trolling or lmao. I’ve had men compliment me before without them asking me out, it’s really not that difficult. Just as well, I have complimented men that I found attractive without asking them out or expecting them to ask me out. If you don’t get it then you’re probably one of the creepy ones I’m talking about lol

[Thatsamazing]

Um... no. I'm not. I'm simply giving you a response that you don't want. No one here is "trolling," unless you are.

[Thatsamazing]

Obviously "don't be creepy" is like... well, yeah. Right. Duh. But not everyone just magically has tons of emotional depth and intelligence to know what that's like and what it means. I see a lot of females assuming the worst about a guy or guys in general, by us merely existing. It's legitimate of you to not want to feel "creeped out," but not everyone knows what to say to you. Just saying "don't be creepy" doesn't really mean anything substantive, since it's so obvious but isn't really helpful. It's like saying "don't kill people" or "water is wet." like, yeah. Of course.

[Sawyerblu]

If what you are saying can be taken as sexual or promiscuous, don’t say it to anyone you are not on that level with, especially a stranger. If you were to say something in a tone that’s obviously sexual— don’t say it. I can’t tell you the amount of times I have been hypersexualized just by existing or walking by someone who could have and should have kept their comments to themself. You don’t need to be a genius to be aware that what you are saying is not appropriate. I get what you’re saying though. I’m not against the men of the world, just trying to understand why y’all do what you do sometimes haha

[Thatsamazing]

I'm not understanding what you're saying-- you literally said earlier that guys who pass by you should talk to you rather than just look at you, and now you're saying that guys that pass by you should keep their comments to themselves. Which is it? Yeah, you're "hypersexualized," whatever that means, because we're male and you're female. That's how it works. If you don't like that, blame God or the universe or evolution or whatever, not us. We didn't make the rules.

[Sawyerblu]

I literally just explained it to you. Say appropriate comments. Anything else do not say. If you do not know what is appropriate or not then you should figure it out. Hypersexualized means to be treated as a sexual object and nothing more.

[esotericstory]

they just look at girls out of instinct, or to have some imagination when they are beating their meat.

[alwaysintosomething]

To be honest the few times I stared at women and didn't care if they noticed me was because they were weird and funny looking.

[Anonymous]

That’s what women told us to do. Make eye contact, see how they respond, read their mind somehow and know to approach.

[GreenGold1992]

Damn, sounds like you got a lot of gentlemen stalkers

[Anonymous]

Women dressed like whores to get cheap sexual attention and men give them cheap sexual attention.

[Sawyerblu]

That’s not answering my question though, I don’t dress like a whore 🙃

[Opinion Owner]

if men are staring... i guarantee you are dressed for sexual attention.
like painted on pants, tights, etc.
or something that will guarantee to flash tour parts with basic movement.

most women dress this way and they think it’s normal

[Sawyerblu]

I wear dresses and skirts that I ensure are not too short with tennis shoes, T-shirts’ and athletic shorts, I’m not walking around like a prostitute.

[Sawyerblu]

Besides, if I encounter men tryna flirt through their car windows almost on the daily where they can’t see what I’m wearing? I don’t think it has to do with how I dress.

[Sawyerblu]

Although I’m sure that for other women who DO dress immodestly that it’s a definite thing.

[KrakenAttackin]

Men like to look at attractive women.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't do that. It's rude.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Stare at them back.

[Fuentes]

Tryna fuck