Guys please help does he even really love?

[Anonymous]

My situation at the moment is this past weekend me and my boyfriend almost lost each other because his friend who is obsessed with him, his friend lives with him right by me it's a house they renting from my dad, his friend refuses to make other friends so is attached to my boyfriend and he this past weekend sent me msgs speaking to me rudely telling me what I should do in my relationship and telling me how I must leave my boyfriend alone, and he is trying to take him away from me he spoke to me how he wants and my boyfriend allowed it, he chose his friend over me right infront of me his friend has been causing problems between us for 7 months now and it's effecting my relationship , and now with this virus thing my boyfriend told me all of a sudden today he won't see me till end of year yet he lives right next to me just cause of this covid virus, so now his friend also gets what he wanted by having my boyfriend away from me, and my boyfriend doesn't seem to care, I don't know what to do please help is he even serious about if he is allowing all this and yet he told me I must say sorry to his friend too!!! When his friend is wrong, I feel like he is chosen over me and now ontop of everything I must not see my boyfriend till December my boyfriend said, I feel alone he lives right next to me yet he is saying this, is this all right? Or does he not love me and values his friend more? 💔

[Anonymous]

Not to sound like a complete ass or try to pose any judgement here but do you have any reason to believe that either your boyfriend or his friend might be homosexual? This sounds odd, I know. But my ex was like this with his friend Travis and it turns out that he and Travis had an intimate relationship behind the scenes. I only found out because I had a feeling he was cheating on me and went through his phone, only to find dick pics sent to him from his "best friend" Travis.

[sejla]

I have to agree that could be a possibility or he is just over the relationship

[Asker]

Hi, thank you for your reply, no my boyfriend I don't think is like that but his friend sees his as a brother he is way too attached to him and he treats me how he wants, I think his friend has a thing for him and it's tearing us appart, his friend wanted him away from me and now he is getting it, what should I say or do please help💔 I am sorry for what happened to you

[Asker]

@sejla do you also think it's ridiculous to stay away from me till end of year if he lives right next to me? Every one knows they might get the virus but he lives right next to me so to not see me till end of year is pretty low, I feel like he doesn't love me as I thought he did and he thinks he is right, what should I say please?

[MaidenMandy30]

I'm very sorry to hear this, that is a horrid feeling I know all too well myself. That is unfortunately not the love of your life , his actions are speaking volumes about how much he actually cares about the relationship. He purely doesn't. I would give serious consideration to your own happiness and emotional well being and know his behavior is toxic to that.

[Asker]

My heart is broken, as the woman he sees his future with he makes me feel like he values his friend more than me, his friend is getting what he wants and that's what hurts me even more he is winning cause this is what he wanted, I now must give my boyfriend up so his friend wins him I have been with him for over 2 years, he knows I can't go to his house next door cause me and the friend don't speak any more after his friend treated me, and now ontop of everything my boyfriend doesn't want to come to my house any more and not see me till end of year yet he stays right here, I don't know what to do this is so hard, I have put my everything into this relationship and my boyfriend doesn't even seem bothered by not seeing me till end of year too💔

[MaidenMandy30]

My longest relationship was 5 years. Now with my fiance going on 4. Leaving after a couple good years is hard but that time spent does not mean stay and keep trying when his actions show he really doesn't care

[Asker]

He even said I am not allowed to sleep by him that he will only come sit on my balcony for little while then leave again so now I must spend most weekends by myself and our anniversary next weekend he has never done this before he is making such a big deal I don't understand I am having to beg, how must I have privacy and alone time sitting on a balcony only, he doesn't seem bothered and I am finding it so hard to let go cause my parents are close with him and most of the time they choose his sides,

[MaidenMandy30]

As i said. 2 years isn't that long and he's already doing this to you? You really wanna feel worthless and beg someone to be with you girl.

[Asker]

Should I not chase after him and block him might he then realise even that he loves me? 💔 It's so hard as he stays right here so I keep feeling tempted to walk to his house I won't get over him that he Is staying here and my dad won't let them move out cause he is depending on the money, so that's 5 more months before he moves out how am I suppose to get over him and forget him? 💔 I just feel so sad and alone now I am sorry for all the questions

[MaidenMandy30]

You need to live your own life chica , he doesn't truly love you. That's not a love story to tell your possible children. His actions show he doesn't care for this relationship. but the quicker you realize that the less it'll hurt in the long run because this behavior from him isn't leading anywhere good

[Iron_Man]

Move on the hand writing is on the wall you know what he just told you I’ll see you in 2021 maybe maybe not

[Asker]

I have been with him for over 2 years how can he do this to me is the virus even a reason to say this if he lives right next to me? Or does it seem like he just doesn't really love me? 💔

[Iron_Man]

Something else is going on it’s not the virus

[Asker]

So you think it sounds like an excuse? He lives right here it doesn't make sense to me, he is all of a sudden saying this, I think his friend convinced him too cause his friend wants him away from me and made us almost break up this past weekend, and he works with his friend so he could have spoken to him💔. What should I say to him? Should I tell him if h wants to go the whole rest of the year not seeing me he clearly doesn't love me? 💔

[Iron_Man]

Is he bi? He lives with his friend

[Fuentes]

His friend sounds SuS

[Asker]

What do you mean

[Fuentes]

Sounds like he's gay for your boyfriend

[Asker]

I also believe so he refuses to make other friends even too and. Makes us feel bad for him always for being alone, and now he got it right for me to lose my boyfriend too he seems to value him more than me even

[Fuentes]

Dump him they both weird