How many rejections is normal for a guy to go through?

[Anonymous]

And are these rejections mainly based on the fact girls don’t find him attractive

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[Kkaos]

Normal? Probably not very many because a lot of guys are terrified of rejection and therefore never put themselves out.

It also depends on what you consider a rejection to be. If she tells you she has a boyfriend, is that a rejection? Not really, if she does genuinely have a boyfriend then fair enough. She could also be lying as well though.

All in all, who cares. Rejections are good, they mean you're at least trying. I'd rather die with a million rejections than die wondering why on earth I was living my life so scared of how other people thought of me.

[Asker]

So I have only asked out 3 girls

[Anonymous]

Lots. And no. Sometimes it's that. Sometimes it's that they are already involved with someone, or have their eye on someone that they are hoping asks them out soon. There's lots of reasons. For your own ego, assume it's always because they are involved with someone else, not that they think you're unattractive.

[Asker]

I have started thinking it’s about my looks

[Opinion Owner]

How is that helpful?

[Asker]

It’s not but it brings me closer to being able to give up on dating

[Opinion Owner]

Again, how is that helpful? You clearly want to date someone.

[Asker]

Yeah but no girl wants me

[Opinion Owner]

That's not true - it's an assumption you're making and then using circular logic to justify it.

[Asker]

Dude no girl has ever flirted with me not one

[Opinion Owner]

Irrelevant and probably not true - the site is filled with girls who wonder why guys didn't notice their signals ("I pointed my shoes at him, I flicked my hair at him, I glanced in his direction and then looked away" "Did you talk to him?" "No!!! I'd be too embarrassed!")

You asked out three girls and you're drawing a GLOBAL conclusion from that. Do you know who does that? An idiot.

[Asker]

So girls also don’t try to talk to me. You should see how I get treated at my university

[Opinion Owner]

I don't have to see. You think there's something special about your situation? That you are uniquely lonely? Uniquely sad? No one has ever been so unloved as you?

You're wrong. You're depressed about it, and throwing yourself a pity party with exactly one attendee. You.

You're also too damn lazy to do anything to change your situation, and that's entirely on you.

You are one of many many young men, and they were all (for the most part) as lazy as you.

You can either quit your bitching, get off your ass, and address your reality, or you can wallow in your own misery. But what you can't or won't do, is get people to pity you or mollycoddle you because you asked 3 girls out and got 3 no's. I could knock that out in an hour on a Friday night and still sleep like a fucking baby and head out again on Saturday night.

[Asker]

So it’s not throwing myself a pity party I have very low self esteem each girl that tells me no causes me to dislike myself more. I don’t want to be psychologically broken where I end up in a state hospital

[Definitely]

You'll hate me for this one, but... As many as it needs. You're not supposed to give up just because someone is not interested in you. Especially if it's about superficial things. In that case, consider each rejection as a bullet dodged

[Asker]

Here’s the thing I don’t think I can keep doing it the way a girl played mind games with me 3 years ago she would tell me I was more attractive then this other guy then she went on to date him and rubbed it in my face

[Definitely]

Well, it's your choice whether you give up or not, but if you do, then you'll have no chances anymore. Bad people exist everywhere and not everyone is lucky enough to get everything served in life. Some must work harder than the others to reach their goal... that's just how it is.
As for getting hurt, that happens because you can't accept things for what they are and some people enjoy hurting others because of their own issues. She left you and you have nothing to do with each other. You didn't have a common goal. You didn't work together for a relationship. There's no point in thinking about it any more than that. It takes two willing people to have one after all. If two people with different goals come together, without compromises you can't build anything together. Maybe she just wanted to screw around while you wanted something serious... Who knows, but she's gone and there's no point in caring about someone that's not going to be part of your life anymore.

[InternetGuy]

I'd say a lot, but I don't think most dudes even have the confidence to take the risk.

[Asker]

I have only asked out 3 girls