Do shy or introverted guys ignore girls they like?

[Anonymous]

I follow my crush on instagram. I've few times reached to him by commenting on his story updates. He has done that too but only couple times months ago.

My question is this. Let's say he does like me and he does think of me a lot. Would there be such a lack of contact? I mean, wouldn't he want to talk to me if he did like me? I guess you could say that I'm reading the fact that he's on instagram , but not messaging me as a sign that I really don't cross his mind that much. Am I being over sensitive and over reacting about this? Do you somewhat ignore girls online that you really like and think about a lot?

[Anonymous]

As someone who is very introverted I was a bit different in the sense that I'd drop jokes and hints and stuff to my crush but back out when things got too real. I. e. dropping tonnes of hints and doing my best to impress a girl I liked, then when she said she was considering breaking up with her boyfriend because she thought I was way better. I got scared and talked her out of that.

Bottom line I was happy talking on internet and texting until it started getting real with implications and consequences

[personwew]

As a shy and introverted guy, I try my best to hide my feelings for crushes (unless I know they like me too). It's counter-intuitive and stupid but I'm to afraid to open up and take the risk. I would never message first in the scenario you're describing. I would however be responsive if the person tried to message me, so I'd suggest starting off with that. Although to be clear, him responding to your messages isn't necessarily a sign that he likes you, it'd be the content of the messages that would reveal that, and for an introvert, you'll probably need to show interest first before he'll feel safe to do the same.

[Asker]

What would reveal that shy guy is interested through messaging?

[personwew]

Well, what he writes! If he seems to show interest based on what he writes then that's exactly what you're looking for. You may also try and indicate or hint that you're interested and see how he reacts and responds. There's unfortunately no secret code or anything like that to find, although that would be pretty neat!

[personwew]

Thank you for MHO! ^^

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Does he have a lot of followers? That’s what it sounds like. Maybe he isn’t single. Just not into wanting a relationship at this time. Guys can talk to women casually it doesn’t mean he’s so much interested in dating you as much as he’s just being nice and responding. Mixed signals really mean not interested. It seems like you’re investing too much time in him. Carry on with your life find someone new.

[Anonymous]

Well my boyfriend is shy, but once that he knew I was interested in him, he stepped up and pursued me. And STILL pursues me. And he really was quite extremely shy at the start of our partnership. Shy or not, when someone likes you, they will make sure you know.

[Opinion Owner]

You should make it clear and let him do the rest.

[Asker]

Yeaj my crush doesn't know that im interested in him.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you should make it clear (should you even want him), otherwise he might not approach you.

[Asker]

I've messaged my crush on instagram.. So we haven't even exchanged numbers. So u think even if he was shy he would initiate contact?

[Opinion Owner]

Well I’m pretty sure. My boyfriend really is shy but did that didn’t stop him from chasing me until today. I think when he is sure about how you feel, he might come towards you. Unless he’s not interested in anything and you should make that judgement for yourself here.

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!!

[guesswhoseback]

It’s one of three things:

1. He’s just not that into you. Not as much as you hope.

2. He does like you but is playing hard to get. Giving women too much social media attention is a turnoff. They see that as “beta” behavior flirting. I learned my lesson on this many years ago.

3. He’s oblivious that you like him. I’ve had plenty of women who liked all my social media posts who were just friendzoning me and “throwing out bones” in hopes I’ll stay in their bullshit “orbit” so they can use me at some point. I don’t take a girl liking my posts seriously. It’s a sign but definitely nothing to confirm.

Do you even have his number?

[Asker]

No I don't have his number

[guesswhoseback]

Then DM him and ask if he like to get coffee or something. Just do it.

[Asker]

Wouldn't that be desperate?

[guesswhoseback]

Well if you keep doing what you are doing you will get the same results. Asking for coffee is harmless. It’s not like asking for a booty call.

This passive “ flirting” you are doing is worthless. Need to take a different step.

[Asker]

I commented on his stories 5 times so far. We've had nice short conversation. Thar didn't lead to anywhere though I wasn't flirting with him..

[guesswhoseback]

DM him

[DaModernDaVinci]

No why would they do that. That’s counterintuitive. If they like the lass and you’ve the two talked previously, that’s lame to ignore. If they haven’t, they should get some balls and go for it. You only live once and it’s a good life for rounds of rejection.

[Asker]

So u think he's just uninterested?

[DaModernDaVinci]

Hey sorry if it sounds harsh but it’s the truth. You want to know if I do the same with the young lady who I met at uni. I’m on the insta with her. Like the stories and all sometimes but I wouldn’t make a move at all because of religious difficulties. I’m sure she is aware of that.

He obviously has reasons to avoid making progress with you, in my honest Gag opinion.

[Asker]

Are u shy?

[DaModernDaVinci]

Absolutely not. Hope this helps with solving this quagmire you find yourself in.

[GermanGuy87]

If a guy is shy and introverted you probably aren't going to know if he likes you or not at all based on the way he seems. If he pays attention to you at all online that would most likely be a sign that he's interested or might be if the right situation were to arise.

[Asker]

What do u mean by " If he pays attention to you at all online that would most likely be a sign that he's interested"

[Asker]

He's kinda hot and cold...

[GermanGuy87]

I mean, I'm kind of shy but I wouldn't be watching or commenting on a girls Instagram if I didn't like her a bit. I don't think you're ever really gonna know with this type of guy.

[Asker]

He has watched my instagram stories religious...

[Asker]

Religiously*

[Asker]

He commented on my story update 3 times months ago. After that I commented on his story 4 times and since then he's just passively watched my stuff

[GermanGuy87]

I think you should make a move and tell him or ask him out or something. I think that is your best way to find out.
Or ask a mutual friend to bring up you conversationally with him and get a reading of what he says.

[Asker]

So i your opinion if he's interested he wouldn't do anything about it?

[Texaskid1]

1. He is not into you. As a rule even the most shy man will bust a move and at least try. Hell , when I was in my early 20' s I used to approach girls on my campus or the mall and try... of course I was a dufus but still I tried.

2. You are going to have to approach him and make your interest obvious... but don't get your hopes up.

3. Forget about him and just move on. There are other guys out there.

[Rangers]

I wouldn't go as far as ignoring unless she already said she didn't want to go out with me, at that point I'd ignore her. But I might prematurely conclude that I have no chance anyways and I should save myself the embarrassment and damage to my reputation that would be caused if I asked her out.

[Asker]

I posted a funny screenshot of my friends instagram story that was about a funny question that someone had asked her in the ask me tag.
The question said "what do you think of a cow milk. Isn't cow milk only meant for veal cows.
My friends could've easily thought that I was the one who asked that question when I shared the scrheenshot and posted it on my instagram story

Anyway exact week later my crush posts a story about him holding a goat milk package and asking if he should try it.
Wtf, just a coincidence?
I've couple times replied to his instagram story but not for a while. Is he trying to get me to talk to him?

[Beautyforeverybody]

If a guy likes you, he won’t ignore. Guys don’t play games.

[anon1903]

Well, they just may not know how to respond lol. Do you flirt with him? If not, my answer's unlikely.

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

Why the sudden change like he's upset? He never used to miss my instagram stories and now he's avoiding them.

by the way our conversation were nice and he was super friendly. He always responded to my messages but the problem was that he just didn't initiate contact.

[anon1903]

Found another girl

[Asker]

Why do u think so? Why can't he just watch my stuff like he used to and not blatantly ignore me like he's upset?

[anon1903]

Uhm, can you do that? Blatantly watch stuff I mean


Interest is a critical thing.

Maybe he thinks you're not at all interested

[Asker]

He used to watch everything that I post and know he's updating his story (so i, know he's on instagram and still doesn't watch my story)
I don't know why would he thinl that I'm not interested when I've commented on his stories etc, liked his pics etc.

[anon1903]

Comment and likes aren't assertive I think

[Asker]

So what should I do?

[anon1903]

Find a way to confront him or leave

[Levin]

Well, lassie, you'd think the wee lad would say something on the internet even if he's shy. Should be easy on the net, maybe not in real life.

[heart-beat]

I used to be an introvert. When I liked a girl, I texted her and slowly fell in love and told her. I think at some point he has to bring out his guts to speak to you. Until there is convo between you too, you I don't think you can be sure about that.

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

Why the sudden change like he's upset? He never used to my instagram stories and ow he's avoiding them.

[Asker]

by the way our conversation were nice and he was sioer friendly.

[Anonymous]

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[spartan55]

How about talking to him in person instead of through stupid Instagram.

[Dracuaw]

Some shy people won't make the first step even after getting clear hints.

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

Why the sudden change like he's upset? He never used to miss my instagram stories and now he's avoiding them.

by the way our conversation were nice and he was super friendly. He always responded to my messages but the problem was that he just didn't initiate contact.

What should I do?

[Dracuaw]

I hate to be the crow that brings bad news but when you are the person that initiates the conversation every time, this means the other person isn't interested.

[Asker]

I only messaged him few times (5 times in total). He also commented on my story 3 times but the last 4 times it was me.

[Asker]

Why is he blatantly ignoring my now when I stopped reaching out to him after 2 months of us not talking (he used to watch All of my stuff before)

[Dracuaw]

Maybe he moved on OR he's ghosting you.

[Asker]

Why would he ghost me?

[Dracuaw]

I don't know maybe you did/said something that upset him? Or maybe something disappointed him.

[Asker]

I've now ignored him back. Should I just confess my feelings to him or would that be desperate?

[JKingOff]

Probably. I wouldn't use the word ignored necessarily. More like they're probably just too skittish to make a move.

[Shy_Steve]

Yes, Definitely and can even seem like we have no interest in you which is usually untrue.

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

Why the sudden change like he's upset? He never used to miss my instagram stories and now he's avoiding them.

[Shy_Steve]

Guys can get tired of using social media so you are better just to go talk to him alone.

[tyelehr12]

No. I'm pretty shy myself but I would absolutely make an effort to respond if I were him

[Asker]

He does respond but he just doesn't initiate texts...

[DrunkenMonkey1423]

Hey probably doesn't like you

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

Why the sudden change like he's upset? He never used to my instagram stories and ow he's avoiding them.

by the way our conversation were nice and he was super friendly

[FakeNIK]

Maybe he's just not into you..

[Asker]

My crush is kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to him for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?
I stopped contacting him because I got tired of contacting him first

[Asker]

Why the sudden change like he's upset?

[FakeNIK]

Do you have his number?

[Asker]

No why?

[FakeNIK]

Well you guys don't have any deep connection I see.. if you're into him why not make a move?

[FakeNIK]

Well it's just like two teenage flirting with each other.. if you wanna take things to next level.. better make a move.. or else he's gone.

[Asker]

Why I should make a move... If he was interested wouldn't he make a move as a guy?

[FakeNIK]

Introverts.. never do that..

[FakeNIK]

Then I think it's better to wait.. if he's even a little bit into you he'll make an effort.. if he's not you should better find someone else...

[Asker]

So I shouldn't initiate contact with him anymore?

[FakeNIK]

Try ghosting him for some time... well it risky but still you'll get to know whether he's into you.. or not.. rest is upto you..

[Asker]

He's actually ghosting me now... Do u think he's trying the same tactic in me. He qa siper friendly to me when we were texting and now he's avoiding my instagram story when he used to watch my stiff religiously. Doesn't that kinda prove that maybe he liked me and is upset now for some reason?

[FakeNIK]

That's why I said it's a bit risky... well most guys don't do that Unless until they are sure.. So there's a possibility... but still you can use this tactic after 3-4 days if he still doesn't respond meaning the answer is clear..

[Asker]

What do u mean by doesn't respond? We've never messaged each other regularly. Last tine I initiated contact and it's over 2 months ago and now he's ignoring me wtf

[Asker]

Why can't he be just normal and not blatantly ignore me... Is he testing me?

[FakeNIK]

Well I can clearly see that he's not into you.. I'd say that you should move on...

[Asker]

Why he's suddenly igoring me when he religiously watched my stuff before?

[FakeNIK]

Well I think he's just over you..

[FakeNIK]

There can be other reasons but this makes sense..

[Asker]

So that means he used to like me?

[FakeNIK]

Maybe... not sure

[FakeNIK]

by the way what do you want from him exactly?

[Asker]

I like him...

[FakeNIK]

Well there's a saying "If you love someone let them know".

[Asker]

I don't know I feel like why bother..

[FakeNIK]

Okay let me tell you my story when I was in my late teens.. there was a girl I used to like... it took me literally a year to finally propose her... she was kinda like my first love.. It felt so good when I told her that how much liked her.. That feeling I just can't explain..

[FakeNIK]

So doesn't matter how much introverted one is... if he likes you.. he'll make an effort to let you know...

[BjornIronPeenus]

They don't approach at all

[Asker]

Not even initiate texts?

[BjornIronPeenus]

Usually no

[Asker]

by the way he's kinda ignoring me now that I have not reached out to hin for weeks.. Do u think he's trying to get me to talk to him again xD?

[Dave31989]

crush's are for losers

[Coulis]

And so is knowing how to use an apostrophe correctly, apparently.

[Ash525]

If they do then they need to grow up lol