I grew mine out this year because the pandemic shutdowns gave me an excuse to get through the awkward phase of it. Itās not a great look for me, if Iām being honest, lmao, but I started playing hockey last year and thought itād be fun to embrace that lifestyle a bit and get some good salad going😝
Problem is, to my surprise, it turns out my hair is kind of in between wavy and curly, so it doesn't really hang. In the back it just curls into itself and itās wicked bushy. Like you can see the back of my hair from the front lmao, it sticks out a good three inches to each side. I usually wear a trucker hat over it, so picture the kid from the video screenshot I posted with a hat on and a somewhat similar thing going on in back, but even curlier and bushier...
So I like the look when I have a hat on, but my only other option is wear a bandana as a head band and have wild curls up top. Sort of a whiteboy Patrick Mahomes thing, without the shaved sides, but the bandana covers that part, so basically the same look. Thereās no good option for it without a hat because itās just too wild. My girlfriend literally laughed in my face the first time she saw it that way, like she couldnāt even help it😂
So itās nothing like the guy you have pictured, and I take really good care of my hair and my stylist of 20+ years still sees me every few weeks to trim any split ends (which I havenāt really gotten), I use high quality shampoo/conditioner, he gives me all kinds of creams and oils to put in it, so itās not like I have an unkempt ratās nest, this is just how it looks even at its best. And my stylist is polite to a fault, but I can tell heās thinking ābro, this looks HORRIBLE on you, and thereās really nothing I can do to make it presentableā and just wonāt say it😂 I donāt care so much right now while weāre all masked up, but soon Iāll be back to my usual ways of trying to dress nicely, and I just donāt think I can make it work without short and neat hair like in my profile pic (I havenāt updated for a reason, I look like a bag of smashed assholes right now😂). I kind of want to leave it longer on top and try some things, but my face shape doesnāt do well with longer sides, and if the sides go, the back has to go, or else itās an official mullet lmfao. Plus I might get to July and decide itās way too hot, because my hair is SUPER thick, and Iām kind of a sweater😅
So Iād say in general, it CAN look good, and I donāt get into all the dumb shit about it being feminine or whatever, but itās definitely not for everyone, myself being a prime example, and you have to have a certain hair quality and overall ālookā to make it work. All hair was not created equal, haha.
First off of a guy wants to look feminine, that's his choice and he can do what he likes. However from an aesthetic standpoint and how people react, I wouldn't suggest a guy look very feminine if not balanced by a fair amount of masculinity (in most cases in appearance but personality matters too).
people act like masculine and feminine are end points on an axis, but that's not quite right. They are different scoring systems. In some cases they conflict but in a lot of cases they are just -different- Being tough is considered masculine but it doesn't really make someone "not feminine" to be tough and capable. Being into color and style and wearing it well is somewhat feminine but not "anti masculine"
Consider two extremes: your average classic rock star strutting second on stage with long hair tight pants and scarves draped off his microphone stand, and your average bland out of shape office worker wearing khaki pants and a polo shirt over his doughboy body. Which one is more masculine? The rock star. Which is more feminine? The rock star. Which one do people find more attractive and respect more... the rock star.
People actually like some of those feminine qualities in men as long as they're balanced by masculine ones.
so long hair? If out of shape office worker with no beard grows long hair it's going to look like shit. His masculinity is so low that adding feminine touches make him look like a really ugly woman. If he gets his ass in shape dresses better and either uncovers a more masculine face or grows a beard, getting long hair will make him look more like a barbarian who recites epic poetry before battle.
it's a risky choice for teen boys who don't have a masculine face/body unless they can epically pull off being cool/pretty. I would not suggest out of shape shy teen guys grow long hair hoping to look like men they admire.
I donāt like super long. The length the photo has is okay and it totally depends how the person pulls it off. Some people look nice with Jesus style hair and beards especially if they have similar features to how Jesus is depicted in statues: olive skin, sharp nose, high cheekbones, chiseled jawline and big deep set eyes with thick eyebrows. Those type of men do suit long hair.
Baby faced men look better with short hair though tbh.
It all depends what frames the face nicely. Everyone has different bone structure. I think slightly curly hair looks nice with the Jesus beard/hair look.
Hrithik Roshan looks amazing in the look in his film Guzaarish.
I consider it feminine. Yes there have been some hot men with long hair (see below) but iād literally always be thinking āgosh i wish heād chop it off already.ā I can't stand to see a dude flip his hair either. But i find men with short/buzzcut/shaved/fade hairstyles to be 10X more appealing honestly.
It was a full moon in the mountains where I grew up he was a guy I just met qe were sitting in his car when he pulled his hair band out of his hair.
Suddenly the moon caught the waterfall of his gorgeous blue black hair falling to just past his shoulders like silk in a waterfall. It was all I could do to keep from reaching out and running my hands trough it.
I swear I had never wanted to do anything so bad in my life and to this day I have no idea why I held myself back.
So yes long hair is very seductive if it is carried for properly...
It is feminine however its generally attractive for a hyper masculine man to have ONE highly feminine thing he shows off. Maybe he has his ears pierced or long hair or flaunts his adonis body in a somewhat feminine fashion. Maybe he rocks pink shirts. But the key is ONE thing. All of it would make him seem gay. One thing shows off he's not afraid to break society gender norms however he does it from a position of meeting or exceeding them. Its like a multimillionaire lives like a buddist monk thats like wtf damn respect. A homeless never had a job druggie lives in a slum you think ok just another bum. The difference you can criticize the game once you win.
Then how come kings, dukes, captains and superiors had long hair while the slaves are required to get a haircut if its "feminine"? If you're going to bring up the argument "but that was back then and this is now" i already got an answer for that.
@Aiko_E_Lara did you read what i wrote? Its a fucking king. He won the game of being the most powerful male. So now he can flaunt long hair as a sign of power. Smh. I already wrote all this.
But that still has nothing to do with genders. Your argument is saying it is feminine so the kings are feminine because they have long hair. Or in short, you're just saying it's ok to be feminine because he is a king. But really though i can still bring up the fact that people had long hair even if they weren't kings. So yes it is more of a social construct to consider it feminine and that doesn't necessarily make it hard wired in us that men are supposed to have short hair. Because i also know when the short hair became a trend. That is also that time where men became industrial slaves but we're not living in that area anymore.
@Aiko_E_Lara because long hair signals femininity and short hair masculinity? Obvious answer for an obvious question. Let me ask you this... what do penises have to do with it?
Because if that were true then why are men even capable of growing long hair? You're talking about long hair as if it's biologically exclusive for women just like how you're talking about penises right now. Such terrible comparison
Also exactly if you're confused about what penises have to do with this then you're just basically confused with your own claim claiming that hair is gendered.
Obvious answer is obvious answer you say? If it's obvious then how come you still don't get it? I literally gave you the reason behind the short hair trend for men. But there you are just saying "because it's a symbol because appealing to tradition" without having any real reason behind it
@Aiko_E_Lara seeing as most men go bald to some degree... shorter hair is absolutely a natural male feature for most men for most of their lives. Women typically never bald, so longer hair is naturally a feature of most women for most of their lives.
Also due to mens activities such as war, short hair was the norm for practical purposes. Men with long hair and long beards were being show offs. Women since the dawn of time have been less concerned with war so to cut their hair specific for that purpose makes little sense.
Just because their is some gender overlap or ambiguity does not negate the biological aspect. Sexual differentiation is what causes sexual attraction. That is biological and nothing changes that. Whether the feature is biological or a social construct in part or in full. It is masculine or feminine and used as a cue for reproduction.
Most doesn't necessarily mean all. If you want to save biological like comparing it to reproductive organs, you cannot say most males have penises because every male do just like how you say most guys go bald. So yes comparing here to reproductive organs is still a terrible comparison. What also doesn't change is the fact that men are still capable of growing long hair. Not all men goes bald and i cannot say not all men don't have penises. So with that reasoning, it is still a straw man fallacy. Last i remember you are giving kings exceptions but what about people way back in the past? Jesus, his disciples, romans and even the villagers had long hair. Time is irrelevant because humans are still humans despite what time it is. Most guys only when short hair because they just prefer it due to the brainwash that happened.
@Aiko_E_Lara most or all is irrelevant of the trait. Balding is biological. Period. Whether all men go bald is irrelevant. It is a sexual differentiation that is a cue for sexual fitness. Just like tits. Not all women even have visible breasts, some are totally flat. Some fat men have tits. doesn't make it any less biologically feminine to have breasts. They are a sexual cue for men to determine who to be attracted to.
Biological but it's not exclusive for men also because women goes can go bald too. That's also the point i talked about which you just wanna deliberately ignore to give yourself a validation. If you also wanna compare it to tits to hair, i'm still talking about exclusives being, since when do men breastfeed? Since when is men and women's boobs the same? If hair is the sexual cue for men to determine who to be attracted to then men from the very beginning of evolution would've get a hair cut. But that's not really the case. Balding may be but balding is not a choice, hair cut is a choice so there for it's not linked to our biology that we must cut our hair as if we're gonna die from it just because we go balding.
@Aiko_E_Lara " If hair is the sexual cue..." no. it is A sexual cue. Imagine a world where men and women could not be differentiated because there is no one specific feature that only is 100% for men and one for women. Its a combination of a thousand features that together are used subconsciously to determine sex. How do you know who is a man or woman while walking around? Do you need to do a genital check to figure it out? Lmfao i hope not.
Maybe for you but not everyone has hair fetish. Sure "imagine a world" yeah im basically just like how the world use to be where men had long hair also because it doesn't matter, also in the animal kingdom where males and females exactly have the same fur. You're acting like there's no other feature that determine which one is a male or female but you're making a big deal out of hair that you're just getting used to it and you can't tell the difference anymore by just looking at anyone's face or even just hearing their voice.
And also why is it even necessary to know a stranger's gender. If a see someone I don't know who have long hair whether if it's a he or a she and even if it's obvious, do i have to approach and confirm if they really are? Would you go ask that guy on that picture to see his genitals for you to confirm? I bet you would because it doesn't matter to anyone. Except for those really narrow minded ignorant about how the short hair trend started.
Comparing long hair to boobs doesn't really make sense. Most men naturally grow long hair if they don't cut it. Most men won't grow boobs (except for a short amount of time during puberty it's common for guys to grow moobs for a little bit due to the hormone changes; otherwise guys generally won't grow boobs unless they're unhealthy due to obesity or hormonal disorders).
Irrelevant. Is masculine. If you see a bald person from the back, would you assume its a man or woman? Smh. I dont understand how this is so confusing.
You are still most men. What function does a hair even do for men? Unlike boobs, boobs lactate and that ability is exclusive for women. Well i know men are capable of lactating as well, it is not for children and not something a child can rely. You know i wouldn't we assume he is a guy or a girl if it was also the case where we live in a society where 99% of girls cut their hair. You still ignored what i said that there other feature that is an indicator whether they are male or female. I'm still asking you why is it even necessary to know stranger what their gender is? You cannot tell by their voice? You cannot tell by how their brain is hardwired? Well it's nobody's fault you're just so reliant to hair that you think it's biological that men should have long hair ask if men dies if they have long hair
If you want to say most men, but still doesn't mean exclusive. Even if you say most men, 51% still counts as most. But do only 51% of women have boobs? I actually did some research and it actually said 53% of men at the age of 40 to 49 goes bald. The percentage is close enough to what i said. 47% of non not going bald is still a big percentage actually. And you cannot say only 47% of women have boobs
If women don't go bald as a middle-aged, why is it that there a lot of middle-aged women cutting their hair? Now they are masculine? I thought only guys should cut their hair because they go bald when women don't
@Aiko_E_Lara women in general dont cut their hair bald because its unattractive. Its unattractive because its masculine. Women seen as masculine have lower sexual fitness and are less likely to procreate.
It doesn't even have to be bald but i'm still talking about even old women not go balding still cut their hair short. Balding and haircut, who is the capability of growing long hair is still in fact not biologically exclusive. You know the rest of what i said actually still stands. why are you dodging that now?
Because you like to bring out the topic balding so much, despite it only making up to 25-60+% is going bald and of course it always depends by country. Perhaps you're just getting salty because you are going bald yourself is that you just want to speak for everyone brainwashing them even though balding guys can still grow long hair https://www.pinterest.ph/pin/570690584023037961/ when balding, it doesn't even mean completely go bald by nature. And that's not all, it already possible to regrow hair last i checked so yes balding men don't really have to worry that much anymore.
It really depends on the guy. For every picture you can show me of a decent looking guy with long hair I can show you 10 unattractive guys with long hair. The fact is that long hair does not make you more attractive as a guy. It's everything that's taken into account... facial structure and how you present yourself.
My late husband had long hair he kinda of looked like Danny Trejo. I'd braid it for him sometimes especially when he was going on his motorcycle. Other times he'd leave it long & wavy. It really did look hot 🔥
It depends. I much rather Thor with short hair. Hugh Jackman... it doesn't matter. Yum. Ryan Reynolds... just alive is good for me. It depends on the person and their way of doing it. Man bun is super cute. But I like bald and tatted up too. I think I just like men.
Depends on the length of the long hair, for example my hair is long - as in it is just above medium length, it's over my ears but no where near my shoulders. If it reaches the guy's shoulders, odds are it will look feminine due the the commonality of the female long hairstyle.
Voted D. Saying that long hair on men is feminine is like saying that short hair on women is manly. I disagree with that, we all have the right of choosing the hairstyle we want. That being said, I prefer men with short hair but some guys look great with long hair.
It also got me thinking that maybe there is a haircut policy because they don't want the employee to look more superior than the boss who is probably balding. I'm probably being biased but i think curly hair make a guy with long hair look regal the most.
it's not tactical. don't ask women what kind of hair you should have, they have no clue why males even have short hair traditionally.
any kind of long haired male you see in hisory is only depicted like that to show that he was peaceful. like Jesus, he was originally depicted beardless and with short hair. then they added a beard and long hair for artistic reasons. Its true that tribal men usually had long hair but they would keep it practically short in other ways
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I loooooove!!! Long hair on men!! I don't think it's feminine at all!!! I think its very attractive and would love to brush his hair for him!!! 😍😍ā¤ļø💞🤗🤭āŗļø
I used to grow my hair long in college. My then-girlfriend got pissed at me when I cut it short, she told me it made me look like a lion on the prowl. I've been wearing my hair short ever since. My hair gets way too unmanageable when it's long.
