When will a man love me if I am very socially retarded?

[Anonymous]

I am extremely dumb (socially) and naive and therefore almost worthless. I may have undiagnosed Asperger’s. I am intellectually smart (like with reading and writing & abstract concepts but not math) but very very dumb as in socially retarded
I know I'm a burden because I'm so naive.

[TremorJay]

You're not worthless at all. I know it doesn't seem like much to be intelligent, but if you apply yourself, you can learn to navigate the social world too. That's what I did, and no, I'm not saying life is suddenly easy for me. It's difficult for everyone.

A lot of people appreciate intelligence in relationships. It's kind of a pain when no one else wants to discuss ideas, and meanwhile you're bored to death hearing about what team played well, or what happened on the popular Netflix show last night. (personal experience)

Again, you're not worthless. It's unhealthy to think or say those things. Please take care of yourself 🙂

[Asker]

So true! Sports and tv bores me as convo topics that people like to talk about. Thanks so much you helped me feel better!

[TremorJay]

Happy to help

[Djaay]

You know what ) ; Stop listing to all those stupid doctors and stupid others that embark on the idea that your the one with an impaired problem. They're all the ones with a problem , not you. Been there and done this.

[Asker]

Thanks how do you live?

[Djaay]

Throughout deep understanding , wonderfully !

[Anonymous]

I hate to see that you think so low of yourself🥺. Try changing your mindset, fake it until you make it! If you have all these intellectual qualities no way you’re a burden. The only burden seems to be your low self image but you can fix that❣️

[Asker]

You are very kind I appreicate what you said thank you ❤

[Avicenna]

It will be difficult to find a partner, but a guy who is an Aspie himself is probably your best bet because he won’t be shocked by those things.

[boggboss]

It can always happen just have to get lucky have you tried doing it more to learn how to improve

[Asker]

Doing what more? I have intellectual knowledge of relationships but in pactice I am still very naive.

[boggboss]

By being around people socialising

[Asker]

I just live life. I dont really like socializing for the hell of it. I am VERY awkward.

[boggboss]

Yet if u want to get better at it practice will help plus how will u find a man if u actively are not helping with it

[RedSauce]

I don't know about aspergers but you sure as shit sound depressed

[Jshe4orvef]

Ok. Hug me?

[RedSauce]

@Jshe4orvef Sure, sending over a virtual hug

[Jshe4orvef]

Hugz. Thanks

[Iron_Man]

You’ll be OK you’ll have to get used to it being out in the public

[Anonymous]

Date someone else on the spectrum.

[Djaay]

What spectrum? That's a lie

[Asker]

@Djaay how do you like to explain socially different people then?

[Djaay]

I'm diagnosed
with high functioning autism when I was younger. So how again am I socially different than the rest of society? I'm not. Only because I never believed that so called diagnostic malady. But being told your socially different might be true , depending on your own perspective. Most people I encounter online and in person are definitely socially more awkwardly than myself not to mention most on gag as well. So in its entirety , most who quak at the spectrum diagnostic malady's are more socially awkward than those they literally point at.

[Asker]

@Djaay guess its just weird cause guys always say im awkward. But on the flip side these are guys i personally find to be selfish a s sholes excuse my French!

[Asker]

@Djaay And then there are people who expect me to make small talk when really I have nothing to say. Why do people need others to speak constantly?

[Djaay]

Well a lot of people are in search mode of themselves and by socializing with others freely which gives perspective. Not only to the one spoken too but rather also the one listening receives retrospect of relations as well. Its never always about sex. That's just a today formalady of blaming or used as an excuse.

[Djaay]

And by the way awkwardness is also a choice

[Asker]

@Djaay interesting. What do you mean awkwardness is chosen? Do you have an example of that?

[Djaay]

People throughout different facets and variables of choices in they're life might deem themselves as percived as awkward to others or vs vrs. 7billion people on this planet which inscribes 7billion different ways we all live our life similar to others or rather not , its just a choice.

[RedSauce]

@Djaay Dude I love your confidence and the denial of your own issues is not all that surprising but you can't chuck out pseudo-philosophy if you also can't string a coherent sentence together; keep it together and you'll make a more impactful point.

[Opinion Owner]

@Djaay Autism Spectrum Disorder. Our brains actually work differently than neurotical people; they have done brains scans to prove it.

[visio9]

your English writing is very well, you are smart

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

I have the same issue; so I definitely would.

[Jshe4orvef]

Maybe aspergers is fake like other user below says

[Opinion Owner]

Aspergers isn't fake they just decided to remove the term for diagnoses and folded all of those people into Autism Spectrum Disorder, or ASD for short.

[Marhaban-1]

In under 10 years