When a guy doesn’t want to label anything and just have fun, is he not interested in you romantically?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I recently started “dating” (I put dating in quotation makes bc I don't know what we are) about 3 weeks ago. We’ve been texting everyday for 3 weeks, went on a date, and hung out together with friends. We have a second date next week. He tells me things like “I really like you”, “we look good together”, “other people think we’re cute together”, “I can’t wait to see you” etc. but when I ask him what he wants from this, he tells me that he doesn’t want to label anything and that we should just have fun. We’re both inexperienced with relationships - we both never had one, but I’ve had a lot of hookups/flings, which he has not had. I want/am ready for a relationship, but I don't know what to do. I don’t think he’s going to use me for sex, since he’s still a virgin. But I don’t want to get hurt again. I don’t want to open up and be vulnerable if all he wants is to “have fun”

[kaylaS91]

I mean... I went on two dates with a guy who pulled the 'no label yet' card, despite having said he's not into friends with benefits initially.

Then I went on a date with another guy who also said he's looking for something more serious, and he actually asked me out on the third or fourth date.

Honestly, I wouldn't give a guy who just wants to have fun. It might be true, but it also might be him just saying that so if he finds someone he vibes with better, he won't look too bad. Especially since he hasn't had that phase where he hooks up with a lot of people, I'd approach this situation with caution.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Putting pressure on him to call it a relationship before he is ready can scare him away. I get that you don't want to get hurt, but if you take away the risk you severely cut down your chance of finding happiness.

What's life without taking a risk anyway?

[SamFromFL]

Reported

[Ghostykill3r]

Why?

[SamFromFL]

It’s a duplicate q

[Ghostykill3r]

Oh ok