When I was in 11th grade, I was transferred to a new section where I only knew 3 people. The teacher had a seat plan for us and on my right was this cute guy. I told myself not to have a crush on him just for his looks, so I didn't. I actually ended up hating him because he always transferred seats and was not there most of the day. It irritated me. Made me look like I was the worst seatmate you could have.
One day, this guy asked me a question, I replied. I told myself "hey, why not try talking to this guy" I asked him something, he replied and we just exchanged thoughts until the teacher came. The next day was the same, he transferred seats but we talked more. Time passed, he would move less and we talked more until he didn't transfer at all and we talked none stop. There was even a time the teacher called my attention 3 times but didn't hear him because we were chatting but luckily I knew the answer to his question. We became really good buddies and he called me his "new found friend" which I really liked.
So we were watching a show in school and there were girls dancing and his guy friends teased him to one of the girls. I didn't mind but when I knew it was true, that'w when I realized I liked him more than just a friend because I got jealous XD then one day he just started asking me about lyrics of love songs and what girls like and I'd suck in my breath while listening :|
This girl turned him down and found himself a new girl months later. Their relationship worked out and we were still friends. Even tagged along while he chose a necklace as a gift for the girlfriend.
A year later, I still liked him and during our retreat he told me how he valued our friendship and how I treated him differently from my other guy friends. How I was always there when he needed a friend and was willing to help out and would always perk him up and have great convos with him...I never worked up the nerve to tell him how I felt
So another year (2011) I still like him (a bit)...
I took his pen yesterday just to tick him and my friend jokingly questioned me why I didn't want him to go (he needed the pen and had to go the library) I shot her a look then the guy moved closer to me, looking at me closely and said "yeah, why won't you let me go?"...kinda panicked so I gave him back the pen so they both would shut up :D
It has happened to me many times. And I can't ever get a guy to see me as more than a friend or a little sister. Why? I don't know. I was 16 at the time that we had became friends. It was a pretty rough at first since I don't really open up to people easily. He started working with me and my family because my cousin recommended him. We started to talk more. We became really close really fast considering he was just working with us for a month. We told each other everything. I felt like we were more than just friends. He would confide in me whenever he needed anything and vice versa. We would play around. We would play fight,argue, he would touch my hair and comment on how soft it was, my thighs and put his head on my lap, we would lean on each other he would caress my cheeks and face and always look deep into.i would caress my hands in his hair. He would get in between my legs when I was on the counter and just stay there. He even picked me up once. I loved working with him. It was so much fun. due to my age at the time it was just a summer job and I had to go back to school.So he got my number from my oldest guy cousin. He randomly called me that day when I left and we talked for about thirty minutes.It was fun and after that we began to text/call each other more frequently. He would ask me how school was and if I ever needed anything he was a phone call away. I started to develop feelings for him. He left work but we would text and call each other every day. My parents were against our friendship but I didn't care. Then he dropped the I can always call you for anything "You're like the little sister I never had and wish I had".I then felt heart broken and had no choice but to move on.Within months he had broken up with his girlfriend and left her for another girl. I never got to tell him how I felt and never knew if he at one point felt the same. But we still remained in contact throughout all the time that this.He feel in love with his girlfriend and married her on February 14th 2011. I couldn't go to the wedding because I had to work that day. Even during his honeymoon he contacted me which was surprising to me. We stayed in contact until the day of his birthday that he called me on March 8th. I miss him a lot. And yes I do still think about him as well as all the other times that I was friend zoned. SORRY FOR IT BEING TOO LONG.
I have tons but I'll just tell one.
A guy asked me out, and I wasn't sure if I really liked him so I told I just wanted to be friends and he was like a brother to me and blah blah blah. I told him to move on with his life and he did, but he was still kinda interested in me because he tried to make me jealous all the time.
This was 6 months ago.
A few weeks ago I realized I liked him. But he has a girlfriend now, and they really love each other.
Sad ending.
i have so many friends. My very best friend I met at my 7th grade bus stop. He was a tall skinny guy and I was really small. We first hated each other and didn't talk for the first few days. Then one day we just couldn't stop talking to each other, he was the first person I met that could beat me at video games. His family treated him like sh*t, but my family absolutely LOVED him. I hung out with him just about everyday, we'd have sleepovers every weekend (toilet paper SO many houses), we were unstoppable on the xbox... He was basically the brother that I never had. His family absolutely hated him, they disowned him for no good reason at all. So I'd ALWAYS have him over because it was exactly what he needed in life. He loved eating dinner with my family, we bought him birthday/christmas presents, we'd take him on vacations, etc.
I never lost contact of him after high school. He moved to Missouri with his biological mom (who he never sees) and when he was forced to move out he needed a roommate. ME. I flew my ass across the country to live with him and split his rent, saving him money. He's my brother, I can't let him get into too much debt. ya know?
He's now in florida. We still continue to talk all the time. He met the girl of his dreams, she takes awesome care of him and her family loves him alot. I'm not moving to florida to help his ass out of debt, we talked about that. But he bought his girlfriend a promise ring and he calls me and asked me if id be there to be his Best Man in his wedding...
at first I was waaaay shocked to hear about my best friend/brother getting married. I was proud of him, ya know? that's a big step in life. No doubt I'm happy to see that... he's happy. So I agreed.
They haven't started planning yet, I guess its suppose to happen next year. so, it's still a wait for it to be really official.
I'm trying to think of what speech I'll make at his wedding, if there is one
Alright, so when I first met this girl in August, at my church (We were both high school seniors, near the same age) (I always thought she was attractive even before we started talking), we got along well, but she had a boyfriend for about the next two months. So about November we have still been talking, and I hear she has broken up with her boyfriend, and our relationship was good, but we didn't really click until about a month or two later, when we went out with some people from our church and we really started to get along then, and was laughing at tons of things I was saying, and mentioned my looks, and we both were acting very flirty and humourous so I ask for her number which I got, so I texted her from then on, and both of us kept up good conversations through text. I still talked to her in person at church of course. But around late April she started taking a long time to reply to my messages, and this happened multiple times, so I decided to cut back on texts for a while, but still talked to her in person. During the summer I went on two group trips with her, one where I didn't really talk too much to her, and the other we talked all the time and in the drive back, she put her head on my shoulder to sleep on, and I put mine on her head. So in July I started texting again, and on September 1st I told her how I felt, she told me that I was adorable, but that a lot in her life was going in her life right now, but we could date in the future. A week later I looked her up on Facebook, and I saw that she got in a relationship about a week before I asked, and didn't say anything about it. When I asked what the guy was like, she told me he was perfect, he got along with her family, he was funny and sarcastic (my traits BTW), he has a car. She didn't give a damn about my feelings, a simple "I like him, he's nice" would've been fine. I loved this girls traits, and personality, but I don't know wtf happened
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There was this guy that I liked for probably 4 years (at about 14), I wanted to be with him so so so bad but I could never get up the nerve to tell him, it turned out he felt the same way I did. One day he asked me on a date and I told him "I'm sorry but I think we should just be friends". He was devastated and so was I but what was I suppose to do I already told him I couldn't take it back. So we continued to just be "friends", he would call me and text me everyday and I would do the same, there was flirting and smiles you know the typical stuff. In 2009 he joined the army and I was so devastated when he told me he would be leaving for training and then would be deployed. He would call me whenever he could from the barracks and I finally worked up the nerve to tell him I liked him, well he responded "I have met this girl, her name is "Sarah" (that's what we'll call her) and I know you would love her." I was so hurt I started crying and hung up the phone. Well when he returned he told me he and "Sarah" didn't work out and he asked me if I still felt the same, I told him I did but was far to hurt with him to work anything out. He moved to Florida a week later, (2010) and met this girl "Asia" (that's what we'll call her) well they got engaged and he invited me to the wedding. I still like him as much as I did when I first met him, so I told him no I can't make it, I can't just be your friend anymore. He was upset but understood. About a month ago he moved back from Florida and called me to tell me "Asia" cheated on me, blah, blah, blah (I think she's a dirty tramp), and that the wedding was off and had been for about six months and wanted me to come over and hang out with him. Well while we were hang out he told me that he has always had feelings for me, and well loved me that was followed by a kiss, and well some mind blowing sex. When we woke up in the morning he asked me to be his girl and I told him but of course. He is currently doing training and then is getting deployed. I miss him deeply. I'm 19 and he just turned 21. This is a friend zone story that worked out for the best :D. Sorry so long.
A couple of years ago, when I was 15, I had this guyfriend that I visited during the summer. We were just friends, and since I lived so far away from him (it took like 8 hours with train) we only saw each other during the summer and kept some MSN and phone contact during the rest of the year. anyway, this summer we were having a beach party, him and I and a couple of friends. we talked and he told me about this danish girl he was interested in and so on. there were no romantic feelings at all between us. but then we got drunk and had a bit drunken bad sex. which was his first time. the day after he was still acting like just a friend, which I preferred since I still didn't have any feelings for him. after I went back home he started texting me, about how he missed me and how I would be the perfect girlfriend. So I had a talk with him, told him that I only saw him as a friend. he said okey. But after that it got worse. for about five months he texted, MSN and called me, telling me how much he loved me and how I should move to him so that we could be together. I kept telling him I wasn't interested and didn't see him that way. Finally I started to ignore him. I felt really mean, and hated that it got that way, because I really liked him as a friend. we had been good friends for years and he had never acted like that before. so after that I lost complete contact with him. He called me once in the middle of the night about a half year after that and told me that he still loved me when he was drunk. after that I didn't hear from him for about four years. Then we randomly talked on Facebook, catched up a bit, but it wasn't the same anymore. But it made me really miss him as a friend.
When I was little I had a crush on the guy next door,my mom entrusted him to take care of me with his older bro while she wasn't around,we used to play and spend all day at his house,at that age I didn't know what is love then we grew...4 years ago we were like twins(he never went somewhere without me and I,too)while my best (girl)friend (who knew that I liked him)went at him and took him away from me. Her sister who knew my situation tried to erase my pain. After 6 months they broke up he found about my feelings from one of his ex-gf's friend.He never asked me about that and I pretended that I never feel that way about him.He always smiled gentle at me and closed his eyes when he saw me.Now he transformed into a playboy and never talked to me.When I'm heading upstairs he is keeping his head down and tries not to look at me directly but I'm in a good relationship with his family.The girls that he is going up with are all sluts that wand his body(they want just an 1 night adventure).I got over it,yet it pains me when these sluts are coming out of his apartment early in the morning and it pains me even more when he tries to ignore.I think I lost him as a friend.:(
I was told "let's just be friends" about a year and a half ago...back when I was 14. I asked the guy I really liked (let's call him Joe) to Homecoming, and he told me he just wanted to be friends, but to keep hanging out with him. I did, and we proceeded to date for four months. But I could feel him grow distant, and finally, he told me for the second time, Let's just be friends. So, in October, another guy (let's call him Bob) asked me out. We'd been friends for a year, so I said yes, but it only took three weeks to realize it wasn't right. I missed Joe too much, and I knew it wasn't fair to anyone to pretend I liked Bob as much as Bob clearly liked me. Bob was convinced that he and I were soulmates--it couldn't have felt farther from the truth. So I told Bob, "let's just go back to being friends." He was mad, understandably, but when Joe and I got back together Bob was desperate. So, long story short, things aren't the same between Joe and Bob, and between Bob and I. I wish it had turned out better, but Bob and Joe happened to be in a lot of the same clubs and so their friendship is strained. I feel bad that I'm the reason, and I really wish that the three of us could coexist peacefully again without Bob always taking jabs at Joe.
Joe and I have been together another eight months since I broke up with Bob, and I feel like the time apart was right for us. Like we both got to mature and grow as people, and it feels a lot better this time around.
Oh, and now I'm 15, Joe is 16, and Bob is 17.
If a girl says that its because she is not interested. Any guy that hears it, still has hope. I'm a girl and can say it all day long but 99% of guys don't respect it. I have used used that on 3 different men in the last 3 months. 1st- invited me out a lot but then started pressuring me about having sex and now won't call me after I have made myself clear 2nd.)the guy made advances at me within a few hours of us hanging out.Inviting me out on a 3day weekend trip 3rd) Boned another girl in the room next to me for turning him down. I do not want to get involved with some one I do not know and has been a safe guard lately because I realize they have no other interest other then to f*** me. I do really want to be friends as I'm looking for some one that is of quality and maybe something for long term. So if your curious about a girl intentions- usuallly a girl will say it because she's not interested and next thing you know she is dating your besst friend. If you have a romantic interest in this girl, I would suggest- MOVE ON! Girls are dumb and will assume your her gay best friend and then it will blame you for being indescent if you eventually make a move on her. OMG! Example:" Oh my god he made a pass at me. I'm so angry at him. We were giving each other our usual weekly massage and he made a pass at me. I thought we were suposed to just be friends."
One of my best guy friends and I went through a stage like that. I felt more for him than he did for me, and so around 3 times in that year I was turned down by him as he told me we're "just friends" and that he wants nothing more. I finally realized that all we'll ever be is friends. That all happened a not last year, but the one before it, during my freshman and (the beginning of) sophomore years in high school. About a month or so ago, we were out, and he started to hit on me. We're good friends at this point. So I got all frustrated, because he let me down three times, and just because he wanted something from me, I wasn't going to give it to him. He told me I'm beautiful, and all that other crap. Turns out, he was drunk that night. I've still talked to him, and he says he regrets letting me down, but now he's just a friend to me. I don't want to be more than that with him. So yeah, that is my story :) A bit of a downer, but oh well.
ive know this girls for about 6 years, and have had this crush on her most of that time. I'm a muslim and because of this my family don't accept dating and think having a girlfriend is wrong, because of this I tried to hide my feelings, even though I was getting the impression that she liked me too. anyways we became close friends, and whenever we hung out it was always just me and her, and there was always this strange vibe between us. I had the feeling that we could be more if I told her how I felt, but I couldn't lie to my family, so I never did. eventually we ended up going to different universities (she was going to come to the same one as me but didn't achieve the results needed) and would see each other whenever we could, but it was within 6 months of her being at uni that her fb said she was in a relationship with some guy. at that point I thought I had waited too long I let her slip away from me, and she got tired of waiting for me to make a move. so like a jerk I messaged her when she was dating this guy telling her how I felt, just so that I could know for sure how she felt, hoping that she felt the same. but instead I got the generic "im sorry" "i hope we can still just be friends" response. I haven't spoken to her since and I miss her so bad. I'm happy she knows how I feel now, and I know there's nothing I can do but hope maybe she has feelings for me she can't show because she's with another guy. I'm 20 and I think about them everyday.
I was falling in love in this girl for quite a long time and I was constantly onslaughted with all her terrible stories about how ''guys are always dicks'', ''you are the only one I can trust'' you know, that story and she would constantly ask me shit like ''shouldnt you get a girlfriend? You want me to set you up with someone in class?'' and that kind off shit litterally tore me to pieces. After 1 year or so of this neverending torture, I decided to tell her that I really had feelings for her. Her initial response was the ordinary friend zone response, but after that, she regretted it and said all this shit about wanting to give it a try and that she had been talking to her sisters and so on about me and all of my perks etc. For a day or so, I was up in the clouds with blissful happiness, but the next day when I asked about it, she said ''I was drunk LOL'' more or less and then a long, boring ass text rejecting me. Needless to say, I wasn't the happiest man on earth after that, and as a result, she began treating me like absolute shit.
At the day of our graduation she seemed to have gotten over.. Whatever it was I did and we got along after that, I just wasn't obliged to meet her anymore. And guess what: she ended up with one of the many assholes that she would constantly whine about! Again!
So if you ever read this and recognize yourself in it, whether you are her, or not. You can go suck a bleeding cock. Over and out.
About a month ago; I had been talking to a guy for about a month, (he lives several hours away) we had just been talking, difinitely flirting, allot. But I thought that was about it, just flirting, maybe he needed an ego boost or whatever, not thinking we were more than friends... and he started acting funny, and I asked what was up... He said "there is a girl here... I still want to be friends, you are one of my closest friends! And I can talk to you about anything and everything without feeling judged... But we should just be friends, at least for now"... I was in shock that he thought we were more than friends! News to me!
I have never been told to just be friends.
I have told others to just be friends.
He is currently my best friend.
Not at all.
I think this is a happy one, we both agreed that being together just made our friendship awkward and we truly were better off friends. I can go to him for anything, and vice versa. I trust him more than a boyfriend. He's my shoulder to lean on and he's honest with me.
But I have told a different guy and it ended bad at first. He didn't want to just be friends...Anywho, 9 months later, we were able to be friends again. Now, when he has relationship problems he confides in me and asks me for advice. It just took him a while to realize I was right.
Do I still think about them? Of course I do, and they will always have their own place in my heart.
this girl and I met about 4 years ago, she was dating a friend at the time a couple months after she broke up I asked her out for some reason she got really mad at me ( I guess she thought I was betraying my friend) about a year later we started talking to each other and not were super close were not dating but we have shared some drunken nights together, yet even though we've done somethings that we would probably do sober we are still super close and there are some days where she considers me the closest thing she has to a boyfriend, and sometimes I consider her the closest thing I have to girlfriend, we hold hands sometimes and hangout a lot, but neither of us can see a future with each other as being in a relationship which could change as time moves on but as for right now were both content with what we have
when I was 14 I went to a dance at my friends church. she asked me to go with her because she liked her guy friend and wanted me to be her wingman. so at the dance he and me were chatting and she asked me to go dance with him. not having a clue what was going on I did whatever she said. so it got to the point were he asked my out and it turned out she new he was going to do that all along. so she upset but still guilted me into it so I said yes. cause at the time he seemed OK. but when he wanted to plan the date he was acting a lot different, it was insanely awkward and sorta creepy so I asked him if we could just be friends first so I could get to know him, and he asked "for how long?" so turns out he was only interested in seeing ow far he coud get with me.
and I still think he's a creep.
I had a crush on this guy for over a year (age 15-16) but then he started dating someone else, when they broke I told myself to wait until he asked me but it never happened. then out of the blue (age 17) he fb chatted me with "you know we're just friends right?" I knew it by then and was glad because I know I'll never marry him so if we started dating our friendship would end. since then we have gotten crazy close and he's my closest guy friend.
Age 20: I was told lets "just be friends" after I was sleeping with a guy for a solid week. We spent over 8 1/2 hours together a day. He would kiss me, hold my hand, and cuddle with me in front of his family. I was under the impression that we were dating. When we had the relationship talk he said he didn't know what we were. I asked him out. TWO WEEKS later he said we should just be friends. We were just friends until we had a slip up two weeks later and slept together. A week to the day later he stopped talking to me altogether. So much for friendship right?!
I was 18 it was my ex. We had been being "friends" for like 3 years but we finally actually started talking and laughing again. We went on a date and we were making out in his truck. He tried to go further I said no and he took me home and said let's just be friends haven't heard from him since.
a girl tried to put me in the friend zone once and I never accepted it. not that I was foolishly hung up on her but I never stopped trying. even as a friend, as long as I'm around long enough for them to get to know me and change their perception of me only being a friend
I've known this guy since I was like in 4th grade. He liked me from the day he met me till now. I told him I just wanted to be friends with him because I couldn't see him that way he wanted me to. I've told him I liked him at times but I knew I was telling myself a lie. He tries so hard to change my mind, but I wont. We're still going to stay friends.He's like a brother to me and I think it'll stay that way for awhile _
A couple years back, my best guy friend and I were super close and then when we started high school, I got in the "smart class" and he was in the average class. we slowly became really apart and we just didn't hang out anymore because we didn't run in the same circles. And then there were rumors that he was smoking and doing bad things. anyways when we were close, he asked me out and I said that I didn't want to ruin our friendship. I would probably still be with him now if I would of said yes and I could of helped him to stop with the smoking thing.
I one time asked this girl if "hypothetically, if I were to ask you out, would you say yes?" she told be that she was taking a break from dating, completely. this is the closest I have ever some to being put in the friends zone, but this is also the first time I've ever tried to ask a girl out, so I think I did alright.
I have been told let's just be friends by my ex who I was in love with. I was 20. I have told this guy who loved me we should just be friends, because that's how I really felt, though we tried to date later. That was in high school. I was like 16-17.
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