Am I a hoe for this?

Question

So im 15, I was at a table with my boyfriend and his male friend, His friend is a hunk, I literally get so aroused looking at his friend in a tanktop or when they are hanging out shirtless around the house he is a hottie, I sometimes Fantasize what sleeping with him , But i would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend with his friend, if his friend made a move on me i would slap him, But i would still lust for him deep down, does this make me a hoe? to have thoughts but to never act on it?

Tamera952 · Accepted Answer

No, join the club... Exercising self-control & restraint combined with the foresight of consequences, puts us a notch above other animals, right? Just because you have feelings (no fault of your own) doesn't make you anything other than human & normal. Certainly not a "ho" for god's sake!! You can't be a "ho" just cause you think he's hot. Dr. Ruth (famous sexologist from way back used to say: "There's nothing wrong with any type of sexual fantasy, no matter what, as long as no one gets hurt").
(PS: "ho" is what I think you mean, because "hoe" is a garden implement)

Buttonss · Accepted Answer

You might not be too happy with your boyfriend if ur so attracted to someone else. Back when i used to be head over heels for my boyfriend i wouldn't even look at amy other guy, id look at the ground when any guy passes by, but when i started losing interest I've been looking at boys more often, even searching them up and pleasing my eyes with their attractiveness. You're probably not interested in your boyfriend anymore

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

It’s normal.

we often look at others and our brains fill in the gaps and shoves in fantasies which are often far more than we would do in real.

Also age wise your hormones are pretty much spanking your mind for every bit of candy it can get. If it can feed you fantasise, it gets endorphins (candy) and gets stoned on them.

A lot of times fantasies are healthy and teach us right and wrong stuff, as some are like Noooo never doing that.

Your boyfriend will also have fantasies about stuff as well.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No. We all have desires for attractive people, but as long as we don't pursue those people, or let those people take advantage of us, then there's no issue.

What you are describing is along the lines of a thought crime - and contrary to what some people are pushing these days - thoughts alone are NOT illegal.

Red_Arrow · Answer

First, you are not a ho for your fantasies. We all have them. Nothing wrong with that. but that said, there is a problem with your relationship with your boyfriend. in your comments to @tatianamay you stated that you have never been aroused by your boyfriend nor have you found him attractive. A girl your age has sexual urges often, and it would be normal to be for your boyfriend. And he should be aroused by you, but you are sure he isn't. What you have with him is just a friendship, not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

I am not saying you should jump at the chance for any guy that turns you on, but when you are with a boyfriend for a while, he should turn you on. You should consider your current boyfriend just a good friend and look elsewhere for a boyfriend.

TrinityJadez · Answer

It doesn't make you a hoe, but that's really disrespectful to think like that. Honestly, if you're thinking like that do you really like your boyfriend? If my boyfriend were to think about naughty things involving my friend my heart would literally be crushed...
At that point break up with him. Thinking like that is basically cheating on him.

DizzyDesii · Answer

you're not a hoe. Its normal believe it or not. Same happened between me, my ex, his cousin, and my best friend. Only difference is, i made out with his cousin after finding out my boyfriend fcked my best friend. So yea that prob makes all of us hoes 🤣

abc3643 · Answer

First, this is a hoe:

Hoe: It does a lot of gardening, but not a lot of fucking.

So, does your lust for your boyfriend's hunk friend make you a WHORE?
No.
It makes you normal.

We all have lustful thoughts like this while in monogamous relationships.
Acting on them is what is wrong.

Lillie_xo · Answer

i wouldn't say so seeing as you're not gonna act on it
but I don't know if you should be with your boyfriend if you feel this way about his friend
(also when a guy inevitably asks you to follow and pm him please dont its obvious what he wants)

tatianamay · Answer

Maybe you lost interest in your boyfriend. And no, you're not a hoe.

Surely · Answer

Very admirable that your love of your boyfriend is much stronger than your lust for his hunk of a buddy.
A lot of women probably would not be able to separate the two. Your boyfriend is very lucky to have found someone like you!

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

Simply put, no. However, if it's every single time and even drags on I don't know get a grip girl lol

sullyk1234 · Answer

NO IT doesn't BUT BE HONEST IF HE MADE I MOVE ON YOU THAT WOULD BE IT YOU WOULD HAVE SEX WITH HIM

Neosporin · Answer

You’re not a hoe but your treading dangerous territory

Anonymous · Answer

I bet you wouldn't actually slap him if he made a love lol.

Anonymous · Answer

You are human, just keep it to yourself in your fantasies. He probably fantasizes about you too if he's a typical male.

Wise4myage · Answer

B. You are not a ho as long as you keep your hands off him, or let him touch you.

Anonymous · Answer

It's hard to control how you feel but it's possible to control your thoughts and actions.

G5TWA1 · Answer

no, you're only responsible for your actions, not your thoughts

MrSwisher · Answer

no it's only a fantasy and so long as you don't cheat on your boyfriend you're chillin

Anonymous · Answer

Nahh its normal, your boyfriend might even be turned on by your fantasies

TurningGraves · Answer

No, you’re just a run-of-the-mill male catfish.

Hangry06 · Answer

Not a hoe. Just a cheater

ChiPaPa · Answer

It's a fucking fantasy, so no.

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