I'm not sure if most of them are creeps... moreso delusional.
There are many studies showing that on average men consistently overrate themselves in terms of objective attractiveness levels, while women consistently underrate themselves.
So most likely a greying 50 year old dude who is objectively a 5/10, sees himself as a silver fox who is an 8.5/10. Therefore he believes it would make sense for a 25 year old woman who is a 7.5/10 to be attracted to him. While bystanders be like "ew, no!!"
Also, while people of both sexes have a propensity toward egoic inflation, I think men are more prone to delude themselves here.
Like, if a 50 year old wealthy woman was in a relationship with a 20 year old dude, I think she would be realistic enough to concede that for the most part, he's with her due to the lifestyle she can provide. Her personality may be a tiny factor, and her looks really won't contribute much, even if she's kept herself extremely well. She would understand this. Whereas men seem not to realize this at all. It's actually bizarre. They seem to see themselves as 'in the same playing field' as very young women.
I think most are deluding themselves for their own unconscious egoic benefit, rather than being intentionally creepy. It makes sense for them to connect with younger women from the perspective of their overly-rosy self perception. Though objective onlookers see that it makes no sense at all, and judge it as creepy.
Disclaimer: obviously not all older men are like this! Don't hate please. I'm just talking about the ones who go for really young women.
A young woman will never have anything in common with an old man due to different maturity level and unstable personality which are developing and mainly influenced by the brain development. The divorce rate is high among couples with a huge age gap for a reason. In my experience many women who marry as a young women an old man regret it in their late 20s when their brain development is already finished. I personally think it is extrem shallow and disgusting to like women who could be your daughter. These are the same guys that complain when young women use them for their money aka stay with them for money although they also date these women for only their youth/ looks.
The stupidity and entitlement of them are ridiculous. What did they expect? That a young woman will be attracted to their expired looks and that a young woman will be mature as them? This is biologically not possible.
Scientificically and statistically women like men who are at their age or a little older than them. The sperm quality is also shit of old men and a woman who want healthy kids should stay away from old men if they dont want disabled/unhealthy kids
I am ambivalent about pretty much everyone these days. Too much Bs top to bottom from these people no matter their age. Like I said in past posts. I donāt approach women. I donāt like to talk with them. I donāt want to go near. Donāt want to even look at them 90% of the time. Almost intense repulsion. The laws in this country are no joke. This is what was asked for. On some levels I even support it, given how total sh*t some of these men out here are. My first girlfriend got raped and it destroyed her, destroyed out relationship, ruined my life for years and years. I donāt go there.
So then you tell me. Why are these young women hitting me up? Cold approaching? Shooting shots at random times? I mean, I thought I was supposed to be rotten bordering in dead already. All these people out here talking creep and worse. So why do these women come after me when I am ātoo oldā and actively avoiding them?
Did you not get to them yet? Did their parents fail them? Has society not educated them on what poor decisions are being made? Or is there something else going on that you wonāt admit and are actively triggered by? When you get to be my age all the people who trash talk like this need to jump in the carousel like Loganās run and blow themselves up. Tick tick tick tock
Ok, as an older guy, I have to comment. As we age, it doesn't mean we are no longer attracted to beautiful younger women. The difference is most of us will not do anything for the very reason most wo men would find it creepy to be hit on by a grandpa. If the reverse happened and a young women hit on us then we would be flattered and feel a huge ego boost.
In the case where an old guy is dating or married to a much younger woman, it is because of money, power or status. The old guy k ow it but he gets to have sex with a hot you g woman so it's a trade off.
As for myself, I admire a beautiful woman and wish I was much younger. In my mind I am young however my body says different. So I look, admire and chase little old ladies so all you young women are safe.
To all you young ladies, next time you see an old guy, give him a smile and a wink, shake your booty and carry on with your day. You probably gave him the biggest thrill of his day and he will remember that day for a while.
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Actually according to population surveys and statistics, the average age difference in heterosexual married couples is approx 2-3 years with the man older than the woman. Extreme age differences (the husband being 10+ years older than wife) are in the minority. I wish I could include the link from Wikipedia, but I can't, since I'm only XPER level 1.
Sure, everyone finds young people attractive but there's much more in a relationship than just looks, that's why most men choose women their age or close to their age at the end.
Most successful men, millionaires such as Bill Gates prefer educated women their own age to gold-diggers.
This site is really not a good example, as it's full of creepy rednecks, MGTOW, incels and Trumpsters that live in the Middle Ages
Young people will always be attractive. Who likes wrinkles, saggy skin, weight gain, bald spots, hair loss, erectile dysfunction? nobody! Everyone is gonna be most sexually attracted to younger people.
BUT, the "perverted " issue only arises when you're dating someone who is clearly too young for you and you have absolutely nothing in common. In other words, you're just dating for sex. For example, a 40 yr old man who only dates 19-21 yr olds who he has absolutely nothing in common with. The reality is, the older you get, the less likely you would have anything in common with someone 15-30 years younger.
There is a saying, a man who only dates 18 yr old girls will only dump you by the time you turn 25, for another 18 yr old girl. These are "perverts". They're not dating you because they see an emotional fit, they are only dating you until your hot body runs out.
I'll preface this by saying I haven't pursued 20 somethings since I was 20s.
This idea that a man is a creep if he gets with a younger adult woman comes from the idea that women are all helpless innocent angels and men are all abusive. The truth is that you have a variety of types in both genders. Yes, if someone with high level maturity gets with someone with low level maturity they aren't on equal footing BUT this happens in relationships between men & women of the same age all the time.
The only thing I really have some problem with would be:
1. Guys who get younger women pregnant with no intention of starting a family. I have a similar problem with single moms tho.
2. Guys who mislead the woman into thinking he wants serious when he actually does not. But only in cases where he invested serious time in the game. If she sleeps with him on day one & especially if she's done it 20 times before that's on her.
I think itās normal to find them attractive or to say theyāre beautiful, BUT to prey on them and to act like a creep is another thingā¦ many of them are creeps and doing it for bad intentions.. they groom younger people because they want to be in control.
No they're jus people who are honest with theirself... Young 20yr old woman will always be more attractive than a saggy wrinkly 40yr old potato woman.. you can deny you find young ladies attractive all you want... But it's just human nature for a man to be more attracted to more beautiful woman... Don't try to call us creeps... It sounds like your making a comparison of calling those men pedos or something.. what a stupid assumption.. pedos like kids.. as in children... Young woman are not children so shut the fuck up... I'm only 24 but when I'm 80 IL still find woman my age hot when I'm 80.. and if you dare try to say I'm a pedo for that IL come there and break your neck
Iām in my late 30ās i date girls 19/20/21/22/23!
But the difference is I can past for a 28/29 no problems.
Iāve got a lot of energy, I talk with high energy and passionate I run up the stairs and bike for 5 hours.
I donāt know too many 38/40 year old who can keep up with me.
The young girls are always complaining about working too much their feet hurts, can we rest and etc..
people are lazy!
But I do agree if the guy is 40 and looks like my dad heās dating a 19 year old.
Also young girls and older men age a lot to do with biology.
Depends. Some of them go down that route because they want to have children without dealing with any fertilization procedures because his partner is too old. Other men are just immature and would rather date younger because they refuse to deal with the requirements that an older woman would ask from for. Others donāt have a problem with dating someone their own age because they want someone they can see eye to eye with.
Come back when you're 40 and reassess your opinion then. Sincerely, it's odd to me to think that a man who finds a 25 year old attractive at 25, 28, 30, 32, 34, 36, 38, 40, that suddenly at 41 that hot 25 year old should now be not hot in his eyes
That's unrealistic. I'm sure they stop liking sports cars, good food, and other nice things because they're in their 40s. Guess they should just buy the new balances now lmao
The creeps are the ones who have no understanding of LOVE or LIFE. I have known more ,, about same age ,, couples to divorce after a few years ,, than the wide age gap married people, mainly older guys with younger women are happier and stay married until one passes away. THE CREEPS ARE THE ONES WHO CAN NOT UNDERSTAND MOST ANYTHING ! ! !
I usually won't consider dating a 20s gal, but I'll gladly befriend her if possible. I'd settle for early 40s, if I could find one that's stable. Lower 30s of today however are even more off limits than mid-20s. Anyone only five years younger than myself is almost a guaranteed lifelong drama llama.
Studies show that the majority of men are most attracted to women in their early 20s. This is the female age with the most reproductive value so it makes sense from a biological perspective. Many older men don't hit on younger women because they don't wanna look like a creep.
I find the comment kind of weird. I will be looking at women in their 20s when I am in my 80s dude.
I like women. I am my 40s and my girl is in her 30s. Who is to say what is appropriate for marriage.
Ashton Kutcher was with Demi Moore. And no one said a word.
From discussions with other guys, yes, they really like young (i. e 20 year old) girls. Personally for me they there is a lot more than looking at 'a picture'. They tend to have different ways and styles which I personally don't find attractive. And I stereotype so no matter if you don't fit into the category I am automatically am not as attracted. Works for me, works for the 20 year olds :-)
Your preference in partners doesn't change as you grow older. Your mind is the same you just have an older body. So it's not odd at all that older people are attracted to the same type of young girls as twhen they where in their 20's. Same goes for older women, if they find a young man that looks like their teen dream guy she will be attracted to him. The only difference is if they actually attempt or try to go for these young partners.
Tbh, I've always found some middle aged men attractive. Take George Clooney for example, or Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio, etc.
And for some time now, I've started to find some middle aged Italian men to be attractive, for some reason. Could be because of their maturity, wisdom, charisma, the way they look/style... many factors play into this. But there are some who are creeps, tbh. That doesn't mean every older guy is a creep.
I donāt understand why anyone would choose to go out with anyone in their 20s itās such a mad decade of mistakes, drama and mess. I know of numerous 20 something year old guys that look for older women because they know where they are and what they want. I get hit on now by cute guys in their 20s than I did when I was 20
If its okay for them to like younger women then it's okay for me to like guys a few years younger than me
Statistically men of all ages find women in their early twenties to be most attractive physically. This is true in every country, in every culture. Every economic background and every upbringing. It's a universal biological fact.
We might not like it, it might be uncomfortable or difficult to deal with. But until we can wire our instincts in the way we please, biology will still be king
Yeah absolutely, I have always preferred older men.
Yeah it is stupid for a immature stupid 21 year old to be dating a 30 year old man. The 30 year old man would make a much better match with a 28 or 29 year old woman with class that ok now how to cook , clean. Stupid 21 year olds go out get McDonald's fast food restaurants and parents still leave to clean their rooms living under their parents roof I am not jelous just speaking the truth.
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