My crush came to talk to the person close to me, is it on purpose?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy at dance class. I had several signs he likes me (staring from far, etc) but he is (very) shy.
Typically ignoring me when we were waiting the bus with the teacher (also his friend) but he came to show me something on his phone, fleeing when seeing me coming at the end of the class, …lol another time we crossed each other and he Turned back to follow me (but finally stayed close/behind me not talking lol).

Last time we talked 1to1 at bus station. He was really shyyyy. Turning his head aside and avoiding all eye contacts. With other people he is confortable laughs etc

This time he crossed the room at the end of the class to talk to someone just very close to me while I was changing my shoes (normally he doesn't especially go to people).
Do you think he did on purpose?
Is it a shy-guy strategy? lol

[btbc92]

No. He really is shy and he's anxious and he feels nervous around you. That's how shy people truly do react. It's possible he may be overly attractive to you but it may not have anything to do with him liking you in that way. Specially since he doesn't really know you that well. He probably knows that you're crushing on him but he doesn't know how to approach you or handle it and he's not certain about how he feels about you.

[Asker]

Yeah he had strange / shy-like behaviors from the beginning. Seems overly nervous. Examples:
- first time I said bye before to leave he answered back and looked down on his phone
- after at bus station we were 3 of us (with the teacher who is also his friend) I started to talk to both but he was almost totally ignoring me. Like if I was not here. Lol. But then he answered one of my questions coming to show me things on his phone suddenly.
- the time after after the class he was at the end of the corridor waiting for people behind and when he saw me coming closer he literally escaped a few meters farer lol
- at the bus station, he again arrived with the teacher and immediately put his headphones (stress?) in an autistic way lol. But he was listening to all that we were sayin and then reacted to what I was saying with smile.

Last week we were only 2 of us at bus station. So I engaged conversation and he was talkative but incredibly shy: putting his head aside and avoiding again my eyes at all costs.

So I guess he his very nervous?

[btbc92]

That is how shy people are. But he extremely shy and that is not good. That's not funny, he is timid and is highly sensitive. He's going through a lot he's probably depressed.

[Asker]

Maybe…highly sensitive I’m sure he is ! He s a very emotional talented and creative dancer…
Its like our souls connected …there is some magnetism.
Why do you say he is probably depressed? About his behavior?

[btbc92]

Been there before. Took me years to realized I was dealing with chronic depression.

[Asker]

Wow. But are you making link with shyness?
He doesn't seem too shy with other people.

I was also very shy younger but I worked on myself

[btbc92]

His shyness is his shyness, and he is deathly shy which is debilitating. Thats bad, because now it makes it hard for you to make rational and permanent decisions. It is possible it is part of his personality, but he has a lot of growing up to do that he hasn't overcome yet. That is because peoples energies are different. Yours maybe too high for him so it is overwhelming. Others may not be top bad because he doesn't have to deal with them every single day.

But he is definitely dealing with some form of depression and he is going to have to get help vefore it takes control of his life.

[Asker]

Wow. This is possible Idk…. You seem to read him a lot lol.
He doesn't seem so shy with others, he interacts normally, laughin and stuff !

[Asker]

Also i didn't say it before but im older…what might get things more complicated for him. Lol
I dont look a lot older but I guess he knows im a bit older (Im 33 and he his I think not more than 25/26…But i look like 27-28 sometimes younger people use to give me 25 lol)

[Asker]

Good news just had a class and happy coïncidence we met at the entrance before just 2 of us :) he talked to me this me ! Just asking oh you come today too and smiling

[Asker]

Hey got some news…

Today we were again 3 of us (with the teacher) after the class. I felt also a bit shy so I started to talk a lot with the teacher, not so much eye contact with the guy. He tried to speak 2/3 Times but was easily pushed by teachers’speech.
Then we were waiting for the bus he was standing up very close to me but put his headphones again as I think he felt a bit rejected. :/

Then I tried to include him in the discussion in the bus but when I looked at him in the eyes he started to look aside directly loll. And talked with a little voice. Was not comfortable at all even with the teacher presence.

I felt stupid also not interacting more with him before. I was also stressed lol.
What to do?

[charlean]

aren’t all dance class men gay? kidding. You’re the one who’d know best. If you think he likes you, he probably does

[Asker]

Lol no its hip-hop class

[Anonymous]

Stop reading signs that aren't signs.

Only a woman could interpret 'he doesn't look at me' as a positive.

[spartan55]

Haha lol... Uh no. Just because he looks at you doesn't mean he likes you.

[Asker]

I didn't develop but I had multiple signs he likes me in previous weeks

Just wondering how he proceeds as he appears very shy (only with me)

[spartan55]

What are you calling 'multiple signs'?

[Asker]

I spotted him staring at me in class from beginning of the year (sometimes in the mirror haha).
Also waiting for the bus at station he was looking at me with full of desire eyes lol.
In the bus also staring at me from far when talking to his friend. Looking at me with interest / curiosity