Does this sound like stalking?

[Anonymous]

I once tried reading a banner from afar and for a couple of seconds, I locked eyes with a guy standing next to it before looking away. (I was 17, he was 21 at the time and after this, we kinda had this thing of looking into eachother's eyes for a few seconds whenever we saw eachother. He never tried approaching so after 3 years of this, I tried adding him on social media to talk, but he oddly declined my request.)

Ever since, it stopped for a while, but a year later, everything started again. Practically every single time for 'another' 3 years, he'd either hide behind the door to stare at me, or stare as I spoke to people, stare as I was eating or just stare at me in general. It would go on for like 30 seconds at a time. It was annoying so I tried contacting him multiple times, but he didn't reply. I eventually thought I just had to deal with it.

One night , I tried driving to the other side of the parking lot but he blocked his car with mine and only left me alone after I reversed my car to park somewhere else. That same night, I was inside the building trying to buy a drink and as usual, I noticed him staring from afar.

This time however he was incessantly watching me for a whole 2 minutes without looking away. (i. e. As I bought the coffee, the entire time I sat down drinking it, even when I got up to the bin immediately after I finished my drink, he bent his body forward to keep watching my every move).
It was really uncomfortable so I hid behind something for a few seconds to avoid him. However, when I stepped out thinking he would've stopped, he was still there, waiting for me to come out of my hiding spot, still staring at me. I felt sick to my stomach and I couldn't hold back my tears. I just want him to leave me alone and I'm too scared o confront

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by the way I'm 25 now, this entire thing has been going on for 7 years

[molonski2]

WTF? Sounds very strange , yet the guy never answered your requests , its not really even one you can report but I can understand why you are so troubled by it..
The only thing I can think of is that you really confront him in person , corner him and ask what in the hell is he trying to do? Weird indeed 7 years Wow !

[Asker]

Hey, thank you so much for understanding. I mean technically I would've been able to report it as this isn't just a couple of seconds of him staring, it's incessantly watching someone for half a minute, making the other person feel uncomfortable.

But I initiated it all those years ago, so it is to a level my fault.

This guy also comes from an influential family, we have mutual friends and from what I've heard, people know him to be a really nice person. I'm too scared to confront him, it makes me sick. I really just want to be left alone.

[molonski2]

He's influential , and family , maybe go though the friends as a solution?

[Asker]

I could, but since I don't have evidence I'm scared it might backfire.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's exactly stalking. And it's illegal. You should go down to the police station and file a restraining order.

[CrazyGirl2]

How do you know how old he was? Seriously, at no part of your story do you explain that you knew him, but you knew his social media? There is a LOT more to this story… well either that or it’s what writers call a plot hole.

[Asker]

Yes, there's a lot more to this story. I know his age coz we're distant friends of family and so we know of eachother in our community. He's not a stranger, he's someone I have quite a lot of mutual friends with and I see him at events. I avoided most the details to describe the main part of the story, I obviously can't describe even half this story in a short post, let alone 7 years of it.

E. g Another thing which I avoided is: When I tried adding him on social media, he declined my request and stopped everything for a year. However, a year later, it was 'he' who got my number off somewhere (I don't know where), added me to his phone contacts, and texted me a mass event invite to my phone.
So when I said I tried contacting him multiple times, I was replying back to that message of his since he declined my social media request. I either needed him to stop staring, or just come and talk. He was doing neither, and yet despite my questioning, he still sent me a couple more event invites to my phone. And ofcourse, the main problem was he wouldn't stop staring at me either. As I described, it was him staring for 30 seconds straight or hiding behind a door and staring at me, etc so it wasn't something I could just brush off. I just thought I had to put up with it until the very last incident I described.

I avoided details like this to keep it short. The text message thing didn't bother me, it's the staring which makes it uncomfortable. Hope you understand. What do you make of it now?

[CrazyGirl2]

The best thing you can do is just tell him to stop staring at you, it might work! Obviously I am not a guy, but I can’t imagine being told that the staring creeps you out, and him not being even the slightest bit embarrassed by ibis staring at you!

[Asker]

I could walk up and directly confront him then and there as he stares, but since he stands at a distance, he basically stops once I get alittle closer. However, I did still speak to him in person, but he literally did not answer my question and he just walked away. It's extremely odd! After I tried talking in person, he still hides behind the door to stare at me for like 30 seconds straight. I don't know why he does that, maybe he tries not to get caught by me, but I can still see him do it and it's really uncomfortable.

(Others have told me he's a very normal person, and he has a large group of friends too and he only does this to me that too only after I initiated it to a small level all those years ago)

[PuNishant]

Ask him to stop staring you..
He is a creep