Guy friend where we used to be friends with benefits has blocked me?

[Barbarajo]

I have a guy friend that I used to be friends with benefits with. He has become distant and so I asked him what is going on in a long text.

He calls me and scolds me that he has a lot of things going on so then he tells me he is going to block my number for 6 days.
I am so upset. It hurts so bad. It’s like he is playing games. Please help!!

[spartan55]

Playing what games? He doesn't want to be bothered right now. Did you perhaps do something to piss him off. What was the content of that 'long' text to him?

[Barbarajo]

I asked if he wants to see me again or if he wants me to disappear out of his life. He said yes he wants to see me. He just doesn’t show much interest not like he used to.

[spartan55]

How much interest is he supposed to show? You are 'friends' right?

[Barbarajo]

Well we used to be friends with benefits. Then we would hook up every once in a while…but he always likes to hear if I hookup with another guy. He wants to know all the details.

[spartan55]

And... you stopped hooking up?

[Barbarajo]

The last time we hooked up was in September.

[spartan55]

Okay... I don't understand what you are asking here.

[Barbarajo]

From the top…we were friends with benefits…. actually thought we still were. While we were doing that I I hooked up with a guy he always wanted all the details…it turned him on. He would always text or call me every day. Then here recently he had become distant. I asked if he wants to be done with me…he said I did not say that. He said he has a lot going on right now. So I try to be patient but it’s hard. So I get a little stir crazy and ask when can I see you he gets mad and said I say stupid stuff and make him mad so he blocked me for 6 days. Because he’s mad at me. If he doesn’t want anything to do with me why can’t he just tell me?

[spartan55]

So he called or texted everyday until September when you hooked up last?
Sounds like he either has Someone he is more involved with, or he got tired of you bugging him.

[Barbarajo]

Well…I found out he has a girlfriend. Which I know is bad. I got caught stalking her Instagram page. He confronted me about it and I told the truth. So that when I said so it’s over? He said that’s not what I said. Things are different now…because she watches him like a hawk now. I know I should just walk away but it’s hard too. We have been doing this for over 2 years.

[spartan55]

Could I ask why you agreed to a friends with benefits arrangement to begin with when that isn't what you wanted?

[Barbarajo]

I knew it wasn’t going to be anything but that. But he texted me every day and called me all the time and now it has slowed down. I asked if he wants to see me and he says yes. Why play with my mind? If he doesn’t want anything to do with me why can’t he just tell me?

[REDHOTLINE]

Playing games... he was only a benefit friends. Living lived and end. That easy.
Go on your way.

[adriana05]

maybe he started dating someone and he thinks its better to cut whatever you guys had off

[Romulus8817]

Sounds to me like you've gotten a bit attached and crossed the line of "Friends with Benefits"

[Barbarajo]

I did. But he was always texting me constantly and calling me every day. So now it has been very rough.

[Anonymous]

You are emotionally invested he is not and never will be.

[In_Trance]

so, you're not friends anymore