Guys, what are some things that make you lose interest in a woman?

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TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

1. Her not being an artist and hardcore gamer.
2. Her using drugs (including alcohol, smoking, pot, etc).
3. Her having STDs or other nasty permanent infections.
4. Her thinking that psychology, psychiatry, stereotypes, mental genders, astrology, tarot cards, spirituality, religion, and other bullshit ideas are somehow valid.
5. Her being boring/having no hobbies/skills/talents.
6. Her having no sense of humor or being easily offended.
7. Her being too serious about everything.
8. Her being pro censorship or anti gun.
9. Her being a prude.
10. Her being afraid of snakes, spiders, lizards, rats, cats, dogs, or other pets.
11. Her not being monogamous/loyal, or her having commitment phobias.
12. Her being bitchy/grouchy/a downer/negative/pessemistic type personality, or the type to assume things before she knows for certain, or make a huge fuss over tiny problems.
13. Her not liking Dinosaurs, sci-fi, fantasy, or anime.
14. Her being the type to get upset, defensive, vindictive, or hostile if she is either wrong about something, or loses at a competition.
15. Her being a follower and not thinking for herself, or otherwise just being stupid.
16. Her having little or no interest in physical affection/orgasms/sex.
17. Her being the type to prefer spending most of her time alone.
18. Her being easily confused by simple things.
19. Her Having no interest in paleontology, astronomy, chemistry, techology, or other sciences in general.
20. Her not adoring wildlife and dreaming of if only jurassic park were possible.
21. Her being the type to naturally smell bad, or the type to use perfumes and fragrances everywhere.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is a huge turn off if she tries to play games with me or attempts to use sex or anything else to get me to do suff for her. I will also completely lose interest if she frequently expects me to pay for everything and I can tell she is trying to use me for money. Vain and superficial women who act overly concerned about wealth, social status, fame, looks, etc make me automatically not interested in them. I only like honest women who want to form a genuine connection and relationship. If she does not show that she really does truly care about me or what I think, I will not date her Also, women in a relationship who flirt with other men and cheat are the type I completely avoid. Just be a kind and caring person and you will be much more desirable.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Im not attracted to woman but I would never be friends with a woman who doesn’t show emotions on her face or with her body language

CaliSixx · Accepted Answer

Damn some of these people are ridiculously unreasonable. I get having standards, but some of these dudes want a perfect barbie girl

Diodoro · Answer

Broadly speaking

1. Knowing I am deserving of better/better treatment

2. Exhibiting behavior that signals potential future toxic behavior/clear signs of bad character/lack of integrity

Like girls who are incapable of accepting fault without adding a caveat that YOU did something that MADE them do/act/say whatever. Just will not take fault. Will not say sorry. Everything is always on some level your fault too even when it's her that fucked up.

Or girls who openly talk about how shitty they've been to others as if it's something to be proud of, even if she paints the story in a light to villainize the other person.

If a girl doesn't understand that shameful behavior isn't to be bragged about that says enough about her for me to be over the idea I had of her.

This one girl I had some interest in. There was a bit of an attraction between us. We didn't pursue eachother but we both felt it. Thing was I could tell she was someone who carries a lot of rage but hides it very well.

Perhaps because I'm an aggressive person who can control it so I recognize when others have aggression in their eyes too. But nonetheless I saw it and didn't consider it an issue.

One night we're all drinking and she gets to yapping. Sarcastic jokes and things like that. Soft teasing. I'm fluent in and partake often. Some people can handle it, others can't handle too much teasing

This night she very much could not. She would tease you but if you tease back she takes it personal. Then her teasing turned into straight up insults, low level demeaning, condescending or snide.

I'd been drinking too and normally I'd just point out the behavior and that would mitigate a lot of it. But I just teased her more to push her buttons. Ended up telling her "you're done" like, I'm done with you now. Whatever we could have had, I'm no longer interested.

Her ego got hurt and that all came out. Anything anyone said after that ticked her off. She ended up throwing a body kick at me. Just caught it and laughed like wtf are you doing girl.

Next day we chatted on text or something I don't remember. Told her I held nothing personal against her, that anything I said was mostly my way of dealing with specific comments she made towards me that were off base.

She Apologized and ended up saying she has anger issues serious enough to talk to a therapist about it and so on. Basically Apologized for her behavior. But I meant it when I said she was done. I've not entertained her since that night and that was before the body kick lol.

She saw me on a date with another girl at that same bar weeks later. Everyone but her came up to me to say hello. Haven't seen her since that outing. I'm told she stalks my social media's but I went on a social media fast hard-core this year so there's really nothing to stalk lol

JCrockett · Answer

When she contributes nothing. I've had girls that I matched with on dating apps, who I chatted with a lot, until I just gave up. I try so hard to keep a conversation going (which is not a natural talent for me). I ask basic questions, she responds curtly without asking anything in return. I probe deeper, and again she responds as simply and uninterestingly as possible. I try to say something about myself (because she's not asking), but still ask questions about her because I don't want to act self centered. She doesn't show any interest or even comprehension.

After a few days of pulling teeth like this, what am I supposed to do? I conclude that she's either not interested in me, or she's so vapid and uninteresting herself that I'm not interested in her anymore.

Rob596 · Answer

One of the biggest things for me is her personality. If she’s just not a good person, I don’t want anything to do with her. Second thing I look for is if she’s clean. Because I met chicks who throw snot out of their mouth or girls that smell because you can tell they haven’t put on deodorant. Or they eat with their dirty hands. Stuff like that. Even in firefighting school, they have us guys take personal hygiene to the highest standard. You get marked down if your hair is the slightest bit messy, if your locker smells a tad bit, or if your fingernails aren’t trimmed to their standards.

Moose304 · Answer

I have several turnoffs and will NOT take a woman out if she does one of these things. With this said once I start spending time with her I can't stand these things, and most likely will just place you in the friend zone going forward!

First, I lose interest with "clingy" women. I'm not your property or your "boyfriend"!

This next one is hard to put into words. I will sum it up this way. If I ask how your day went I don't need you to spend the next 20 minutes going over your day like a timeline.

I also do NOT want to hear about your ex. I have actually stopped a date because I had to warn a lady 3 times to stop!

I also don't want to hear about all the health problems you and your friends have.

I also REFUSE to discuss politics. I will warn you ONLY one time! You keep that BS up and I'm gone!

Last, and this is a BIG one! I don't want to hear office or neighborhood gossip!

BazookaTrouper · Answer

I've managed to summarize my turn-offs into 5 basic points. If you want me to elaborate further on one, I can.

*Antisocial personalities: greedy, dishonest, manipulative, or just overall abusive
*Lack of sense of humor
*Overly sensitive/emotional (not all women I know, but too many are)
*If I don't find her physically attractive (this one is very subjective, but it's my opinion)
*A lack of intelligence: Not the end of the world, but I find intelligence attractive as long as it doesn't translate to her using it against me.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

1.) Being materialistic.

2.) Not being honest or upfront with communication.

3.) Comparing you to an ex. Or mentioning an ex at all to great extent.

4.) Unenthusiastic

5.) Lack of effort

6.) No sense of humor

7.) No common goals or ambition

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I lose interest in a woman:
1. When she shows none in me.
2. If she is nor intelligent.
3. If she seems controlling, domineering, or in any way disrespectful.
4. If she likes girls.
5. If I see a thong, a tattoo, or a body piercing.
6. If I see alcohol, a cigarette of whatever kind, or any sort of narcotic drug.
7. Who is a lover of money/a golddigger.
8. Who is not a Christian.
9. When she starts to promote racist views, feminism, or abortion.
10. Who acts like she has only the vagina to offer.

PrinceWalnut · Answer

There's a lot of traits that turn me off to people in general, but as far as romantic ones that are specific to women for me there are a few:

1. Codependency issues. I need room to be on my own. I'm looking for a partner, not my other half.
2. Sexual incompatibility. If our sex drives and general styles are too far apart it's not likely to work out.
3. "Traditional" views on relationships. Get a job and have an opinion. We're equals as far as I'm concerned.
4. Outdoorsy. I hate the outdoors. Don't take me hiking.
5. Very intrusive family. Not her fault, but I already deal with my own enough. I don't want to drown in other people.

t-8900 · Answer

When she shows a lack of discipline and impulse control. You can't trust a girl like that for long term relationships. She might f*ck behind your back, she might bring an STD into the home, she might try to pass of another man's child as your own, she might spend all of the household income on drugs, gambling, booze, etc. She might bring shame and dishonor to my name, to the family name, etc. Lots of sexual partners is absolutely repulsive to me 🤢🤮

MCheetah · Answer

Queerness/"bisexuality" (being a lesbian)
Being transgendered (a man)
Feminism
Wokeness
Stupidity (willful ignorance)
Shallowness (such as height requirements)
Abusive attributes
Infidelity
Asking for money/free stuff (gold digging/simpery)
Being an e-thot/skank (on the internet or real life)
Smoking
Substance abuse (alcoholism, marijuana, etc.)
Being a single mother
Being immature or irresponsible
Lack of sanity

Eric6666 · Answer

What kind of interest? Interest as a friend/partner or sexual attraction?

For me I lose interest on someone (man or woman) as a friend or partner when I realize s/he is unempatheic towards animals.

I lose sexual interest on someone, if she does not have good personal hygiene.

MrOracle · Answer

Smoking, drugs, heavy drinking.
Negative attitude.
Being easily offended/looking to be a victim.
Gossipy/nosey.
Fake/overly shallow.
Has kids.

Those are the primary things I avoid or that would make me lose interest in a woman that I initially had interest in.

ohshee · Answer

Well if I already like her that means I like just about everything about her but the one thing that turns me off is if she was to start talking crap about somebody and putting them down I don't do that and I don't want to hear it from anybody because that's their opinion

AaronKrieger · Answer

- Has been fashion style (Whenever someone has a unique fashion style they really do stand out)
- Smokes/Drinks too much
- Too vulgar verbally
- If she has too much of a sex drive (depends)
- Political beliefs are opposite
- Religious (depends)
- No sense of humor
- Is lazy
- If she's not empathetic

DaveJord · Answer

When they start acting like their feelings supersede, out weight, or are of greater importance than yours.

When you express your feelings and they act like its a joke, call you a drama queen, ass hole, silly or dumb... but then expect you to care about her desires, wants, and needs.

Romulus8817 · Answer

- Too many guy friends + total naivety about their intentions. I've got no problems with a girl having guy friends, but when he's trying to get you to come to a hotel and you say "oh but he's a good guy" when I point out what he's doing, I can't help but wonder if you're that naive or if you think I'm stupid.

- Not taking care of yourself. You gotta wash that thing girl.

Luopio27 · Answer

- Gettimg drunk, fucked on drugs
- The want in her to see guys fight over her
- Liars, cheaters & witches
- Double standards & hypocrazy
- Users, abusers & golddiggers
- Who are difficult to read, give mixed signals
- Those who enjoy, laughing at the expense of other peoples failures and imperfections

You name it.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

she's whoring herself on social media, narcissistic attitude, if she plays games, if she doesn't have any goals for herself, if she's bitchy/rude. I feel like there are more girls like that nowadays, no offence. Both genders have personal traits they need to fix or rectify, including myself but I can at least admit that.

Miristheiss · Answer

Just getting to know things about her, her attitudes, personality, does she smoke, is she a party girl, heavy drinker, is she an attention seeker on social media... etc.

While getting to know them you'll pick up on if there are things that are the opposite of traits that attract you.

Rjc36 · Answer

One of the biggest things is getting stuck in the same routine all the time. This applies to conversations or lack of them, same romantic routines that never change or inject nee excitement.

We all have our patterns that we can fall into over time and without changing things up at times it can get boring. It may feel safe and comfortable in our little Grove but can also make your partner lose interest.

Notfabricated11 · Answer

1. Her personality. Like if I saw her being mean to someone or talk very mean about someone for no reason i would completely lose interest. I dont like bullies.
2. If my energy isn't somewhat matched. Say if we're on a date and your just there to be there than I won't be seeing you for another even if you texted me right after that you had fun.

NetSapien · Answer

Mostly, it's all in attitude. I cannot condone arrogance, intolerance, deceitfulness, dominance in the women I date.

Oh, and women that fart around me. I don't fart around them, I demand the same 'no fart' courtesy in return.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Fake hair, eye lashes and extra long fake nails.
Being self absorbed and always talking about yourself.
Not being interesting to talk to, having nothing to say.
Always criticizing and talking bad about others. Getting off on personal insults.
Complaining about everything.
Nothing or nobody is good enough.
Having no knowledge outside her own bubble.
Eating with her mouth open.
Never grateful.
Bad teeth and dirty ears.
Bad breath, yuk.

angeltiny0 · Answer

The same thing you take to get your baby it takes the same thing to keep with every line that is in a car it's called a contour a husband and a wife belongs together a girlfriend and a boyfriend etc etc hand in glove when the hand gets bigger than the glove etc and the beat in Santa Monica and a good book and a good charge and Zinfandel Zinfandel and you and you'll be on the way

MJtheCoach · Answer

Nagging
Bitchy
Defensive
Doesn’t know what she wants and wants to waste the guy’s time
Thinks that the should be her doormat
Keeps nagging the guy
Doesn’t smile
Is dirty / messy / or has poor hygienes (this is huge for me)
Is lazy all the time
Doesn’t wanna do anything besides being clingy to the guy
Doesn’t have her own life or friends
Her p##sy or bod smells

jailbreak · Answer

Her teasing and never delivering aka playing games I like to make my intentions known at some point and if she starts acting hot and cold or saying one thing and doing another i lose interest

Anonymous · Answer

If she insults something I believe in like politics, religion or a region I’ve come from or lived in.

It’s okay to express opinions but you need to be careful to know someone’s background before just blurting out something stupid. And when I express opinions I usually do it via personal experiences I’ve had.

007kingifrit · Answer

1. left wing politics/activism. i don't want to hear about your gender identity or hear about how america is racist or whatever.
2. being too career oriented or not wanting kids. i only want to date a woman who wants to have kids
3. being emotionally immature. don't be dramatic, don't reason with your emotions, don't overreact, and be ok being wrong sometimes
4. social media use. social media makes people all the things i said not to be in #3. its a serious illness and drug of the mind

Kaneki05 · Answer

Conservative views such as religion and right winged opinions.  And that's about it. I am sure there is some other stuff but that's mostly what comes to my mind if your just to ask me like this.

RobT312 · Answer

When she is insecure in the relationship and says the line “ Where do we stand?” biggest turnoff for me for some reason. Makes me want to be done and move on

Adam1978 · Answer

Entitlement, smoking, disrespect, them not having anything going on in their life, ie nothing to talk about. Them not taking initiative showing interest back. Them behaving in responsible.

AviatorTom · Answer

If she's having sex with other people, men or women, that's a pretty good turnoff.

humanearth · Answer

How they vote Do they like kids (gotta like kids) How kinky in bed are they (Freakier the better)

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

stoopid texts and being short. I'm not a fckn clown here to amuse you. We're both adults capable of great conversation , way better than just sending a aww or hahaha
When girls do that I usually respond with 'lol'. or 'sit on my face?'

Ekke118 · Answer

- Above average independence - Emotional dullness - Severe lack of appreciation

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Toxic personality, being a bigot unrealistic expectations not being open passive quiet

HighValue · Answer

Liberal views, feminist views, does drugs or drinks much alcohol, has a promiscuous past, has kids from other guys, tattoos, is a vegetarian/vegan.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

TattoosBad attitudeSmokesToo big and fatLazyNothing in commonBoringBossyDemandingLack of mannersAlcoholicDruggieNo self controlDumbUntrustworthyBad with moneyCan't hold a jobPlays mind games

RawIronhide · Answer

When they're to promiscuous or unable to be open minded about accepting new ideas mostly.

Lockey_ · Answer

A long relationship... but i am keep working on that ;-)

neuroendocrinology · Answer

Addicted to her Phone. Lack of Curiosity, Short Attention Span. Shallow in Value and Skillsets.

Paul09 · Answer

When they are a average woman. Make up, eyelashes, bleached hair, fake nails, botox, surgeries, unhealthy, no respect, no empathy, no humour, smoke cigs, is lazy, etc lol

REDHOTLINE · Answer

Being fat Being so skinny Being hairy body ( not waxed or epilated) Being dirty Being ignorant and stupid Being conservative

exitseven · Answer

When she stops putting any effort into the relationship.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

When I find out she is some toxic sjw feminist, too self entiteled, likes to cheat or has absolutely zero similar interests

whosnumber1 · Answer

too much makeup too obsessed with material things too high on themselves because they are cute poor hygiene  lack of care in their appearance  lack of accountability  big hairy bush

Anonymous · Answer

Too many things. Loses her shape, bitchy behaviour, dresses like shit, always complaining, nagging me about shit, insecurity and immature behaviour.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Boring storyteller, doesn't express her opinions, doesn't have hobbies.

Anonymous · Answer

If you are a modern woman, you are a turnoff. You are good for sex, nothing more.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Talks too much, thinks her opinions on anything other than cooking or cleaning are of any interest, won't do as she's told, etc, etc.

koolbrz · Answer

Asking one thing while having another on mind. Like you posted irrelevant, stupid pic here.  attention w*

Anonymous · Answer

Plays pointless mind games, "tests" and trying to make me jealous.

Soleil8000 · Answer

Women who want servants, guys for their utility value - I have no interest in being any of that

LegendaryIcon · Answer

well, the girl i like just told me she wants to move to florida. that was a real mood killer

Wise4myage · Answer

A lack of interests. Ignoring me or making excuses not to hang out.

joshctlee · Answer

Being taken for granted is a deal breaker for me, and by far the worse! The other ones are drug use, and gold diggers

VikingQC · Answer

- Her saying all the things I don't do in the house, but never react to what I actually do. - Lack of sex and or cuddles after months.

Nahid1707 · Answer

Good dating question, it could be varied of things  One being her not being honest

Guanfei · Answer

If she doesn't make enough effort, or if she sees other guys.

888theGreat · Answer

Tattoos, if she ends up being a liberal, had a bunch of guys already

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