My boyfriend 'loves' his ex girlfriend's post? Does that mean he's not over her yet?

[Anonymous]

so my boyfriend loves his ex-gf's post. Does this mean that he is not over her yet?

[ohshee]

This is when everything gets all screwed up because you start reading into things because he liked her story but he's with you and you think that he still likes her so you start racking your brain making yourself crazy even though he still with you so all of a sudden when you start going crazy because everything you're thinking that's what he goes you're just like my ex your crazy lady. And he leaves you because you are acting crazy just like this old lady EXO lady or you could just chill out understand that he's with you and he's with you for a reason and you guys can still be best friends and get along and live life happy and not have drama because you feel something guess what it's a 50-50 chance if you could go back to his ex-wife or ex-girlfriend whatever and you can't control that the only thing you can control is putting your 50% into your relationship if it happens it happens just like if you were to start talking with your ex and all the sudden you start feeling something if you wanted to go out with your ex you would there's nothing anybody can do about that so I say get it out of your head is this your guys's life nut you keep it in your head and did that made up fantasy drama that you're creating like that be happy treat him happy be his friend clear that out of your head because there's nothing you can do about it anyway if it was to happen live your guys's life together no living other people's drama it's nothing but trouble down the road

[Wraith_Cemetery]

This is why having exes as friends isn't a good idea.

[aintnocandle]

I think maybe you should have this talk with him? Not about the post but maybe just see if he’s over his ex in general. If I saw this it would bother me too, but that also depends on the ex and their relationship. I’ve dated guys who if they “loved” their exes posts I wouldn’t care at all because I know there’s absolutely nothing going on and I wouldn’t even think twice about it. On the other hand, there are some guys who have had exes and if I saw this I would definitely inquire what was up. Totally depends on how you feel about his ex and their relationship I think.

[Callous_Capricorn99]

He’s probably trying to keep his options open. Who broke up with who?

[Asker]

the girl broke up with him

[Callous_Capricorn99]

Maybe he is in denial that she broke up with him.

[Asker]

he is since 4 years!

[Callous_Capricorn99]

It happens.

[Asker]

He is in denial and thinking the girl still likes him and is doing open relationship with her. He is simply becoming a doormat!

[Anonymous]

I’d talk to him about it. regarding your responses that he put a fire emoji to one of her posts, i would be offended. it seems disrespectful to you.
I understand being friends with exes; you once loved them and they were your bestfriend, but there are some boundaries set in place at the beginning of the relationship that they should respect.
Now, if it’s only a platonic friendship, meaning, no sexual contact or flirting, etc… I would say it’s fine… but it’s hard to know if it is strictly platonic and friendly vs. sexual and loving.


Either way, if you dislike it, you would need to confront him and communicate about it. If he continues to do it and you can’t stand it any further, break up with him.

[MrOracle]

Without knowing anything about the post he "loved", we couldn't possibly answer this question. Him agreeing to "puppies are cute" is a whole lot different than him agreeing to "don't I look hot in this bikini?" Anyway, a simple "like" or "thumbs up" isn't really evidence of anything. If he's not commenting or DMing her or whatever, it really means nothing.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Exactly.

There is a fair chance he didn't even realize who posted it.

The fact that he's friends with his ex though... There's nothing wrong with it in theory but it's not what most people do.

[PrettyPriya]

It could mean that. Hard to say, but when an ex becomes an ex, I don't communicate with them in any way.

[Asker]

same here... i think he is not over her too

[Carolmille]

Sometimes that’s exactly what it means; he’s not over her yet. Other times it simply means “despite our differences and separation, I wish you well”.

I’ll advice you express your concerns to hem and get that resolved so you don’t build up negativity in your head.

[dustybiker]

Does he ever talk about her with you? Or mention what she shares online?
Is that open discussion or is he quiet about it? If he’s open to discuss her (unless you’ve reacted and he stopped) I wouldn’t worry so much. If he’s following people and not sharing something he found funny or what have you.. that’s a bit different to me.

[lovedejj_xo]

My ex was still close friends with multiple ex’s to the point where he bought an ex’s mom a Mother’s Day gift and thought nothing wrong with it …. and then was upset I didn’t care to be friends with them, we didn’t last long I won’t tolerate certain things and his lack of boundaries. Me not answering him and wanting to stay his friend upset him more when I broke up with him. That was the whole point.

[Nandann]

No not at all he definitely loves u but u can say he have not lost total intrest in her he still has 5% feeling and its normal but its on u if u feel his activitiy doubtful it might be

[Zigzagwigwag]

Don't freak out it means nothing, guys do dumb sh*t and you don't need to stress about that dumb sh*t

[spartan55]

It means you place entirely too much value on social media.

[wankiam]

depends... are they still friends and what post did he love?

[Asker]

yes they are friends. they plan to study to together and he loved her achievement of getting into uni. Once i even came across a comment whether he reacted to her post with the fire emoji

[wankiam]

well it think there's nothing to worry about then though i do understand why you would.

[t-8900]

"they plan to study to together"

for me thats gonna be a NO. I dont think its appropriate for the 2 to hang around like that anymore. Talking on the net is fine. Texting often can get sussy but maybe let it pass depending on frequency. But alone time together? Not me girlfriend.

[Star_88]

Ofcourse he's not over.
Who the hell still keeps in touch with their exes?

[sufys12]

It is just clicking a button. It does not signify anything, don't make that mistake. People do not think much when they 'love' or 'like' posts.

[Mangospacho]

Depends on what the post is and who else’s posts he “loves”. I’d say if the only person he hits “love” is his exes posts then dump him.

[lotsques]

Forget him and move on. Let him lament her on his own.

[crazy8000]

Do you feel threatened?
Do you feel you aren't good enough?
Are you insecure?

[Account]

What was the post about?

[Anonymous]

Probably. Depending on how long it's been since the break up

[Alyssa11]

He shouldn’t be in touch his ex girlfriend period

[Danny_dan92]

Drop the relationship

[Shawn411]

Yep and your the SIDE CHICK Lol 😆

[Uptowngirl88]

What was it he liked?

[Razp_Sorbet]

Not necessarily.

[Wester1967]

Yes. Dump his ass

[Fuentes]

Dump him

[Wise4myage]

I’d assume so.

[Iron_Man]

Yes it does

[noohair]

Weird.