My boyfriend still chats with his tinder matches should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend still talks to old Tinder matches
The other day I was with my boyfriend and I asked him who one of his Snapchat best friends was, because I noticed that he doesn't really talk about most of the people on his best friends list as much as his other friends. He told me he met she on Tinder, but he doesn't talk to him "that way" anymore. I trust him and I don't think he would cheat on me or be unfaithful, but something still kind of bothers me about it. He has a snapstreak with him, which means he snaps him every day. I don't think he's ever met this girl in person, but that also makes me feel like he could be sexting this guy or something. I feel like that's sort of an irrational thing for me to think, but I can't really help but think about it. I also do know that the guy knows we're together, which I guess makes it less bad. There are a few other people that he regularly snaps that I think could also be old Tinder matches.

He doesn't really hide anything from me in general; I have access to his phone and he has access to mine. That's not to say we actually snoop on each other, but it's a nice way of knowing we trust each other. We also talk to each other pretty much constantly throughout the day, so I know there's no way he's meeting with anyone behind my back. I also know that he's not still on Tinder or any other dating apps.

We're really at a point in our relationship where we both know how we feel about each other and I think I shouldn't worry about things like this, but I still just do. Is it irrational for me to be bothered by him talking to old Tinder matches? Should I say something about it or should I just get over it?

[kyleelyn199723]

I see no general respect in this relationship. Why does he have past tinder matches on his Snapchat? Why is he using Snapchat to only contact these people? Is it because you can easily delete convos with no trace? If a man respected his own relationship, he wouldn’t intentionally go out of his way to chat with other irrelevant women, especially ones he met on dating apps that were potential partners to him. I’d say you have a right to feel this way. Honestly there’s no reason for people in relationships to use Snapchat.

[Asker]

Thank you this was the point I was hoping for. Wasn’t sure if it be strange or not. I’ll bring it up again. He is pretty big on reassuring me if I need it. He seems to want things to last but I don’t want to ruin a possible friendship I guess I just need more details if she dumped him or he dumped her. Among how it ended

[kyleelyn199723]

@asker friends are great, but people he has viewed as potential partners are not a good select of friends. I think you need to bring up how much his conversing to these girls hurts you. You can insinuate you have no problem with him making friends, but you can also say that he has viewed these women as potential partners if he matched with them on tinder in the past

[Asker]

He said he’d deleted them I said no. They never went on a date and just clicked with video games

[ally018]

It is not irrational to feel this way. If you both are secure in the relationship then you should talk to him and tell him how you feel about him texting his old tinder matches. Has he ever met her? If not, why does he feel the need to continue to contact her? Ask him. If he refuses to answer or acknowledge your feelings then he might have hidden feelings for this tinder match. I hope this helps♥️

[Asker]

I will try this it’s hard because I don’t see him until this Friday. He’ll be loopy (wisdom teeth removal)

[Gia013100]

I would cause it mean he’ll be more likely to cheat.

[MountAverage]

You both sound toxic as fuck.

[jahaims]

Yeah