Why does he still want to be in touch me when I don't want anything with him?

[Anonymous]

He has a girlfriend and kept pursuing me for months but I refused to have something casual with him or to get involved in any way because I don't want any kind of drama. However, he still continues to talk to me. He left the office where we worked together recently but still wished me on my birthday this week with hearts emoji and gave me wishes. I don't understand what's up with him. Why does he still want to be in touch with me when I have made it clear I don't want anything with him?

[sage2021]

Because if things don't work out with his girlfriend he will think it's still ok with you if he weasels back into your life. If he quits staying in contact he will feel like he has lost his touch with you and coming back wout be too hard then. This lady I used to know was all set to marry a man. They even bought y house. While she was fixing up the house And getting ready to get married and live in the house, he cheated on her and ended up marrying someone he had just met. The guy stayed married to that woman for about 10 years. All the while he would occasionally call the woman he dumped, send her birthday presents and cards in the mail every year. He kept in touch with her. Then one day all those years later he left his wife and showed up on the doorstep of the lady he dumped. They ended up getting married. Amazing what kind of a thing's can happen, one never knows.

[Asker]

I don't bother with him at all. Had stopped talking to him 2 months ago and was ignoring him so badly that it was even rude. Even when he left the office he said goodbye to me and I didn't even respond then. I thought he won't bother with me now now that he has left but that's not the case.

[icelolly]

Some people can be incredibly pesky and creepy and he's one of them. He gets the hint but thinks sticking harder might persuade you to change your mind.

It's great that he left your workplace. Block his contact and don't reply to any of his advances. He'd stop eventually. But in the worst case scenario, if that sick man shows up to your workplace or your home, you can always file a complaint again him.

[Asker]

Change my mind about what? I don't get it. If I didn't respond to his advances while he was still there in the office what makes him think I'll want any kind of relationship with him now that he has left?

[icelolly]

It's not about you. It's about him.

Do you understand not everyone is sane enough to accept the reality? He's a sick person.

Block him and let go? What can he do then?

[Asker]

Actually he's not a psycho or anything. I mean he has a lot of female friends in the office even but he didn't act like this with them. His behavior was like this only with me even though I never used to give him attention.

[Asker]

I have deleted his number though

[icelolly]

That's great. But why are you still bothered?

[Asker]

It's a bit complicated. Actually he started our friendship (I never used to talk to him) and used to flirt with me and give me all this attention and show me care. Since he kept coming on to me so much at one point when he about to kiss me I think I kind of lost it. Even though I didn't let him do it I realized that I do feel attracted to him and maybe even have feelings for him. I immediately started ignoring him after that and stopped talking to him. He even got upset and hurt by that and made me feel guilty but I continued to ignore him. I hadn't been talking to him since the last 2 months.

[slatyb]

Why do you care? Just ignore him, block his messages so you don't see him.

[Asker]

I don't bother with him at all. Had stopped talking to him 2 months ago and was ignoring him so badly that it was even rude. Even when he left the office he said goodbye to me and I didn't even respond then. I thought he won't bother with me now now that he has left but that's not the case.

[888theGreat]

he still wants you hopes you change mind

[Asker]

So what I should do? He has a girlfriend

[JoyGirl]

He really likes you.

[Asker]

But he has a girlfriend

[JoyGirl]

If you know his girlfriend, tell her.

[Asker]

I guess you didn't read that part