Well the question is was your girlfriend getting the kind of attention from the waiter that she should be getting from you? Men and woman can respond to a waiter or waitress pretty strongly if they are not getting enough attention from their partner. We can think we are meeting all our partners needs, but only meeting a couple and that can create some issues.
Hmm a self made entrepreneur making 100,000 a year that treats her with kindness on an everyday basis besides that night. Or a waiter that lives off tips. Hmm that’s tough
I’m not much older than most people on here, and some are older than me. What’s your point? Besides I get three months off every year for the winter. I need somethings to keep me busy and this is one of them I don't know 🤷♂️
If you ask me well played. This is the kind of attitude you want to have about yourself and your interactions with the opposite sex as a man. Generally, it is a good quality for anyone to have some self-esteem and self respect for themselves in and out of a relationship. But it is even more important for you as the man. This is something I would do too. This is the kind of head space you want to be in any relationship, because it shows that you are willing to walk away from what ever that isn’t meant for you. It is important to allow your partner to be who they really wanna be because it shows you exactly who you’re deciding to make memories with.
Ohh maan, you are a Legend for doing that, Much Respect! You gave her Exactly what she wanted and she got it. You basically showed her, that you don't really need her and you are more than capable of leaving her if things would ever go south between you two.
Yep, you were a dick. Did you assume it was flirting or was it absolutely obvious; and even so, you should have discussed it with her and not done that. "Instead of being jealous and upset I did something different." UMMMM-I'd say what you did was the definition of being upset and jealous. I'd be surprised if she stays with you. Truly immature way to react, even if she was flirting, which i kinda doubt and was her just being nicer than you would prefer. Good luck buddy.
You should have just get up grab your keys walk out on her and just forget she even exist. There was no need to humiliated that poor waiter he was only doing his job. Had nothing to do this whole circus. Your hitting 30 grow up act like a grown mature adult. Only a 18 year old would do such a thing. I mean seriously the waiter was only doing his job.
I guess your mentality was as follows "if they really like each other and my girlfriend is way more interested in a stranger than me during the time we have reserved for each other, why shouldn't I let her show her true colors and check her promiscuity for myself" (like he is testing her loyalty)
Whether it's right or not, i really can't say though talking to her first would be a good idea. (I am really in a doubt whether talking would work or not)
Everyone moans about being immature, unproductive, harsh... etc, etc... but what if HE was flirting with a watress, what would have said then? He's a player, a cheater, a missogin, a narcissist, etc... so yeah... guess womens don't like when tables are turned?
That was a dick move, dude. Rather than a good way to make sure she doesn’t do it again, it more like a good way to make sure she doesn’t want to go on a date with you ever again.
I thought flirting ain't cheating according to many western gag guys in my experience. So i am confused. Are you sure she was flirty? Maybe she was just nice and you were a toxic controlling c**. People on gag are ok with guys having lap dances on their bachelor parties but when women do the same, it is no go. I am convinced many of you prefere cucks as gfs/wifes. You also should talk about this before dating. Cheating has different meaning for different people
Wow!! So many things are wrong with this situation… And if she did flirt, and you think she is promiscuous why would you continue dating her? If she did not flirt, why is she still dating you after you tried to insult her so badly?
And the waiter ended up being the collateral damage! What if he was not interested in your girlfriend but just was trying to be nice to your girlfriend and played along?
well it depends what you mean by "flirting". however if she was actually being overly flirty, then yeah that's definitely an appropriate reaction in my opinion.
depends on what you mean by "flirting"... was she just being nice? or was she like, touching his arm and saying flirty things? if you were uncomfortable with the way your girlfriend was acting with the waiter, you should have taken it up with her either after dinner or discussed it over dinner. you definitely shouldn't have pulled the poor waiter into it. he's just trying to do his job. you should apologize to your girlfriend for embarassing her (IF she didn't really flirt) but if she did flirt, honestly, that's just not right by my book - and if she hasn't pulled you aside, apologized for flirting, and expressed how uncomfortable she was with your rude behavior, something's off. by no means is what you did right either. if you guys act like this, you should probably sit down and have a talk about what you want out of the relationship.
It was wrong of her but I think you exaggerated. It makes you seem like an impulsive/overly jealous type. Also, I think it was rude to whistle the waiter over.
Going to guess there’s more to the story in the long run, this isn’t a first scenario. And that this relationship has probably been “almost” over for a while now. Trust is broken. You’re both circling the drain. Get with healthier people.
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Dina where's dino when I came back from a job assignment I looked her up I took her on a date and she was too busy looking the way there so I told her why don't you get his phone number sweetheart for the both of us I told you to stop fucking with me and then she flirts with the guy in the elevator so I told her how you know I haven't been with him he looked at me and she looked at me and I looked at him and I told him that's how you keep your bitch in line she gave me a blowjob
GO BESTFRIEND! I like that kind of little games in relationship they were embarrassed enough so it’s peftect now next step is you will be flirty with waiters and she will understand how you felt that day.
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Well the question is was your girlfriend getting the kind of attention from the waiter that she should be getting from you? Men and woman can respond to a waiter or waitress pretty strongly if they are not getting enough attention from their partner. We can think we are meeting all our partners needs, but only meeting a couple and that can create some issues.
@joshctlee Here's a question for you.
What if she & the waiter had actually been flirting instead of having a little harmless bit of chatting / being friendly.
He'd get a free meal at your expense & she'd get rid of a loser insecure boyfriend.
Well then that would be her loss cause I’m a great boyfriend that bends over backwards. I’ve never flirted with anyone in front of her.
Hmm a self made entrepreneur making 100,000 a year that treats her with kindness on an everyday basis besides that night. Or a waiter that lives off tips. Hmm that’s tough
@joshctlee - a "self made entrepreneur making 100,000 a year " and yet you're trolling a site full of teenagers. ROFL. And elephants can fly.
I’m not much older than most people on here, and some are older than me. What’s your point? Besides I get three months off every year for the winter. I need somethings to keep me busy and this is one of them I don't know 🤷♂️
If you ask me well played. This is the kind of attitude you want to have about yourself and your interactions with the opposite sex as a man. Generally, it is a good quality for anyone to have some self-esteem and self respect for themselves in and out of a relationship. But it is even more important for you as the man. This is something I would do too. This is the kind of head space you want to be in any relationship, because it shows that you are willing to walk away from what ever that isn’t meant for you. It is important to allow your partner to be who they really wanna be because it shows you exactly who you’re deciding to make memories with.
Hey, that was actually an amazing thing you just said. Cheers 🍻 mate
Ohh maan, you are a Legend for doing that, Much Respect! You gave her Exactly what she wanted and she got it. You basically showed her, that you don't really need her and you are more than capable of leaving her if things would ever go south between you two.
Yep, you were a dick. Did you assume it was flirting or was it absolutely obvious; and even so, you should have discussed it with her and not done that.
"Instead of being jealous and upset I did something different." UMMMM-I'd say what you did was the definition of being upset and jealous. I'd be surprised if she stays with you. Truly immature way to react, even if she was flirting, which i kinda doubt and was her just being nicer than you would prefer. Good luck buddy.
You should have just get up grab your keys walk out on her and just forget she even exist. There was no need to humiliated that poor waiter he was only doing his job. Had nothing to do this whole circus. Your hitting 30 grow up act like a grown mature adult. Only a 18 year old would do such a thing. I mean seriously the waiter was only doing his job.
I guess your mentality was as follows "if they really like each other and my girlfriend is way more interested in a stranger than me during the time we have reserved for each other, why shouldn't I let her show her true colors and check her promiscuity for myself" (like he is testing her loyalty)
Whether it's right or not, i really can't say though talking to her first would be a good idea. (I am really in a doubt whether talking would work or not)
Everyone moans about being immature, unproductive, harsh... etc, etc... but what if HE was flirting with a watress, what would have said then? He's a player, a cheater, a missogin, a narcissist, etc... so yeah... guess womens don't like when tables are turned?
I would say just leave whether a boy or girl no need to embarrass yourself by acting like that in public.
Imagine being so fairly thin skinned that you felt the need to lash out like a child just to feel better. Yikes.
You gonna cry?
Cry? Not about this, no.
But you are gonna cry?
At some point in my life I image I'll cry about something
So your gonna imagine crying?
Do you have a point or are you like this one guy that used to always want to make me cry because it turned him on?
You turned him on?
I guess so? Iunno, I have no control over that
What do you have control over?
Whether or not to be thin skinned. 😁
How do you think your skin?
here we are again you're acting unprofessional again
Whomst?
That was a dick move, dude. Rather than a good way to make sure she doesn’t do it again, it more like a good way to make sure she doesn’t want to go on a date with you ever again.
I thought flirting ain't cheating according to many western gag guys in my experience. So i am confused. Are you sure she was flirty? Maybe she was just nice and you were a toxic controlling c**. People on gag are ok with guys having lap dances on their bachelor parties but when women do the same, it is no go. I am convinced many of you prefere cucks as gfs/wifes. You also should talk about this before dating. Cheating has different meaning for different people
I could be wrong but I think most western men, or men in general, consider flirting cheating.
@asker So you can accuse her of flirting but vica versa ain't ok? What kind of hypocritical controlling f are you?
LOLLL that’s awesome. I mean, why not? She had the audacity to flirt in your face. I’d probably do the same if my boyfriend flirted with a waitress.
So you think it’s funny too!! Give gag question a thumbs up so more people notice and give opinions
Wow!! So many things are wrong with this situation…
And if she did flirt, and you think she is promiscuous why would you continue dating her?
If she did not flirt, why is she still dating you after you tried to insult her so badly?
And the waiter ended up being the collateral damage! What if he was not interested in your girlfriend but just was trying to be nice to your girlfriend and played along?
This sounds like one effed up relationship!!!
well it depends what you mean by "flirting". however if she was actually being overly flirty, then yeah that's definitely an appropriate reaction in my opinion.
Good job Bravo HiFi for you
depends on what you mean by "flirting"... was she just being nice? or was she like, touching his arm and saying flirty things?
if you were uncomfortable with the way your girlfriend was acting with the waiter, you should have taken it up with her either after dinner or discussed it over dinner. you definitely shouldn't have pulled the poor waiter into it. he's just trying to do his job.
you should apologize to your girlfriend for embarassing her (IF she didn't really flirt) but if she did flirt, honestly, that's just not right by my book - and if she hasn't pulled you aside, apologized for flirting, and expressed how uncomfortable she was with your rude behavior, something's off. by no means is what you did right either.
if you guys act like this, you should probably sit down and have a talk about what you want out of the relationship.
Would’ve been funnier if they’d made out in the booth
Oh that would be pretty funny! Not gonna lie
It was wrong of her but I think you exaggerated. It makes you seem like an impulsive/overly jealous type.
Also, I think it was rude to whistle the waiter over.
Going to guess there’s more to the story in the long run, this isn’t a first scenario. And that this relationship has probably been “almost” over for a while now. Trust is broken. You’re both circling the drain. Get with healthier people.
Dina where's dino when I came back from a job assignment I looked her up I took her on a date and she was too busy looking the way there so I told her why don't you get his phone number sweetheart for the both of us I told you to stop fucking with me and then she flirts with the guy in the elevator so I told her how you know I haven't been with him he looked at me and she looked at me and I looked at him and I told him that's how you keep your bitch in line she gave me a blowjob
GO BESTFRIEND! I like that kind of little games in relationship they were embarrassed enough so it’s peftect now next step is you will be flirty with waiters and she will understand how you felt that day.