Is it shameful for a grown man to struggle with depression and self harm?

[Anonymous]

[lrina]

of course it's not shameful! there's nothing shameful about that. but you really should try therapy and try to do things that will make you happier, and then you should start to eventually get better. best of luck to you!

[4522456]

are you sure you are 13?

[lrina]

@4522456 yeah, why lol?

[4522456]

you sound matured. read Nagahime. that is how a teen would write

[lrina]

@4522456 tyyy :)

[4522456]

do you see there are many undegraded accounts popping up lately?

[lrina]

@4522456 undegraded?

[4522456]

sorry, underaged

[lrina]

@4522456 yeah, what about it?

[4522456]

it is boring and creepy

[lrina]

@4522456 what's creepy about underaged people on here though?

[4522456]

ask yourself

[lrina]

@4522456 i don't really get it though

[4522456]

that is why you are here

[lrina]

@4522456 i'm not underaged though?

[4522456]

you are not 13?

[lrina]

@4522456 i'm literally born in 2008? just don't bother even replying if you can't prove otherwise.

[4522456]

i'm literally born in 2008? you don't know the year you were born?

[lrina]

@4522456 i do?

[4522456]

@GirlsAskGuys she claims she is not underaged her account says otherwise

[lrina]

@4522456 how does my account even say otherwise? i only need to be 13+ to be on this website which, i pass the requirements. what's your problem anyways?

[SecretsofKB]

Absolutely not!!! It is never shameful or embarrassing for anyone to struggle with mental health. It is difficult to tackle.

Maybe @chrismaster69 has some insightful words.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Absolutely right person to tag and im gonna just add that its not shameful for anyone to struggle with mental health issues. It isn't limited to one gender and most struggle with something so nobody should be ostracizing anyone else for it.

[ChrisMaster69]

@SecretsofKB thanks for the Tag.

[ChrisMaster69]

@SecretsofKB thanks for tag.

@ Blue Anon.

Mental health issues and their various coping mechanisms are not ever shameful.

It is an absolute fucking nightmare getting guys to get mental health assistance.

There are a plethora of reasons a person of any gender may have mental health issues.

Some may start in early life, a response to narcissistic parents or childhood trauma.

Some in teens from various reasons, including rape, sexual assault (both genders).

Example a guy I know was raped by some of guys at a festival, wrong place wrong time, he was 17.

Another guy owed some cash to the wrong people, he had a visit from 6 guys to correct his ways, unfortunately his girlfriend was home, the 6 guys raped and had fun with them over the weekend Friday to Monday morning, luckily… they were not killed.

I spent a good few years working as a volunteer at a counselling Centre, where we dealt with the likes of the above.

One of the biggest problems we faced and other counsellors, counselling centres face is getting guys to come forward, your question is part of the stigma.

They say it’s shameful that a guy has depression and other issues including self harm, that he’s not a ‘proper’ man as he should be able to cope.

Then there is Self Harm, god was a mixed bag this is.

Everyone mentions Self Harm and it’s an image of an Emo cutting themselves,

The thing is self harm alone is a huge topic and covers a multitude of things.

I got a bit bored of simply cutting myself as a teen, so went looking for fights, pretty major ones with the chance of getting beaten up, it’s actually harder than it sounds.

Then there is sex and other stuff such as drugs, alcohol, all ways to self harm.

Anyhow, it takes a huge amount of courage to face your fears, admit you have depression, that you self harm, that you do struggle AND then seek help.

Facing shit in life and getting stuff sorted is what really counts.

There is fuck all shame in admitting you have mental health issues and or self harm.

You look at ex military veterans and serving personal they carry a huge number of mental health issues including PTSD, some of these people are Special Forces and full on ultra guys who fear fuck all but scream in their sleep.

The lovely person who tagged me, also works on the frontline. The health frontline, over the last 2 years (and longer) these have given their all (both genders) and many suffer mental health issues, PTSD and I would put money on some self harming on one flavour or other.

picking up fro what @ez-bri-z said, it’s never shameful to have mental health issues no matter the gender.

What is shameful is when society or specifically guys in society shame guys who have mental health issues.

[IMuser]

1. Be proud of yourself for realising that you have issues which need to be tackled. Introspecting oneself and accepting oneself is the mark of maturity
2. Focus your foundation right: optimise eating, fitness and sleeping habits (i know this is tough, really tough)
3. If it gets too serious, go to a therapist (note: your immediate family may get worried a lot, but remember, you are doing this for yourself. If they get worried or uncomfortable, that's their problem, not yours. If you can't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of them)

[Slartybartfast]

Yes, it's definitely not acceptable in our culture for men to express emotions esp weakness.

In fact it's a guarantee men who do so will be ostracized by women.

[Hangry06]

It's not shameful. But i will consider someone who self harms to be immature. I say this as someone who did that during my teen years and then learnt that it does nothing.

[Hangry06]

And no. It has nothing to do with your gender

[Nagahime]

No, not shameful at all. Many people of all ages suffer with this. My suggestion is that you go see a therapist who can work with you through your problems.

[Dchrls78104]

Far from it. Depression knows no age or gender---especially in this day and age! The problem for men in many societies in today's world is that help may not be available for them.

[MountAverage]

This question can only be asked by someone who has no clue what depression even is.

[Ray123456]

Of course not! Why would it? Anyone can have mental health issues and it's nothing to be ashamed about but you try to get help.

[Anonymous]

Mental health doesn't discriminate. Please take care of yourself

[exitseven]

Yes, but it happens anyway.

[In_Trance]

No, i don't think so