What to do when your guy starts taking you for granted?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’m being taken for granted lately and just like I’ll always be there.
Case in point: he has started saying things he never would have when we first started dating about vomit jokes etc. he’s put on weight too and said he doesn’t care about his stretch marks etc because I love him anyway. When we first started dating he was always running and trying to keep in shape.

He has no friends so relies on me for everything. I’ve made plans to start seeing my girls again who I’ve abandoned a bit over the past year but is there anything else I can do? We live together. I just feel like he isn’t the person he was

[Anonymous]

Given the examples, I wouldn’t say that is him taking you for granted, he’s just gotten comfortable to the point that he let himself go. When people do this in relationships (men and women), they have to realize that while he’s we do love them, that heavier, sloppier (if he isn’t taking care of his hygiene the same — skin care, grooming, etc) version of themselves is not the person we fell for. I don't know if there is a gentle way to say that to someone without hurting their feelings bc weight can be a touchy subject, so maybe try pushing him in the right direction. Inviting him for runs, encourage healthier eating, and onward. If that doesn’t work then I guess you either coexist with all that or let it go.

[Opinion Owner]

Whoops, ***while yes we still love them

[Asker]

Yes you’re right - overly comfortable is what I mean. I guess I’m a bit peeves because I still feel like I’m making the same effort I always did

[Opinion Owner]

I totally get that, and you have the right to feel that way because if him being fit/healthy/etc is one of the things that drew you to him, then it’s annoying that now he’s stopped putting effort and all that while you still do. Hopefully you two can find a resolution for this, but if he’s stuck in his ways and doesn’t want to get healthy again then you may really have to leave. People may judge that but they aren’t the ones having this experience— you are.

[LindsayLesling]

remind him what your worth is; and your expectations in the relationship. Communication is key

[sensible27]

Define granted? Is he okay? Sort of seems like you are more concerned about having things a certain way than his or your own well being..

[rabbitzzz]

Dress beautifully and start going out. Maybe go jogging yourself.

[rabbitzzz]

I don't know about vomit jokes though, I will never marry a girl I can't share vomit jokes with.

[Asker]

Haha fair enough on the jokes

[jahaims]

Communicate all of that with him

[Wise4myage]

Stand up for. yourself and put a stop to it.